Welcome to Love Notes from Rhonda.

And today I want to talk about the theme of your life.

Yep, I want to talk about the theme of your life.

If you look back at your life, your entire life that you've lived from the moment you were born until now, what would you say the theme is?

What would you say the theme is?

Is the theme growing?

Is the theme Hardship is the theme.

Freedom is the theme.

Money Is the theme.

Love?

Is this theme surviving?

What is your theme?

I know for me, I would say my theme if you want to overarch it.

Like the big overarching theme of my life would probably be freedom.

I wanted to experience personal freedom, not just really about time, because I think most of us think about personal freedom in relation to time.

Like, I can do whatever I want whenever I want it.

Sure, it's one of the reasons why I own my own business, but I'm talking about emotional freedom.

I'm talking about having the peace of mind, the confidence to act, the power within to know that I have value and matter, the ability to love myself.

All of these aspects that really are about and are required in order to truly be free, to really embody so that you can give yourself permission to be free.

These are why I pursue it, right?

I forgave my parents because I wanted to have more freedom so that they didn't run my life anymore.

Right?

I quit my previous jobs because I wasn't free.

I quit drinking because I wasn't free, right?

It owned me.

It owned me.

And I remember when I quit drinking, I said, I will never let anything own me again.

Never let anything own me again.

That drinking owned me.

Now what I didn't realize that my parents.

I quit drinking before I let my parents go.

So my parents still owned me, right?

But the drinking was covering that up.

The drinking was overshadowing it, right?

The drinking was the COVID up for the pain, the suffering, the heartache, the guilt, the shame of my parents death.

But.

Right, but all of it, the drinking was about freedom.

Forgiving my parents was about freedom.

Yes.

Me quitting jobs and opening my own business eventually was about freedom.

Being in my relationship with my husband and getting divorced was about freedom, not freedom from commitment.

Because I love commitment.

I love being in relationship.

But it was freedom to have the life that my soul intended, right?

To live the life my soul intended.

That really is what I think freedom equals for me, freedom equals live the life your soul intended.

I want to live what I in the way that I am meant to live on this planet.

That is really important to me.

And it drives me each and every day.

Some days I hang onto it for dear life.

Sometimes I'm in front of it, pushing it along, some of the time it's pushing me, right?

But I have a relationship to it.

And I can only take so much vice grip.

I can only take so much stuckness.

I can only take so much suffering.

I can only take so much.

And the desire to be free, the desire to grow, the desire to reach my potential, the desire to live the life my soul intended is way bigger than any smallness, suffering, fear in my life.

I have tasted freedom.

I know what that tastes like.

I have experienced it.

I know what that feels like, tastes like, I've lived it.

And so I want more of it.

So I want you to think about your life.

Now, mind you, before I recognize it as freedom, I probably would have maybe named what's the theme of my life is?

I probably would have said, well, I can only have love or my career or I can only have so much happiness, right?

That would have been what I thought the theme was, right?

Because I seem to keep hitting those walls.

I always hit the same walls over and over again because that's how life is.

We all are on an individual journey and we all have our pathway, right?

We all have our pathway.

And your pathway may be money issues all the time or your pathway may be love issues on a regular basis or your self hatred, right?

Like we all have quote unquote things that we keep hitting our wall, yet those things are meant to be the catalyst for understanding and living the theme of our lives.

So again I went to labeled mine freedom.

You know, 30 years ago I went and labeled my, you know, quitting drinking as freedom, right?

I would have just labeled it as trying to have friends or something.

Who knows what I would have labeled it as.

But I now can see through the work I do in fearless living as well as all of the chances I've taken, all the risks I've taken.

It's all to serve my soul.

It's all to live the life my soul intended.

And why do I want to live the life my soul intended?

Because I want my soul to be free to express itself on this planet.

I want my humanness to express itself, right?

I don't want anything holding me back and hanging onto me to keep me from my potential, from living the life my soul intended.

So what is your theme?

What is your theme?

And your theme may have quote unquote changed like mine did.

I think my theme was in the big scope the same forever.

But again, I wouldn't have labeled it the freedom because I wouldn't have known that's what I wanted, right?

I only framed it in the past as what my problems were.

Now I can switch it and go, oh, yes, I can.

I want to.

I actually can relabel that.

I can recall it.

Why did I do those things?

Why did I take all those risks?

Why did I change my life so many times?

Why did I keep searching, yearning, going for it?

Because if you're listening to my voice right now, you are a searcher.

You are a yearner.

You want more.

You wouldn't be here if you did it.

So you are somebody who wants more, that wants to take more risk, wants to grow.

So what's your theme?

Think about it.

Until next time, be fearless.

And I love you.