00:00:07 Nazish: we often think about health goals as something we push ourselves towards. Discipline, willpower, forcing change. But what if the body responds more deeply to alignment than effort? What if the way we think, feel, and believe quietly shapes our healing every single day?

00:00:27 Nazish: Welcome to inner peace. Better health. I am your host and today we are going to where we are. Where we explore the gentle but powerful connection between inner calm physical well-being. Today I am joined by Kesley Eye. Alignment guide and co-host of the High Vibing Podcast, who helps people create lives and bodies they genuinely love. In this episode, we are exploring manifestation and exploring how it can support your health in a grounded, compassionate way without pressure or perfection. Welcome to the show.

00:01:09 Kelsey Aida: Thank you. Thanks for having me.

00:01:12 Nazish: Likewise. So, Kelsey, before we dive into manifestation and health, I'm curious, what is your own turning point where you realize that inner alignment had a direct impact on your, uh, on how you felt in your own body?

00:01:29 Kelsey Aida: Yeah. So when I was younger, in my teens, like leading into adulthood, I fell into a long depressive episode, like, to the point of contemplating suicide. Like praying for a coma. I was so just compressed and depressed and sad. And one day I just realized, you know what? I didn't used to always feel like this. I used to be happy. I used to be bubbly. I used to have friends. I used to have hobbies and passions. And I kind of said this prayer, this Hail Mary, just put it out there like God, universe, spirit, team, Whoever is assigned to help me like please help send help. I need to get better and I'm willing to do whatever it takes. And when I said that prayer, of course I asked. And in the spirit of manifestation, what I received was a shaman to start working with, which was amazing, a great therapist. I started working with, um, just the right books, tools, resources to start learning about manifesting mindset, positive psychology, healing, emotional well-being. And I kind of embarked on this huge healing journey. And on the other side of that, from implementing all the tools that helped me to align with feeling better, like I had asked, it was all working and I got better, and I was happy again, and I was healed. And I didn't end up having to take medicine, which I was happy for. Not that there's not a place for it, but I came to the other side of the depression and I just was like, man, If everyone else had these tools, like, why are we not teaching this stuff? It's so powerful. And so that was really the first time that I encountered like how alignment, how your thinking, how your intentions really can change the trajectory of your health. And even after that, there's more stories. But that's like the first one that kind of initiated me into being this teacher that I am today.

00:03:32 Nazish: the way you have mentioned it, it is so beautifully said. You know, that connection between awareness and the body feels like such an important doorway, almost like the body being to listen when, when we do.

00:03:46 Kelsey Aida: Yeah. And I want to mention too, like one of the big things that made the difference for me is when I was really, really stuck in the depression, I was identifying with it so much like, I'm so depressed, like, you know, I am the depression. Almost like feeling like I was the sickness. But then when I was able to shift my perspective from that to, look, people get colds, right? We get the flu. But when we get a cold or the flu, we don't think I am my cold. I am my flu. We think, oh, I have this temporary thing, I need to rest. I need to drink some hydration. I need to take a nap. I need to take some ibuprofen, whatever. And you wait it out and you know that your body has the natural intelligence to heal. So I had this epiphany one day. I was like, okay, if depression is just like a spiritual cold or a spiritual flu, then I don't need to identify with it so hard. Like I am not my depression. When I separated myself from the depression in my mind and I realized, okay, this is just a temporary experience that has a hold of me, but it can't last forever, and I'm sure my emotional body knows how to heal itself the same way my physical body heals itself. That's really when things started to change.

00:05:03 Nazish: let's just stay with that for a moment and tell us when many people hear manifestation and think it is positive thinking or wishing things. Anyway, when it comes to health, what do you think people misunderstand the most?

00:05:18 Kelsey Aida: Yeah, I mean, whether you're manifesting health or money or anything, I just feel like one of the biggest misconceptions and this is like partially just fault of the entire community and like how it's portrayed. But I feel like we assume that manifesting is just asking and getting right. We just wish something and then it happens. We just ask for something and we receive it. But it's like there are some fundamental in-between steps between the asking and the receiving, and one of them being taking action. Right? Like if you ask to lose weight, or if you ask to gain muscle or to be healed of something like yes, your body can naturally do those things, but you still have to go to the gym. You still have to change your diet. You still have to, you know, stop talking down to your body like there are specific actions that you need to take to align with your goal, with your intention. And I think manifestation has just been sold to be such a passive experience that we forget that we're the co-creators of our reality, and we get to participate in the healing, in the growth, in the expansion.

00:06:36 Nazish: it, it is like, uh, less about pretending everything is fine and more about honestly paired with intention. Uh, and that's the distinction. That distinction feels especially important for anyone navigating through health challenges.

00:06:53 Kelsey Aida: Yeah, because the thing is, you can wish to get better all day long, but if you're not helping yourself to get better, then it could take a while. Or it could never happen. Because what if your health dilemma is tied to a bad habit, or a negative belief, or something that you've been eating for a long time? You know, like health is wealth. So we need to program ourselves for health via what we're eating, how we're exercise, the connection we have sunshine, hydration. Like going back to the basics. If you're not doing those, of course you're going to need help with your health. And it's like, help yourself and ask. If you notice in my story I said, please like send me what I need to get better and I will do it. Like whatever you send me, I will do it. If you send me a therapist, I will go to therapy. If you send me a shaman, I will go see that shaman. If you send me a book, I will read the book and I'll implement what I learn. It's not just. Hey, can you make me better? Thanks. Like, sometimes. Not always. Sometimes it is like that, but sometimes there's more to it. And in the spirit of taking action to align with your goals, there's also this important aspect of troubleshooting. Maybe why you haven't been taking action, or seeing where you might have some limiting beliefs around what you want. So let's say if you want to manifest, you know, losing some weight so you can be healthier and feel better and feel sexy and confident, whatever it is like, you need to ask yourself first, is there any part of me that's not on board with losing weight? Okay. And just be quiet and listen, because I bet there's a part of you that's like, oh, no, it's not safe to lose weight. Then people might look at me different or, I don't know, my friends might think I'm a sellout for, like, getting skinnier. Whatever it is, you might have limiting beliefs around it, and it's important to address those first so you can be more aligned with your goal because you might think you want what you want, right? You might think you want to lose weight, or to run a five K, or to do this or to do that, whatever health goal you have. But if you have enough resistance in there, if you have enough blockages going on, it's going to be harder to manifest that outcome.

00:09:14 Nazish: it is interesting how body often reflects what, uh, hasn't been acknowledged emotionally, almost like symptoms becomes messengers rather than enemies.

00:09:25 Kelsey Aida: Yes.

00:09:27 Nazish: So I'm curious, how does this play out day to day? Like how does misalignment show up in everyday health habits like exercise, food choices, or even rest?

00:09:39 Kelsey Aida: Yeah, I feel like one of the easiest places to look for resistance is where you're procrastinating or putting things off. So if you're like, oh yeah, I'm going to finally start going to the gym this year. I'm going to finally start meal prepping or whatever it is, but you're not doing it. Let's look at that. Let's ask ourselves, okay, why am I really putting this off? And not just like, oh, I'm putting it off because I'm busy. Like, what's the real reason? What do you think that making this change, like, what about making this change feels like a threat to your sense of, like, familiarity? Because a lot of times we just have trouble making changes, even though we know they're going to be good for us and we want to make them change in the nervous system feels very scary and very unsafe because it's unfamiliar, right? But as soon as something becomes familiar, once you meal prep enough times or go to the gym enough times, you start seeing results. You're like, okay, this isn't dangerous. I didn't die, you know, you're retraining your nervous system and then you can move forward more wholeheartedly. So I would say especially with health goals, look to what you're not doing that you know you should be doing and get really real with yourself about why. Like, what do you think you're scared of in taking that first step or in taking the leap? What bad thing do you sneakily think might happen if you make that change? And let's address that first.

00:11:13 Nazish: that brings up something powerful, the idea that forcing routines without emotional alignment can actually drain us instead of healing us.

00:11:22 Kelsey Aida: Definitely. Because if you're just like pushing and shoving your way and like bulldozing over how you feel to like make these goals happen, it's probably not going to end well. Right. So, for example, I always tell people that there's two different vibrations they can take action from. You can take action from a place of forcing, like let's say my goal is to work out more and build muscle mass. I could go to the gym from a place of hating my body and be like, I'm going to the gym to change my body because it's not good enough. Right? That's the sponsoring energy of forcing it, or with the same goal of getting more fit. I can go to the gym from a place of self-love and be like, I'm working out today to nourish myself, to get strong, to feel good, to be hot, you know? Whatever your goal is, there's always a way to do it from force, and there's always a way to do it from self-love. So which way are you going to pick? I can tell you, spoiler alert if you pick the self-love approach to your goals, they will happen much more quickly, much more easily. And it's a way of nurturing and supporting yourself versus forcing yourself to change.

00:12:37 Nazish: Uh, You know, many people, uh, you know, do not realize that these these are the issues that you're facing, that they're facing and listening to you will be something that they will definitely resonate with. And it is so powerful, I must say.

00:12:53 Kelsey Aida: Thank you, thank you. Yeah. I mean, I've gone through my fair share of health problems. Okay, so the depression was just one three year journey, but then after that or before that, I've had injuries. I mean, after that I've had problems with like, cells mutating. I thought that it was going to turn into cancer. But I was able to, you know, change my diet to change the trajectory of that. And so just in all my experience with different health debacles, like you can approach it from a place of forcing yourself, depriving yourself, needing to change, or you can approach it from how can I nourish myself the most from a self-loving place and trust the intelligence of my body, trust the intelligence of my soul, my emotional body like things naturally heal, right? If you get a cut, you're not like, oh my gosh, I have to manifest for this cut to heal. No, you just clean it, you put a bandaid and maybe you swap the bandaid after a couple days, but it naturally is going to repair itself. So it's like, yes, you're taking action. Yes, you're aligning. You're getting out of your own way. You're coming to your goals from a place of love and nourishment, and let divine consciousness do the rest and carry you there.

00:14:15 Nazish: Yes, I definitely agree with that. And you know, for someone who wants to manifest better health but feels overwhelmed, where would you suggest they begin? Something gentle and realistic.

00:14:30 Kelsey Aida: Yeah. So my biggest advice is don't try to change your whole life overnight because your subconscious mind, the identity police, is going to be like, whoa whoa whoa whoa, who are we? We're doing all these new things. This is too much like. No, go back to the couch. Eat your chocolate. Do what's familiar, right? So don't try to jump the Grand Canyon and make a million changes. Start with one or two things that you know you can actually accomplish, and then build your habit stack from there. So don't say, okay, I'm gonna eat better, and I'm going to meal prep every single meal, and I'm going to eat all organic, and I'm going to drink three glasses of water, and I'm going to work out every day of the week like, no, let's start with a morning meditation practice, okay? We're doing that for three weeks. That's feeling familiar okay. Now we're going to introduce some meal prepping with the meditation. After we've meditated we're going to meal prep. Cool. Then you do that for a couple weeks. Then once that's your new baseline okay. Now we're going to the gym two times a week. Make it achievable. I think a lot of people, they set their health goals so big and so high, which there's nothing wrong with bigger high goals. But don't expect that to happen overnight like we have to build up to it, right? You have to become the person who can achieve, receive, sustain those goals. So don't feel like you have to do it all at once. I think is the most important tip. Like work your way up, habit stack, do it slow, be self-loving in your approach of like you don't have to get better after five minutes. Like give yourself time to transform.

00:16:12 Nazish: the way you said that give you give yourself time to transform. It is something you know that many of my listeners are going to resonate with. I must say, you know, and I love how that shifts, shifts the focus from fixing the body to partnering with it. It feels more sustainable and and also kinder.

00:16:32 Kelsey Aida: Yeah, I'm all about the sustainable approach, the most self-loving approach, the most nourishing approach, because a lot of times what we want to manifest comes from a place sometimes of like disapproving of ourselves, of our health, of our bodies. Right? In this instance. But if you didn't disapprove of anything and you weren't like in a whole gripe about your health, like, how could you just support yourself and know that in doing that, you're going to be the healthiest version of yourself? And along the way, you're going to get better. You're going to get more masterful. You're going to learn more tools and more skills. But if you approach it from a really self-loving, gentle, nourishing time allowing space, you're going to get more quantum leveraged results, for sure.

00:17:23 Nazish: for anyone, um, uh, you know, healing and manifestation aren't linear when setbacks happen, makes missed goals, flare ups and frustrations happen. How can someone stay alive without falling into the guilt?

00:17:41 Kelsey Aida: Okay, so here's a reframe for everyone. Don't feel like the goal is to always be super aligned. Okay, that's too much pressure. You're gonna have moments where you come out of alignment. You're going to have bad days where you think bad thoughts, you're gonna stumble upon new limiting beliefs you didn't even know you had. Right? The goal is not to be a perfect person with perfect thoughts and the perfect manifesting technique, like perfection, is just not one realistic or two, like a very self-loving, uh, expectation to place on yourself. So instead, what I tell people to do is approach it from a place of, okay, I don't need to be aligned all the time, but I know how to come back into alignment and whenever I need to. And my biggest thing for coming back into alignment is radical acceptance of whatever uncomfortable feeling you're having that has brought you out of alignment because let's say if you have a bad day and you get really sad or bummed out about your health, fine. Be sad. Like allow those emotions to pass through. You don't want to suppress any feelings, especially when it comes to your health, right? Because it'll just fester and manifest into something we don't want. So we express it. We allow it. We don't have to dwell in it. We just let the emotions move through the body without resisting and restricting them. And on the other side of that, you usually find relief. And when you come back to that place of relief, guess where you're back to alignment. So to me, it's like a lifestyle of giving yourself enough space and love to feel everything you're feeling. And you can always come back to an aligned place when you allow yourself to do that.

00:19:29 Nazish: there is something so beautiful about the things that you've mentioned, that self-compassion piece or you self-compassion piece feels like that, the glue that keeps the whole process together, especially when things don't go as planned.

00:19:45 Kelsey Aida: Definitely. Yeah. I think I always say that self-love is the ultimate manifestation hack, because when you love yourself and you nourish yourself like you're naturally going to raise your vibration, you're naturally going to support yourself. You're naturally going to do things that are good for you, and that makes it super easy to align with your best life, whether it's health, money, relationships, whatever.

00:20:17 Nazish: So for anyone listening who's struggling with their health right now and what mind shift you asked your body like, what are you trying to tell me? Instead of what? What's wrong with you?

00:20:32 Kelsey Aida: Yes, if you get curious. It works a lot better than blaming. For sure.

00:20:40 Nazish: Definitely. Kelsey, that is such a beautiful advice. And, you know, true health manifestations begins not with control, but with alignment. When inner peace becomes a foundation for physical challenge.

00:20:54 Kelsey Aida: Definitely.

00:20:54 Nazish: Yeah. So, Kelsey, who wants to explore your work further? Where's the best place to find you?

00:21:02 Kelsey Aida: Yeah, well, everyone can find more about me. My work at Kelsey. Com um, my new book, The Manifesting Fix, is available for preorder when you listen to this, and that will help you work through all of your blockages, all your resistance, all your stuck points. So if you have a specific health goal in mind that you've kind of been struggling with or feeling stuck on, definitely pre-order the book The Manifesting Fix. The subtitle is called How to Get the Law of Attraction to finally work for you. So I think it'll be perfect for you guys.

00:21:34 Nazish: Thank you so much, Kelsey. I will make sure to include all these details into the show notes, so that a lot of people can reach out to you. Thank you so much for joining us on Inner Peace, Better health. And if today's conversation resonated, take, uh, you know, dear listeners, take a moment to listen inward to your breath and your body and your needs. Healing doesn't always require doing more. Sometimes it begins with being more present. Until next time, stay gentle with yourself.