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Hello and welcome back to the Elevated Edit.

Y'all are in for such a treat today because I've got someone who embodies growth, resilience, and keeping it real in all the best ways.

Becca Post is a therapist, coach, business owner, and a mom.

Basically a superhero in real life.

She's not only out here helping people heal, but she's doing it in a way that actually works.

She calls it healing forward.

We're about to dive into how she's shaking up the self development world.

So grab your coffee, settle in, and let's get to it.

Okay, we are officially on.

I.

We were giggling.

Becca and I were giggling off air just now and last night because if y'all knew the effort that we put into getting this episode just scheduled, I feel like we're both pretty organized people, and it was just like the craziest, craziest things that came up.

But that's when you know we're going to have a really good episode because we persevered.

So we figured it out.

We figured it out.

It's only taken us, what, two months, maybe a month and a half.

I think it's been right up here.

I think we met two months ago.

Okay.

So I am so excited to have Becca on today.

I could talk about her for days.

But I want to jump right into your journey.

I want you to rewind a little bit and tell us how you got started.

What was your journey?

Journey like into becoming this powerhouse therapist and coach that you are today?

Yeah.

So I started therapy around nine or 10 years old.

So, like, as a child, because I was highly, highly anxious, and every therapist that I ever had literally was like, you will be a therapist one day.

And every time I looked at them, I said, no, I won't be.

I was like, such an empathetic kid that I was like, I don't want to hold other people's.

I already hold other people's emotions.

I don't want to do this.

And then life happens.

And I went to college and I hated all of these classes I was taking trying to do anything else.

I actually ended up getting my undergrad in business psychology.

Because I was like, I don't want to be a therapist.

And then I was like, well, I'll do Reese.

Like, I was like, I'll just go get a PhD and do research.

Like, I loved learning about people, but I didn't.

I didn't think I could sit in a room day in and day out with people.

So it moved from, like, business psychology to research to.

Then I moved out to Utah after my undergrad and was like, I don't know what I'm doing with my life.

I need to go to more therapy.

And, like, really, really went in, like, did the full, like, trauma therapy.

Like, made the commitment, and then got a job in a corporate.

At a corporate company where I luckily met my husband, who still works there.

And I was really great at it.

Like, I was really good at what I did as a project manager and being in corporate.

In the corporate world.

And I hated it.

I was like, I am not meant for this.

I, like, again, I loved the people side of it.

And so then I was like, I'll go to graduate school.

Like, it was always the plan.

But I decided to go to graduate school in social work because, once again, I was like, well, I don't want to be a therapist, so, like, what do I do with that?

My plan had been actually to be in medical social work, which was what I started out in.

Oh, wow.

Did a practicum at a women's center during graduate school and was like, oh, I'm actually, like, kind of good at being a therapist when I can do it the way that I want to do it.

And then ended up, like, doing a bunch of jobs.

At one point, I had, like, three jobs, because you don't make a lot of money in this field in the beginning of your career.

And then in 2020, I actually had found out that I had endometriosis and had to have endometriosis surgery and found out that they basically, after the surgery, were like, you have a good two years to get pregnant.

And at that point, I hadn't even decided if I wanted kids.

But it put this really big timeline on things.

And my thought process literally was, if I'm gonna have a kid, then I want to be in business for myself.

And so, like, that's that.

That was the plan.

I was like, okay, I guess I'm opening a private practice.

I'm going to do therapy full time.

And then, like, six months in, I hired my first employee.

I want to say, like, four months after that, I hired my next employee.

And then we became a team of seven in a matter of like 18 months.

And I then rebranded and built a full model of therapy and coaching and dabbled in the coaching.

It was like, once I stepped into it, it all happened so quickly that I was like, honestly, I was kind of like, I don't know fully what I'm doing, but it was.

All of it has been built out of what I felt like I didn't have and what I felt like my clients were missing.

That was exactly what I was going to ask you was, did you have imposter syndrome when you were dealing with all this?

Because I think so many of us struggle with that and it's sometimes hard to articulate that that is what you're feeling.

So.

So, like, did you have that resistance when you know you did step into it and then all of a sudden, like, things started to spiral in a good way?

Oh, yeah.

Like, I still have imposter syndrome every day.

I literally was like joking with one of my therapist friends this morning that I've met through the Internet.

Like, I've met you.

And I literally was like, oh, I posted something ridiculous on threads, but then I manifest it will never go viral.

So it doesn't.

Because I have such bad imposter syndrome.

And even like now I do business coaching for therapists.

I do have a full fledged coaching business business.

Like, we have almost a million dollar therapy.

But like, I.

Things are good.

Like from the outside, they're good.

But my imposter syndrome on a daily basis is so high.

It's crazy how like, I feel like when you start out, and I'm going to put air quotes around that because everybody starts in a different place.

But I feel like you feel like at a certain point you're going to like reach a pinnacle and it's going to be like, okay, I feel like I made it.

But then like, the more time you spend with successful people, depending on what your idea of success is, then all of a sud, you realize, like, oh, wait, nobody has it all figured out.

Oh, this is just part of the journey.

This is it.

It's like, okay, I just need to get used to the, you know, the unknown and just roll with it.

Yeah.

Then you like throw a child in there and you're just like, well, now I don't know who I am as a person.

I don't know how to be a mom.

Now I'm like, really don't know how to be a business owner.

I don't have to be a therapist anymore.

Like, all of these things, just all of A sudden you're like, yeah, I don't know what I'm doing.

Like, honestly, I think sometimes the things that make me really good as a business owner or the fact that, like, I can just constantly pivot, like, my resiliency from my experience as a child built that, like, I'm really good at just being like, okay, let's go try the next thing.

Like, okay, we're gonna go try this over here.

And honestly, like, that's probably one of the most saving graces, qualities I have in both parenthood now and as a business owner is like, okay, let's just try, Nick.

We're gonna try again.

I feel like that's why you and I instantly connected, is because I am the same way.

Like, not that I had a bad childhood by any stretch of the imagination, but there was some uncertainty, and I have had to learn how to just.

I mean, you just keep going.

Like, there's no.

Yeah, you don't have a second option.

You just got to keep rolling, keep pivoting.

So I want to break down the forward model of change, and I want you to talk to me, make this really simple.

Like, I always tell people, and I'm like, I don't want you to do.

I don't mean this, like, condescendingly, but I want you to talk to me like I'm a child.

Literally, like, break it down for me, because that's how I understand things is, like, being in really simple and choppy.

And I think a lot of my audience members are the same way.

I want you to talk about this healing forward concept and talk to me, like, talk to the audience like, they're new at this.

What is it?

And why is it a game changer for people who feel stuck?

Yeah.

So I rebrand.

Originally, my business was called Wholehearted Healing, and it was very Brene Brown.

I was very into, like, this idea of healing whole, right?

Like, healing whole.

And actually, my clients were the ones who were like, no, we're forward.

We're healing forward.

And I was like, what do you mean by that?

And then, like, they walked me through their experience of working with me as a clinician, which was, like, a lot of my.

In the beginning of my career, a lot of my therapy clients were very much clients who had been in therapy like me for an extended period of time.

Because if you are an intuitive and connected clinician, whatever you need to work on walks into your room.

That's literally how it works.

And I came to the idea that, like, oh, there's this really big Gap in the mental health world with therapy being so focused on understanding your past but not helping you make tangible change to move forward.

They, like, I'm so good at cycling, like, psychoanalyzing myself, like, so good at it.

I can tell you exactly why I have a limiting belief of, like, I'm not good enough and where it came from and the memory associated with it.

But I was getting to this own.

My own personal place in therapy where I was like, but, like, what do I do with that now that I own a business or now that I'm a mom?

Or, like, how do I make that really practical, knowing that, like, limiting beliefs don't just change, they don't just really go away.

They're.

They're kind of at your core.

And.

And in some ways, right, like you just mentioned, they make you really good at things.

And so I came to this idea of, like, okay, how do I help people heal forward?

And I hired my first coach in 2020.

I worked with my, like, first guided coach, and I was like, whoa, this is what should be coming after therapy.

Like, when people get stuck in therapy and they get stuck in the idea of, like, okay, I'm in psychoanalyzing, I'm, like, really focused in this one place in my life, and I can't look past it.

They need.

They need a different modality.

Like, they need something that pulls you out of that thinking pattern.

And so forward healing then became this idea of, like, okay, what if we combined therapy and coaching?

And so we have a therapy program.

Like, I have a team of seven therapists.

Like I mentioned earlier.

We do trauma processing, we work with kids, we do all the things.

And then when they get stuck or they're, like, ready to transition and they still want a safe place to land, and they want to, like, figure out life, now they move into our after therapy coaching program.

Because you do.

It's.

It's different.

You don't need someone to tell you and revisit your childhood.

You need someone that's like, okay, but, like, what do you want to do now?

And so the forward model of change that this, like, came into the foundation of was born out of me walking through my clients over and over the stages when people actually leave therapy.

People leave therapy after they fix the crisis that brings them in, then they either stay and they develop a sense of the patterns that they have.

They start to recognize them, they start to see them, and then they're like, cool, I'm good, and they leave.

And then if they stay again, they get to this Place of how do I process change?

Right.

I see the patterns.

I know where they came from, and now, what does that mean for my life?

Right.

And then they're like, cool, I figured out the deep answer to my question.

They leave again, and then if they stay, they actually start to integrate it and build a new, authentic life.

And so the forward model of change was really built out of, like, this is where I see people either pause or choose to continue their healing journey.

This is what it looks like when we break down.

Not necessarily from the motivation of change standpoint, which is, like, a pretty common way that therapists look at it.

Like, where are you in a change cycle?

But more so from, like, what have you learned about yourself that makes you feel like it's okay to maybe pause or stop?

Or what are the barriers?

Because you've learned things about yourself that makes you not want to continue?

Wow, that is so good.

And that's such a different shift.

And I almost feel like it just like I'm putting myself in the shoes of if, like, I was your client.

Like, it almost like, adds a layer of relief because it.

I feel like sometimes, at least when I think about therapy, it's like, okay, for the next 20 years, I'm going to sit down and, like, have to rehash this and, you know, talk about.

But, like, the way you phrased it and the way you shifted it just then was like, oh, wait, she thinks that there is a time that I can come to a certain point where, like, okay, we're healing, and then, like, let's move forward.

I think that's such, like, an empowering, like, message that you're sending to people just with that shift.

Yeah.

And it's really getting clinicians and their clients comfortable with that shift.

Like, I can tell you, as someone who does this, as their whole business and is this person, it's very hard.

People get very comfortable.

They get really, really good at the familiar.

It's really.

People don't like to change.

I just.

I was even having this conversation because I'm actually in the process of onboarding a new admin team to support me.

And I was like, this is why people don't change their therapist, because this is obnoxious.

I could have just, like, kept paying for the.

What I was paying for, and kind of like, being like, this isn't doing what I needed to do and it's not getting anywhere, but, like, I don't want to change.

And now I'm sitting here like, this is exhausting.

Right.

To have to start over and over and, like, explain everything and pull up the documents and do all the stuff.

And I was like, wow, I'm in my own model, just in a different area of what it's like, where I'm like, this sucks.

Yeah.

And I know that to elevate, I need it.

That is such a good analogy.

I feel like I'm in the same situation, sort of where I just hired my first two virtual assistants, and I put it off for a long time, and I couldn't figure out why.

But now that I'm in the middle of it, I'm like, oh, this is.

And I'm.

I'm so thankful, and I'm so excited.

I'm glad we're doing it.

But they're like, okay, what's your password for this?

I'm like, I don't know.

Like, I don't know.

And they're like, okay, well, where is this layout for this?

I'm like, I don't even.

I don't know what that is, you know?

And so they're asking me hard questions that need to be asked.

I need to have an answer for them.

But, like, subconsciously, I was putting all of that off and just being like, oh, I don't need a va.

And, like, things are, like, on fire.

I'm, like, trying to figure out how to get, you know, guests on, and it turns into a lot.

So that's so amazing that you, like, use that analogy with that, because I.

I think that that makes it so clear, especially if you're listening as an entrepreneur.

Yeah.

And honestly, it's the.

It's an analogy I've started using with all my entrepreneur clients.

Like, you should have someone that is helping you figure out your systems.

Right.

Which is essentially, like, your systems are therapists, but then you need someone that's actually helping you implement them.

And they're usually actually two different skill sets.

Right.

Like, a coach is designed to help you figure out how to implement things.

That's what they're there for.

They're not really there to help you process.

Therapy is there to help you process.

Help you understand the systems, identify them.

Coaching is there to then figure out how do I integrate and implement them and make them work for me.

Oh, that's so good.

That's all so, like, rich.

And I feel like it's very light.

Like, I feel like.

And this is just all coming from me personally, but sometimes I think of therapy as, like, very somber.

And, like, I feel like you kind of bring a light to it, and it's very like, empowering.

And this isn't going to be, you know, the way that it is forever.

And I think, you know, in every industry has there.

But an industry as a whole, you're kind of shifting that mindset, and you are making it very, like, yeah, come on.

Like, we'll work through this, and then we'll work on this.

I love that.

That's so fantastic.

Okay, so one of the things that I love about what you're doing is how much it aligns with what we talk about here, which is growth, leveling up, and creating your best life.

So what keeps you motivated to keep evolving, be it in your personal life or in your professional life?

I don't.

Part of it is that I'm naturally driven that way.

I'm, like, not a good sitter.

Stiller.

That's definitely not a word.

It's a word in my vocabulary.

Oh, no.

I'm really bad at it.

And I'm, like, constantly trying to shift the way that I think about things and, like, be able to, like, tolerate and have harder conversations.

But also, like, I get really frustrated when things get really stuck.

And so I'm always trying to problem solve.

I'm very much a problem solver.

So for me, a lot of when I get, like, motivated to keep growing is very much out of, like, I don't want to feel this way.

So, like, what do I need to do to fix it and how do I change it?

And, like, and how do I break the patterns?

A lot of my motivation was.

And especially now having a toddler, which is an entirely different experience, is very much like, how do I attempt as much as possible because I'm gonna screw him up in some way to just let him not necessarily feel the same way I did growing up.

Like, a lot of my motivation was like, how do I make and help people not feel the ways that I have?

That's so good.

I.

I'm the same way.

Not a good setter downer.

And I feel like people that.

I hope people use this word after this episode, because I love it now.

I think that people who are like that end up being great coaches and teachers and therapists because you.

We are the ones that kind of just dive straight into things and maybe don't worry so much about the consequences right off the bat or the way it's going to feel or, you know, whatever it is.

Like, as soon as I am, like, uncomfortable with something, I'm like, okay, what do.

What do I need to do to fix this?

What do I need to do to Change this.

Like, I am not good at just being like, okay, well, that's just.

I'm just gonna have to, you know, endure this.

No, like, we're gonna try something else.

That might not be what works, but, like, I'm constantly shifting, and I, you know, have people in my life that maybe, like, couldn't handle that.

But then when I go through it and kind of relay it to them, they're like, okay, I can do that now.

And so I think that's what makes you so good at what you do, is that you are just not afraid to just kind of step into the fire.

I think that's great.

Yeah.

So you are a.

Yes.

You're a therapist, a coach, a business owner, and a mom.

How are you doing all of this while personally staying balanced and focusing on your own mental health?

I see you shaking.

You're, like, literally just shaking my head.

Like, that's not happening.

Literally every.

I don't know if it is, like, a woman thing or a mom thing, but every, like, mom.

Because I.

I'm in a very.

Like, am I gonna have a kid?

Am I not?

And they're all like, you'll never have it figured out.

There's no balance.

Just dive right in.

You won't.

And I.

I mean, honestly, actually, I was the same way I.

I actually was.

When my husband and I got married, I was very much like, okay, I want you to marry me, knowing, like, I don't know if I want a kid.

And then, literally, I woke up one day and looked at him, and I was like, I think we should have a kid.

And he was like, no.

Like, what?

And I was like, no.

Like, now it took him 18 months to get on board.

Just so everybody knows, like, that's kind of how I work, right?

Where I just.

One day, I'm like, we're gonna just do this.

And he's like, no.

But I think if I could break one myth, it's that there is balance and that there is consistency.

And being a business owner and a mother and a therapist and a coach means that I have my life put together is a walking lie.

Like, there is no more balance.

Most days, balance is like, did I go to the bathroom by myself and remember to eat three meals?

Like, and 90% of the time, I'm doing two things at once.

Like, I think there's so many more mother entrepreneurs now because of how much I can do on my phone while my son is doing something else.

Like, I don't know what I would do if I couldn't Respond to my team on my phone.

Like, I don't know that I would feel half as okay as I do.

I think, like, there is just.

I'm constantly losing my mind.

Like, I wish I could tell people other.

I'm just constantly losing my mind.

Like, I'm constantly.

Like, everything is 30%.

I am constantly losing my mind.

Some days are really balanced, and most of the time they're not.

Because children are designed to bring out all those things you thought you worked on, but you clearly did not.

Like, no, here they are.

I love that because I think it's so freeing, like, especially to hear from a therapist, because I feel like that 90% of the time, and I'm like, oh, it's just because I know I'm not aware of this belief or aware of this.

And, like, you're literally sitting there, like, as a professional, and you're like, no, that's just.

That's just life.

That's just how it is.

Do you have any, like, little things that you do during the day when you do maybe get to, like, you're giving.

You have about 10% left, and people are needing 100% from you.

Like, here.

Lately, I been trying to go out, like, set a timer for 10 minutes and just kind of, like, lay in the sun, if the sun is out, and maybe, like, put my feet on the actual ground, like, take my shoes off.

And that's helped me tremendously.

Like, do you have any little things like that that you try to do during the day that help even a tiny bit?

Yeah, I'll go outside.

A big one for me is, like, I'll lay down, like, if we're, like, play.

If I'm, like, playing with my toddler, and he's like, we're really in the cars right now.

So, like, we're playing cars.

And, like, he doesn't really like to play with me.

It's a really interesting thing.

He likes to play with dad.

He wants to, like, snuggle mom.

And that's very normal and, like, developmentally correct.

But it's kind of wild because I just basically, like, have to be near him.

And so sometimes I'll just, like, will be, like, playing, and I'm just laying on the ground, not doing anything.

He's playing independently.

I'm just laying there.

And that is, like, relief because there's something so grounding about literally laying on the ground.

I think the science is, like, 90 seconds is the minimum to do it for.

So that's a big one for me.

A big.

Another big one is Like, I spend a lot of time in the car now in silence, like when I'm driving, because I'm, I have never, I would never have qualified myself as an overstimulated person before I became a business owner and a mom.

And now I'm regularly, like, I'm over stimulated.

Like, I used to be the person who could like walk around the house with like the TV on and like looking at their phone and like doing seven things.

And now I can't, I can't do any of that.

Can't do two things at one time.

And so a lot of the times, like for me, driving to and from daycare, because that's most of the time when I leave my house is like silence and like me checking in with myself and being like, okay, what do I need today?

Like, do I have the capacity to see the five clients I surprisingly scheduled myself?

Or, like, do I need to move things around?

Like, am I at it, like an added giving stance?

Or do.

Am I like so depleted that like, if I do this, I'm going to just be more depleted and it's going to back up.

So a lot of it is like really having conversations and checking in with myself for a majority of it.

Like, I will, hands down, admit this.

There's a lot of reading at the end of the day.

I read a lot of romantic, like, comedies and romantasy.

Anything that's gonna like, be like, in the end, this is gonna be okay.

I will read it.

And I like, like, I think my husband was joking because he saw like on Tick Tock, he was like, oh, I came across this reading Tick Tock.

And he was like, it's because your books don't ask anything of you, isn't it?

And I was like, huh, now can you go away so I can read?

Yeah, you're asking something of me right this second.

You need a.

Yeah, you want to talk about this TikTok that you saw?

And I need you to go.

So I literally feel the same way on two notes.

Oh, I forgot the second one already.

Hi.

Yeah.

Yeah.

But on the first one is the, the overstimulation.

I think I've always been someone who has been overstimulated.

I just wasn't aware of it.

But like now and it only.

My poor husband.

It only hits me occasionally.

Like, if I am like in a bad sp face.

But like, suddenly just like, he'll even mute the tv.

I'm like, I can hear it on, like, I need you to turn the.

I need unplug the whole thing.

Like, I turn into a little tyrant.

And then especially, like, if the house is dirty.

Like, Sunday morning, this past Sunday, I had one of those moments, and I woke up and I was like, it's loud and dirty in here.

And, like, I had a trash bag, and I was, like, throwing stuff away.

And, you know, he's looking at me like, little T.

Rex is in my house and she's overstimulated.

But then I'm.

I'm good.

And I have enjoyed sitting in the car in silence because normally I've got my.

I'm a music girl.

I crank it up.

I'll be like, people will make fun of me because they'll see me, like, dancing on the road.

But now I'm like, wait, maybe I need to spend that, like, 15 minutes and just sit.

And I'm sure that's hard for you.

Like, it is for me to sometimes just sit.

But then once I get in and I'm like, oh, this is so nice.

Yeah.

Then you realize you need a nap because you're like, oh, I'm actually really tired.

And this is, like, realizing, like, my nervous system just came down and I don't know what to do.

Yeah, that's usually what happens.

I.

I think, like, another big one for me is I use a lot more, like, candle burning now and, like, sense than I did in the past to, like, shift the energy or change it.

I always, like, was very grounded by sense, but now, like, specifically, I'm like, okay, I need to, like, feel boosted.

Or I need something to root me that I can, like, have.

That's, like, just there.

That's not a sound or a stimulation, but it's like.

So I use a lot of candles now, which I think is really interesting.

Love that I.

Are you into frequencies?

I've been listening to frequencies a lot lately, and, like, even sometimes those are overstimulating for me, which I think is very interesting.

But, like, just having those, because I was before, like, I would just, like, turn on the office in the background or Parks and Rec, and it didn't bother me up until it did.

And now I'm like, I don't need to hear other voices.

I need to just hear, like, or classical music or whatever it is.

I just need quiet.

I need calm.

Yeah.

So I think we're, like, so similar.

Like, the more you talk, I'm like, me and her exactly the same.

This is why we had to get on together.

Okay.

So it's kind of wild.

It is.

So I want you to talk all about your business and yourself for a second.

I want you to tell everyone where they can find you, what kind of services you provide, tell us your social media handles and then if you have any like things coming up, anything that you're excited about, be it personal or professional, let us know about it.

Yeah.

So my business is based in Utah.

So currently at the moment we only offer therapy in Utah.

2025 is the goal to kind of shift that out.

But I do offer coaching all over the world.

I have clients in the US and in Canada right now.

I primarily am like really excited to spend December just like reevaluating everything.

I think the last month has highlighted a lot of gaps that are going to need to be filled in 2025 around community building and connection based on values and support.

And so for 2025 we'll actually be redoing.

We have I lead a like six part workshop series called the Shift Workshop series and I'll be doing them live again.

I haven't done them live since 2023 and they include a variety of things from like building coping skills to movement and breath work to just like basically re giving you tools that you can come back to over and over again to make sure you're still moving forward in the direction that you want to and shifting where you feel like you currently are.

We will be, we do a self help book club which will start again in the spring and it's virtual and in person here and so that will go live.

We're actually in the process of picking out books so like if you want to DM us at ForwardHealing Co like a self help book you think people need people can drop those in there.

I am an elder millennial and currently only use Instagram and Pinterest and now I do use threads because I'm like kind of really into threads.

That's how I met you to that's where you can find us on socials at Forward Healing Co I'll be taking new coaching clients in 2025 and I work in three month containers and if you have like teams and stuff and you're listening to this and they like just need someone to come in and give guidance.

Like I love doing and leading workshops for teams especially of like entrepreneurs or other businesses.

They don't take often enough into account your employee mental health and it's really a passion of mine.

Oh that is so important.

Yes.

And I will link everything that she just mentioned your website and socials and all that in the show notes.

But thank you so much for coming on today.

This was such a fantastic conversation.

I think my audience is really going to enjoy it and I know that they'll be looking you up after this because I feel like every time like I have an episode like my audience is like thank you for like introducing us to someone new.

So I love that this gives everybody opportunity to connect.

Awesome.

Thank you for having me.

Okay.

Yes, of course.

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