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We always like to wrap up with a fun game. If you guys are game for a game.

Oh, we're always.

Oh yes. All right.

So this game is called Love, Lust or let's not. So love is. Hell yes, Lust is fantasy, but maybe not in real life. And let's not is a hard pass. So I'm just gonna name off a few things and you tell me what you think. Okay. Scheduling, sex.

Love. Oh yeah, yeah, love.

Okay. So it's a good thing.

It is a good thing. I think that that is because it does a couple things and again, you.

Know, schedule my time and it's fun and the way. And I don't know how long of an answer you want on all these things, but real quickly it's, it's, it's fun when. Because what I would like to do is say, okay, we are going to both knock off work at such and such. We're going to go get early dinner. Then we're going to go to happy hour at such and such. And then we're going to do it and then we're going to get it on and you make it almost like, you know, a, a, a yeah, A checklist or whatever. And it's fun to see where you are in the now. It doesn't work every time. I mean you get to happy hour and start fighting. But, but you know, anyway, that, that's the, that the idea. So it's not just scheduling next Tuesday at 7:30. It's, it's everything, you know, kind of.

But again, it does help too in if your life has become like ours has is very, very busy, it just means that you're saying, okay, this is important to me. This is where I, let's try to build up almost like you're like, okay, let's have dates. Which is these tris where we get back to where how parts of our relationship that we liked and say. So when you say scheduling sex, it's really more like finding intimate time that is going to more likely lead to sex.

Well, good.

So and you.

And next question.

Yeah, so he, so he says, he does say literally, okay, we're going to do a 5:30. This is why we didn't understand why people did 5:30 dinners. Like it's, this is awesome. Your 5:30 dinner.

You don't need a reservation.

That's right. And then you're like, you're home at like 7:30. Yeah. And then if you're not, then you're not too tired to have sex at nine.

Yes, exactly. You can't Put it off too late or you'll be asleep.

Right?

Yeah. There's the window. There's a little window.

Yes, absolutely. Sex after a. Sex after a fight. Well, I get.

I get some people. If lust was. I wish it would work. But yeah, we. We don't. Unless it's. Unless. Yeah, we've talked it out or kind of figured it out or.

Yeah, sometimes it does happen. It just. Again, the secret of. Of. Not that I'm the therapist, but the secret of. Of the successful relationship is not never fighting you. It's figuring out how to come back together. So.

And if you. And if you have sex after fighting, then it's a good idea to fight as much as possible. No, I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. It's nice an idea. And some couples can do that and, and that. But that's. Yeah, we have to talk it out.

Yeah.

Yes, exactly. Exactly. Toys in the bedroom.

A hundred percent. Yes.

Okay.

Yes.

Any favorites?

What are you having?

No, I. I was just gonna say.

Yeah.

And now. And I'm. Now are we, Are we answering for us or for, you know, like, people in general?

I would say I'm talking a little both. People in general. Yeah, a little bit.

Oh, no, but absolutely. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Not. Not to bring it back to science again, but just like, like, so, like, oh, let's make this vibr. Unsexy. But. So one of the things that happens to us as we get older is the, the nerves around the clitoris. There's different. There's ones for soft touch, there's ones for heat, there's one for vibration. And the, the. The. They have different amounts of a. A substance called myin around them that's insulates them. And they have thick. And some of them. There's th. And there's different thickness of these different nerves. And the t. The ones for soft touch and for. Those are thinner and they go away and they are. Or get less sensitive more quickly. And so as we get older, the ones for vibration actually stay the longest. And so sometimes to get that stimulation you need a little bit more sensation. And so vibrators can be game changers for people who are. Have lost their orgasm. And then. And to get it back and so using it and introducing it to your partner and saying, hey, I think this is going to really help to get that. That to get me where I need to go. And instead of. Because people that are trying to get you to an orgasm, that kind of failure on your part and their part can really be damaging to a Relationship. So I'm all for doing the things that whatever it does takes to make you feel better and get to that sexual satisfaction, try to introduce it to and say, hey, this is the science of why. So it shouldn't be threatening to your partner is saying, hey, this can really help us agree. Sorry, that was a long answer. No, you're.

You're right about that. Because I do think, Jay, you can speak more to this being a man. But I do feel like maybe sometimes men, they're not hurt when you want to bring a vibrator in, but they feel like, oh, am I not satisfying you enough? You know.

Right, right, right, right. Well, it's for everything you just said. Yeah, yeah. I mean it's.

It.

Yeah. It's for every. And men unfortunately run the. You know, the bookends are the. The guys that don't care whether you have an orgasm or not. And then all the way to those that take it hard or take it hard. It didn't. Yeah. Yeah. If. If you're not satisfied with them and. But it. It is a. Yeah. Yeah. As to just use. Use as a. As a tool. Literally almost. It. It really is something that I don't know if. If you are those that lean towards and this is most. Thank goodness. But wanting to satisfy the woman. They'll do. Yeah yeah. Whatever you bring to the table will. Yeah, we'll.

We'll try And a lot of times women need to know that the exploring how to get themselves to orgasm is really going to be important because if you don't know, then they're. You're never going to be able to communicate it to them. And so.

Right.

Using some of these things to explore is important. Right.

Right. So masturbation is important for a woman. 100%.

Okay.

And last one, role play.

Oh, it's. I love it. I mean, I didn't mean to answer.

That quickly, but he's like, it's happening tonight, Kate.

I got my carpenter outfit right over where it's. It. Oh, it's. Yeah, yeah. That. That's him. That's important. And because it can be anything from I. I am. You know, that could be anything from dressing up to pretending like we're somewhere else or just pretending like you are someone else or at least. Yeah.

And yeah. When you have. When you. You can explore changes in your. In the bedroom without changing partners, which is probably a good. If you want to maintain that relationship, try to keep it fresh and try to keep it.

And.

And again, so you. Some partners will be more open to it. Than others. And it doesn't necessarily mean, like, you need to buy a Bo Peep outfit, but you can.

Unless you can. You can.

Halloween's coming up.

They're everywhere in the store. That's right. But you.

Right.

But again, you can just. It can just be verbal and instead. And have it. It doesn't have to be, like, a huge investment at the Halloween Express, but trying to just say, and it doesn't necessarily even need to be that this person is a totally different person. It can be just like, hey, let's say we're at the cabana and you're putting sunscreen on me or whatever. You can be something as simple massage. Yeah. But something simple.

Absolutely. So fun.

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