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In this episode, let's talk about the three things you

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need to do to avoid the artist boom and bust cycle in your

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business. Hi, I'm Katie McManus, business strategist and money

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mindset coach. And welcome to the Weeniecast!.

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As someone who has benefited from a gratitude practice many

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times in my life, I can tell you from lots of experience working

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with clients that sometimes you it actually you

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up. Going into your business and operating it from

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a position of I'm so grateful that I have work

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can be one of the worst things that happens to you,

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because when you become so enamored with the fact

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that you have work, you set yourself up for what I

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call the artist boom and bust cycle. Now, this is

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a business model that will burn you out, prevent

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you from ever saving for retirement, keep you

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constantly stressed and freaked out that you're going to go

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broke. And it's something that happens to a lot of people.

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So I want you to picture an artist. And they've spent the

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last three months creating a whole bunch of paintings. They're

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beautiful, spend a lot of time, they do a lot of detail. Their

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work is phenomenal. But in the last three months, they haven't been

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selling anything. So as you can imagine, they're a

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human that live in a human meat suit, that

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needs shelter and water and food

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and occasionally to go out and have fun with friends and might

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make the occasional impulsive purchase because they probably have

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adhd as well. Now, unless they are independently

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wealthy, all that costs money. And if they're not bringing money

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in, it means it's eating away at their savings.

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So the artist now has a lot of inventory, but they don't have a lot

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of money. So they go to market. They perhaps do a partnership with a

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gallery, and they start selling their pieces now because they're focused on

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selling. They have money coming in. It's really cool. They start being so grateful

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that people are interested in their work, and they get so

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invested in selling their pieces that what are they not doing?

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They're not producing more art.

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So they're so grateful. They're ecstatic that people

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are coming into the gallery, they're viewing their work, they're putting bids

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in pieces, are going out the door, money is coming into their bank

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account, but what happens? At a certain point, they run

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out of inventory, and so they have a full bank account,

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but they have nothing more to sell. So all that

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gratitude, all that excitement about, oh, my God, people actually want to buy what I

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make kind of fucked them up. Because they got so invested in it that

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they stopped creating art. So what do they have to do now?

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They have to go back into their studio. They have to start cranking out

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art like crazy. All the while they're living off the savings

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that they just made, and that money starts

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dwindling. And then again, they have to take all the inventory that they've

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created and they have to go and put it up in a gallery and start

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selling it. And this cycle can continue

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forever. And as

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you can imagine, it doesn't create a sustainable life.

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It's feast or famine. And if

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you're creative, which, I mean, most of us with ADHD have some element

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of creativity, even if we're not in the art space,

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it's really hard to be creative. When you're

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so stressed about surviving, when there's that

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massive money stress hanging over your head that you might not be able to afford

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rent next month, how are you supposed to come up with something creative

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that people actually want to buy? It creates way too much pressure. There's an

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author that people have either very strong opinions for or against.

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Elizabeth Gilbert. She wrote eat, pray, love. One of her books that I

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absolutely love is actually about her creative process. And the book is big

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magic. And in this book, she actually talks about

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how she waited tables until her third

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bestseller because she never wanted to put the

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pressure on her creative work to pay the

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bills because she knew that nothing would be more stifling to

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her creativity than having that pressure. Let's look at it

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from a pretty basic point of view. When you really enjoy being creative

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in your business, that's where you have the most juice, the most

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energy. That's where you attract people like crazy. When

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you're having fun, when you're invested, but when it

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starts feeling like really tough work,

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that's when things just become so much harder. That's when you

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stop having fun. That's when you feel like you're having to

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struggle for each new client, for each post

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that you put on social media, it takes so much more work, so

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much more energy, and it becomes exhausting. And

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sure, if you want to run your business like that, you

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absolutely can. But I think there's a better way.

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So to be able to break out of the artist boom and bust cycle,

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we need to look at three different areas of how you are

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managing your business. And some of these are logistical. Here's what

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you need to focus on in your day to day. And some of them are

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energetic, some of them are the inner work that you have to do as an

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individual to be able to run this business and have it be successful

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in a sustainable, fun way.

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The number one place that might seem like a backwards way to

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start is you have to work on your money story. Your

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relationship with money will either support your success

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or completely you up. On the more mild

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side of this, when you have a shitty relationship with money, you're not

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charging enough, so you're underselling your services.

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You're probably attracting clients who aren't your sole clients,

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who maybe don't respect your time as much as people who would

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be paying more would. And in the worst case scenario, you

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are so drastically undercharging that you are living at the poverty level.

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You're barely able to feed yourself and your family.

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And when I start working with clients and we talk through what their pricing is

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and how much they think they can get away with charging,

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there are a few things that come up. Now. There's a huge

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conversation around your belief in your personal worth

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and what you deserve to make

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and what your work is worth paying for.

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And to this, I would argue, there's no price that can be put on

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you. You cannot attach worth to yourself.

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You are priceless. There's no one

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like you. There's no one who does work the

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way you do work. And quite frankly, your

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clients, when they come to buy your service, to buy whatever it

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is that you're providing, they don't give a fuck. They

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genuinely do not care. What they care about is what your service

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is going to provide them. On the other side, at the basic level, let's talk

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about a service that people can actually pay for, right? It's

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bug killing. If you have termites in your house, chances

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are you've hired a company to come and terminate

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the termites. Now it's important to do this

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because termites can cause extensive damage to the

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structure of your home. And if there's extensive damage to the structure of your

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home, guess what? You're going to have to move out because it's not safe to

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live in. And what happens when a house is not safe

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to live in? The resale value plummets,

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because whoever is going to move into that house next has

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to either do extensive renovations and

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reinforcing, or they have to just tear it down and

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rebuild. Different value than moving into a house that is

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fully functional and move in ready. You're going to

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pay to have someone come and kill the bugs.

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Now, the same service, I want you to think of like the kids

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that will take a magnifying glass and burn ants on the sidewalk.

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Not saying I agree with them. Essentially, they're doing the same thing,

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but with different impact. The ants aren't harming anyone.

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The ants are just going about their day. They're enjoying the sunshine all

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of a sudden, like, wow, this spot is kind of warm. A little warmer than

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it was over there. Wow, it's really, really hot. This is my

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impersonation of an ant. I don't know if they're that articulate, but there

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you go. Now, you wouldn't go down the street and ask little Johnny

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if he was willing to come over and use a magnifying glass on your

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termite. That's not going to be the scale. So when you think about your service,

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I want you to think about what is the greater impact it has. Are you

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the equivalent of seven year old Johnny who's kind of a dick with a magnifying

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glass? Or are you actually protecting the

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integrity of someone's house? Are you saving them money? Are you saving them

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time? Are you saving them heartache? Maybe this house was built by their great great

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grandfather. It's been the family for a really long time. And it

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would be a failure on a massive level to their whole family

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if they were the one to let it disintegrate. Now,

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chances are, when you think about the terminator, the guy who's going to come around

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and kill the termites, you're not looking at him and being like,

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what's your inherent value as a person?

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What's your hour worth? What do you

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deserve? You're not asking the guy to sit down

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and tell you about all the good deeds he does and what organizations he volunteers

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for and how many kids he has and what his hobbies were growing

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up and genuinely like. Is he a funny person? Is he a kind

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person? Is he the kind of person that returns his shopping

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cart at the grocery store? Because we know those people are worth more. No,

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you're not asking that. You're asking how soon will the bugs be gone, and also

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how much damage is already done. How much are you saving me

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from? Your worth has nothing to do with

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the price of your services. And I know it

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feels like it does. I know it feels like you have to

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justify every dollar you charge your clients. If it

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feels that way, you have some serious money work to

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do. Now, this is one of the things that I do in all of my

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programs, to varying degrees. Because if you

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don't feel comfortable charging a certain amount

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for your work, then guess what? You're never going to be successful. There's

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nothing. There's no tactics, there's no strategy that is going

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to fix your business if you inherently don't believe

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that you deserve to make enough money to live. Now, the other side of

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this that can happen is when you think about

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raising your rates, you start feeling an immense amount

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of shame on behalf of your clientele.

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Because if you have a lot of experience of not being able to afford the

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things that you want and feeling a lot of shame around not

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being able to afford it, then guess what? You're going to project onto your ideal

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clients. You're going to project that awful, shameful bad

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feeling that bubbles up in your stomach every time you look at a

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price tag and think, oh, my God, I can't even afford this.

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I don't have enough money. I don't have enough resources to be able to get

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the thing that I really want. People think about this as if it's not a

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big deal when we can't afford something. It's actually a moment that

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can be incredibly traumatizing to the human spirit. Because when you're in a

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position financially, when you can't afford the things that you want and you look

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at a price tag and it's too much, and it makes you have to think

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about how few resources you have, what it actually

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activates for you is your survival mode. Because

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money and our access to money is survival in the here and

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now. If you don't have enough money for shelter, you don't have shelter. If

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you don't have enough money for food, you don't have food. And if you're

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a person who is living in the world, who wants things, which we all

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do, and you're bumping against these things that you want, and you're thinking,

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okay, well, I'd like to buy this, and you're seeing the price tag and it's

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beyond what you can afford. You're constantly being

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reminded that you barely have enough to live. You're

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constantly being reminded that you can't live life the way you

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want because you're not powerful enough to

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have the resources to do what you want. That is crushing to the human

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spirit. And also, it's not true for everyone. If you're

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running a business and you are selling something

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that you're spending time producing or

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providing, you do not owe anyone affordability.

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Just because you've had that experience of looking at a price tag and

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feeling that shame, just that sinking, hot feeling in your stomach

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of, oh, no, I can't have this, doesn't mean other people feel that.

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People when they see that they can't afford something, for some of

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them, it becomes a vision board item.

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I can't tell you how many times I've gotten off a sales call with someone

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and the call ended with them saying, oh, my God,

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this is so inspiring. I know. I want to work with

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you. I absolutely want to work with you one on one. It's outside of

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my budget right now, but this is my goal now. The fact that

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I can't work with you, that has lit a fire under my ass. I want

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to work with you in the next six months, and I'm going to make it

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happen. Just because you feel shame around not being able to

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afford something and just because you have some trauma tied in

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there doesn't mean that it happens for everyone else.

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If you've done the work and you've done the proper market research, and you know

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that there are buyers for what you do, there's always

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going to be a price range. There's always going to be the most affordable and

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also the most high end. The only thing that's keeping you

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from being high end is your pricing and your attitude

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towards it. And sure, it'll be so sad for someone if they really

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want to work with you or they really want to buy your thing if they

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can't afford to get it right now. But that's not your problem.

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That is not your responsibility. Your

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responsibility, first and foremost, is to fill your own damn

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cup. And if you can't fill your own damn cup

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first, why are you making your stuff so

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affordable to everyone else? We have this

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belief, especially in industries where we're helping other people, to

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actually offer, like, a spirit level transformation to people, that

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we also have to be poor. It happens in the creative industries as

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well. To be a true creative, to be a true artist, you have to

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starve. There's only honor in creating if you're also

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starving. I think we get this poverty mindset

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and this sense of it's honorable to be poor

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when you're helping other people from religious

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systems. If you were to look at the church throughout the middle

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ages in Europe, one of the requirements to be part of the church is you

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had to give up all of your earthly belongings if you wanted to be a

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priest, if you wanted to be a nun, if you wanted to be a monk,

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I'm sorry, you can't keep your family castle and all the

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horses and the art collection and all the silver and gold

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and be a priest at the same time. Or at least technically, you weren't

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supposed to. People did it. But we've been taught this model that you have to

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give up all of your earthly goods in order to do really good work.

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I mean, sure, if you want to make that noble, you can. But let's also

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look at the business of the church. It's a multi billion dollar

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company, essentially, okay? You're not going to be a priest or a nun or

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a monk in the catholic church, especially back then, and go starving.

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I mean, unless you were on a fast or something, which is something people did

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by choice. But it's not like the church is going to be like, oh, sorry,

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we just don't have any money to feed you right now. No,

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it's one of the reasons why people joined the church.

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They believed in the whole God thing, too. But that's an aside. It's a

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model. It's essentially a model to make sure that your needs are being met. And

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there's nothing wrong with that. But you looking at that and saying,

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okay, well, there's something noble about not having anything, about being broke,

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being poor and helping people.

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Unless you belong to a greater organization that's covering

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your basic needs of your meat suit, it's not noble, it's just

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stupid. At its heart, it's caring more about what other people

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think of you than about taking care of yourself.

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I know this sounds kind of pessimistic, but there's

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no one out there who's spending as much time worrying about you taking care of

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yourself than you. No one is going to make sure that you have food

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on the table like you will. No one is going to make sure that you

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have enough money for retirement. That's your job. If you choose to

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prioritize other people thinking you're noble and thinking you're this good

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person and all this stuff over having those things,

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that is on you. And if there's deeper money work to

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be done here, that is also on you. But the beautiful thing is

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you just heard this bit of this podcast, I just called you out on some

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bullshit and now you're aware of the problem, which means you can go fix the

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problem. Congratulations. And I know there are many coaches

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and consultants out there who genuinely want to help people who cannot

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afford to work with them at their current rate. You might think that you're

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being elitist by only working with people who can pay a higher amount.

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At its core, you don't have a greedy problem, you don't

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have an elitist problem. You have a business model problem.

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Especially when I work with coaches and they want to be able to work with

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people who can't afford like $1,000 a month or more

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on coaching. One of the things that we prioritize, first and foremost is their one

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on one business. Right. Your fastest path to cash is always going to be

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one on one clients who are paying out of their own pocket to work with

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you one on one. Once you have enough money coming in

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monthly from one on one clients, that's when you can start

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rolling out a group that is at a lower ticket, that's more

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affordable to people who can't afford to work with you one on one. Now, the

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reason we don't go there first is because if you're just starting out, you don't

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have the audience for it yet. Okay? Unless you're independently

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wealthy and you can manage to just kind of hang out and

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promote your list and post to TikTok and post to

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Instagram and to LinkedIn all the time and build that

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audience, you need to be making money along the way.

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But if you don't have enough followers, if you don't have enough people on your

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email list, you're never going to be able to fill up a group. It's just

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not going to happen. And I know some of you are probably thinking about that

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business grew that you saw online. That's like, well, what about creating a digital course?

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What about creating a PDF that I could sell on Instagram? Your

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fastest path to cash is always going to be one on one

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clients. Jumping to a digital course, jumping to a

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PDF that you're going to sell, sounds sexy, but

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the failure rate is extraordinary. There's no

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proof of concept when you jump into that. One of the best things that you

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can do to save time and money and frustration

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is to start off by building your one on one client list. Take the

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common lessons that you're working on with all of those clients. Turn

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that into a group program. Now, you want to run this group

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multiple times so you can test it, make sure there's actually a market

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for it. Understand frontwards, backwards and inside and

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out, what kinds of questions come up throughout the group.

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If there's anything you need to add to the curriculum, if there's anything you need

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to take away from it, and then, and only then, after you've done the one

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on one work and the group work, can you turn it into a successful

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course. And even then, you're going to have to change some things. You're going to

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have to tweak it. You're going to have to fine tune it along the way.

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You're going to have to also work on a different marketing plan because the marketing

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for a digital course is very different than it is for one on one coaching.

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The sales process is also different. There are a lot of things that you're going

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to have to figure out, but I'd rather you make money along the

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way than put all your eggs in a basket that is very

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highly likely to disintegrate and fall apart. You can

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absolutely offer affordable things in your business, but

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do it after you're already paying the bills. Do it after you've

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already created sustainable money coming in. So your money mindset

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is one of the most important things that you need to work on if

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you want to avoid that artist boom and bust cycle.

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The second one is a priority shift. And I know for those of us with

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ADHD, prioritizing things is one of the hardest

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things that we have to figure out every single day. So I'm going to make

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this so easy for you. Your mind is going

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to say, oh my God, I'm so grateful for these clients. I'm going to prioritize

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them above everything else. Your clients who are already signed

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up with you, who are already paying you are absolutely important. Of

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course you're going to prioritize them, but they do not hold the number

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one spot. You know what does?

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Visibility marketing. One of

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the reasons why the artist is constantly going broke is because they run

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out of inventory to sell. If you're a coach and you fill up

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your practice with ten clients and you're working on those ten clients

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and you kind of ignore your marketing, what happens when those clients start

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finishing? If you haven't been marketing the whole time, you start

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panicking. There's no pipeline. There's no list of people who are

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waiting to work with you. So you're kind of starting from scratch in your

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marketing and you're probably going to dip down into like four or

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five clients before you start backfilling them, which means you're

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going to dip below your cost of living and it's going to stop

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being fun. It's going to start being scary. Your number

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one priority every damn day is to be visible because

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people can't hire you if they don't know that you exist. And

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remember that you cannot have consistent cash flow

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or a consistent business without consistent

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marketing. One of the saddest parts about

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recessions is that a lot of companies go out of business. And

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I know you're probably thinking, well, duh, it's a recession. Of course they're going out

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of business, not necessarily it's how they

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react to the recession that actually puts them out of business. A lot of

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companies, when hard economic times fall on us, which

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happens fairly regularly because that's how the world works, they panic and they think, okay,

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cool, where can we cut money? Where can we cut expenditure within our budget?

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Oh, cool, marketing. We're going to cut marketing. It seems

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like kind of a fluffy thing. I mean, of course they know that marketing works.

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They wouldn't be spending money on it before if it didn't. But it's really hard

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to say, okay, well, this ad campaign or this marketing

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strategy is delivering x amount of dollars to us. There's

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no clear delineation between the two. And so

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executives in their panic mode will think, okay, anything that's not

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delivering a clear return on investment gets cut.

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Well, what happens? They cut the marketing and then the sales team starts

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struggling because they don't have as many leads. They don't have as many people coming

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in and buying their stuff. So then they have to start working harder and harder

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and harder and then they start not making quota. And then because they're not

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making quota, there's not as much cash coming into the business. The business starts having

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to lay other people off. Maybe in the product side or

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in the customer service side, the clients you have start getting unhappy

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because the quality of the products have gone down. Maybe the support has

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gone down. Getting through to someone to re up your plan

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or whatever it is you're buying starts getting harder and before

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you know it, you are flirting with bankruptcy.

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Like I said before, gratitude can fuck you up. Yes, be

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grateful for the people who are working with you, who've hired you, who are buying

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your stuff, and also, they are not going to

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quit. They are not going to ask for their money back. If you

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prioritize visibility, it's the difference between the

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mindset of a business owner and an employee. If you

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are constantly prioritizing serving the client

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as your number one and neglecting the greater needs of

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your business, you are not operating like a business owner. You are

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operating like an employee, which to your credit,

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you've only been trained to be an employee up until now. If you've worked any

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other job, that has been the training. Here's how you plug in and do the

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thing. No strategist thinking, you don't have to plan the greater

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path, but business owners have to do that. Your number

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one priority is always going to be visibility and never

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forget it. And of course, a close second is your paying clients.

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Now, the third thing that will help you overcome the

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artist boom and bust business model. Ooh, what am I going to say

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next? Well, you'll have to keep listening to find out. But first, squirrel, squirrel,

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squirrel, squirrel.

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Now, the third thing that will help you overcome the

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artist's boom and bust business model, that ugly cycle that

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will keep you constantly stressed out and freaking out about money, is

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that you need to scale, fail, and bail

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fast. And I know I made sure that that rhymed.

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I was really excited about the scale and fail

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because everyone knows about failing fast. And of course, scaling is important. But

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then I went through my brain hole of all the other things that rhyme with

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those things, and I figured out that bail fits in perfectly with this model.

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I'm inappropriately proud of this. Okay. Anyway, so,

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scaling fast, you need to set up your business

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in a way that you will be able to step away from the day to

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day running as fast as possible.

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You are a human. You exist in this meat suit. Meat suits

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are not consistent. Sometimes they get sick. Sometimes they get injured. Sometimes

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they get burnt out and tired and need a rest. Sometimes

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beings in other meat suits have demands on you, like

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children and spouses and family members. They need you

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to show up for shit. And that means you can't necessarily be in your business

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that day. So as soon as humanly possible, as

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you're growing this business, set it up so you're not the one

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who has to do every damn thing every single day. If you do

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that, you are literally setting your business up for failure because your business

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is solely dependent on your

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meat suit needing to show up and do the things every damn day. And that's

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just for people who don't have executive dysfunction. If you

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have adhd, like we talk about here a lot, your executive

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dysfunction can absolutely get in the way of you doing things every

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single day. Even if you're not sick, even if your kids aren't

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home with the flu or need you to come and pick them up from basketball

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practice. We all know that feeling of sitting at our

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desk with our eyes completely disassociated,

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thinking, I know what I need to do. Why can't I do it? Damn it,

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I'm going to fail. And just running

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ourselves ragged and exhausting ourselves by not even doing the thing.

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Set your business up so that can happen in the background so that other people

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can do that when you can't. You need to scale as fast

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as possible. Now, along with that, you're going to fail.

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One of the biggest red flags that I see with

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people who book a sales call with me, who talk about joining my programs or

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signing up to work with me one on one, is this immense

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fear that they have around failure. They're so terrified to fail. Those are

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the clients that I've started turning away. Because if you're so afraid to

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fail, you're never going to try anything. And if you never try anything, you're never

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going to succeed. Failure is the only thing that is guaranteed

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when you start a business. I failed a gazillion times. I fail every

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single day in a million different ways, and

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I have the choice of saying, oh, wow, I failed.

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Oh, well, I better just quit now, because failure sucks, and I don't

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want to do this anymore. If I'm going to fail, it's absolutely a choice I

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can make, or I could stick with my mindset and say, cool. That's one way

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not to do know kind of like how Edison, what did he do? He invented

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the light bulb, which, I mean, I have light bulbs all around me. I'm very

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grateful for this man, for inventing light bulbs. They make a lot possible for me

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and for you. But to get there, he failed a

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gazillion times, and his whole mindset was, I didn't fail. I found

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a thousand different ways to not make a working light bulb. You

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are on this massive adventure to find a gazillion different

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ways to not be successful. It is a wild ride, and

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it's one that you can either make fun, make part of the process,

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or you can have it be a big, scary forest that you don't want to

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step foot in. Totally up to you. But I can tell you what you'll be

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doing a year from now if you're not willing to fail and it's working for

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someone else. And, of course, bailing. No one wants to

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bail on a project. No one wants to bail on a business. No one wants

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to bail on an idea that you were convinced was going to work.

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But sometimes you have to. Sometimes we have to look

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at the definition of insanity, which is trying the same thing over and over

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and over again, expecting different results, especially in business.

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If you're trying to create a service and you have tried all the different ways

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to make work, and it's just not working, it's probably a sign that you need

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to bail. Now, of course, a lot of people bail too soon. This is

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one of the benefits of having a coach in your corner who can help you

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poke holes in all the stories you're telling yourself about why it's

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failing, who can help you really look at the data and see? Is there

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something wrong with your marketing? Is there something wrong with your sales process? Is there

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something wrong with the value proposition of what you're putting

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together? But one of the best qualities you

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can have as a business owner is knowing when to walk away,

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knowing when to quit. When I was in

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college, I lived in a basement apartment in this house, and the

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family that lived upstairs was so nice. And the mom was from Indonesia, and

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she was really into feng shui. And she'd always lend me books on feng shui.

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And she would tell me, like, if you want a boyfriend, you're going to have

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to clear out half of your closet, because in feng shui, if you want

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someone to come into your life, you need to have space for them in your

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life. Now, I had a lot of clothes that wasn't going to happen. I wasn't

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leaving half of my closet empty. But I want you to think about feng

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shui in your life, okay? If your life is full of

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something that's just not working, is there going to be room for

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a more profitable opportunity to come in? Probably

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not. If you are working and grinding 60

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hours a week on a business that isn't working, no one else can

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really understand that it's not working to that degree. So there may be

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people out there who are like, oh, my God, I would love to partner with

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this person, but they're too busy. They would never be able to be

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available for money making

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opportunities. You need to have space for those opportunities to come

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in. And sometimes that means you have to quit stuff that doesn't

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work. And I know

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as someone with ADHD who starts a lot of things

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and doesn't finish them and then holds a lot of

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guilt and shame around all the things that are left half done,

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like the 27 knitting projects that I'm still in the middle of that I probably

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will never finish, but I will continue to pack up every time

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I move and take it to my new place and then unpack them

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and put them in just the right spot in my apartment so that when I

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do feel like finishing them, because I am still convinced, even though I know

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better, that there's going to be, like, this magic moment where the motivation just kind

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of pops up and I'm like, yes, that scarf that I

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gave up on seven years ago, now is the time

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I'm going to finish this. I know we can have a little bit of shame

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around quitting things, because in our minds, we have this

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story that we're not finishers, and we get so latched on to

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this idea. Like, I got to finish this. I got to see it through. Because

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we don't want that story to be true. I know it can feel really icky

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for us to quit shit. Because every time we quit something,

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that voice just gets stronger and stronger. There's more evidence that we can't

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see things through, that we're not finishers. But that's the beauty of having

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ADHD, is our minds move so quickly. And

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sure, sometimes it means that you start a sweater and then you buy all the

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equipment for it and you don't finish it. And sure,

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that's unfortunate, but it's not the end of the world. Now, it

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might put you in the position where you own more yarn than your car is

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worth, kind of like where I am. But it doesn't diminish you as a

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person. It doesn't diminish your worth, doesn't diminish how

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much you deserve, and it's not proof that a business

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isn't going to be ultimately successful for you. So remember, scale

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fail and bail as fast as you can. Squirrel. Squirrel. If you're ready to

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stop being a weenie and actually run a business that makes money, then go

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ahead and book a generate income strategy call with me by going

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to

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weeniecast.com/strategycall.

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On this call, we will talk about your goals, your dreams,

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and your frustrations in getting there. And if it's a fit

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for both of us, then we can talk about different ways to work together.

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My hair is so staticy when I was a kid, so I have, like, fine

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hair, but I have a lot of it. And when I was a kid in

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our minivan, I used to walk in. All of a sudden, my hair would just

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be static, like, sticking into the roof. And I'd start screaming bloody murder

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and crying. Like, my hair is electrocuted and, like, freaking out.

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And my mom had to keep a squirt bottle in the the

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car, and she just turned around, like, squirt my head,

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and I feel like crying. My

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hair is electrocuted. Anyway.