Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora. And I'm so grateful to

have you here today that we can spend some time together. Today

I want to talk about mental health and why it is important,

so important to me to do this podcast, I had really good

feedback so far. And this is only motivating me to do more.

And I really hope I can bring you peace and resolution and

hope and just good feelings into your life. Especially during

COVID COVID has been very, very hard on many people. Alcohol

consumption is skyrocketing domestic violence, depression,

loneliness, addictions in generals are going through the

roof, in Europe, as well as in North America. And seeing those

numbers just motivates me even more to do what I'm doing here.

So thank you so, so much for supporting me for listening and

sharing and subscribing. It's been an incredible four weeks

now.

So thank

you so much for your support. So mental health has been a topic

in my life for quite some time now. I would say five years. And

before that, I only saw my body and my thoughts. I thought my

body. Yeah, it's just my body. As a woman, you're always

unhappy with what you have, you want a different you want to,

like the woman in the advertisement or in the movies,

went through some eating disorders and my teens and

recovered from that would say it's always been a companion,

this eating disorder and now kind of it's fading out of my

life. There's no more shame around eating, and I feel at

ease and peace with my body. And then my thoughts. Yeah, I was a

pretty ego driven woman that went through a lot of pain in

her 20s. I was raped when I was 21. And that severely changed my

relationship to men in general. And not as someone would think

that I was avoiding men and trying to, I don't know, be all

independent. Also. No, that was not the case. I was in couple

relationships. Were looking back now I can see that. I was not

myself. I was fear driven. I was ego driven. I was manipulative.

And I could only see it now, looking back and being in it.

Back then was just a huge show. For my partner, and for myself,

but I couldn't make sense of it. I couldn't see it. And I decided

to leave my home country then. And to immigrate to Canada to

live with my grandmother on her farm here in the Rocky

Mountains. Because I needed to find what was going on with

myself and being all by myself out here.

Really,

yeah, was harsh and hard. And I went through so much depressive

phases, so much depression, and so much pain and loneliness. But

it helped me to see to finally see what was going wrong with

me. And I'm not there yet. I hope you know that I will never

stand above anybody else or above you listening. I will

stand right next to you because I'm not better off than anybody.

I just learned to see and learn a couple things, and about

myself. And those are the things that I want to share with the

world. Because it helped me enormously along my way and I

want to help people to find these tools that I found for

myself, way sooner than I did. It took me over 10 years and I

feel a person could do so much faster than I did. So that's my

contribution to this world. And this is why I decided to do this

podcast because I can reach beautiful people all around the

world. And listening to a podcast is deeply soothing, you

can connect with that person, you can resonate with the

content, and really let things settle down. And you can listen

to the podcast while you're walking while you're driving.

While you're half asleep, or white, when you wake up in the

morning, of course, the meditations I never recommend to

do while you're driving a bicycle or a car or operating

machinery. But when I talk like that, you can just do whatever

you want, in the meantime. So mental health and especially

mental health for men, is so important for me to address

because along my journey, I recognized that I was capable of

doing tremendous harm, just by living in fear and ego. And what

do I mean by that? A woman or a person who is living in her

femininity, when hurt, can be so manipulative, and passive

aggressive. And those two things alone are enough to reflect

about yourself about what I reflected about myself. And what

scared me so much. Because up until then, I was always blaming

the other person, I was always thinking, Oh, my God, the other

person is just not my match. And it's just not there yet, and

just not ready. But I never looked at the work that I would

have to do, and that I would have to let go off. And it is so

sobering lets you know, that you were in charge of your luck and

your happiness all along. But it's also tremendously

empowering. Because when you find the right people to talk

about, and when you find maybe guides, or really good books,

then you really know that you're not alone in this. And you don't

need to live in sadness and regret, but you can take control

over your happiness and make better decisions. And self love

has been a really important thing along my journey, and

accepting myself for how I look and how I feel and my past. And

in working on that I was becoming a better person, I was

relating to other people in a more healthier way, and was able

to express myself in a better way. So I believe strongly that

if we take good care of ourselves, then we can be better

people, in our community, in our society. And in being that

person, we make society so much stronger. And for ourselves, we

make our life

so much more enjoyable. So when it comes to men, because, yeah,

I had one episode now for men only, but I feel and I know

myself, and that there will be much more. It is not that I'm

not interested in women's mental health. I think to some part,

you cannot really separate it anyways. But mental health for

men, is so critical for me to talk about because I feel

there's such a strong stigma around it among men. And I can

only change how I behave in society. So I want to give women

tools and maybe some insights about men's mental health, in

order to have better relationships and doesn't have

to be romantic. It can be friendship or siblings. It can

be acquaintances, or relationships, but men really

are taught to suck things up way more than women. Women are way

more open to talk about their pain, and encourage each other

to talk about their pain. And among men, it is not the case.

And I live in Alberta, in Canada. And there has been a

phase here, ever since I moved here where the suicide among

young guys was so high, and it was so scary because I could see

why they would do it. But you, you don't know how to stop it.

When you first hear these numbers, you are just scared?

And you don't know. Yep, well, I don't have influence on that

anyways, and I think you have, I think every single person has a

deep impact on to another person he or she interacts with. And if

we can be more sensitive with each other and more. I love to

say cutting through the bullshit. So more aware of what

is going on, then that would be such a beautiful shift to say,

to see in our society. I've heard way too many people in my

life and I know I can't take that pain from those lovely

people away, I disappointed many people. Too many people, you

know, maybe it's just two or three people. But that's three

too many. And I know why I did it. And it was simply because I

was not aware of how much power one person has over the other.

And if you become aware over the power you have on others and

duty we have to show up out there and to be authentic, then

I find it can only be empowering and good. So this is my mission

and my vision here with the Borealis podcast. I will share

way more about my journey. And I will share way more tools to

help you guide yourself into smoother waters. And I'm very

excited to have you on this journey with me and sending all

my love out to you. Be gentle on yourself. Bye bye