Hey, I'm Paige Killian, founder and CEO of everything

with style. I've built a business helping busy moms of

littles get organized in three simple steps. Like many of my

clients, I love being a mom and I also desire more. If ever, you

felt that stirring in your heart, that whisper or really

loud voice that keeps you up at night. And I don't mean teething

toddlers and noisy teenagers, then you are in the right place.

Because this is not a solo mission. Whether you're a little

curious or totally ready to be a mom, boss, and use your God

given gifts to serve others step into your calling, turn your

passions into purpose, and still make it to the carpool line on

time, then girlfriend, it's time to pivot. I've got you. Now

let's get started. Thank you so much for joining me today for

Episode One of the time to pivot podcast, I am so fired up partly

full disclosure, because I just ate some really spicy tuna sushi

with jalapenos, but mostly because I cannot wait to start

this podcast and get some episodes out that are going to

help you when you come to a time that you need to pivot in your

life. Maybe in your business, maybe part of your life is in

need of a business and you've figured out a way or you were in

the process of figuring out a way to use your God given gifts

to serve others. If that is what you're here for. I'm really

excited because I've got a lot of episodes that are coming up,

that are going to talk about those beginning stages, the

stages where you feel stuck, maybe you feel stressed, maybe

you feel in one area of your life, that it's really good, but

you feel unfulfilled in another area of your life. And my goal

is to be able to share with you some of the stuff I've gone

through and have great guests on to share experiences they've

had, where they've been able to push through some of those

really tricky roadblocks, or maybe a very difficult time in

your life that caused trauma. And you are trying to find a way

to get out of that and pivot, make that shift, do it

gracefully, do it with integrity, and do it not really

knowing what you're doing and maybe super scared, but trying

to do it anyway. So with that in mind, I figured the first thing

that we should talk about was my background, my story, why I even

felt compelled to start this new podcast, and see if that can be

helpful for you. So you know, if you've ever gone to a

conference, or maybe a fundraising event, there could

be speakers that come on stage and they share a story with you.

That might not be exactly what you've gone through. But you

make take something from their experience, really that

resonates with you or you can find a way to have it apply to

your life. And then it inspires you to take action to think

differently, to try something new to experience something

else. So what I thought today is that I would share with you some

of the things that I've gone through that have shaped me into

the person I am today in my life as a mom as a wife, as a

business owner. So I think probably the best place to start

is one of my first big pivot both in life and creating a

business for the first time. I had my first daughter Isabel,

then I had my Duke who came along next, in a beautiful and

sudden way actually almost gave birth to him in the lobby of the

Union Bank of California. So do came on the scene with a whole

new agenda. In a great way, he came in ready to disrupt our

lives. And the wonderful thing about that is it has made us

forced us to all grow and pivot. And I couldn't be more grateful

for the life lessons I've learned with Kid number two. I'm

crazy about that kid. I also am crazy about the first one who

just came out as this very independent, very even keeled,

balanced, responsible firstborn. All right, if you know you know,

I'm a firstborn, my husband's a firstborn. What are you Where do

you fall on the lineup? She's super firstborn, a And he's

super second born. If we're getting into stereotypes,

they're true for us. They're not true for everybody, but they're

true for us. And I love both my kids so much and their

differences, because it challenges me to not only be a

better mom, but to learn life lessons so that I can pivot as

they need backup and support. And that's really where my first

story of pivot begins. When Duke was, I had gone back to work as

a teacher. So my background is about 15 ish years really more

like 13 in my own classrooms. But then I did some other work

outside that was also teaching as well, for about 15 years as

an elementary school teacher, so mostly kindergarten, and second

grade. And what I found is that my son needed a little bit more

support, like I had been a stay at home mom with Isabel when she

was super young. But I went back to work when I had Duke. And he

needed me to be home with him for a little bit, we needed to

work out some things, we needed to have some Mother Son time,

and we also needed to get to the bottom of some things that we

were trying to work out with him. So with a little privacy,

they're still intact, just trust that my teaching and parenting

skills were really being put to the test. And if you want to

know a little bit more about what I'm talking about two

resources, one, go back and check out the moms organization

motivation podcast, it is still running, to write all about it.

In my book, my book is called I've got a girlfriend, the

subtitle is why getting organized and living this small

life is not a solo mission. So if you want to check that out,

it's on Amazon right now you can go to my website, everything was

styled.com. And you can find a link there to check it out as

well. But I definitely reveal how very stressful and difficult

it was for a little while when I felt like I wasn't doing a good

job as a mom. And then when I wasn't doing a good job. As a

mom, I didn't feel confident in other areas of my life too. Do

you ever find that when you're in the midst of a transition, or

a really hard time that you feel like you're not just suffering

in one area, but you really might be suffering in another,

it felt like I couldn't get any sort of control, because I

wasn't learning the things that I needed to learn quickly. And

so patience was really tested at that time. And I had to trust

that God had a plan for us, there was definitely something

that was going to come of the struggle. But God when you're in

it, does it not just feel like the most stressful and

uncomfortable thing. So I knew at that time that I loved

teaching. But it wasn't what I was supposed to continue doing.

Because my kid needed me. And I could either choose to be super

resentful, and frustrated. Or I could lean into it, feel the

discomfort, lean into the fear and say, Okay, God, what do you

have planned? Okay, what do I need to learn in this? Are I use

me, I'm here. I'm here to learn and just can you just please

show me what to do next? Can you just please make it obvious?

Because let me just tell you, the subtle stuff doesn't work

for me. Sometimes, I really need it to be super obvious, I need

the signs to be big. So I will tell you that God answered

prayer in a big way PS, I'm going to be talking about God.

So if they for you is a little shaky, a little questionable or

non existent, I hope that you'll just take the things that I'm

saying and know, this is how I have felt comfort and direction

in my life, especially during those times of pivot and trials.

So if that doesn't resonate with you, maybe some of the other

stuff I'm saying will, but stick with me, because I can promise

you that the stuff that I've learned, doesn't always just

come down to the fact that I believe in God and my faith is

strong. It's a lot of different moving parts. So I hope that you

will continue to stick with me if that feels a little strange

for you. So as I'm saying, God is answering prayers. I'm also

feeling like I'm being tested in the certain areas where I

thought I used to be really good. I thought it was a good

parent. And the truth is, I was and I continue to be a good

parent, even during the struggle, but I didn't know that

at the time. At the time, I thought I was massively failing

and dropping the ball. So remember how I said sometimes

you can go to an event or you can go to unconference and maybe

like the person who's sharing their story. It's not exactly

what yours is like maybe they massively struggled with

addiction, and they hit rock bottom and decided they needed

to get sober and that was part of their journey that was part

of their pivot that they had to make. So maybe that's not

exactly something that you've gone through. But maybe you feel

like you can get addicted to Netflix. I'm all for going down

that Netflix rabbit hole and watching too many things. They

make it too easy. You're just binge watch, you know.

So Though I get it, but you can take that little nugget from

what somebody else is talking about and apply it to your own

life or so it'll resonate with you. So I'm going to now tell

you after that first pivot really sort of shifted a lot of

what I felt like my purpose was, I'm going to take that as the

jumping off point. And then I'm going to rapid fire telling you

several things that followed after that. So here we go. I

made the difficult decision to leave teaching, not because I

didn't love it, or I wasn't fulfilled. But because right

now, at that moment, I felt like, that's not what is going

to serve my family and me best. So I had to do a hard thing, I

had to leave this very secure paycheck, in an environment

where people were telling me I was doing a good job regularly.

I mean, doesn't that feel great, that's hard to leave. And I left

there, knowing that I wasn't going to have everything figured

out. But I did feel pretty confident that that was the move

I needed to make. All right. So fast forward a little bit of

time, we are getting some awesome help that we need for

our Duke. And I'm writing a book. During this time, I'm

writing a book about how much I love organization, how much I

use it on the homefront how I've started this side hustle after I

left teaching, because I thought, Gosh, I still need to

bring in some income. And I met with my amazing coach, Coach,

Kelly Mobic. If you listen to the other podcast, you will have

heard me say her name a lot. I definitely plan on having her on

as a guest. She's going to talk to us about what it looks like

to take the lead in your life. So I met with her because I

said, Hey, I need a friend. But I also really need some advising

on how I could turn some of the things that I enjoy doing into a

business that's going to bring an income and my family. I never

started a business before. Okay, so this was new. And it was

really scary. And she said, first, let's make a list of your

strengths of your skills of things that you feel like you

could contribute to serve others, we did that. And that

was when I discovered that it made a lot of sense for me to

start a company that was all about professional organizing.

And I did, I started everything with style. And it talks all

about how we can get organized in three simple steps using my

three E's philosophy. I'm going to talk to you about that on the

next episode. And it worked. It really worked. I was using it at

home. I had used it for years as a teacher in setting and

accomplishing goals in three simple steps with my

kindergarteners. And so that's how everything was styled my

first company was born. That happened around 2016. Duke was

at home with me. And it started as a side hustle. And then it

really grew. My Duke went back to school, we got a lot of

awesome things figured out that really helped everyone, everyone

was feeling a little lighter and brighter. So at this point, I

decide, I'm going to take that book that I had been writing

that was really becoming therapy for me to get all my thoughts

and feelings down on paper and also to share it with other

people. I actually needed to get to the sharing part that had

been therapy for me and I was writing it. And I found an

amazing editor at the time, Jessica Killingly absolutely

love her. I then had her edit the book I had, I went into

business with her signed a contract because she started an

actual agency. And she became my agent. And we are going to

pursue traditional book publishing. So I'm going to save

the details for later because I'm going to have her on the

podcast as well to talk to us about what traditional

publishing looks like what editing a book looks like, what

getting your book out into the world looks like whether you

should go the traditional the hybrid or the self publishing

route. So stay tuned for that. At that time, I decided, okay,

the traditional publishing stuff isn't totally working out. Like

I said, I'll give you details later. But a lot of it had to do

with the fact that I just was so brand new. I had just started my

company. I was just riding for the first time. And it wasn't

the right timing. And that's a huge, crucial part of pivoting.

If the timing isn't right, it's not going to work, doesn't mean

it's never going to work. It may mean you need to continue to

push through the obstacles and it will eventually work. We will

talk about that more on future upcoming podcasts we will talk

about when it's okay to throw in the towel and say this was a

great learning experience. And it's time for me to abandon this

plan because I need to pivot in a way that's going to put me in

the right place to start something different to work on

something different and that's okay too. Right? Those are life

lessons that are important. So traditional publishing wasn't

working out. So I put it on the shelf. It's not about not an

actual book. It was on my laptop, I put it on a figurative

shelf. And I was like, You know what, it's not the right time,

we're not going to do that now. I came back to my family, I came

back to that being the most important thing. And I continue

to cultivate relationships with my clients as a professional

organizer, and I was loving it, then 2020 hit. And it's funny,

because in my other podcast, I talk about how I would set a

word for the year. And that particular year i In January, I

had no idea what was coming in March, or in April of 2020. We

didn't know in January, I picked the word patients, and boy, did

we all get tested in patients that year. And so come, end of

March, when everything got shut down. I was like, What am I

going to do I now have my kids doing better in school, my

business is blowing up. I'm not even having to advertise.

Because all these moms that I'm helping just word of mouth,

they're telling other people I'm fully booked to get in people's

homes, to organize for them. Things were so great. And then

the pandemic came, and we were forced to stay home. How was I

supposed to stay relevant and be able to help my clients stay

organized if I couldn't physically go in their homes and

do that for them? Well, that was when I pivoted my business

again. And crazy enough, it was one of the biggest and best

years for my business. When I was on lockdown how in the

world? Well as I launched this podcast, so that I could share

my love of organization and these tried and true practical

tips that were really helpful for me and strategies to get

organized. In my classroom in my own home and in my clients

homes. Guess what happened? The Netflix special with Marie

Kondo. If you don't know her, you gotta check her out,

especially if you have any sort of love organization or if you

need to get organized. Her Netflix special called tidying

up with Marie Kondo came out, and that blew up, people were

loving it, right, because I remember we were all home

quarantining What else was there to do but listen to podcasts and

watch Netflix and go for walks and do puzzles. Okay, so then

the home edit, if you know, you know, I love Clea and Joanna

from the home edit. They've got a line at The Container Store.

And my heart is just on fire. Thinking about it again, I don't

think it's the sushi. I'm pretty sure it's just like my passion

for organization. And then, but I was really inspired by them as

well. They were on Netflix. So people were really getting

excited and fired up about organization. Okay, organization

became cool. It became super cool to do a good purge to label

your stuff and get it into awesome containers. That became

a cool thing. And my podcast blew up and the podcast went

from me wondering if only my mom was going to be listening. And

she did. Thanks, Mom. Shout out to you, mom. I say it on every

other podcast episode on the other. I'm gonna say it on this

one too. Mom, I'm glad you're here. I love you. Thank you. A

quick reminder, you can now get my book in four different ways.

Head over to Amazon and search up. I've got you girlfriend. The

subtitle is why getting organized and living this mom

life is not a solo mission. You can find it there on ereader.

That's through the Kindle app, paperback, hardcover, and the

audiobook. So if you're enjoying this podcast, I have a feeling

you may love the audio book. Again. It's called I've got you

girlfriend, why getting organized and living this mom

life is not a solo mission. Thanks so much for making it a

best seller and back to the show. So it wasn't just mom who

was listening. It was so many other people that podcast got

into the top half percent point 5% At one point, globally, it

hovered around the top 1% and 1.5% for the longest time

because people are ready to get organized. We had a need. So I

say that because today you're listening and you're like, Well,

I'm not trying to start a podcast page. But I do feel like

there's a need and I can answer it for someone else. If there's

a pain point that somebody has in you have the answer to it.

That's a gift you've got and you've gotta share it. It's

absolutely necessary. You've got to share it and blessings will

come from that. So next up podcast taking off doing well

and I'm like, You know what, I think it's time to go back to

the book pivoted again was introduced to an amazing person,

Samantha joy,

and as I'm saying this I need to first go back and say so much to

credit to Lindsey and Gould and her team at the podcast

boutique, the ones who helped produce my podcast week after

week, and there was no question that when I decided I wanted to

make this recent pivot and start this podcast that I would go

with them. So shout out to Lindsay, to Liam to all of you

over at the podcast boutique, for helping me do all of these

hard techie editing things that I just don't find joy in you do.

You're so great at it. And I really appreciate you so much.

So after the podcast, and I decided to pivot again and

circle back to that book, because it felt like then it was

the right time. Samantha joy came into my life, I will have

her on as a guest as well, if you have any interest in self

publishing a book, getting it onto Amazon, she not only came

in and took what Jessica Killingly and I had worked on to

create this, a book that I feel so so good about. But Sam came

in. And she actually talked to me about doing final edits and

what it would look like to launch this book. And when it

went live on Amazon, in Gosh, April seems to be the right

month for me. I don't know things always happen in April, I

launched the first podcast in April. And it immediately got

incredible global success and ended up being listened to in

over 85 countries. That's insane to me. Then in April, the book

came out and it hit best seller before I was able to have

breakfast that morning. So obviously it was the right time.

And I needed to Self Publish. Because traditional publishing

wasn't working out for me. And instead of being stuck in the

fact that I tried traditional publishing, and it didn't work

and just being like, well forget it. I'm not doing it anymore. I

wrote this awesome book, nobody's ever going to know

about it. Because it didn't work out. It turns out, it wasn't the

right time. And I wasn't going about it in the right way. And

so it came back up, I just could not sleep at night, because I

kept feeling like it's time for the book to come out. I don't

think I did it the right way before. And now I think I've got

this person in my life, who is she is the expert, I am not. And

she has a plan for how it could work. And I need to lean on her

expertise and experience. So I'm definitely going to have her on.

So make sure that if you have any interest in writing a book,

or if you have written a book, your voice needs to be heard, it

is so important that it gets out into the world. And guess what,

it doesn't have to be a really hard process. It doesn't.

Because if it's aligned with the right timing, and the right

message, and you're coming from a place of serving others, you

need to do that you need to step into that call and you're being

called to do that. So maybe you're listening right now. And

you're like, gosh, Paige, I never really thought of writing

a book, or Gosh, I don't know. I mean, I do help people. And I do

feel like I'm an expert in this area. And yes, maybe I should

consider writing a book. Well, you're here today because you

need to hear that. Yeah, you do. And it doesn't have to be the

most difficult thing. I have connections that I would love to

share with you. Not only will I have these people coming on and

sharing their brilliance and sharing their experience, and

sharing ways that they've pivoted in their own life, and

they have advice for you, so that you can get out of being

stuck, you can get out of that stressed out place. Because they

have answers for you. Then you are hearing this today because

you are meant to. This is something that you need to

pursue. You're being called to take those incredible gifts and

serve other people. And it will not be in vain. If you're doing

it for those right reasons. Oh dear, have I been watching the

bachelorette too much? Is she here for the right reasons? Is

he doing that for the right reasons? I don't know. Again,

back to the binging. Oh my gosh, I love me some Bachelor and

Bachelorette. Anybody else? Anybody else? Okay, guilty

pleasure. So, what happens next? So now I've got the podcast.

I've got the business kids are doing great in school. Wonderful

behavior happening. Feeling really great about that. Boy

Does that side note. Take some stress out of a marriage. That's

kind of nice, right? Okay, then we've got the book coming out

hitting bestseller, holy cow. It's just thing after thing that

I'm like, Wow. I was scared to death. I'm allergic to tech. I

get really nervous and freaked out about it. I am an anxious

person by nature. And these things that I keep trying, when

I know that they're going to be hard, but I just find help and I

find an expert to helped me navigate what that might look

like to keep paying off. And that is why it is so important

for me to share with you that you have got this stuff in your

heart for a reason. And if you just keep having these thoughts

and feelings on a loop, and you can't shut your brain off at

night, it's because it's your time to take action it is. So I

hope that you will see that my story is your story, it might

not be exactly the same. But I've got some things that I've

gone through that really could parallel what you're going

through. And maybe I'm only a couple steps ahead of you. And

so we could go through these things together. I would love

that. So, so much. Maybe I'm way ahead of you and I'm doing other

things. In my business, maybe you don't even have a business

yet, you have an idea. And you keep feeling like it's on a

replay and you got to do something about it, or you'll

never be able to sleep again. Either way, wherever you are in

your life. Just know number one, you are not alone of gotcha

girlfriend. Number two, there is a higher power at work. And that

higher power is working on you and asking you to step into what

you are being called to do. And if you think that's Hocus Pocus,

they are weird. Let

me just tell you, I did too. I did too. And then I took a

chance because I couldn't sleep

at all like Oh curry, I'm gonna try. I'm gonna try. I'm gonna be

scared. I'm gonna do it anyway, we're going to talk about fear

coming up on future episodes as well, because that can

definitely derail you, right? It stop you in your tracks. It's

done that for me, it's delayed my forward motion, because I get

really scared, because I don't know what I'm doing. And I feel

like a big fat imposter, like who's gonna listen to me? So if

you ever feel like that, just know you are not alone. A lot of

people feel like that. I feel like I'm a fairly confident

person. confident people can be totally freaking out on the

inside. That's me high anxiety high. Does it law resonate for

you? That's me, I'm anxious. And I also feel like I don't want to

waste my time. I want to show up and be a good mom, I want to

show up and be a good wife. I want to show up and be a good

business owner and friend. And I want to, I want to say things

and do things that I feel proud of. And let me make a very clear

distinction. If you're hearing those things, and you're like, I

am not in that place page, I just want you to know, I'm not

doing anything perfectly. It is really messy. Ever an organized

person, that's hard. But what I know is that I will not be able

to go through life and not attempt some of these hard

things in a super messy way. Because it's the only way

they're gonna get accomplished. It's going to be messy at first,

I'm going to be floundering. You might be in this position, too.

But it's okay. Have you ever heard that phrase? Make your

mess your message? Yeah, that's what you got to do. Doesn't have

to be perfect. You don't have to have it all figured out yet. But

use your mess. Use your struggle, use whatever you're

going through. Be transparent, be honest, and share it. People

are going to absolutely resonate with you so much more. They're

they're going to be like whoa, she or he. Hi, guys, if you're

listening Hi, is super relatable. That's what we want.

We want to connect with people. And we want to use our gifts to

serve others. All right, are you with me? All right. That's just

the beginning of some of what my life has been like in pivoting.

And I cannot wait to share with you next episode all about how I

took these three simple steps that were working in my

kindergarten classroom that were working on the home front to

apply in my business. And at first I was using them when I

was talking about getting organized. And what I realized

is you can actually use the three E's, to apply them to any

type of goal setting you have, and getting to that goal in

three simple steps. So setting goals, accomplishing them three

steps at a time. Are you interested? If you are, then

join me on the next episode, I'm gonna explain a little bit more

about what that means. What that looks like how you can use it in

your life to simplify things. Yes, please. Life is

complicated. Let's not make everything complicated. Let's

figure out a way to simplify it. So join me for that. And also if

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doing in any way pushing forward because you have amazing gifts

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