Hello, hello,

and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

today. I hope you're doing well, I hope you're in a good place.

And if you're not in a good place, I hope I can give you.

Yeah, hope and make you feel better about yourself. And the

situation you might be in today's topic is your inner

critic, and Outer Critics. I feel that when we choose to get

rid of our bad behaviors, patterns, habits that are not

serving us anymore. When we choose to walk on a new path, a

path that maybe no one ever walked on in our family, then we

will not be left alone, or how do you say spared being tested?

I posted her episode about that recently. And I felt it's really

important to talk about it again, that sometimes the

challenges will come from the inside, from your monkey mind

from your head. It is your inner critic that will jump in and

question what you're doing is that really what you want to do

is this way you see us going, are you sure you want to be

walking on that new path, you're not worth it. You don't deserve

to be free and happy. You need to struggle and work hard. So

sometimes we expect the test to come from the outside. But what

I learned painfully is that the monkey mind, the inner critic

will be your biggest challenge. And on the one side, sorry, on

the one side, it's a good thing. Because you can learn to be in

control of that monkey mind and put it in a corner, turn the

volume down. But on the other side, it's also very, very tough

because it's deeply ingrained thoughts, things that we

sometimes copy and pasted from our parents to not say inherited

from our ancestors. See, when you look at my grandma, for

instance, she went through war and Europe. And so she was

conceived during war and was born into war and then grew up

after the war was done. But the stress that her mom had to go

through during her pregnancy, and during the young years of my

grandma deeply affected my grandma too. So all this to say

is you your parents probably went through some stuff at some

point in their lives. And that deeply influenced their behavior

now, or even their DNA. And that will influence you. Which

doesn't mean that this is a stamp a tattoo that you will

never get rid of. But you have to get aware of it first. And

you have to see that certain behaviors, certain thought

patterns are not serving you anymore. And to then go out

there and question and, and let go of those thought patterns and

replace them with positive thought patterns is a very tough

job to do.

But I tell you what, it's so worth it and you might feel

you're distancing yourself from your family, you might be losing

contact for a while because you need a little bit of more

distance, because you realize certain behaviors were truly

abusive and way too aggressive and you don't want to continue

that chain Have behavior let's, let's say, but there will come a

point where you can forgive and forget. And where your family

can see that you're doing well, and you are on a new path and

you are creating, or getting ready for the evolution of the

human species. Right? So, if we were all to copy our parents

behavior, if they were to copy their parents behavior, like one

on one, never question anything, there wouldn't be any evolution

possible. We have to learn and adapt, we have to get rid of

things that were given to us, that are not serving us or

humanity, and be okay, and know that our parents are still

heroes, they still awesome. We don't have to blame and shame

them. But what I want to say here today is that your inner

critic, the way you feel about yourself, was shaped and molded

in a very young youth, the way your dad treated you highly

influenced your confidence, your self esteem, the way your mom

treated, you highly influences how you treat other people. And

again, how you feel about yourself. And our parents are no

saints. They are wonderful people who gave them all their

everything, to raise us with everything we need it. But

remember, you were not born with a manual, you will not born with

a little piece of paper where it says Justin will be awesome at

playing the piano, and is awesome at learning English, and

will be a highly intuitive person and a good doctor one

day, they don't know those things. So sometimes you're

being influenced in a different direction. First, a direction

that your family sees as best for you. But then you realize

quickly, this is not what I wanted to do here. This is not

what I came here for. And I want to break loose and find my

purpose and be on my path. And that's a scary path to be on.

But truly the only one that is healthy and good for you. And

yeah, you might have to have a couple conversations with your

family, the people that are close to you. But you have to

follow your purpose, you have to follow your inner voice. So your

inner critic is going to question you and make you

question makes you doubt what you're doing there. It's gonna,

depending on how confident you are with yourself, pull you back

in a very low self esteem and make you ask yourself, yeah, why

do I think people need what I got to offer? Why do I think

people will listen to what I say. And when you hear that

little voice, I'm hoping with this episode here, to remember

my voice and to remember that it is perfectly normal, that this

voice will come up. It will question you, it will doubt you

it will bring you down. It will maybe haunt you in your dreams.

But you have to turn the volume down or that little voice and

you have to keep walking that walk and know that if your

intentions are good, if you're here to serve people, if you

here to express your soul to express yourself, then this path

will always be the right one for you. And that little voice will

throw tantrums and get loud and very destructive. But you have

to feel and know that you're just being tested and you may

continue on your beautiful new path

that you are on. This episode maybe you heard it in my voice

is very very dear to my heart because it took me a long time

to put that inner critic into the corner. And to smile at it

and just know that this is a little part of myself that I

don't want to give too much importance. And I'm hoping so

much that in listening to this episode here He will identify

this little voice quickly. And you will be able to take

shortcuts or Yeah, take less time to totally blossom and

unfold your potential and sending my love out to you. I

hope you're doing well. And I will be out there very soon

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