Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to be

spending some time with you today.

It is Sunday afternoon. It's very windy out there.

And today I choose to talk about uncomfortable feelings.

anxiety, sadness, powerlessness, anger, frustration.

Desperation.

Those feelings usually come up when

we are by ourselves. They start out with little thoughts, maybe

something that has happened and the outside, that triggers a

thought.

And then it goes on and on, and you start feeling worse and

worse, and maybe even anxious, nervous. Maybe your body even

starts feeling uncomfortable.

And then the distraction starts, we have Netflix, at the tips of

our fingers. We have junk food, we have ice cream in the

freezer,

we have porn.

We have all kinds of stuff.

To help us avoid these feelings. Not to forget about cigarettes,

and alcohol.

They numb the pain, they

make us think of something else, they make the body feel warm and

fuzzy.

And make you basically, yeah, override these feelings. But

they're still there

are going to come back next time around when you're alone.

I'm still struggling.

And being at peace, like mental peace. When I spend extended

periods of times by myself, and I'm learning day by day,

situation by situation, that this is exactly what I need to

learn. I need to learn to be comfortable. Spending time with

myself. I'm good at spending time with myself. But I usually

heavily distract myself, you know, social media and Netflix.

Everything is right there.

It is okay to sometimes just stop

and to see what is there. You know, it's like a house that you

haven't been in the long time.

And it's dusty and there's things broken.

And all of the time you were avoiding to go into that house.

Or you were trying to mask

the stuff that disturbing things that you didn't want to see.

But today, I just want to invite you to be there with me

with these feelings

to sit there, preferably not driving or operating any

machinery

and to just

allow yourself to be still.

And when things start coming up when your monkey mind starts

doing its business.

Just don't engage.

let it float by like a cloud on a windy Sunday afternoon.

And even if you feel uncomfortable, no know that it

is certainly your thoughts who trigger those uncomfortable

feelings in your chest

and your body.

Take a deep breath through your nose and then exhale

and then inhale

and then exhale.

know that right now you don't have to think about any to do

lists.

You don't have to react to anything you have to not

impulsively try to go do something in order to escape.

And just notice what is coming up? Is it sadness? Is it anger,

that frustration is it loneliness

and give it some attention.

You know, like, all too often we're there for other people

when they feel shitty, we're there for a child when it cries,

we comfort.

But when it comes to our deep stuff, which is to distract

ourselves, which is to not want to feel these feelings.

And if we can start to be a little bit more compassionate

with who we are,

the knife can become so much easier.

We don't take things as personally as we used to, and we

feel self compassion.

When we feel self worth.

We don't meet make other people's actions about

ourselves.

We know it's dumb and tells everything about them. And it

has nothing to do with ourselves.

When we choose to sit and stillness and do nothing, but be

everything

and maybe go up into birds perspective and look down on

yourself

and know that you're endlessly precious and unique.

Just by sitting there, where you're at right now.

Nothing needs to be fixed.

Nothing says that you're not enough. Nothing says that you're

not meeting expectations.

You are whole You are wonderful.

You are an exquisite mix of energy and love, lifeforce

can pay compassion for others,

first and foremost for yourself.

Be gentle with yourself of facts sakes, we need to learn this.

And I'm not going to apologize for swearing here because it's

my podcast and I can do whatever I want.

You are so precious.

And sometimes you just have to remind yourself of that. You

have to stop

and realize that your thoughts are so self destructive, so

poisonous, so against yourself.

And when you give it a little bit of tension,

you can resolve it. You know, as soon as you shine light onto

something, it changes. As soon as you start observing

something, it changes. Just think about yourself being on

camera, you're not yourself like you're on the spot and

you feel uncomfortable maybe or super comfortable but it does

something to you. And the same thing happens with your thoughts

and your feelings that you have in your chest.

In your head in your back.

A lot of things a lot of tension accumulates in our back and then

our neck.

And I'm never surprised when somebody comes to me and needs

help.

From my personal trainer

side

that they carry around mental stuff, emotional stuff that is

not helping them that is holding them back and it just settles in

the muscles

I tried to release all that stuff, try to be good with

yourself right now right here.

Take a deep breath through your nose and then exhale through the

mouth. And know that your breath is such a unique tool

to help you go through health, emotional health at times.

It keeps you connected to yourself and centered and very

clear in your mind.

As soon as we breathe in a shallow manner, we tense up, our

body is receiving signals, hormones, that there is danger,

and we tense up.

So focus on your breath on a daily basis. Be mindful with

your thoughts. Because your subconscious is always

listening. Your body is always listening to your thoughts and

trust me, they don't know a sense of humor. They take the

thoughts at face value.

And they believe those thoughts, your body hurts your heart, your

spleen, your pancreas, your lungs, your liver, and all the

organs I'm forgetting here.

They are being affected by self destructive thoughts.

And how can we shift our thoughts to a more positive

place? Well, my friend, we need to forgive ourselves and we need

to have empathy and compassion and patience with ourselves.

Then we can be at peace, then we can see that we're worthy. We

are enough. We don't need to be fixed. We're healing at our

divine time.

Be gentle with yourself. And think of me the next time you

observe your thoughts.

And remember,

you are endlessly precious.

Thank you so much for listening to this episode. I hope I bring

you peace and resolution

and first and foremost value. I have so much respect for you. I

have so much gratitude for you. Thank you so much for being on

this journey with me. If you haven't already, subscribe. And

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Thank you so much. I will be out there very soon.