Gift biz unwrapped,
episode 195 At Tinton,
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Here is your host gift biz gal,
Sue moon Heights.
Hi there,
And if you're listening the day this podcast goes live,
it's new year's Eve the last day of the year.
So super exciting.
I hope you have wonderful plans and that you have a
safe, fun,
festive and happy new year's Eve.
So obviously the new year is upon us and for many
it's a marker in time to make a change,
to start fresh,
to reset our ways and to jumpstart dreams.
We've been thinking about and putting off over and over again.
This all sounds amazing,
doesn't it?
A new future that aligns with what you want,
a chance to turn into reality,
the achievement and the lifestyle you've had in your mind's eye
for a long time.
The truth really is you can make this change at any
time in any day or month of your life,
but for some reason the rollover of the calendar makes it
all seem more possible.
There's newfound optimism and hope.
This is the year I'm gonna do it this time.
Sound familiar?
Unfortunately, you know what happens to new year's resolutions within a
month or two,
their history and you're back to your old ways.
I see this at my health club every year.
If you're a member of any type of fitness organization,
I bet you see the same thing in January.
My spin class is completely packed because everyone has decided to
get fit and healthy this year.
If I don't book my bike early,
I may not get a spot,
but by March it's back to the regular spinner and it
stays that way for the rest of the year.
I've been good at keeping up with my spinning,
but I've been saying I'm going to start doing yoga or
Pilates for the last two years.
Still haven't gone to my first class and I'm telling myself
this year will be different.
You see,
I'm just like you in this regard.
I've discovered,
however, the reason new year's resolutions aren't followed through on is
that it really has nothing to do with the resolutions at
all. It has to do with something much harder.
It has to do with your mindset,
what you tell yourself in your head where nobody else can
listen in.
It's about what you think you deserve and then the excuses
you make up to stay in the comfort zone of your
life, whatever that is for you.
This is where affirmations come in.
Affirmations are the language of the brain and are known to
tap into your unconscious thinking.
You see,
when you think a thought,
your brain processes that information is true and set you up
to react accordingly.
As a result of that thought,
let me say that again.
When you think a thought,
your brain processes the information as true and then sets you
up to react accordingly.
As a result of that thought and there's more,
your brain is constantly looking for clues in your environment to
confirm your thoughts and guide your actions.
It can pick up on any available influence.
For instance,
let's say a customer comes back with a return or complains
that your prices are too high,
you mentally processed this information and the result is you begin
to question and probably undervalue your skills.
That translates into reducing prices or even worse,
pulling back on promoting and other business building activities or if
someone looks at you funny,
you read that to mean at something negative about you as
a person that you are a fake or not capable of
doing what you're doing.
These thoughts lead to counterproductive emotions,
self doubt and then playing it safe.
All these subconscious fears and doubts can side swipe your new
year's resolutions and plans for self-improvement.
Luckily you can do something about this.
The good news is your brain is eager to set you
up for success.
All you have to do is instructed by telling it the
right things.
This is why positive affirmations are so powerful.
By speaking to yourself incorrectly worded statements,
your brain will activate everything you need to make 2019 the
very best year.
Yet think of affirmations as the way you speak to yourself.
That then becomes the way you show up in the world
and the way you show up in the world affects your
outcomes. So my gift to you as we enter into the
new year are five affirmations to make 2019 the best year
ever. I want you to say these to yourself every day.
Put them in your daytimer or tape them to your mirror
so you can see them while you're brushing your teeth.
They're also going to be included in my new planner coming
out within a few weeks and I'm going to talk about
that more at the end of the show.
For now,
let's get into the affirmations and see how they can change
your life.
Are you ready?
Here's your first affirmation.
There is nobody in this world just like me.
Therefore, I am special,
unique and valuable.
Obviously people come in all shapes,
sizes and colors.
No one person is exactly the same as another,
not even identical twins.
Just think of this like snowflakes.
We are all so different and in so,
so many ways how we look,
how we move,
our voices,
our personalities,
everything. It's pretty remarkable.
If you really think about this,
you are a being that has never been made before and
never will be again.
That is something to acknowledge with pride.
Celebrate your uniqueness,
the natural you in all your glory.
The thing is people respond in kind to how you present
yourself. So if you show up with shoulders slumped,
talking in a meek voice and using verbiage like,
um, maybe you'd be interested in whatever it is,
you get a completely different reaction.
If you show up,
standing tall and proud with your chest up and shoulders back
and you talk with excitement and conviction and say something like,
my product will provide you with or will help you to
do and you speak with confidence.
You see,
we teach people how to react to us.
So that means by changing how we act,
we change the results that starts with acknowledging and believing.
In this first affirmation,
there is nobody in the world just like me.
Therefore, I am special,
unique, and valuable as an extension of this comes affirmation.
Number two,
I'm in this world to do something important that only I
can do.
You may be thinking,
well, if that's true,
why don't I know what it is that I'm supposed to
do? Being part of my audience of gifters,
bakers, crafters and makers,
you have a special talent that you've gravitated to and love.
Most likely you've selected that specific skill because it comes naturally
to you and it brings you fulfillment and satisfaction.
It's so easy to undervalue your creative tendencies because it comes
so naturally to you,
but I bet you've also noticed that not everybody can create.
Some people just don't have it in them.
It's not what they're here to do,
but you,
if it's effortless and it brings you joy,
this may be what you're meant to do.
Another hint at what your reason for being is can be
found in what people regularly compliment you on or a personality
trait that you're known for.
I have a dear friend Cathy,
who I met in college.
She is one of the most giving people I have ever
known. It isn't the type of giving that is servitude or
anything. She's a confident,
happy go lucky,
loving life kind of a girl,
always a smile on her face,
a jovial addition to every party and always willing to go
out of her way to help someone.
Today she is an executive director of a continuum of care
campus helping seniors find a safe and joyful place to live.
Do you see how her way of being in this world
has translated over into now what she does for a living?
Another friend who used to be on one of my sales
teams is better than anyone I've ever known when it comes
to interacting with people.
She was keeping in touch and connecting with others before she
was even trained to do so.
The whole network training thing,
Chris has maintained a top sales position in every company.
She's worked for.
She sought after,
and dare I say,
fought over because of the skill.
Rarely does she change companies because loyalty is another trait of
hers, but when she does,
it's because someone has approached her and her compensation gets better
and better.
Her natural abilities with interpersonal skills turn into sales and results
skills that come easily could hold the key to your most
fulfilling way of working in this lifetime.
When you do something that comes naturally,
you are a star at it.
Let's just say that the stars aligned like new year's fireworks.
Okay? Okay.
Let's move on to affirmation.
Number three.
I have the power to create my life however I want
it to be.
This hasn't always been the case.
Back even a few short decades ago,
there was much more resistance to doing anything other than the
traditional lifestyle that everybody followed.
I think of the lifestyles portrayed on the Mary Tyler Moore
show, the Brady bunch or the holiday classic.
It's a wonderful life.
Culture and industry wrote the rules back then.
The man worked outside of the home,
and I'll even be more modern here too.
Let's say the woman also went to work.
The point is they went to work for someone else.
There was never the thought of doing your own thing.
This is a recent cultural advancement and you are so lucky.
You have the power now more than ever to act on
this opportunity.
You don't have to ask someone's permission and since it's acceptable
today, there is more support than ever before.
If this is something you're motivated to pursue,
you don't need to ask.
You just need to get started,
but in case you're still hesitant,
let me give you permission here and now permission granted,
affirmation number four,
I already have everything I need to reach my dream.
You do.
You know the only person limiting your progress and achievement is
you. Excuses are just that.
See me in logical barriers preventing you from moving forward and
who makes the excuse?
It's you and me.
I've done this too.
Here are some common excuses.
I don't have the information I need.
Well, if that's the case,
then access the internet or someone else in your area who
has your answer?
How about this one?
I'm not sure which way to go start somewhere and the
road will become clearer as you go if you don't have
a lot to invest.
Start with what you have and work forward as you can.
Nothing happens with inactivity and the only one setting up barriers
is you,
so just don't.
This is why the first two affirmations are so important.
They set you up to feel you are deserving,
which then motivates you to go out and find what you
need to make these things happen.
Again, it's all about taking action and I guess here I'll
touch on this whole fear of failure thing.
Guess what?
As you find what works and lead you to your dream,
you are going to fail.
It is 100% guaranteed and you are going to fail a
lot. Actually you'll fail more than you win.
That is the process.
When you see successful people in businesses,
you see what's working,
you see the products that they're selling and the methods and
the actions that got them there.
What you don't see are the many,
many things they tried before they got to where they are
today. So as we talk about mindset,
I want you to reframe your thinking on this whole failure
thing. I want you to change your programming to say you're
running experiments.
Think back to high school science class.
You try something,
you analyze the results and if it works,
you're good to go.
But if it doesn't work,
then you make adjustments and you try again.
This manner of thinking will help you dare to take action.
What's the worst that can happen?
You'll get some new learnings and get closer to what will
actually work.
You all ready have everything you need to reach your dream.
And finally affirmation.
Number five,
I am strong,
capable, and determined.
What's that?
You say nobody in your family has done this before.
Of course,
not times have changed.
The opportunities are different now.
It's possible you're the leader in these new endeavors and you
may meet some resistance because it's different.
That's okay.
This is a new way of thinking for many family members
included and that little inner voice that whispers all the negative
thoughts create a corner for her to go sit sideline her.
She's going to be a pest and try to get in
the defeatist mind game constantly.
Every time she does banish her back to her corner and
don't listen to her.
You have the ability to deal with this way of thinking
often called imposter syndrome.
We all have it.
It will never go away,
but you can learn to put it in its place and
not let it stop you.
Continue to say to yourself,
I am strong,
capable, and determined and truly know that you are.
If you have other people in your life who are downers
or naysayers,
limit the time you spend with them or decide that they
don't get to have a place in your life.
Have you heard Jim Rhones quote?
You are the average of the five people you spend the
most time with.
Those in your immediate environment will rub off on you.
Do you want them to be negative,
defeatist, pessimists,
or motivating opportunistic supporters?
I bet you're with me and go for the second group.
Every time.
The people who you allow in your life are totally up
to you,
so make sure there are people who move you forward with
positive encouragement.
Let's review these five affirmations.
Again, this is what I want you to say to yourself
out loud every day.
There is nobody in this world just like me.
Therefore, I am special,
unique, and valuable.
I'm in this world to do something important that only I
can do.
I have the power to create my life,
however I want it to be.
I already have everything I need to reach my dream.
I am strong,
capable, and determined,
and as you say this to yourself,
feel, believe and know that it is true to stay consistent
and ensure that you do this every day.
Build it into your routine.
Consistency is key every single day.
This activity of stating affirmations is simple,
but don't underestimate how it is.
I've also summarized these five affirmations on the show notes page
for you to access.
Jump over to gift biz,
unwrapped.com forward slash affirmations.
I also mentioned earlier,
a planner that I'm creating.
These affirmations will be included in that planner that I have
coming out in just a few short weeks.
This is a special project I didn't think I'd bring forward
until later in the year,
but when I see opportunity I jump and that's exactly what
happened here.
This is just a little teaser,
but if you're looking for a new planner like no other
out there and you want to be one of the first
ones to know when it's available,
go to gift biz,
unwrapped.com forward slash add me and I'll add you to the
list. Once the planner's ready,
I'll send you an email with all the details and how
you can get your hands on one if you so desire.
It's time to say goodbye to 2018 and how low to
a bright future with all the 2019 holds in store.
Set yourself up to make it your best year ever.
I'm doing a virtual champagne toast to you over here and
I will see you in the new year.
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