1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:01,350 Gift biz unwrapped, 2 00:00:01,500 --> 00:00:05,630 episode 195 At Tinton, 3 00:00:05,660 --> 00:00:06,800 gifters, bakers, 4 00:00:06,800 --> 00:00:11,120 crafters, and makers pursuing your dream can be fun whether you 5 00:00:11,120 --> 00:00:15,200 have an established business or looking to start one now you 6 00:00:15,380 --> 00:00:16,820 are in the right place. 7 00:00:17,060 --> 00:00:19,430 This is give to biz unwrapped, 8 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:23,270 helping you turn your skill into a flourishing business. 9 00:00:23,550 --> 00:00:27,110 Join us for an episode packed full of invaluable guidance, 10 00:00:27,230 --> 00:00:31,250 resources, and the support you need to grow your gift biz. 11 00:00:31,490 --> 00:00:33,980 Here is your host gift biz gal, 12 00:00:34,130 --> 00:00:35,330 Sue moon Heights. 13 00:00:36,410 --> 00:00:36,920 Hi there, 14 00:00:38,260 --> 00:00:41,590 And if you're listening the day this podcast goes live, 15 00:00:42,190 --> 00:00:46,360 it's new year's Eve the last day of the year. 16 00:00:46,540 --> 00:00:48,670 So super exciting. 17 00:00:48,670 --> 00:00:51,740 I hope you have wonderful plans and that you have a 18 00:00:51,740 --> 00:00:52,820 safe, fun, 19 00:00:52,820 --> 00:00:55,700 festive and happy new year's Eve. 20 00:00:56,510 --> 00:01:00,320 So obviously the new year is upon us and for many 21 00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:03,380 it's a marker in time to make a change, 22 00:01:03,660 --> 00:01:04,920 to start fresh, 23 00:01:05,130 --> 00:01:08,420 to reset our ways and to jumpstart dreams. 24 00:01:08,420 --> 00:01:12,980 We've been thinking about and putting off over and over again. 25 00:01:13,790 --> 00:01:15,470 This all sounds amazing, 26 00:01:15,470 --> 00:01:16,100 doesn't it? 27 00:01:16,450 --> 00:01:19,480 A new future that aligns with what you want, 28 00:01:20,110 --> 00:01:22,120 a chance to turn into reality, 29 00:01:22,150 --> 00:01:26,290 the achievement and the lifestyle you've had in your mind's eye 30 00:01:26,410 --> 00:01:28,120 for a long time. 31 00:01:29,020 --> 00:01:33,070 The truth really is you can make this change at any 32 00:01:33,070 --> 00:01:36,760 time in any day or month of your life, 33 00:01:37,390 --> 00:01:40,600 but for some reason the rollover of the calendar makes it 34 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:42,340 all seem more possible. 35 00:01:42,790 --> 00:01:45,100 There's newfound optimism and hope. 36 00:01:45,460 --> 00:01:48,760 This is the year I'm gonna do it this time. 37 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:50,770 Sound familiar? 38 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:56,350 Unfortunately, you know what happens to new year's resolutions within a 39 00:01:56,350 --> 00:01:57,190 month or two, 40 00:01:57,280 --> 00:02:00,640 their history and you're back to your old ways. 41 00:02:01,200 --> 00:02:03,840 I see this at my health club every year. 42 00:02:04,140 --> 00:02:06,960 If you're a member of any type of fitness organization, 43 00:02:07,020 --> 00:02:09,970 I bet you see the same thing in January. 44 00:02:09,970 --> 00:02:14,560 My spin class is completely packed because everyone has decided to 45 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:16,480 get fit and healthy this year. 46 00:02:16,930 --> 00:02:18,610 If I don't book my bike early, 47 00:02:18,700 --> 00:02:20,290 I may not get a spot, 48 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:24,740 but by March it's back to the regular spinner and it 49 00:02:24,740 --> 00:02:27,020 stays that way for the rest of the year. 50 00:02:27,830 --> 00:02:30,320 I've been good at keeping up with my spinning, 51 00:02:30,770 --> 00:02:34,460 but I've been saying I'm going to start doing yoga or 52 00:02:34,460 --> 00:02:37,250 Pilates for the last two years. 53 00:02:37,620 --> 00:02:41,700 Still haven't gone to my first class and I'm telling myself 54 00:02:41,730 --> 00:02:43,500 this year will be different. 55 00:02:44,100 --> 00:02:44,730 You see, 56 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:47,100 I'm just like you in this regard. 57 00:02:47,970 --> 00:02:48,870 I've discovered, 58 00:02:48,870 --> 00:02:54,180 however, the reason new year's resolutions aren't followed through on is 59 00:02:54,180 --> 00:02:56,910 that it really has nothing to do with the resolutions at 60 00:02:56,910 --> 00:03:00,640 all. It has to do with something much harder. 61 00:03:01,060 --> 00:03:03,790 It has to do with your mindset, 62 00:03:04,630 --> 00:03:08,450 what you tell yourself in your head where nobody else can 63 00:03:08,450 --> 00:03:09,380 listen in. 64 00:03:09,850 --> 00:03:13,330 It's about what you think you deserve and then the excuses 65 00:03:13,330 --> 00:03:15,970 you make up to stay in the comfort zone of your 66 00:03:15,970 --> 00:03:18,400 life, whatever that is for you. 67 00:03:18,970 --> 00:03:21,280 This is where affirmations come in. 68 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:25,060 Affirmations are the language of the brain and are known to 69 00:03:25,060 --> 00:03:27,760 tap into your unconscious thinking. 70 00:03:28,250 --> 00:03:28,940 You see, 71 00:03:28,970 --> 00:03:30,140 when you think a thought, 72 00:03:30,380 --> 00:03:34,810 your brain processes that information is true and set you up 73 00:03:34,810 --> 00:03:36,520 to react accordingly. 74 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:38,950 As a result of that thought, 75 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:41,230 let me say that again. 76 00:03:41,860 --> 00:03:43,210 When you think a thought, 77 00:03:43,780 --> 00:03:48,570 your brain processes the information as true and then sets you 78 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:51,090 up to react accordingly. 79 00:03:51,420 --> 00:03:55,460 As a result of that thought and there's more, 80 00:03:55,750 --> 00:03:59,380 your brain is constantly looking for clues in your environment to 81 00:03:59,380 --> 00:04:01,990 confirm your thoughts and guide your actions. 82 00:04:02,540 --> 00:04:05,570 It can pick up on any available influence. 83 00:04:05,900 --> 00:04:06,920 For instance, 84 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:11,090 let's say a customer comes back with a return or complains 85 00:04:11,090 --> 00:04:12,530 that your prices are too high, 86 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:17,390 you mentally processed this information and the result is you begin 87 00:04:17,390 --> 00:04:21,080 to question and probably undervalue your skills. 88 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:26,080 That translates into reducing prices or even worse, 89 00:04:26,370 --> 00:04:32,280 pulling back on promoting and other business building activities or if 90 00:04:32,280 --> 00:04:33,690 someone looks at you funny, 91 00:04:34,350 --> 00:04:36,930 you read that to mean at something negative about you as 92 00:04:36,930 --> 00:04:40,540 a person that you are a fake or not capable of 93 00:04:40,540 --> 00:04:41,680 doing what you're doing. 94 00:04:42,330 --> 00:04:45,570 These thoughts lead to counterproductive emotions, 95 00:04:45,660 --> 00:04:49,230 self doubt and then playing it safe. 96 00:04:50,060 --> 00:04:53,690 All these subconscious fears and doubts can side swipe your new 97 00:04:53,690 --> 00:04:56,690 year's resolutions and plans for self-improvement. 98 00:04:57,440 --> 00:05:00,320 Luckily you can do something about this. 99 00:05:00,950 --> 00:05:03,710 The good news is your brain is eager to set you 100 00:05:03,710 --> 00:05:04,910 up for success. 101 00:05:05,450 --> 00:05:08,450 All you have to do is instructed by telling it the 102 00:05:08,450 --> 00:05:09,650 right things. 103 00:05:10,020 --> 00:05:13,530 This is why positive affirmations are so powerful. 104 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:17,390 By speaking to yourself incorrectly worded statements, 105 00:05:17,660 --> 00:05:22,550 your brain will activate everything you need to make 2019 the 106 00:05:22,550 --> 00:05:24,410 very best year. 107 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:28,770 Yet think of affirmations as the way you speak to yourself. 108 00:05:29,100 --> 00:05:31,770 That then becomes the way you show up in the world 109 00:05:32,050 --> 00:05:34,720 and the way you show up in the world affects your 110 00:05:34,720 --> 00:05:38,490 outcomes. So my gift to you as we enter into the 111 00:05:38,490 --> 00:05:44,910 new year are five affirmations to make 2019 the best year 112 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:49,200 ever. I want you to say these to yourself every day. 113 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:52,410 Put them in your daytimer or tape them to your mirror 114 00:05:52,410 --> 00:05:54,720 so you can see them while you're brushing your teeth. 115 00:05:55,290 --> 00:05:58,250 They're also going to be included in my new planner coming 116 00:05:58,250 --> 00:06:00,560 out within a few weeks and I'm going to talk about 117 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:02,480 that more at the end of the show. 118 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:03,690 For now, 119 00:06:03,870 --> 00:06:07,830 let's get into the affirmations and see how they can change 120 00:06:08,010 --> 00:06:08,970 your life. 121 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:10,290 Are you ready? 122 00:06:15,650 --> 00:06:17,570 Here's your first affirmation. 123 00:06:18,660 --> 00:06:22,620 There is nobody in this world just like me. 124 00:06:22,900 --> 00:06:24,850 Therefore, I am special, 125 00:06:25,030 --> 00:06:27,250 unique and valuable. 126 00:06:28,630 --> 00:06:31,000 Obviously people come in all shapes, 127 00:06:31,030 --> 00:06:32,770 sizes and colors. 128 00:06:33,100 --> 00:06:35,740 No one person is exactly the same as another, 129 00:06:35,950 --> 00:06:37,750 not even identical twins. 130 00:06:38,100 --> 00:06:40,650 Just think of this like snowflakes. 131 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:43,800 We are all so different and in so, 132 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:46,500 so many ways how we look, 133 00:06:46,530 --> 00:06:47,700 how we move, 134 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:48,810 our voices, 135 00:06:48,810 --> 00:06:49,950 our personalities, 136 00:06:50,010 --> 00:06:52,600 everything. It's pretty remarkable. 137 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:54,400 If you really think about this, 138 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:59,530 you are a being that has never been made before and 139 00:06:59,530 --> 00:07:01,030 never will be again. 140 00:07:01,940 --> 00:07:04,550 That is something to acknowledge with pride. 141 00:07:05,150 --> 00:07:07,160 Celebrate your uniqueness, 142 00:07:07,280 --> 00:07:10,400 the natural you in all your glory. 143 00:07:11,030 --> 00:07:14,750 The thing is people respond in kind to how you present 144 00:07:14,750 --> 00:07:18,830 yourself. So if you show up with shoulders slumped, 145 00:07:19,250 --> 00:07:22,670 talking in a meek voice and using verbiage like, 146 00:07:23,090 --> 00:07:28,550 um, maybe you'd be interested in whatever it is, 147 00:07:29,190 --> 00:07:31,260 you get a completely different reaction. 148 00:07:31,260 --> 00:07:32,130 If you show up, 149 00:07:32,130 --> 00:07:36,620 standing tall and proud with your chest up and shoulders back 150 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:40,070 and you talk with excitement and conviction and say something like, 151 00:07:40,250 --> 00:07:43,820 my product will provide you with or will help you to 152 00:07:43,820 --> 00:07:47,180 do and you speak with confidence. 153 00:07:47,870 --> 00:07:48,470 You see, 154 00:07:48,620 --> 00:07:50,900 we teach people how to react to us. 155 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:54,200 So that means by changing how we act, 156 00:07:54,350 --> 00:07:59,110 we change the results that starts with acknowledging and believing. 157 00:07:59,110 --> 00:08:00,970 In this first affirmation, 158 00:08:01,550 --> 00:08:04,820 there is nobody in the world just like me. 159 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:06,770 Therefore, I am special, 160 00:08:06,830 --> 00:08:12,690 unique, and valuable as an extension of this comes affirmation. 161 00:08:12,690 --> 00:08:13,560 Number two, 162 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:18,710 I'm in this world to do something important that only I 163 00:08:18,710 --> 00:08:19,430 can do. 164 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:21,180 You may be thinking, 165 00:08:21,270 --> 00:08:23,550 well, if that's true, 166 00:08:23,580 --> 00:08:25,950 why don't I know what it is that I'm supposed to 167 00:08:25,950 --> 00:08:29,400 do? Being part of my audience of gifters, 168 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:31,200 bakers, crafters and makers, 169 00:08:31,500 --> 00:08:35,340 you have a special talent that you've gravitated to and love. 170 00:08:35,790 --> 00:08:40,380 Most likely you've selected that specific skill because it comes naturally 171 00:08:40,380 --> 00:08:43,580 to you and it brings you fulfillment and satisfaction. 172 00:08:44,510 --> 00:08:48,950 It's so easy to undervalue your creative tendencies because it comes 173 00:08:48,950 --> 00:08:50,150 so naturally to you, 174 00:08:50,590 --> 00:08:54,490 but I bet you've also noticed that not everybody can create. 175 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:57,000 Some people just don't have it in them. 176 00:08:57,210 --> 00:08:58,950 It's not what they're here to do, 177 00:08:59,330 --> 00:09:00,230 but you, 178 00:09:00,470 --> 00:09:03,140 if it's effortless and it brings you joy, 179 00:09:03,480 --> 00:09:05,970 this may be what you're meant to do. 180 00:09:06,570 --> 00:09:10,130 Another hint at what your reason for being is can be 181 00:09:10,130 --> 00:09:14,720 found in what people regularly compliment you on or a personality 182 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:16,010 trait that you're known for. 183 00:09:16,580 --> 00:09:18,530 I have a dear friend Cathy, 184 00:09:18,560 --> 00:09:19,910 who I met in college. 185 00:09:20,250 --> 00:09:22,950 She is one of the most giving people I have ever 186 00:09:22,950 --> 00:09:26,600 known. It isn't the type of giving that is servitude or 187 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:28,550 anything. She's a confident, 188 00:09:28,580 --> 00:09:29,720 happy go lucky, 189 00:09:30,080 --> 00:09:32,000 loving life kind of a girl, 190 00:09:32,510 --> 00:09:34,250 always a smile on her face, 191 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:38,240 a jovial addition to every party and always willing to go 192 00:09:38,240 --> 00:09:40,070 out of her way to help someone. 193 00:09:40,890 --> 00:09:44,730 Today she is an executive director of a continuum of care 194 00:09:44,730 --> 00:09:49,530 campus helping seniors find a safe and joyful place to live. 195 00:09:50,090 --> 00:09:53,180 Do you see how her way of being in this world 196 00:09:53,180 --> 00:09:56,150 has translated over into now what she does for a living? 197 00:09:56,750 --> 00:09:59,300 Another friend who used to be on one of my sales 198 00:09:59,300 --> 00:10:03,080 teams is better than anyone I've ever known when it comes 199 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:04,580 to interacting with people. 200 00:10:05,010 --> 00:10:08,340 She was keeping in touch and connecting with others before she 201 00:10:08,340 --> 00:10:09,930 was even trained to do so. 202 00:10:10,050 --> 00:10:11,940 The whole network training thing, 203 00:10:12,530 --> 00:10:16,220 Chris has maintained a top sales position in every company. 204 00:10:16,220 --> 00:10:17,240 She's worked for. 205 00:10:17,470 --> 00:10:18,970 She sought after, 206 00:10:19,240 --> 00:10:20,710 and dare I say, 207 00:10:20,740 --> 00:10:23,170 fought over because of the skill. 208 00:10:23,700 --> 00:10:27,450 Rarely does she change companies because loyalty is another trait of 209 00:10:27,450 --> 00:10:29,280 hers, but when she does, 210 00:10:29,340 --> 00:10:33,750 it's because someone has approached her and her compensation gets better 211 00:10:33,780 --> 00:10:34,560 and better. 212 00:10:34,910 --> 00:10:41,060 Her natural abilities with interpersonal skills turn into sales and results 213 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:45,850 skills that come easily could hold the key to your most 214 00:10:45,850 --> 00:10:48,760 fulfilling way of working in this lifetime. 215 00:10:49,290 --> 00:10:51,300 When you do something that comes naturally, 216 00:10:51,540 --> 00:10:53,190 you are a star at it. 217 00:10:54,060 --> 00:10:58,170 Let's just say that the stars aligned like new year's fireworks. 218 00:10:58,890 --> 00:10:59,610 Okay? Okay. 219 00:11:00,180 --> 00:11:02,250 Let's move on to affirmation. 220 00:11:02,250 --> 00:11:03,210 Number three. 221 00:11:04,140 --> 00:11:08,340 I have the power to create my life however I want 222 00:11:08,340 --> 00:11:09,060 it to be. 223 00:11:09,750 --> 00:11:11,760 This hasn't always been the case. 224 00:11:12,450 --> 00:11:14,850 Back even a few short decades ago, 225 00:11:14,910 --> 00:11:18,360 there was much more resistance to doing anything other than the 226 00:11:18,360 --> 00:11:21,630 traditional lifestyle that everybody followed. 227 00:11:22,140 --> 00:11:25,830 I think of the lifestyles portrayed on the Mary Tyler Moore 228 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:28,510 show, the Brady bunch or the holiday classic. 229 00:11:28,540 --> 00:11:29,770 It's a wonderful life. 230 00:11:30,520 --> 00:11:33,460 Culture and industry wrote the rules back then. 231 00:11:34,420 --> 00:11:36,610 The man worked outside of the home, 232 00:11:36,970 --> 00:11:38,800 and I'll even be more modern here too. 233 00:11:39,010 --> 00:11:41,230 Let's say the woman also went to work. 234 00:11:41,470 --> 00:11:45,460 The point is they went to work for someone else. 235 00:11:45,610 --> 00:11:48,070 There was never the thought of doing your own thing. 236 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:52,810 This is a recent cultural advancement and you are so lucky. 237 00:11:53,150 --> 00:11:56,330 You have the power now more than ever to act on 238 00:11:56,330 --> 00:11:57,350 this opportunity. 239 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:01,760 You don't have to ask someone's permission and since it's acceptable 240 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:04,670 today, there is more support than ever before. 241 00:12:04,730 --> 00:12:07,340 If this is something you're motivated to pursue, 242 00:12:07,710 --> 00:12:09,150 you don't need to ask. 243 00:12:09,330 --> 00:12:10,950 You just need to get started, 244 00:12:11,700 --> 00:12:13,740 but in case you're still hesitant, 245 00:12:13,940 --> 00:12:18,950 let me give you permission here and now permission granted, 246 00:12:20,480 --> 00:12:22,040 affirmation number four, 247 00:12:22,340 --> 00:12:26,210 I already have everything I need to reach my dream. 248 00:12:27,350 --> 00:12:27,770 You do. 249 00:12:27,770 --> 00:12:32,700 You know the only person limiting your progress and achievement is 250 00:12:32,700 --> 00:12:35,210 you. Excuses are just that. 251 00:12:35,690 --> 00:12:40,340 See me in logical barriers preventing you from moving forward and 252 00:12:40,340 --> 00:12:42,050 who makes the excuse? 253 00:12:42,690 --> 00:12:45,030 It's you and me. 254 00:12:45,150 --> 00:12:46,110 I've done this too. 255 00:12:46,790 --> 00:12:48,440 Here are some common excuses. 256 00:12:49,370 --> 00:12:51,380 I don't have the information I need. 257 00:12:52,340 --> 00:12:53,480 Well, if that's the case, 258 00:12:53,750 --> 00:12:56,930 then access the internet or someone else in your area who 259 00:12:56,930 --> 00:12:57,860 has your answer? 260 00:12:58,760 --> 00:12:59,480 How about this one? 261 00:13:00,060 --> 00:13:04,350 I'm not sure which way to go start somewhere and the 262 00:13:04,350 --> 00:13:08,340 road will become clearer as you go if you don't have 263 00:13:08,340 --> 00:13:09,330 a lot to invest. 264 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:12,510 Start with what you have and work forward as you can. 265 00:13:13,050 --> 00:13:18,110 Nothing happens with inactivity and the only one setting up barriers 266 00:13:18,170 --> 00:13:18,920 is you, 267 00:13:19,310 --> 00:13:21,050 so just don't. 268 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:25,190 This is why the first two affirmations are so important. 269 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:27,850 They set you up to feel you are deserving, 270 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:31,220 which then motivates you to go out and find what you 271 00:13:31,220 --> 00:13:33,050 need to make these things happen. 272 00:13:33,710 --> 00:13:37,980 Again, it's all about taking action and I guess here I'll 273 00:13:37,980 --> 00:13:40,500 touch on this whole fear of failure thing. 274 00:13:41,070 --> 00:13:41,730 Guess what? 275 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:45,240 As you find what works and lead you to your dream, 276 00:13:45,420 --> 00:13:47,520 you are going to fail. 277 00:13:48,030 --> 00:13:51,690 It is 100% guaranteed and you are going to fail a 278 00:13:51,690 --> 00:13:55,740 lot. Actually you'll fail more than you win. 279 00:13:56,670 --> 00:13:58,590 That is the process. 280 00:13:59,150 --> 00:14:01,430 When you see successful people in businesses, 281 00:14:01,550 --> 00:14:03,080 you see what's working, 282 00:14:03,450 --> 00:14:06,380 you see the products that they're selling and the methods and 283 00:14:06,380 --> 00:14:07,940 the actions that got them there. 284 00:14:08,420 --> 00:14:10,460 What you don't see are the many, 285 00:14:10,460 --> 00:14:13,670 many things they tried before they got to where they are 286 00:14:13,670 --> 00:14:16,910 today. So as we talk about mindset, 287 00:14:16,970 --> 00:14:20,510 I want you to reframe your thinking on this whole failure 288 00:14:20,510 --> 00:14:23,800 thing. I want you to change your programming to say you're 289 00:14:23,800 --> 00:14:25,870 running experiments. 290 00:14:26,180 --> 00:14:28,250 Think back to high school science class. 291 00:14:28,520 --> 00:14:29,480 You try something, 292 00:14:29,900 --> 00:14:32,270 you analyze the results and if it works, 293 00:14:32,270 --> 00:14:33,260 you're good to go. 294 00:14:33,510 --> 00:14:34,710 But if it doesn't work, 295 00:14:34,770 --> 00:14:37,230 then you make adjustments and you try again. 296 00:14:37,590 --> 00:14:41,430 This manner of thinking will help you dare to take action. 297 00:14:42,030 --> 00:14:43,620 What's the worst that can happen? 298 00:14:43,860 --> 00:14:46,800 You'll get some new learnings and get closer to what will 299 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:48,090 actually work. 300 00:14:48,730 --> 00:14:53,300 You all ready have everything you need to reach your dream. 301 00:14:54,440 --> 00:14:56,510 And finally affirmation. 302 00:14:56,540 --> 00:14:57,530 Number five, 303 00:14:58,100 --> 00:14:59,270 I am strong, 304 00:14:59,780 --> 00:15:01,910 capable, and determined. 305 00:15:02,900 --> 00:15:03,350 What's that? 306 00:15:03,350 --> 00:15:07,010 You say nobody in your family has done this before. 307 00:15:07,700 --> 00:15:08,120 Of course, 308 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:10,130 not times have changed. 309 00:15:10,300 --> 00:15:12,100 The opportunities are different now. 310 00:15:13,060 --> 00:15:16,540 It's possible you're the leader in these new endeavors and you 311 00:15:16,540 --> 00:15:19,090 may meet some resistance because it's different. 312 00:15:19,690 --> 00:15:20,620 That's okay. 313 00:15:21,070 --> 00:15:24,220 This is a new way of thinking for many family members 314 00:15:24,220 --> 00:15:28,660 included and that little inner voice that whispers all the negative 315 00:15:28,660 --> 00:15:33,640 thoughts create a corner for her to go sit sideline her. 316 00:15:33,820 --> 00:15:36,130 She's going to be a pest and try to get in 317 00:15:36,130 --> 00:15:38,740 the defeatist mind game constantly. 318 00:15:39,460 --> 00:15:43,180 Every time she does banish her back to her corner and 319 00:15:43,210 --> 00:15:44,740 don't listen to her. 320 00:15:45,220 --> 00:15:48,670 You have the ability to deal with this way of thinking 321 00:15:49,030 --> 00:15:50,860 often called imposter syndrome. 322 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:52,010 We all have it. 323 00:15:52,460 --> 00:15:54,020 It will never go away, 324 00:15:54,050 --> 00:15:56,480 but you can learn to put it in its place and 325 00:15:56,480 --> 00:15:58,160 not let it stop you. 326 00:15:58,650 --> 00:16:00,570 Continue to say to yourself, 327 00:16:00,780 --> 00:16:01,920 I am strong, 328 00:16:02,280 --> 00:16:07,290 capable, and determined and truly know that you are. 329 00:16:08,370 --> 00:16:11,010 If you have other people in your life who are downers 330 00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:12,210 or naysayers, 331 00:16:12,330 --> 00:16:15,720 limit the time you spend with them or decide that they 332 00:16:15,720 --> 00:16:17,640 don't get to have a place in your life. 333 00:16:18,030 --> 00:16:20,100 Have you heard Jim Rhones quote? 334 00:16:20,220 --> 00:16:22,770 You are the average of the five people you spend the 335 00:16:22,770 --> 00:16:23,730 most time with. 336 00:16:24,600 --> 00:16:28,110 Those in your immediate environment will rub off on you. 337 00:16:28,470 --> 00:16:29,880 Do you want them to be negative, 338 00:16:29,880 --> 00:16:31,410 defeatist, pessimists, 339 00:16:31,980 --> 00:16:34,770 or motivating opportunistic supporters? 340 00:16:35,010 --> 00:16:37,380 I bet you're with me and go for the second group. 341 00:16:37,530 --> 00:16:38,400 Every time. 342 00:16:38,730 --> 00:16:41,670 The people who you allow in your life are totally up 343 00:16:41,670 --> 00:16:42,270 to you, 344 00:16:42,500 --> 00:16:45,140 so make sure there are people who move you forward with 345 00:16:45,170 --> 00:16:46,820 positive encouragement. 346 00:16:48,260 --> 00:16:50,510 Let's review these five affirmations. 347 00:16:50,510 --> 00:16:53,760 Again, this is what I want you to say to yourself 348 00:16:54,180 --> 00:16:57,000 out loud every day. 349 00:16:58,020 --> 00:17:01,050 There is nobody in this world just like me. 350 00:17:01,530 --> 00:17:03,210 Therefore, I am special, 351 00:17:03,330 --> 00:17:05,250 unique, and valuable. 352 00:17:06,040 --> 00:17:09,520 I'm in this world to do something important that only I 353 00:17:09,520 --> 00:17:10,180 can do. 354 00:17:11,230 --> 00:17:13,480 I have the power to create my life, 355 00:17:13,630 --> 00:17:15,730 however I want it to be. 356 00:17:16,810 --> 00:17:20,380 I already have everything I need to reach my dream. 357 00:17:21,400 --> 00:17:22,510 I am strong, 358 00:17:22,780 --> 00:17:24,730 capable, and determined, 359 00:17:26,160 --> 00:17:27,900 and as you say this to yourself, 360 00:17:28,170 --> 00:17:33,990 feel, believe and know that it is true to stay consistent 361 00:17:33,990 --> 00:17:35,880 and ensure that you do this every day. 362 00:17:36,120 --> 00:17:37,680 Build it into your routine. 363 00:17:38,610 --> 00:17:42,630 Consistency is key every single day. 364 00:17:43,580 --> 00:17:46,760 This activity of stating affirmations is simple, 365 00:17:47,180 --> 00:17:50,250 but don't underestimate how it is. 366 00:17:50,610 --> 00:17:54,120 I've also summarized these five affirmations on the show notes page 367 00:17:54,120 --> 00:17:55,290 for you to access. 368 00:17:55,560 --> 00:17:57,000 Jump over to gift biz, 369 00:17:57,000 --> 00:18:00,510 unwrapped.com forward slash affirmations. 370 00:18:01,120 --> 00:18:02,950 I also mentioned earlier, 371 00:18:03,100 --> 00:18:04,870 a planner that I'm creating. 372 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:08,680 These affirmations will be included in that planner that I have 373 00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:11,200 coming out in just a few short weeks. 374 00:18:11,740 --> 00:18:14,830 This is a special project I didn't think I'd bring forward 375 00:18:14,830 --> 00:18:16,450 until later in the year, 376 00:18:16,610 --> 00:18:20,150 but when I see opportunity I jump and that's exactly what 377 00:18:20,150 --> 00:18:21,050 happened here. 378 00:18:21,530 --> 00:18:23,150 This is just a little teaser, 379 00:18:23,180 --> 00:18:26,540 but if you're looking for a new planner like no other 380 00:18:26,540 --> 00:18:28,780 out there and you want to be one of the first 381 00:18:28,780 --> 00:18:30,640 ones to know when it's available, 382 00:18:30,790 --> 00:18:32,140 go to gift biz, 383 00:18:32,140 --> 00:18:36,930 unwrapped.com forward slash add me and I'll add you to the 384 00:18:36,930 --> 00:18:39,240 list. Once the planner's ready, 385 00:18:39,420 --> 00:18:42,000 I'll send you an email with all the details and how 386 00:18:42,000 --> 00:18:44,850 you can get your hands on one if you so desire. 387 00:18:45,390 --> 00:18:49,350 It's time to say goodbye to 2018 and how low to 388 00:18:49,350 --> 00:18:54,400 a bright future with all the 2019 holds in store. 389 00:18:54,890 --> 00:18:58,220 Set yourself up to make it your best year ever. 390 00:18:58,760 --> 00:19:02,550 I'm doing a virtual champagne toast to you over here and 391 00:19:02,550 --> 00:19:04,770 I will see you in the new year. 392 00:19:05,340 --> 00:19:11,350 Cheers. 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