Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to be spending some time

with you today. I hope you're doing well. If you're not doing

well, I hope I can bring you some hope and peace and self

reflection into your life. Today I want to talk about guilt,

feeling guilty. Other people might call you guilty of doing

something, or you might have done something that you still

feel guilt for. It is right after shame, the lowest energy,

the lowest emotion that you can feel it's an emotion of close to

being self destructive. It is a feeling that we fear and want to

avoid at all costs. Because if society rejects us, we're not

only in deep pain and isolation, but our survival is being

threatened. You have to know that our body the way our body

is, producing emotions, our environment as producing

emotions, is still strongly tied to our hunters and gatherers

time. Many, many years back, and it will take a long time for us

to adapt what is going on around us right now. We don't feel the

saber tooth, tiger and Tiger anymore. We fear stress,

financial stress, not being able to keep up not being able to

belong. But when it comes to shame and guilt, we fall back

into the hunters and gatherers time and we feel deeply

threatened with your deep guilt for things that we have done

that are not okay, by society's norms. And sometimes, even if

you've gone through a procedure if people have forgiven you, and

the government is off your back and you're free again, for

whatever reason for whichever punishment was was used. You

still feel and live with that guilt. And it is especially

intense with people who were never able to How can you say

that angers make it up to the victim. They, they there's done

something really horrible, really bad. And they never

apologize, they never talked about it. It was not talked

about because the other people were scared of you or so

uncomfortable or they just cut you out of their life. And yeah,

it was never talked about. But those feelings stay inside of

your chest. Excuse me. And it is a feeling that if you imagine

sitting in a crowded place and having a glass, a glass door and

glass windows around you. It is invisible to others. And others

feel like they can't really reach into you and be close to

you. And for you you feel like sitting in a glass house and not

being able to be heard properly and not being able to connect

deeply. Because that deep shame that deep guilt is making you

want to isolate because you feel you're not good, you're not

worthy. So a lot of times with people will feel extreme guilt

or shame for past things that happened as they have done they

overcompensate. They become super humans, flawless humans.

Very strong minded humans because they want to live in

denial of what happened back then they don't want to show any

vulnerability and they want to be seen as good Good

at all cost.

Because they know they've done something in the past that what

made them deserving of being excluded of society. But now

they're overcompensating, they're being so good that Who

would ever judge them of being a bad person. And it is that deep

feeling of unworthiness that is driving them. And that is making

them want to be the best, very best version of themselves. At

the same time, they live in denial of what happened, that

pain is still lingering inside of their chest, and they can't

seem to get rid of it.

It is a

strong feeling that at the end of the day will not even Yeah,

leave you until you address it until you speak your truth until

you authentically express yourself of what was going on

when it happened. And when you see that people are so willing

to forgive you, they are so compassionate. And you know,

they they know that resentment and hate and accusations are not

going to serve them. So they're going to set them free. And

maybe that will help you to set yourself free. It is very

important to see that we have all done something in the past

that we're not proud of, or maybe maybe even less, that

we're scared of that we still can't make sense of. But we also

have to see that we can seek forgiveness, we can seek

clarity, and we cannot be scared of strong reactions. Yeah, there

might be strong reactions coming out of you coming out of other

people. But this is the healing process. This is where you can

finally move on and be yourself again, where you can fully

embrace yourself and be proud of yourself and know that you're

forgiven and know that you're not alone in this. Again, we

have all done something in the past that we're not proud of.

And if you are a true loving human being, you will never

extend those feelings and another, you will never, you

know unnecessarily make a person feel guilty or shame. If you can

see that they feel regret, if you can see that. Forgiveness is

what is going to totally set them free and going to give them

that possibility to reconnect to their heart again. It is such a

beautiful thing, to give forgiveness, and to receive

forgiveness, no doubt, but also to forgive someone else. It has

nothing to do with power games. It has has nothing to do with

inferiority and superiority. It is pure love. And both parties

involved wanting to find peace. Loving resentment is very

poisonous, and can make you turn into a very miserable person.

And living in forgiveness will change the way you view the

world. Literally, you will feel as if you can breathe again, you

will feel as if you had to hold your breath for so long. And now

you can finally breathe again and feel free again. But

forgiveness cannot only come from the outside, it has to come

from the inside as well. It has to come from both sides. You

have to forgive yourself internally and stop running away

from it stop overcompensating for it. And you have to have the

balls to ask for forgiveness as well. You know, I just had to

step stop and think for a moment here and now in Canada very

nasty things are coming up. Things that nobody wants to look

at because they're just so nasty. One grave after the other

over 1500 children's skeletons are being found and a very dirty

history. is being underdog and when I look at the native

community, indigenous people here are leaving living sorry,

and deep regret and deep sadness and maybe even a little bit of

fear still. And whenever I talk to people from the indigenous

I,

I see no anger, I see no resentment, I just see deep

healing, wanting the deep healing and wanting to

understand and wanting to be sure that this is not going to

be repeated, wanting to know that they are saved now and that

we stick together now. And this is so incredibly touching and

beautiful. And this is how we have to see it. A lot of people

think that, oh, I've done something bad and now I have to

run away from it. I have to like protect myself and defend myself

and be ready to attack because the other person is gonna attack

me. And make me feel shame. The lowest energy that there is an

killed the second lowest energy that there is. But you have to

trust that intelligent human beings, healthy human beings,

human beings want to get their forgiveness out there as soon as

possible and want to find solutions with you together and

want to trust you again, on deep levels, and want to build strong

communities with you again.

So I hope that if you feel guilt, and shame that you will

find ways to rid yourself of these feelings and to open up

and to show regret and to show compassion and to not fear that

you will be punished to know that you can trust. Thank you so

much for listening to today's episode, I'm sending my love out

to you. And I hope you know that. Yes, I'm one person who

shows the mirror right up to you and makes you see the things

that you don't want to see. But it will help you to step

forward, to move on to forgive and to get rid of your regrets

and your fear and to live in love again. If you liked this

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