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All right, and welcome back to The Real Mom's Playbook. I'm your host, Lisa Autry.

Today is all about embracing your journey on the path of life with intentional living. I want you to be asking big questions on what this means to you and how to live a more meaningful and fulfilled life starting today.

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So I took a tiny hiatus the last couple of weeks as I planned with my team on what The Daughter Diaries will be looking like over the next few months and just enjoying motherhood again with having a new baby.

I've been getting in all the snuggles every chance I can get, since this will definitely be our last child and I haven't regretted any minute of just living slowly and intentionally and pacing myself with life.

This has all been made possible by my family for making the transition to five so seamless. I honestly feel like he's been here forever. We are coming on three weeks now, and I just feel like he's been in our family for our whole life.

It's also been made possible by my amazing team carrying my business. We did a massive launch just one week postpartum, and they're helping make my business so fluid and in the flow and successful even during this life transition.

If you take one thing out of this episode today as a business owner, I want you to hire a team the first chance you can get.

Every time we welcome new income into the business, we would add on either responsibility of my current team members or add a new team member, and you will not regret the ability to work smarter in your business, I promise you this. If you're withholding your own income in the short term, you're going to see massive gains in the long term.

And I could not have had another child and been doing all the things I need to be doing in my business. We cannot be all the people we need to be a hundred percent of the time. And so it helped me live an easier life. So thank you to my team, thank you to my family, and it's really helped me embrace my journey in motherhood one final time, you know, with the transition of a new baby. And it's been a beautiful journey. It's absolutely been beautiful.

So the hiatus was nice. We were doing a launch, we've been still working on our email list, we're putting together a really cool program on top of our membership portal.

The Tribe has still been continuing moving and grooving. We've still been going live in there, and my one-on-one clients, we've still been having meetings.

So I'm a lot of different people to a lot of different people and having that system in place, we've been planning this since the moment I found out I was pregnant over nine months ago.

And when you are intentionally living, when you are systematic, everything is just far more seamless and fluid. I didn't know this little person. I didn't know if he was going to be a good sleeper or what life was going to entail with this third child. I didn't know how my daughters would adjust having a new baby in the house, and I'm telling you, it was just so seamless.

He's already got a really good groove on taking naps and sleeping a good portion of the night. He's only waking up one, maybe two times. And it's just going so nicely. The girls are just so protective and it's because going back, like I said, we made that transition. We started already setting the tone nine months ago, almost 10 months ago.

So no matter what phase of life we are in, we can handle the adjustments. And so today is all about embracing your journey. What does this mean for us in daily life? Does it mean slowing down or managing more? Does it mean elevating your current being or transforming your life into someone else or to someone completely different? Does it mean seeking support or going the road solo?

Each answer is unique to each person and something we're going to be discussing today. My journey is not your journey. That's the beautiful thing about motherhood and about being a woman and doing all of the things that make us unique, it's that it's your unique journey.

I don't believe life is cookie cutter. And if you are attempting to fit a designated mold of Pinterest perfection or Instagram worthiness, you are going to be severely disappointed because you're not trying to craft your life based on someone else. You're trying to find your own unique way, one that leaves you feeling proud and fulfilled, and that journey is different from everyone, every single person is unique and their journey is unique.

The other day, one of my clients went live in the Real Mom's Tribe. How it works in the Real Mom's Tribe is it's a hundred percent your community to express yourself. You can talk about your business, you can pitch different things. You can seek support. You can go live, you can do a text check-in. Whatever you need from that community, it's there for you. It's a great networking community as well as just support system. And so we do the weekly check-ins and some of the ladies type it, or some of them go live.

This particular client went live. And she was talking about an epiphany she had with her life and the profound effects it has had on her. And she said that she no longer is looking in the past to reconcile, but paving the way for her future. And I found that to be such a beautiful transition in her thought process and something many of us could do more of. She's like, I'm not going to let my past hold me back, I'm going to be paving the way for my future and my successful future. And it means sometimes letting go of perceived limitations. It means being really, really clear on what's important to you and how you can lead your life intentionally.

And that's something we do in the Real Mom's Tribe all the time. It's like, what's important to you? How can you live it on a consistent basis? I want to tell you guys something very, very important. You are not bound by your past in just the same way that your future is not set in stone.

She totally inspired today's live as we talk about embracing your journey, and she's realized her potential is limitless. She can do whatever she desires to do because she's embracing her journey and she's living intentionally. She's putting what's first, first in her life. And that's what I want you to do the same today.

I want you guys to grab a notebook and a pen so we can answer some of these questions together so you can start thinking bigger picture. So we're first going to talk about your walk in life. It can be a beautiful journey if you let it.

As of today in this recording, I am three weeks postpartum with my third and final child.

The last couple months were probably the hardest in my life, to be a hundred percent honest with you guys, but I used it to fuel me and seek meaning in my own journey. Our hardships can define us and our path for greatness if we let it.

The weeks leading up to Jackson being born were honestly some of the hardest, but it also gave me immense appreciation for the people in my life and my own strength too. I realized a strength that I had never known I had had, because I hadn't been tested that way before. It's given me so much perspective on what's important and ensuring I didn't take on too much in my postpartum journey.

I am really good at taking on a lot and it doesn't help you if you're not in alignment, and we're gonna be talking about alignment today.

A big part of this is defining what was important to me and putting those priorities in order, especially in order with my limitations. You know, for a lot of it, I've only had really good use of one hand and that can make it a challenge.

I also had a repeat C-section. This was my third C-section. And so getting around is harder. And I also had a tubal too, so my tubes were taken out, and so that came with additional pain. And so listening to my body and allowing my postpartum journey to kind of dictate how I embrace this journey and how I live intentionally, that's a big part of what we're going to be talking about today and how you're going to be taking part in your journey going forward.

I want you guys really quick before we dive in the starting foundation, which is called the Foundation Series, the very first starting program is ALIGN which is now available. You guys can go purchase ALIGN in the show notes. This is to help you understand what comes first in your life. This is a great intro program.

If you've never worked with me before, the cost is so affordable because I wanted every woman and mother to be able to take advantage of learning what's important to her and how to lead a more intentional life. So grab ALIGN in the show notes.

So I've really been listening to my body and slowing down my life.

One thing I recommend is starting your day off slow, if you can. It really sets a peaceful tone in our life and our family. We are still homeschooling, we are still going out to our homeschool co-op. We're doing a lot of different things on the daily basis. I'm doing my business in the afternoon. We've segmented the time really well. I started working out this past week.

And having that peaceful morning of just calm and slow and everyone climbing in our bed. So we don't co-sleep around here, but in the morning time I always bring Jackson into our bed and I feed him and we just kind of talk and everything about our day and what we're going to be doing, and then the girls always come climb in bed and it is just great.

It is a great way to start the day. I thoroughly enjoy it. Even if we have a lot going on in the day, even just taking 15, 20 minutes, just having that slow intentional time, that's something I think my girls are going to bring into adulthood. They're going to remember those moments, even when they move out and lead their own lives.

They're like, man, we always started every day really slow and really intentional, and it's really set a tone in our house. You know, even my husband was saying, he's like, yeah, it feels like we've had 'em forever. And that's really kind of an amazing thing that a little person could come into our home and come into our life and it just be so smooth.

And when you look at motherhood, and especially having a new baby, that's usually defined by just sheer and utter chaos, screaming, crying all the time and don't get me wrong, there is that over here too, but it's also just different. It doesn't fluster us like it used to.

We're in a very different place in our lives. I mean, the last time I was pregnant was five years ago. And so, you know, in my thirties, I feel like there's a wisdom there that wasn't there in my twenties. I've also been through a lot of life experiences and I know that no phase will last forever. It really doesn't.

The season of struggle and the season of success, nothing lasts forever. And so to embrace that journey and to really enjoy the moment for what it is, even if they're screaming and crying and lots of chaos, it seems like, enjoy it, because pretty soon my life will be quiet all the time. There'll be adults that are leaving the house and it won't be the screaming and the crying and the mama, mama, mama all the time.

And so enjoy the moment for what it is. Even if sometimes it's a you-know-what show.

We're going to start with question one today in seeking who we are as women. Each of us is unique and different, and we set the intention in our life on what our life looks like.

So question number one, who are you as a person, as an individual, outside of your roles and your responsibilities? So who are you outside of the title that you have been given? You know, working woman, work at home mom, business owner, wife, snack queen, soccer mom, whatever role and responsibility, who are you outside of that? And really the second part of this question is, what sets your soul on fire?

So many of us are just living the day-to-day monotony, right? It's the to-dos. I gotta feed them, I gotta change them, I gotta clothe them, I gotta do all these different things. But what sets your soul on fire?

I know it's not changing the diapers. But what gets you out of bed in the morning and maybe you don't even think about it. Maybe you're not waking up with gratitude and excitement, but we want to change that.

In order to align, we want to change the tone of our life. We want to start it with gratitude and appreciation.

We want to start it with laughter and excitement versus just monotony and to-dos and frustration. So many of us live frustrated all the time. So many of my clients, when they get started on the journey, they haven't asked these question. Like what sets my soul on fire? I don't know. Not the dishes, not laundry.

We can think about all the things that we don't love to do, but what do you love to do? Because that's going to help set the tone for your life. Your life is unique and you are worthy of living the life you desire. Look upon your daily life and ask this question, is this the right path for my life and how I want to live it?

If the answer is no, it's time to make some changes.

Real quick, let's take our first break with Kim from Sparkle and Shine. Be right back.

 And we are. Your walk in this life should be one with confidence and boundaries.

I use confidence and boundaries together because they really work in conjunction with one another. Confidence is a muscle that must be built. It's through repeating our actions over and over again to where it becomes muscle memory. Confidence isn't just something we inhibit or something that just comes to us.

It's through proficiency. It's through doing actions over and over again. I'm a far more confident mom this time around than I was seven years ago with my firstborn.

And so for question two, I want you to answer this: what do you struggle with when it comes to confidence? What do you need to work on?

Is it living a healthy lifestyle? Is it creating a tidy home? Is it being the mother you desire to be? Is it being the wife you want to be? Is it creating the business of your dreams?

There's so many avenues of confidence we can focus on. I want you to pick one and then determine what actions need to be repeated over and over in order to build that confidence.

Remember, confidence is a muscle. We're going to work that muscle over and over again, but just pick one area. I have one of my clients, she's like, I'm going to do this and this and this and this, and this and this, and then all of a sudden she's burning herself out. And I told her, I said, You don't need to do that.

Pick one area, build that habit formation, and then add another layer in. What is the biggest area of struggle for you when it comes to confidence? When it comes to boundaries, pick one thing.

For health, it could be intentionally being active or eating intentionally. For a tidy home, it could be making sure you embed those systems to make the home function more smoothly.

For motherhood, it could be pausing the chaos of life and spending time with each one of your children. For being a devoted spouse, it could be setting the time aside for meaningful connection and actually sticking to it.

And for building a beautiful business, it could be creating an intentional power hour to fully focus and launching or growing your business.

Building confidence means creating boundaries with your expectations and time. We all have the same 1,440 minutes in a day. How are you spending yours?

What are you saying yes to? What are you saying no to?

Living an intentional life means devoting your time to those things that are the most important and where you desire to place your focus. That's why I talk about we don't live a cookie cutter lifestyle because you may not want to homeschool, you may not want to be a work at home mom like me.

You want to live a completely different life, and that's okay. That's the beautiful thing about your journey. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. Don't let anyone push your focus onto what they think, they project onto you. It really has to be your unique journey.

Our society as a whole is so fast paced, and while it seems exciting, it can also leave us feeling extremely empty if it's not in regards to our value system. Is it in alignment with your value system? Are you putting your time and energy where it's most important?

And I want to challenge you guys today. I want to challenge you to create a connected and meaningful relationship with yourself and with God.

When we create boundaries, the things outside of our control, we can release to Him. We don't have to carry the burden all ourselves. Life will come with burdens, life will come with struggles, but we don't have to live chaotic, fearful, or unsure.

Any of these feelings we can release to Him and then manage what we can control in our daily lives. There's always something within our control, but there's always going to be something outside of our control too. When you release it over to him, that's going to help you feel more confident, more calm, more sure in your life.

Just like our daily journey in life, our relationship with God is also unique. But first, you must start the journey. Devote yourself to that connection, and you'll be surprised with how much confidence and security you create in doing so. Confidence, boundaries and your relationship with yourself and God, they're all connected. It is all connected.

And so when you can say, what can I be in control of and what can I release to Him, that's a huge difference in perspective. That's what I really took with my whole hand situation, in falling and getting hurt. It's like, I can't go and change it. I can't change the outcome of what's going to happen if my finger is going to rebound and do really well or not, and I'm going to release that to him, and that's going to be outside of my control. But what can I control? I can control the things I do on a daily basis. I can set the tone for appreciation, or I can be angry. I can choose to be angry if I want to. I had a couple of days where I was angry and I was upset. And then I released it over to Him.

I was like, okay, I had my time. And that is what we all have to think about in this journey of life. That's intentional Living is saying sometimes things are going to happen to us. How can we react to it?

So question number three is: what is my relationship with myself and with God? Is it one that's committed or needs work?

What does this ideal relationship look like?

My relationship with God is always growing and it's always changing, but it is always intentional and it's always sitting down for my prayer or sitting down for my devotional or sitting down and reading the Bible and thinking about who is God and his character, and my relationship is changing in accordance with that.

My relationship with myself is changing in accordance with that too. And if you don't have a relationship with God right now, give it a try. You might feel very at peace releasing the things out of your control, and that's why I'm asking to challenge you today, if you have no relationship with God.

And this is another client I was talking to. She's like, you know Lisa, I've never been religious, but she said, over this past year, I have felt a yearning and a calling. And that's the same yearning and calling I had a little over a year ago. I was like, man, I just feel like I need that connection. And so if you feel lost or unsure, start that connection.

I'm challenging you to do that today, and that's question three. That's why I put that in here. And I'm maybe throwing some of you for a curve ball because I don't often talk about religious aspects and faith-based, but that's just really who I am as a person. I really challenge you to give it a try.

Open up that connection, open up that dialogue and that relationship, and you might be surprised at the person you become and you flourish as. So you can see this as an elevation, as who are you as an individual? What boundaries and confidence do you need to create, and what connection with God and yourself do you need to create?

Really quick, let's take our final break. Be right back.

And we are back.

So today we talked about three really important questions. I'm going to go ahead and repeat them for you so you have in case I speak a little too fast.

So, question number one, who are you as a person, as an individual, outside of your roles and responsibilities? What sets your soul on fire?

Question two, what do you struggle with when it comes to confidence? What do you need to work on? And remember, we're choosing one thing to work on right now. It's not working on every piece of you in your life. It's working on one thing, one intentional thing.

And then question three, which is one of the most important in this episode today is, what is my relationship with myself and with God?

Is it one that's committed or needs work? What does this ideal relationship look?

So I wanted to tell you guys and all of these questions are being answered and brainstorming today, all to relate back to this foundation series.

When I was speaking with my team, we were brainstorming how The Daughter Diaries can really give a lot of value and a lot of connection in starting people on their intentional transformation. And so that's kind of what led us to create the foundation series. I created ALIGN, which is the first training in the foundation series that helps you understand your walk in life and how to embrace what's most important to you.

So these three questions are kind of setting the stage and the tone for you to be able to jump into phase one of the foundation series, which is ALIGN.

The beginning of your intentional transformation starts here. We want to take you from anxious to calm. We want to take you from overworked to peaceful. We want to take you from scattered to being intentional and defined. And we want to take you on your own intentional transformation, and this step one is ALIGN.

Within the intentional transformation, we go from stressed to blessed by understanding how to prioritize and systematize our lives. And so we understand what a value-based vision is. We understand what is most important and what comes first in our life.

You can have all that you desire as long as you understand what you desire and the means with which to obtain it. And this is the introductory program that shows you how. So it's time to create some alignment in your life. This program is now live and allows you to move through at your own pace. You can do it as many times as you want.

And I made sure it was extremely affordable so every woman and mother could have access to it because I truly believe we all need to be living more intentional. We are the ones that are creating future. We are literally birthing and raising the future. We have to know that we're worth it because we're teaching our children to realize they're worth it as well.

And so Align is the very first program in the Foundation series. You're going to embrace your journey. You're going to figure out what your priorities are, and you are going to then move on from there to phase two, which is Define. That's the start to creating intentional and clutter-free spaces.

Define is going to be launching in a couple of weeks and helps you set the tone for organizing and optimizing your home and life for success.

It begins with getting your mind right and translates to your spaces. Both of these are available in the show notes, so you can start your intentional transformation with the right foundation.

This whole series is meant to be affordable and packed full of value to get you going. We're including bonuses in each one and there's going to be more in the series as well. We're going to have a total of four in the series. We're still naming a couple of 'em, so I'm not releasing the names of all of 'em, but it's all based on the three pillars of success, as well as our value-based systems, and I wanted every woman and mother to be able to have access and be able to execute it simply.

We have taken a huge shift in our business over the last year of let's make it as simple as possible. We want things to be a no-brainer for you in your life, and you can execute it seamlessly.

Immediately transition something in your life, build a system, and it just works and flows. You're going to be crafting it to your lifestyle. And so that's why we created ALIGN and we're creating Define.

You can purchase Define at a discount now. Once it goes live, it'll be a little bit more expensive because we include so many bonuses. So it'll be available in a couple of weeks, but you can go ahead and pre-purchase it now. When you pre-purchase it, you're going to get it emailed exactly on the day that it is launching. Okay?

So that's it for now. I hope you are embracing your journey with Intentional Living. Get on Instagram and let me know what your answers to the questions are. You can email me at info@thedaughterdiary.com and reach out anytime that you feel you need a support system.

There was a lot of different ways we can work together because I truly believe every woman needs to be valued and heard so that she can elevate to the next level, and having that support system is huge. And whether we just talk one time, set up where we talk all of the time, I want you to feel valued and heard on a consistent basis, you know.

The little people in our lives often don't hear us when we're speaking and so it's nice to have someone who is willing to listen and who is helping you craft the life you desire.

So that's it for today. Until next time, I'm your host Lisa Autry, and this is The Real Mom's Playbook. Thank you for joining me for The Real Mom's Playbook, which has been made possible by our amazing sponsors.

Make sure you check the show notes for links and access to the amazing resources. You can find me at thedaughterdiary.com or on Instagram at The Daughter Diaries. See you next time, I'm Lisa Autry.