Write out your limitations and get really clear
Kate Harlow:on which ones you're not bringing into 2026 and then, of
Kate Harlow:course, when you get to 2026 you have to be really intentional,
Kate Harlow:right? You have to be really intentional. So what are you
Kate Harlow:ready to let go of? What's the story you've been believing
Kate Harlow:that's been keeping you small and suffering this year, that
Kate Harlow:you're like, No, this is not coming with me, write it out and
Kate Harlow:then do a ceremony and burn it. And with intention, I'm going to
Kate Harlow:bring intention every single day to not carrying this story. And
Kate Harlow:every time I notice that I'm in that story again, like, what am
Kate Harlow:I doing? I shouldn't be writing a book. I'm not a writer. Every
Kate Harlow:time I notice that story, I say, thank you so much for trying to
Kate Harlow:protect me. I've got this and I do the thing anyways.
Kate Harlow:Hello, my loves. Welcome back to the new truth. Happy holidays.
Kate Harlow:Merry Christmas. It is December 23 almost the end of the year,
Kate Harlow:and I'm so excited for you to hear next week's episode I
Kate Harlow:recorded the most beautiful conversation with my one of my
Kate Harlow:oldest and dearest friends from 19 years old, and he is a
Kate Harlow:legend, and he has created the most magical, incredible life.
Kate Harlow:And so next week's New Year's episode is reserved for that.
Kate Harlow:And so I thought today we would focus on you have one week left
Kate Harlow:of 2025
Kate Harlow:if you're listening to this during the week, it comes out,
Kate Harlow:and if not, you know it's still applicable no matter when you
Kate Harlow:listen to it. But right now, there's one week left in 2025
Kate Harlow:hopefully you have been intentional all month, doing
Kate Harlow:things differently, bringing your heroine to the dinner
Kate Harlow:table, bringing your heroine to the events, bringing your
Kate Harlow:heroine to the parties and doing it differently than you would
Kate Harlow:normally do. And today we're going to focus on how to wrap up
Kate Harlow:the year with love, with intention and create. I just
Kate Harlow:feel like in our lives, we're so often just doing our lives and
Kate Harlow:going and going and going and going and going and doing the
Kate Harlow:next thing and on to the next thing. And even when we're
Kate Harlow:achieving really great things, or we're becoming new versions
Kate Harlow:of ourselves, or we're growing in amazing ways, we often forget
Kate Harlow:to stop and even notice. You know, have you ever noticed
Kate Harlow:that, like you, sometimes you'll look back and be like, Whoa, I
Kate Harlow:don't do that pattern anymore. Or, holy, I was able to actually
Kate Harlow:attract that love and receive that love that I was never able
Kate Harlow:to receive before. Sometimes you have we have moments where we
Kate Harlow:see it, but if you don't bring a lot of intention and presence to
Kate Harlow:your life, it's so easy for it to just pass by and for every
Kate Harlow:day to be just be checking off the next things on the list,
Kate Harlow:trying to get through the day, trying to get through the month,
Kate Harlow:trying to get through the year. And I in my experience my life,
Kate Harlow:the more I slow down, and the more I bring intention into
Kate Harlow:everything I do, the more my life tastes good, the more my
Kate Harlow:life feels good, the more my life is, you know, more
Kate Harlow:meaningful and and rich and beautiful. So that's what
Kate Harlow:today's episode is all about. For you to take some time, I
Kate Harlow:suggest, over the next week, you find an evening to have to
Kate Harlow:yourself. Maybe it's a morning. If evening doesn't isn't
Kate Harlow:possible for you that you move mountains, even if you're a mom,
Kate Harlow:even if you have a lot of things on the plan that you move
Kate Harlow:mountains, to have some form of time scheduled, just for you,
Kate Harlow:just for you to be with you, for you to do some reflections, for
Kate Harlow:you to do some visioning, for you to do some connecting deeper
Kate Harlow:with yourself, so that you can go out and say goodbye to 2025
Kate Harlow:with so much love and reverence, no matter what you've been
Kate Harlow:through this year. You know, it seems like often in in people's
Kate Harlow:New Year's posts, I always see towards the end of the year,
Kate Harlow:everyone's posting memes about how, like, you know, well, that
Kate Harlow:was a wash. You know, on to the next year. Next year is going to
Kate Harlow:be amazing, but this year sucked, or this year was the
Kate Harlow:worst, or hope this year isn't next year. And even if you've
Kate Harlow:been through the hardest year of your life, not every moment was
Kate Harlow:hard. And with all hard times comes so much growth and so much
Kate Harlow:catalytic energy for change, for new beginnings. I know that
Kate Harlow:there's so many women who even have come to this podcast this
Kate Harlow:year because Something brought you to your knees, losing
Kate Harlow:someone you love, or having a partner leave you for another
Kate Harlow:woman, or having a job unexpectedly end, or something,
Kate Harlow:some big catalyst maybe led you here. Maybe it wasn't this year,
Kate Harlow:maybe it was a few years ago, and or maybe it didn't lead you
Kate Harlow:to the new truth, but it led you to waking up, into doing your
Kate Harlow:life differently, into living more from your own heart and
Kate Harlow:soul. That's the gift in the hard times, right? The gift in
Kate Harlow:the hard times is we become more devoted to ourselves. The gift
Kate Harlow:in experiencing loss is we love deeper and we feel more and we
Kate Harlow:get connected to how much we care about the people we love
Kate Harlow:and how important it is to actually learn to be present
Kate Harlow:with them. Yeah, when they are here in human form, when they
Kate Harlow:are here in our lives, right? So this is an opportunity for you
Kate Harlow:to go out with a bang, not literally, don't leave the
Kate Harlow:planet, but for you to close this year with so much love and
Kate Harlow:reverence. Kind of reminds me of relationships. Like the old
Kate Harlow:paradigm of breakup is just like, Okay, that was a wash. Cut
Kate Harlow:that person out. They're my ex, that they're wrong and bad, that
Kate Harlow:there's some better person way out there in the front, but
Kate Harlow:what's behind me is now gone, and I'm going to lock it away in
Kate Harlow:a closet forever. Versus that experience guided you somewhere,
Kate Harlow:even if it was an incredibly painful, toxic relationship,
Kate Harlow:maybe you found your voice. Maybe you dropped it, access
Kate Harlow:power in a new way. Maybe you learned how to finally say no
Kate Harlow:and put yourself first. Maybe you woke up and ended on us,
Kate Harlow:ended up on a spiritual, healing, self love Journey,
Kate Harlow:right? There's some gift that comes even from the toxic
Kate Harlow:relationships. Every relationship serves a purpose.
Kate Harlow:Every year serves a purpose. I read something yesterday that
Kate Harlow:2025 was the in the Chinese zodiac was the year of the
Kate Harlow:snake, which is all about endings, letting go, shedding
Kate Harlow:old skin, shedding old versions of yourself. So if you did that
Kate Harlow:this year, good job. Celebrate that. And we're moving into the
Kate Harlow:dynamic fire horse, which begins apparently February 17, so that
Kate Harlow:the Chinese zodiac is in conjunction with the Chinese New
Kate Harlow:Year, which was shortly after our new year. So the year of the
Kate Harlow:horse is all about energetic, bold, transformative period,
Kate Harlow:action, independence and pursuing new opportunities. So
Kate Harlow:talk about a different frequency. So have you
Kate Harlow:experienced a lot of loss this year or endings? Like I ended a
Kate Harlow:three year relationship, I ended living in Greece. I ended my
Kate Harlow:contract with my apartment, I ended my podcast partnership
Kate Harlow:with Catherine, whoa. I just didn't realize that so many
Kate Harlow:things ended this year, not all my choice. Some were my my
Kate Harlow:choice, and some were other people's choice, or the choice
Kate Harlow:of the universe. And so it was all it was a year of endings.
Kate Harlow:This year was a year of endings. It was also a nine year in
Kate Harlow:numerology. So we're moving into new beginnings next year. So
Kate Harlow:this is a great time to look at everything that's ended for you
Kate Harlow:this year, everything you're ready to end and bring some
Kate Harlow:intention in how you wrap up this year. So the first thing
Kate Harlow:that I will say is, or beyond. I always say that. First thing
Kate Harlow:I'll say, No, I've already said many things, but the first step
Kate Harlow:I want you to take is to celebrate everything that you've
Kate Harlow:created this year, everything you've shifted this year in
Kate Harlow:yourself, every new part of yourself you've awakened, every
Kate Harlow:new step you've taken, every courageous decision you've made.
Kate Harlow:Celebrate your new ways of being, celebrate new
Kate Harlow:perspectives, celebrate the crap out of yourself. This is
Kate Harlow:something I learned from Mama Gina. She calls it bragging.
Kate Harlow:Women are taught to be humble and to not brag, to not
Kate Harlow:celebrate. Men celebrate themselves quite easily and
Kate Harlow:beautifully, not obviously, all of them, but for the majority of
Kate Harlow:men, it's easier for them to celebrate what they've done.
Kate Harlow:Women typically shy away from it. We typically hide from it.
Kate Harlow:We typically like, Oh no, it's no big deal that I won that
Kate Harlow:award, or it's no big deal that I performed on stage in that
Kate Harlow:dance show and fucking crushed it. It's no big deal that I
Kate Harlow:finished my master's degree, or that I started a new business,
Kate Harlow:or that I took a big leap and invested in myself in a really
Kate Harlow:big way. Oh, it's no big no no. Like, don't, don't praise me.
Kate Harlow:It's no big deal. And we dim, we dim it down, right? Because
Kate Harlow:we've been taught not to celebrate. We've been taught not
Kate Harlow:to put the attention and focus on ourselves. So here, go big,
Kate Harlow:go big. Go big, go big. And I would start with writing. So set
Kate Harlow:a symptom time that you can have a me night or a me morning.
Kate Harlow:Light some candles, put on some music, make a cacao, make a
Kate Harlow:matcha, make something that's yummy and delicious to you, and
Kate Harlow:be intentional with celebrating, bragging. What are you proud of?
Kate Harlow:What did you do this year that you never imagined in a million
Kate Harlow:years that you would do or that your saboteur always told you
Kate Harlow:you could never do? What did you stop doing? What parts of you
Kate Harlow:did you stop participating in? What patterns that usually show
Kate Harlow:up? Have you shifted? You know, how much more have you loved
Kate Harlow:yourself and shown up for yourself, even if it's just
Kate Harlow:listening to the new truth every week? What have you done for you
Kate Harlow:celebrate the crap of you out of yourself? Women need to
Kate Harlow:celebrate ourselves more. There is such a gift in celebration,
Kate Harlow:because what it does and also when you celebrate yourself,
Kate Harlow:we're way more comfortable also celebrating each other without
Kate Harlow:feeling jealous or competitive or comparing ourselves, we can
Kate Harlow:that. That's what one of my favorite things about the the
Kate Harlow:reclamation community and the immersion community, all the
Kate Harlow:heroin sisters I work with, is the beauty of how much they
Kate Harlow:celebrate each other. There is so much. Celebration. Women are
Kate Harlow:launching podcasts. They're starting businesses. They're
Kate Harlow:sharing their their breakthrough breakdown, breakthrough stories.
Kate Harlow:They're they're
Kate Harlow:traveling together. And there, there's, there's this beautiful
Kate Harlow:ripple effect of how these new paradigm relationships feel when
Kate Harlow:you're finally around women who are rooted in themselves, who
Kate Harlow:are sacredly, you know, self centered, centered within
Kate Harlow:themselves, who are choosing to follow their truth in their
Kate Harlow:hearts and just feel good to be around. And then you get to
Kate Harlow:celebrate together. You know, when, when I do something that's
Kate Harlow:a big deal. I celebrate with my friends, and I share I'm so
Kate Harlow:proud of myself that I did this thing, or that I saw this
Kate Harlow:differently, or I showed up for myself in this way, and I did
Kate Harlow:this courageous thing, because otherwise it's like you're just
Kate Harlow:climbing a mountain and you have no idea how far you've climbed,
Kate Harlow:and most likely, your saboteur is going to tell you like you're
Kate Harlow:still not high enough. You're not doing it right. You're not
Kate Harlow:doing it good enough. Your saboteur is always like your
Kate Harlow:saboteur voice in your mind was trained to take you down, to
Kate Harlow:keep you small, right? It was trained to keep you small
Kate Harlow:because at one point in your life that served you. And so
Kate Harlow:your saboteur is going to take away the compliments. Your
Kate Harlow:saboteur is going to berate you, punish you, tell you where
Kate Harlow:you're still not meeting the mark. And that's why it's so
Kate Harlow:important for that little girl inside who needed so much more
Kate Harlow:love and so much more acceptance and so much more celebration,
Kate Harlow:and she didn't get it to the degree that she needed it. You
Kate Harlow:now become that for her, right? You become that for that part of
Kate Harlow:you that deeply needs it, for you to feel seen, supported,
Kate Harlow:celebrated. So as you wrap up 2025 go back to January, think
Kate Harlow:about your look maybe, look at your calendar, and it can spark
Kate Harlow:like, what were you doing in January? Where were you? Where
Kate Harlow:were you in your job? Where were you in your relationship? Where
Kate Harlow:were you in your single, sovereign journey? Where were
Kate Harlow:you in your life? And what have you created done, stepped into
Kate Harlow:reclaimed, let go of this year, because then you celebrating
Kate Harlow:that. And if you're in the reclamation community, I highly
Kate Harlow:encourage you join. We're doing a live round in January, which
Kate Harlow:is pretty rare these days. It's an online self study program
Kate Harlow:where you get to unlock and reclaim all your heroin aspects
Kate Harlow:that have been shut down by your saboteur. And this community is
Kate Harlow:infectious. It's so beautiful. Everyone celebrates, everyone.
Kate Harlow:Everyone, like supports each other. There's so much
Kate Harlow:community. Everyone's dreaming together, collaborative,
Kate Harlow:dreaming, visioning together, building a new world, building a
Kate Harlow:new future that's available to you. So if you're in our group,
Kate Harlow:or you're in any other group like that, go in and share your
Kate Harlow:celebrations, or share your celebrations with your best
Kate Harlow:friends and encourage them to do the same, so that not only are
Kate Harlow:you celebrating yourself, which is step one, that's the most
Kate Harlow:important thing, is that you you really build the muscle of being
Kate Harlow:proud of yourself, you know, maybe even sitting in front of
Kate Harlow:the mirror, meeting yourself in the eyes and saying, I'm so
Kate Harlow:proud of you and everything you've reclaimed this year. I'm
Kate Harlow:so proud of all the courage it took to leave that job or leave
Kate Harlow:that relationship or say yes to that opportunity that felt
Kate Harlow:really scary, or invest in yourself in that way, or travel
Kate Harlow:to that place. I'm so proud of you for making that move right
Kate Harlow:if I was sitting in front of the mirror and say, I'm so proud of
Kate Harlow:you, Kate, for rolling with the changes and actually listening
Kate Harlow:to your inner guidance and actually having the courage to
Kate Harlow:let things that are beautiful and were were so amazing for so
Kate Harlow:long fall away and and to honor the new form of those
Kate Harlow:relationships and those those circumstances. I'm so proud of
Kate Harlow:you for stepping up and and taking over the new truth on
Kate Harlow:your own, even though a part of you was resistant to it. I'm so
Kate Harlow:proud of you for moving through that resistance and not letting
Kate Harlow:the fear take you out. I'm so proud that you're still here.
Kate Harlow:You get it right. So sit in front of the mirror, pour that
Kate Harlow:into yourself, write it in your journal. Spend some time, but
Kate Harlow:make sure you're intentional. You're not just like scribbling
Kate Harlow:two seconds for two seconds, like really, set the tone, light
Kate Harlow:the candles, Put on the music, put on the diffuser, make some
Kate Harlow:make a yummy, warm drink, and and, and support yourself to set
Kate Harlow:the stage so that you can really, really feel the love. So
Kate Harlow:that's my first invitation to you. Second invitation to you
Kate Harlow:is, what old story or stories are you ready to burn for this
Kate Harlow:year, what story have you been believing and telling yourself
Kate Harlow:over and over again? Maybe it's a story about blame, right?
Kate Harlow:Maybe there's someone you're still holding hostage in your
Kate Harlow:mind, which, of course, is only hurting you, not them. Maybe
Kate Harlow:it's someone that you've been blaming and you've been mad at
Kate Harlow:and you've been avoiding, or you've been cut you've cut off
Kate Harlow:from them, and you're you're bitter and resentful. Maybe to
Kate Harlow:wrap this year up completing that cycle within you, you don't
Kate Harlow:have to do anything with the other person. But perhaps I
Kate Harlow:don't even love the word forgiveness. I think the the
Kate Harlow:most up leveled word is accept, accepting what happened,
Kate Harlow:accepting what was because, arguing with reality we lose. Is
Kate Harlow:100% of the time. So some acceptance, perhaps you a
Kate Harlow:practice you can do with this is write down the saboteur story,
Kate Harlow:first of all, the ways in which that person is wrong and that
Kate Harlow:you blame them and everything that they've done to you. And
Kate Harlow:then underneath that, you can write how that felt and what you
Kate Harlow:what, how you internalized it, what you made that mean about
Kate Harlow:you, and then have your heroin right a perspective of, okay,
Kate Harlow:what was my part like, if I'm taking ownership for this
Kate Harlow:dynamic, what role did I play? How am I responsible for 50% of
Kate Harlow:that dynamic? Was I self sacrificing? Was I shape
Kate Harlow:shifting? Was I not listening to my inner guidance? Was I
Kate Harlow:ignoring my gut? Was I saying yes when it was actually a No?
Kate Harlow:Was I staying in the relationship too long? What did
Kate Harlow:I do? What was my part so not to blame you. You've heard this one
Kate Harlow:before. Not to blame you, but to actually just help you clean up
Kate Harlow:your side of the street. That's my favorite saying. I say that a
Kate Harlow:lot, but it's true, like there's so much power to it. Help you
Kate Harlow:reflect on, okay, how did I contribute to that situation? So
Kate Harlow:I don't carry this blame into 2026 you own your part and Okay,
Kate Harlow:have have some self compassion for the little girl and your
Kate Harlow:saboteur who did, who participated? Okay, I and
Kate Harlow:forgive yourself. I think this is where the most powerful
Kate Harlow:forgiveness comes from. I forgive you my love for
Kate Harlow:contorting yourself and saying yes in that situation when it
Kate Harlow:was such a no. I forgive you for holding that the other person
Kate Harlow:hostage and blaming them for a choice that I made every single
Kate Harlow:day by choosing to stay at that job or choosing to stay in that
Kate Harlow:relationship. So I forgive you for staying as long as you did.
Kate Harlow:I trust that you stayed as long as you had to, and you did what
Kate Harlow:you needed to do. But ultimately, I forgive you for,
Kate Harlow:you know, saying yes when it was no, for lying, for not speaking
Kate Harlow:up. I forgive you, I love you, I've got you and and then you
Kate Harlow:can accept the situation. You know, sometimes it's not that
Kate Harlow:easy, but if it's something that just happened very recently, you
Kate Harlow:might have to move the energy of the feeling. You might have to
Kate Harlow:do some rage exercises. If it's something that's really
Kate Harlow:significant, but even just to, like, really own your part and
Kate Harlow:then love and forgive yourself for the part that you played.
Kate Harlow:Now that's you taking full responsibility, and now the
Kate Harlow:heroine can look through the lens of what was the lesson and
Kate Harlow:the gift of this experience that I want to like just hold as a
Kate Harlow:memory, as if that person's wrong or that situation was
Kate Harlow:horrible. You know, when I first left my nine year mentorship
Kate Harlow:that literally taught me everything I need to know about
Kate Harlow:what I do now and my work in the world, and like world class
Kate Harlow:mentorship, I when I first ended that career, that that
Kate Harlow:trajectory, that that agreement with the company and with my
Kate Harlow:friends that I was working with, I had resentments, and my
Kate Harlow:saboteur was holding on to stories, and it wasn't until I
Kate Harlow:started to really see after I processed all the feelings I had
Kate Harlow:to process the feelings underneath, right, the feelings
Kate Harlow:of being taken advantage of and feeling like I, you know, I was
Kate Harlow:so mad at myself for sacrificing for so long and not speaking up
Kate Harlow:and not working too many hours and burning myself out. And I
Kate Harlow:had all
Kate Harlow:this energy and blame towards the company and blame towards
Kate Harlow:myself, and I had to actually move through the layers of that
Kate Harlow:and let myself feel the feeling and feel the weight of all the
Kate Harlow:times I said yes, when it was a no, of all the times I pushed my
Kate Harlow:body when I had nothing left, and I had to forgive myself and
Kate Harlow:also thank myself right. So forgive yourself first, thank
Kate Harlow:yourself second, because I forgave myself for every time I
Kate Harlow:went against my own truth and for every time my pattern showed
Kate Harlow:up in that dynamic. And then I also thanked myself, because
Kate Harlow:that is the place where my heroine was born, right? It's
Kate Harlow:like, you don't just wake up, you don't just like, stay I
Kate Harlow:mean, we all go through the human experience where you shut
Kate Harlow:down, and then you have to come back and wake wake yourself up
Kate Harlow:and and wake up all the and reclaim all the parts of you.
Kate Harlow:That's like the hero's journey. That's a heroine's journey,
Kate Harlow:that's life. That's a human experience. Like, I think we
Kate Harlow:have such a fantasy of life. You're not just empowered one
Kate Harlow:day. You have to go through you have to have the antagonists in
Kate Harlow:your story and the challengers and the people who inspire you,
Kate Harlow:but also, you know, trigger you, and that like that is part of
Kate Harlow:the hero's journey. So I had to go through that journey, and
Kate Harlow:including the moments where I was quote unquote overworked,
Kate Harlow:but I said yes, and I'm that was a choice, right? And I could
Kate Harlow:blame the company for the amount of hours that they asked us to
Kate Harlow:work and be a victim of that, or I could take responsibility and
Kate Harlow:say, okay, yeah, moving forward, that's not going to work for me,
Kate Harlow:because I'm a projector and my energy's so. Delicate, and now
Kate Harlow:that I have my own business, I'm going to take care of my energy
Kate Harlow:with pristine intention, and I do, but everything I learned
Kate Harlow:going through that process like, that's how I stepped into my
Kate Harlow:power. That's how I stepped into my greatness. Was, was going
Kate Harlow:through that hero's journey of like, being seen and then
Kate Harlow:feeling challenged and then feeling like, you know, blaming
Kate Harlow:people, and then owning my side, and it's like, it's just like
Kate Harlow:part of the journey that's part of the awakening. So I'm now, I
Kate Harlow:sit in this place and looking back 10 years later, and I'm
Kate Harlow:like, endlessly grateful for that experience, and I only see
Kate Harlow:it through the lens of learning and lessons and growth and
Kate Harlow:coming into my power, and literally, my training ground
Kate Harlow:for me being able to birth my own work in the world. I had to
Kate Harlow:go through all of that. You know, it's like the parent that
Kate Harlow:wants to coddle their kids so much that their kids never
Kate Harlow:experienced pain or anything bad happening. Well, that is not
Kate Harlow:setting them up for success in the world, because in the world,
Kate Harlow:bad things happen. Challenges happen. People's triggers and
Kate Harlow:traumas and saboteurs, play against other people's, play
Kate Harlow:against yours and activate you. And that's totally normal and
Kate Harlow:totally part of the human experience. And that's how we
Kate Harlow:come into our power, is those antagonists that come into our
Kate Harlow:stories. So the I wasn't even planning on going here when I
Kate Harlow:wrote down old story you're ready to burn, but I think this
Kate Harlow:is a good one. If you are going into 2026 with any blame, you
Kate Harlow:are carrying unnecessary baggage that doesn't need to be there.
Kate Harlow:There is so much more possible and available for you when you
Kate Harlow:are not blaming people for how you feel and for what's
Kate Harlow:happening in your life, your only power exists in you taking
Kate Harlow:full responsibility and ownership for everything you
Kate Harlow:feel, not blaming yourself, but seeing your side, and then the
Kate Harlow:willingness to forgive yourself for being in your patterns
Kate Harlow:around those that person. Because what really hurt was not
Kate Harlow:their behavior. What really hurt was who you became in their
Kate Harlow:behavior and how you internalize their behavior and all the
Kate Harlow:meaning making in stories you told yourself when they behaved
Kate Harlow:in that way. That's what hurts. It's who you become. And so
Kate Harlow:forgive yourself for becoming that shape shifting, self
Kate Harlow:sacrifice, or that perfectionist controller, or that rigid you
Kate Harlow:know, whatever it might be, whatever version of your
Kate Harlow:saboteur being the fantasy addict who got married and then
Kate Harlow:divorced in the same year, whatever. It doesn't matter.
Kate Harlow:Forgive yourself, right? Let your saboteur event, let all the
Kate Harlow:judgments and stories out, blaming them, blaming you. And
Kate Harlow:then get to the little girl underneath, let her feel what
Kate Harlow:she is feeling and how she's internalizing it. Then let
Kate Harlow:yourself see your patterns and your side. And then let your
Kate Harlow:heroine see it through a new lens. What are the gifts? What
Kate Harlow:have I learned from this experience. How have I grown
Kate Harlow:from this experience? Because there are gifts, no matter what,
Kate Harlow:no matter how painful it was, there are gifts. There are
Kate Harlow:lessons. There is something your soul was meant to learn, and
Kate Harlow:that's why you attracted that experience. And you're going to
Kate Harlow:keep attracting until you learn the lesson. You keep attracting
Kate Harlow:more experiences of the same. So get the lesson. This is an
Kate Harlow:opportunity to get the lesson. So the other way I was looking
Kate Harlow:at old story when I first wrote it down, was like, what stories
Kate Harlow:have you been believing about yourself? Like, let's say you
Kate Harlow:have a deep dream of birthing a business. There's like,
Kate Harlow:something inside of you, like, I want to, I want to own a Pilates
Kate Harlow:studio one day. Or I want to start a dance movement that has
Kate Harlow:never been done before, that like, helps women shake off
Kate Harlow:their trauma and awaken their Shakti like never before. Or I
Kate Harlow:want to write a book based on this wild experience I had in my
Kate Harlow:mid 30s. Or I want to whatever the dream might be, right? The
Kate Harlow:vision, the like, if you have a story that's telling you you
Kate Harlow:can't, you shouldn't. That's ridiculous. Don't even bother
Kate Harlow:you. Are a fraud. Nobody's gonna want that. Nobody's gonna sign
Kate Harlow:up for that. Like every, every person who ever started a
Kate Harlow:business or had a dream and took took steps towards making that
Kate Harlow:dream in reality. Every person on planet Earth has that has the
Kate Harlow:saboteur thoughts that are like, don't go that way. Don't go in
Kate Harlow:the direction of your heart and soul. Stay here where it's safe
Kate Harlow:and miserable. Stay here where it's safe and lonely. Stay here
Kate Harlow:where it's safe and not safe at all, because you feel fearful
Kate Harlow:every day. Everyone has that. So what are the stories? So if you
Kate Harlow:have a big dream, you're ready to birth in 2026. Sounds like
Kate Harlow:it's a good year for it the fire horse. I mean, come on, if you
Kate Harlow:have a big dream, and if it was a nine year in numerology, that
Kate Harlow:means next is a one year, which is all about beginnings and
Kate Harlow:leadership and stepping into your power. So maybe your old
Kate Harlow:story is you'll never have love again. Like, what is the tape
Kate Harlow:that you keep playing? Or there's something wrong with you
Kate Harlow:because you're single, or you have to stay where you live.
Kate Harlow:There's no other options to go somewhere new because X, Y and
Kate Harlow:Z, whatever the limiting It's basically your limitations.
Kate Harlow:Write out your limitations and get really clear on which ones
Kate Harlow:you're not bringing. Into 2026 and then, of course, when you
Kate Harlow:get to 2026 you have to be really intentional, right? You
Kate Harlow:have to be really intentional. So what are you ready to let go
Kate Harlow:of? What's the story you've been believing that's been keeping
Kate Harlow:you small and suffering this year, that you're like, No, this
Kate Harlow:is not coming with me. Write it out and then do a ceremony and
Kate Harlow:burn it. And with intention, I'm going to bring intention every
Kate Harlow:single day to not carrying this story, and every time I notice
Kate Harlow:that I'm in that story again, like, what am I doing? I
Kate Harlow:shouldn't be writing a book. I'm not a writer. Every time I
Kate Harlow:notice that story, I say, thank you so much for trying to
Kate Harlow:protect me. I've got this and I do the thing anyways. Or if I if
Kate Harlow:this story is louder than just being able to talk to it and
Kate Harlow:turn it around. That's my saboteur, of course. Then I'm
Kate Harlow:going to put on some music, and I'm going to do some nonlinear
Kate Harlow:movement, and I'm going to kick and thrash and scream and and
Kate Harlow:and shake and make sounds and do whatever I need to do, to just
Kate Harlow:move the feeling and the energy. And then I'm going to sit in a
Kate Harlow:meditation, connect with my heart, and then I'm going to
Kate Harlow:write writing and do the thing anyways. So that's the second
Kate Harlow:step. And the third step is, what energy are you going to
Kate Harlow:bring into 2026, and I said it that way, very intentionally.
Kate Harlow:What is the energy you're going to bring? Like, you know, going
Kate Harlow:to a party. And it's like most people go to a party thinking
Kate Harlow:they're going to get something. You go on a date and you think
Kate Harlow:you're going to get something. You go, you go, you know, to
Kate Harlow:Christmas. You go to Christmas, sit under the Christmas tree
Kate Harlow:with your family. You think you're going to get things. Kids
Kate Harlow:think they're going to get things, all but getting and yet,
Kate Harlow:really, the heroin perspective is, how am I showing up and what
Kate Harlow:am I bringing right? That's you being in the driver's seat of
Kate Harlow:your life. So if I'm the driver now, and if I'm no longer the
Kate Harlow:passenger of my life, I'm no longer a victim. I'm no longer a
Kate Harlow:victim of circumstance, a victim of limitation, a victim of fear,
Kate Harlow:a victim of smallness, of who I've who I thought I was, but
Kate Harlow:I'm actually becoming the heroine of my own story, the
Kate Harlow:main character, the leading lady of my story. I'm the writer. I'm
Kate Harlow:the director, co writer, co director, because the universe
Kate Harlow:is also leading you. What is the energy I'm going to bring into
Kate Harlow:2026, so I'm going to say for myself, I'm going to bring saga
Kate Harlow:saga. It's my favorite. You heard me say it last week,
Kate Harlow:probably many weeks, my clients talk about getting it tattooed
Kate Harlow:on their arms so they remember when they live in North America
Kate Harlow:or somewhere, that's fast paced. Saga, saga, slowly, slowly.
Kate Harlow:I'm going to bring into 2026 really slowing down even more.
Kate Harlow:And I've slowed down more than ever in my life before, but now
Kate Harlow:that I'm living in Kenya, and I even noticed when I was walking
Kate Harlow:here to record this podcast, I just had lunch, and I was
Kate Harlow:walking to Villa gorilla, which is the name of the villa that I
Kate Harlow:record in when nobody's staying here, because it's got the most
Kate Harlow:solid Wi Fi. So I'm in Villa gorilla right now. Those of you
Kate Harlow:who've been to Ola pangi know, if you know, you know it's so
Kate Harlow:cute with lots of funky wallpaper. It's such a beautiful
Kate Harlow:little it's like a little two bedroom apartment cottage. And
Kate Harlow:as I was walking here I was in my mind about the podcast, and
Kate Harlow:then I was like, for a second, I noticed it, and I felt this
Kate Harlow:like, like I couldn't even see out of my eyes, because I was in
Kate Harlow:thought, how often does this happen? So I stopped, and I felt
Kate Harlow:my feet, took a breath, stood a little bit taller, opened my
Kate Harlow:heart, and I looked around me, and Ola panky farm, look it up
Kate Harlow:online, is like, the most exquisite gardens in nature
Kate Harlow:you've ever seen. It's like and magical, colorful birds and
Kate Harlow:like, it is so beautiful here. And isn't it wild that we can be
Kate Harlow:so in our minds, that we can actually miss the beauty? Like,
Kate Harlow:how often are you missing the beauty? How often are you
Kate Harlow:missing the magic? How often are you missing the moment? I mean,
Kate Harlow:God, this is the best time of year for that, right? What are
Kate Harlow:you not seeing with your eyes because you're in your mind in
Kate Harlow:the story of the future or the past. So I was thinking about
Kate Harlow:the podcast. I paused. I felt my feet. I stood taller. I took a
Kate Harlow:breath. I looked around and was like, holy shit. It's so
Kate Harlow:beautiful here, and I felt the frequency of the beauty of
Kate Harlow:nature and how she's always calling us to her right, the
Kate Harlow:sunsets, the full moon, the stars, the birds, the bees, the
Kate Harlow:butterflies, the hummingbirds, the the magical beauty of
Kate Harlow:nature. Yesterday, it was warthogs on the on the on the
Kate Harlow:hill, on the ridge, she's always calling us, reminding us, Hey,
Kate Harlow:be here now. There's so much beauty all around you and inside
Kate Harlow:of you and in each other. In every interaction you have,
Kate Harlow:there's a possibility for it to be a beautiful one, even with
Kate Harlow:people who are closed. Right? I've shared all these stories
Kate Harlow:before. If you're new to the new truth, go back. But like one of
Kate Harlow:my favorite things to do is soften and open people who are
Kate Harlow:closed because they have their guards up, and if my guards are
Kate Harlow:down and my heart is open, they will open. You know, if I stay
Kate Harlow:in curiosity and love, they will open, and they always do. And
Kate Harlow:it's such a beautiful thing. So there's just beauty everywhere.
Kate Harlow:There's beauty all around us. So that's my intention for 2026 is
Kate Harlow:to really like, receive the beauty of life by slowing down,
Kate Harlow:by being even more present, by creating even more space, by
Kate Harlow:seeing and smelling and feeling and tasting and touching. So I
Kate Harlow:guess, like, the next level of my sensual experience of this
Kate Harlow:human existence is my intention for 2026 So spend some energy.
Kate Harlow:And you know, it's so beautiful. You're hearing this, if you're
Kate Harlow:hearing this week before Christmas, spend some energy and
Kate Harlow:intention with like, Who do I want to bring? What is my main
Kate Harlow:focal point? Now, if you want to join us in the reclamation, this
Kate Harlow:program is 497, you have lifetime access to it. It is
Kate Harlow:amazing. There is a archetype. There's a two modules per heroin
Kate Harlow:archetype where you're going to learn how to unlock all of these
Kate Harlow:aspects of you that have been shut down because your saboteur
Kate Harlow:has been in charge so long, like your sensuality, your ability to
Kate Harlow:express yourself, your ability to trust and feel and connect
Kate Harlow:with your divinity and your inner guidance, your ability to
Kate Harlow:live from your heart and to feel more of life and experience more
Kate Harlow:of life, your ability to be unapologetic and stop caring
Kate Harlow:what everyone else thinks. This is what the reclamation is. It's
Kate Harlow:about becoming the heroine of your life, becoming the main
Kate Harlow:character, becoming the leading lady of the story of your life,
Kate Harlow:and becoming the CO writer and co director with the universe.
Kate Harlow:So it is three months. So basically you'll have the online
Kate Harlow:self study to do over and over and over again. I'm going to
Kate Harlow:link it below this episode, the unscripted woman.com and then if
Kate Harlow:you scroll down the main page, you'll see the reclamation
Kate Harlow:there. You can also access it there if you if you don't see
Kate Harlow:the show notes, but I'll link it below. But basically it's 497,
Kate Harlow:I'm going live, doing a live round, which I normally don't do
Kate Harlow:anymore, but January, I'm doing a live round, because there's a
Kate Harlow:bunch of women that are coming to Greece with me. The immersion
Kate Harlow:is sold out for this year, but you can get on a wait list for
Kate Harlow:next year, but it's in the end of April, beginning of May 2026
Kate Harlow:and those women have to go through the reclamation live. So
Kate Harlow:I've decided to include everyone else inside of the reclamation
Kate Harlow:community, because women love to do it over and over and over
Kate Harlow:again. The inside of the modules, there's video modules,
Kate Harlow:there's meditations, there's music playlists to connect to
Kate Harlow:those aspects of yourself. There are workbooks. There's all sorts
Kate Harlow:of tools and practices that you can go through it again and
Kate Harlow:again. So again, you have access to that for life. But if you
Kate Harlow:join now, you get to come and do it live with me in January,
Kate Harlow:which means you get two zoom calls with me a month where
Kate Harlow:we're going to do live coaching, hot seats, where we're going to
Kate Harlow:you're going to meet other heroin sisters in the community
Kate Harlow:and start expanding your heroin conscious, powerful, amazing
Kate Harlow:women who are celebrating the crap out of themselves and each
Kate Harlow:other community in your life. So you'll grow your community, and
Kate Harlow:I'll do teaching on each archetype, every zoom call as
Kate Harlow:well, because I help deepen what you've been doing. And there's
Kate Harlow:practices and there's diamonds, and it's a really powerful way
Kate Harlow:to start the year. So it'll be January until the end of March,
Kate Harlow:and I highly recommend you join. It's so fun. I would love to see
Kate Harlow:you in there. So click the link to sign up for the reclamation.
Kate Harlow:You'll get to join us for free. The program used to be 997 when
Kate Harlow:I did the live versions of it, and now it doesn't have live but
Kate Harlow:I am doing a live one this January, so you will get a live
Kate Harlow:one with me, which is so amazing, but only for 497 you
Kate Harlow:have lifetime access to it. And yeah, would love to have you in
Kate Harlow:the community. And would love to support you, to bring the energy
Kate Harlow:you want to bring into 2026 to stop being a victim of the
Kate Harlow:script and the story, or stop being a stop being trapped in
Kate Harlow:the story of who you're taught to be, so you can really reclaim
Kate Harlow:the woman that you were born to be. You are so much more than
Kate Harlow:you could ever know, and I have a lot of evidence to prove this
Kate Harlow:is true with women. I can't even tell you how many endless
Kate Harlow:stories I have of women who who I meet them as one version of
Kate Harlow:themselves, and they're absolutely a totally different
Kate Harlow:human on the other side of this journey, because there's so much
Kate Harlow:more inside of you than you could ever know. So wrapping
Kate Harlow:your heart in so much love as you wrap yourself in so much
Kate Harlow:love in the transition out of this year, celebrate the crap
Kate Harlow:out of yourself. Celebrate everything you've done, show how
Kate Harlow:you've shown up for yourself, how you've new perspective, new
Kate Harlow:ways of being, new habits, new rituals, what you've let go of,
Kate Harlow:celebrate yourself, everything you're proud of. This is so
Kate Harlow:important to heal that little girl inside who didn't get the
Kate Harlow:love that she needed in the way she needed it. The. To take
Kate Harlow:ownership for those old stories, do the full rewrite, like we
Kate Harlow:talked about, so you're not carrying any blame energy into
Kate Harlow:2026 and also burn the stories of that you don't want to carry
Kate Harlow:with you anymore, that are stopping you from following your
Kate Harlow:dreams, that are stopping you from believing what you know in
Kate Harlow:your heart and soul to be possible, that are keeping you
Kate Harlow:believing something else. So burn those stories. And then,
Kate Harlow:obviously, safely do so safely. Make sure there's water nearby.
Kate Harlow:And then, what energy am I bringing? Who am I reclaiming?
Kate Harlow:What? What aspect of my heroin Am I stepping into in 2026 and
Kate Harlow:you can write out that as a story. You can join us in the
Kate Harlow:reclamation and be supported in that journey. There's so many
Kate Harlow:ways to do it, but, but you can do it in a meditation in the
Kate Harlow:mirror. What are you? You can even do the one from last week's
Kate Harlow:episode, if you heard it, old myths, new truths. What new
Kate Harlow:truths are you stepping into and then put on some music and move
Kate Harlow:through your living room like you were that woman already. So
Kate Harlow:you get to rewrite your story. You are the CO writer, the co
Kate Harlow:director and the leading lady. So it's time to take charge,
Kate Harlow:time to take responsibility for your life. You've got this I
Kate Harlow:love you and Happy Holidays. Merry Christmas to those of you
Kate Harlow:who celebrate Christmas and yeah, be so loving to yourself
Kate Harlow:and to everyone else you come in contact with this week and
Kate Harlow:always you.