Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

on this beautiful journey called life. I know life is not always

beautiful, life can get pretty messy and dark and

unpredictable. And all of us suffered to some degree How

would I put it into words? with uncertainty? What does the

future hold for us? What is certain? What can we believe in?

Who can we trust? It's really, really tough times. And this is

why today I want to talk about post COVID stress.

Let's all hope this, this mess is coming to an end. And that we

can start a new normal a life after the pandemic. We all come

out of this with some kind of damage.

You know, the people who got really scared because they were

scared to death, they were scared for themselves or a loved

one because of the virus. And then there's others who felt

ostracized, excluded, pushed to the side of like to the outside

of society. So whichever path you went down during those last

two years, it was stressful. It was scary. It took a lot of

energy. And we all were in some kind of Yeah, survival mode,

let's call it. So I really hope that you made it out of this,

okay? And that you're not too damaged, that you can see the

light that you can see hope. And I also hope if you don't feel

good if you struggle with anxiety, mental health, physical

illnesses, that you know that you can reach out to people that

there is professionals out there waiting to help you. And

sometimes it's easy to find people you can trust sometimes

not so much. Just know that if ever you have a question, and I

can connect you with somebody or you have a question related to

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right, enough of the housekeeping. Do you feel that

tension in the air? Do you feel tends to do you feel agitated

way more easily than before the pandemic? Do you feel anxious? A

lot of people describe panic attacks as being part of their

life No. And it's really really tough to stay cool. I get it. I

mean you probably hear the fan in the background here. We got

34 degrees here in Alberta, Canada. But when you watch the

news or when you just interact with people on the street, or

with family and friends and you will probably notice that people

are struggling. And we can blame it, like part on it on feeling

isolated and disconnected more than ever. As I usually say on

my podcast, we are herd animals, we need each other, we need a

small little, but strong community around us at least.

And during the pandemic that was stripped away. And maybe you

even found out that the people that you used to call your

friends, the people that you used to trust, were not really

your friends anymore, and you can really open up to them

anymore because maybe they had different views than you and you

guys just couldn't be on the same page. It's it's due to that

isolation and the disconnection that we can also feel

aggression, boiling in our veins. I noticed that and

myself, I'm going to be quite blunt with you that, yeah, I can

get pretty angry over stuff. But after the pandemic, I can feel

my whole chemistry

changing now, when I get enraged about something, and I really

have to put lots of effort and energy into keeping my cool and

making sense of my emotions and channeling, channeling into

creative, you know, projects or go for a bike ride without being

angry, but kind of visualizing a deep release of my strong

emotions there. So maybe it is the same for you. Maybe it is

anger and irritation with other people right now that we can all

socialize again, it might take us some time to get used to

people again. And maybe we were able to dig so deeply when we

were alone during the pandemic, and, and face and being face to

face with our staff. And being face to face with the people

that we live with that we have a whole different perspective on

the world in a way that we are way more sensitive. Now. When it

comes to bullshit, we can cut through the bullshit and you

know, get to the meat, which is a great thing. But if you start

socializing again and you realize Holy shit, I'm

surrounded with bullshitters 360. Around, then it is tough to

keep your cool. It is really tough to stay centered. So

today, I want to invite you to sit with those emotions, as I

learned to do it, and I'm still learning to do it. And to

visualize that energy that comes up, and to really ask yourself,

whenever stuff comes up, hey isn't really worth looking at?

Or am I being triggered? And I react to a situation. And I'm

overly emotional about it. So to simply ask yourself, Hey, is it

valid to react here? Or is it just my little ego that feels

triggered? And actually, I shouldn't give it too much

importance because, honestly, if you feel triggered by the small

stuff in life, you will be annoyed fairly quickly by

anybody and everybody, and so many things that you can really

enjoy life on a deeper level anymore. So stay connected with

the people don't withdraw, but express how they make you feel.

And it will take time to master this practice. And as I say

right now, I'm learning it as I speak to instead of reacting

fighting back, avoiding shutting down. I tell the person who's

irritating me. Hey, you make me feel very uncomfortable. Right

now, hey, I feel attacked. Hey, I feel you don't understand me,

hey, I feel we are on a different page. And by saying

this, do you not only value how you feel, and stand up for

yourself, but you also open up a door for the other person to

connect with you one way, deeper and honest level. And this is

how you can connect with people, and learn to trust people again,

in showing up authentically, and expressing how you feel, being

assertive, and emotionally intelligent enough to know that

the person who wants to connect with you but stepped on your

toes wants to know that information about you, because

they want to understand you deep down a person who wants to stay

connected with you. They want to know who you are. Always. So

instead of overreacting and falling back into old patterns,

like I said earlier, avoiding raging, you know becoming

insulting. Swear wording swearing, I mean, of course, you

can learn this new skill and make the time and before

reacting. Find a word how you feel. And then say it out loud.

It works wonders. It takes time. But it works wonders because as

soon as you're able to put it into words, the energy that was

built up the tension that was built up in your body drops

drastically. And you can be calm and you can stand your ground.

And that is so incredibly empowering. And well sometimes

even surprise the people in standing in front of you. Same

goes with anxiety. If you've been very anxious lately, you

know in social settings, or if you are by yourself because your

nervous system is paranoid, of being alone after the pandemic.

Ask your anxiety what its purpose is and know. You're not

sure it's a phrenic if you address that part inside of you,

you don't have to speak out loud. But I want you to start

being curious about your anxiety because your anxiety has a

purpose it is there. For some reason, you can run away from

it. You can sleep it away, you can drink it away, you can sex

it away. It is there and it's going to come back if you don't

address it. So why not being curious about your anxiety? And

to really dig deep there. Hey, why do I feel nervous all of a

sudden? Why is my body tensing up other people that I'm

socializing with? Not good for me and my purpose and my energy

and my whole being? Or am I scared to feel judged to I feel

shame it is really interesting to to go deep and to ask what

it's all about. The way you feel the way you behave. Become a

little detective and allow these gaps before reacting and how we

like to say it and the coaching community do not react, respond.

Alright, I think I want to leave you with that. Thank you so much

for being patient with me. I'm trying out a new thing I will

show up as often as I can for you hear through my podcast. But

I will not stick to a rigid LAN of posting my episodes anymore

because it wasn't serving me that well in the last couple of

weeks. On days that I don't feel well, I don't feel inspired. I'd

rather take care of myself than forcing out a podcast episode

and then you would feel and hear that's inauthentic anyways. So I

will show up for you. Rest assured, and I will show up for

you in my most authentic and real way. But I will not show up

for you no matter what. So, thank you for trusting me, thank

you for being here. I deeply appreciate you. I deeply respect

you because if you listen to my podcast, I know you have a

growth mindset. You want to get out of your comfort zone and get

something done in life. You want to let go of stuff that doesn't

serve you anymore, and those are the most amazing people to have

around. So yeah, I really, really love to connect with you

and love spending time like this with you. take really good care

of yourself and I will be out there very soon again. Bye bye