Hello, hello and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I mean host Aurora, life coach and companion on this

beautiful journey called life. If ever you feel the need to

invest in yourself, if you feel stuck if you feel like you're

not quite reaching your goals, your dreams, your potential.

Don't hesitate and reach out to me and we'll make a plan on how

I can help you. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you so

much for being here. I deeply appreciate you listening. I

deeply appreciate connecting with you have a Facebook or

Instagram. It's just Yeah, an incredible blessing to be able

to connect with people through my podcast here. Thank you. Take

a deep breath for a moment. If you're not driving, car, or

bicycle or operating machinery, feel free to close your eyes if

it feels comfortable. And again, take a deep breath in through

your nose. And then exhale through your mouth. Well, too

often we forget to breathe. Yes, we do it unconsciously. But if

we focus a little bit more prepared, limit more attention

on how shallow or deep breath as you will notice that you're able

to hack into your nervous system influence your nervous system.

Same goes for when you don't pay attention, you can suddenly or

over time, become anxious become uncomfortable on your skin. And

you might blame the outside world for it. But maybe it was

you not paying attention enough to your physical needs. So this

is what I've experienced in the last couple of days. Your dear

followers on Facebook, have read my post and I'm so deeply

appreciative for all the love and kindness and healing vibes

that you sent my way. As I expressed myself, openly and

honestly and transparently. It was through breathing

techniques, going for a walk, eating nourishing foods, not

watching the news. And surrounding myself with good

people that I was able to balance my emotional mental

state out. It took a little bit of time, but I was not in a

rush. You know, sometimes we try to Netflix, we tried to Amazon

our feelings away. Of course the negative feelings read when

we're in a good mood when we feel light, then we're less

inclined to wanting to distract ourselves. We're more in the

moment. But it is truly an art and a balancing act. To be able

to stay in the moment when you don't feel comfortable. When you

feel consumed by your thoughts consumed by your emotions. When

you feel like you are your thoughts you are your emotions.

It is very hard to see an end, it's very hard to know that it

is just a phase it is just temporary. And it is something

that we want to get out of as quick as possible. But the quick

fix, as you can imagine, is not always a sustainable solution.

So what I'm learning right now is to communicate when I'm not

feeling 100% And there also it is important to know that I'm

not doing that to burden people or to make people help me. I'm

communicating this for them to know why I might be a little bit

more distance why I might be a little bit more quiet, but not

for others to fix me. You will see once To do that, that there

is people around you who instantly jump into rescue mode

and wanting to help you, and wanting to support you. And

that's totally okay, that's so awesome and so precious. And you

can take in the love and the healing vibes from others. But

not in a taking fashion, you accept their gift, but you know

that you are responsible for how you feel, and nobody else to

sorry, and to know that you can sit in it for a while, and you

can be down and low for a while. But you also know that it is

temporary and that you will be able to find the tools to get

yourself out of the funk. I find too often we are in resistance

of not feeling well. We hate uncertainty, we hate pain and

suffering. We hate feeling disconnected. We hate when

people are not in agreement with us. And we instantly jump into a

reactive mode resistance mode. And it is okay. You know, it

doesn't make you a bad person if you do. But what I'm learning on

my journey here, and what I want to share with you is that it's a

huge waste of energy. It is okay to be sitting in discomfort for

a little bit. And to figure things out and to find out okay,

what is it that is bugging me right now? What is it that's

still hurting me? But then instantly, to think about

solutions is sometimes not an option. Right? Sometimes people

are trying to help you and give you advice and are very busy and

yeah, trying to make you feel better. But even that can feel

abusive at times. Did you ever experienced that, when you felt

very low and tired and somebody was trying to cheer you on. And

it just didn't feel right. It didn't resonate with you. You

were resistant to that joyous vibe of another person. And

that's perfectly fine. Because you have to create that joyous

vibe, that uplifting vibe inside of you, you have to learn that.

And this is what I'm hoping to help you with, with my podcast

and with my videos on Facebook and me being active as a life

coach and personal trainer and podcaster that's my my biggest

wish to give you tools to be fully authentic with your

suffering and your pain that you might go through or will be

going through in the future because it's part of life. But

to then have the right tools in your back pocket and t know yet

that you can shovel yourself out of it

take a couple deep breaths. Now. Sometimes when we listen

attentively to something we tend to hold the breath. We tend to

go shallow tried to deepen your breath again. And I'll do the

same. What I'm also learning right now is that sometimes we

feel consumed by our emotions. I received some devastating news

from Germany. And also this I shared on Facebook. It was a

friend of my brother committing suicide and it really knocked me

off my feet. I know that my efforts my work here is not

going to prevent every person from committing suicide. I like

this is not the power I have. I'm doing my best to understand

people to listen to people to let people express themselves on

my show. But that suicide really knocked me off my feed and I was

so sad and I At the same time, I was able to keep my mission and

mind, my heart mission, to show up for you to be there, Mondays

and Thursdays, to produce something to create something

that helps you, makes you feel good gives you, strength

inspires you and makes you independent and empowered in who

you are. And it is the first time in my life, I think that it

happened this way, because I'm doing something that truly

brings me joy and the mission, my vision is stronger than

temporary, strong emotions that might lead me off my path. So

maybe you've gone through extreme pain in the past. I'm

sure when you listen to me, you can relate, I'm sure if you

listen to my podcast, that you've gone through a lot. And

you made it to the other side. And you're still here, you're

wanting to grow your breathing, you can be so incredibly proud

of yourself. And maybe next time you go through pain, you can

remember my words, and know that pain and suffering is part of

life. And it is so critical and important to find an activity

something some call it your purpose, your sole purpose. That

helps you to get up in the morning, no matter what. No

matter what's happening around you, no matter what's happening

to you. You have that strong drive to surf and engage in that

activity because it helps you on several levels. But it also

helps others. When you don't engage in that activity. You

feel like you didn't really live that day, you didn't really

connect with people or you didn't really give your best.

But when you are, even though you fail at times, you're

failing forwards. And you keep being driven with your mission.

I wish that upon every person that I meet, I wish them that

they find something that gives them true joy. And at the same

time serve as a people, no matter what, no matter what

you're going through, it is going to be an anchor for you as

well. Right, I went through some dark times here. But for me to

show up for you to produce my podcast here for you felt like a

soul calling something that I needed to do in order to make me

feel better in order to heal in order to find my true north. And

this is what can guide you through suffering and pain. This

is what's going to make you a more stable human being. Yes,

you will depend on others, you will fall in love with others

and you know, sometimes lose a piece of yourself in another

person. But you have that one activity, or maybe several

activities that anchors you down. That brings you to joy and

contentment. And it will not always be easy, you will

sometimes have to fight for it. And sometimes it will feel

draining and sometimes you will be frustrated. You know it's not

always unicorns and rainbows, even with an activity that is so

extremely nurturing for your soul. But deep down inside, you

will know this is the right path you're gonna stick to it, you're

going to commit to it fully. Just like some people fully

commit to a partner. You can fully commit to an action to a

mission and you can do both. You can commit to a partner. You can

commit to a mission and most importantly is that you commit

to yourself and that you take your feelings, your emotions,

your thoughts so theory is to some degree, but you know that

you are not your feelings, you are not your thoughts.

Especially if you are a person who watches the news and reads

the newspaper, you have to distinguish, you have to make

sure that you don't feel powerless by all this

negativity. You have to know that, yes, there's the news. And

there's this stuff happening in the outside world. But who are

you and all of this? Who do you want to be? Do you want to be a

nervous wreck? That runs from one corner to the other and

screams? Like a chicken with a head chopped off? Or do you want

to center into yourself into your mission, and keep pushing

for that mission? Because you know, it gives you a deep sense

of belonging, a deep sense of love and connection. And that is

so incredibly important. And this is what got me out of my

darkness here. Yesterday. If ever you feel like requesting an

episode, if ever you want to comment, if ever, you want to

give me feedback on this, feel free to message me. And I'll

make sure to get back to you as soon as possible. take really

good care of yourself. And if you want to send me a little

token of appreciation, there's a link in the notes called buy me

a coffee where you can buy me a coffee. All right, I leave you

with this. And I will be back out there on Thursday, talking

about masculine sexuality. What are we getting right about a

man's sexuality and what are we getting? Totally wrong? An

interview with a life coach, life coach who pretty much saved

my life six years ago. So I'm excited to introduce him to you.

All right. Bye bye.