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One of the things is talking about this idea of a journey of change, of story, of

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change, I would say that we're calling, uh, that Laurence and I have been like

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playing with in terms of the work we're trying to do generally, but in particular

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our Vision 2020 program of which, uh, Serena was a part of in, uh, tribe four.

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And linking that as well to her own story and her own journey, uh, her,

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um, things that she wants to create.

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Uh, and what I was talking to Serena about before was, you know, for us

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it's very much around what is the story of change that we are experiencing?

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How do we make sense of it?

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How do we tell it in a way that gives us clarity, but then how do

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we see the gold and the value in it that we can offer to others?

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And that for me is one of the themes I think we'll try, I hope

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to explore, but I'm happy to go in all sorts of directions.

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But before, uh, we've already gone deep, before we go deeper, uh, Serena

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I'd like you to just share a bit about, yeah, a bit about what you do at the

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moment maybe, and then talk a little bit about the part of the, the, the, the

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journey that you've been on, uh, 'cause it, it is been a bit of a rocky one.

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Yes.

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Uh, so my name is Serena, I'm Italian, uh, and, um, I am an HR professional

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that decided to start a podcast that is called I'm Back, to have conversation with

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people that are coming back to work after a life changing experience, positive like

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a maternity or negative like an illness.

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It's always hard, I think, to return to work and to restart,

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to work after something that is happening, uh, in your life.

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And I think it's also, uh, a question for me about what kind of environment

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we want to have in the workplace.

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Uh, and often if we think about our workplaces, the environment

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is not welcoming at all.

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Uh, it's so hard to give people space.

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It's so hard to give people time.

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Um, it's hard to give people understanding about what, what was happening.

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And of course we have the legal aspect of that, but it's a tricky one because

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the law is saying to everyone, like, I'm speaking for Italy, um, if you are

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losing someone really dear to your family, a loved one, you have only three days

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and then you need to come back to work.

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And this is so painful because how can you go back to work after

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three days when you are grieving?

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It doesn't make any sense.

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If you are going to a maternity in Italy, you have six months, but okay,

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is it six months or good for everyone?

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Uh, the answer of course is not.

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If you are a dad, you have only seven days.

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Like saying that if you are a dad, it's not so important to enjoy or to experience

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your, uh, your new role as a father.

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So there is this tension that I see between what is prescribed

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by law that is more or less accepted by the work basis with.

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A lot of discrimination, unfortunately, also linked to that, and the disconnection

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with, uh, what are our conscious or unconscious needs and, and this

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tension often from my experience, can cause only more and more pain.

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And also having, I would like to have conversation with people about how

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can we create together a welcoming environment at work for everyone.

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And the reason why this is so dear to my heart, it's uh, for two reasons.

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The first one is that I was born with a disability.

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So, I know the impact of being heal, sick, going through hospitals.

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And the impact that lies on the families and these kind of things.

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And I know that since my childhood.

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And also because, uh, seven years ago I had a bad accident at work.

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And so it was super, super hard for me, the coming back to work, because

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I was not the same person anymore.

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I was not the same professional anymore.

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And I was really lost and I was feeling alone, and I don't

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want anyone to feel the same.

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So even if it took me seven years to create the podcast, I think I'm

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creating this podcast and I'm doing this podcast, yes, for people that are

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struggling right now, but also as a part of my personal healing process.

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And also to say to the Serena I was, you are not alone.

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You are, uh, not lost.

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Uh, there is another way, there is a better way that we can explore together.

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And again, it's um, let's say a conversation that I am having with a lot

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of people, but it's also a conversation that I'm having with my previous self.

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When I had my accident, I had to um, do a lot of surgeries.

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And I was so scared to say to my manager, uh, I need to do ano another

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surgery and I need to be out for two weeks, that I started to postpone

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all my surgeries, causing a lot of pain, uh, emotional and physical pain

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because I didn't know how to ask.

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I didn't know how to share.

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I didn't know how to be open about, it's not the three days at the hospital.

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I need more.

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Uh, and this is why I'm doing this podcast and, and also why I

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decided to put the title I'm Back.

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Because for me it's a reflection about when you have the power to decide

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when you are back and you can decide when you want to say, I'm back now.

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I'm really back.

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I'm here now.

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It's not something that is related to society or this kind of things.

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I am in awe of the clarity with which, uh, you're expressing your work and the,

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the challenges you're trying to tackle.

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Today we were running an event called Ideas Cafe, and the theme was this idea

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of creating content before you're ready.

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And I floated this idea of, uh, rather than having the answers and telling

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people what to do, how can you frame what you create within a question?

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Because it's a question you wanna answer for yourself, as well as it feels

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like in your case, at least, there's a systemic question and it becomes more

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of an invitation to a conversation as opposed to a stick to hit people over

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the head with for doing wrong things and what that means in terms of an energy.

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Yes.

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This is really resonating with me because actually I, when I started, I really

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didn't know, uh, what I was trying to do.

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I remember really well the first call with Laurence.

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When, uh, I was thinking to join the tribe, and Laurence asked me, what

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is your product and what do you want to create and what is your idea?

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And I said to Laurence, I don't know.

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I don't know why I want to join this tribe.

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I don't know why it's resonating.

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I'm really lost.

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I, I really don't know.

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Can I join anyway?

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And Laurence said yes, and I'm really grateful for that.

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But for me, it was, uh, an important passage because to be honest, I felt

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that something was emerging, but I was really not able to tackle anything about

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it and, um, have the opportunity to have the space time and the support to really

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nourish the little seed that were, that was really down in the soils and almost

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not visible, made the difference for me.

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And also why the idea of the podcast?

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It's also a funny story because, uh, I'm really an introvert.

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I don't like to, to be really visible or, or to share my voice.

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I, I really despise that.

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Uh, and at the same time, why the podcast that is doing the opposite?

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And it's a funny story because one of, our friends of the tribe,

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Nirish, was creating a podcast.

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And so when, uh, he started to share his journey, I said, okay, I'm

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going to do a podcast too, without knowing more or less anything about

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podcasting and, and this kind of thing.

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So for me, it was really being connected with what were emerging and

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really be connected with intuitions that didn't make any sense to me, and

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seek the support because, um, without the support, without the, again, the

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welcoming and safe environment, for me it's impossible to create anything.

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And at the same time, it was a journey of change for me and transformation

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because I started from, uh, not only a question mark, but uh, a question

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mark on why I want to do this.

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And, uh, and now I'm, I'm more clear on why and what I want to do.

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I could just listen to Serena all day, I think.

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There's a reason why you are, I don't know, maybe you're naturally drawn to

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using your voice, but you just have, like Carla said, such a way with words and,

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uh, a serenity, pardon the pun about you.

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Um, and so much gravitas because of the experiences that you've been through.

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Um, and I think that's why I was drawn to you when we first had

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that conversation was, I dunno.

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Some, there's just a, sometimes there's a, a reason why someone wants to

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connect with you and there's a, a reason that you can't put your finger on.

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Maybe there's not even a question like yeah, like Carla said.

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But there's a, a feeling more than anything of there's

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something here to explore.

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Um, and I'm just glad that you followed that curiosity and trusted

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us really, because I think a lot of this is about trust you trusting

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in us, you trusting in your ideas.

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You trusting in Mark who helped you with the podcast.

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Yeah.

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Mark is amazing.

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but I think more than anything, trusting in your own innate

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wisdom to, to put this out there.

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I think a lot of people we meet, even people we spoke to this morning,

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really struggle with that inner critic.

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And so even Mark said, the fact that you just go off and.

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Put these episodes together and he does all the magic.

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You know, a lot of it's down to you and your drive and your willingness

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to, or commitment to this cause.

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So yeah, it's, um, it's what the world needs and it needs more of it.

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I'm taken by your analogy of the seed.

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And it made me think about just our work at the Happy Startup

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School in a broader sense.

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And I remember someone describing, I think Laurence, you said someone described

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at least one of our retreats as a Startup decelera tor not an accelerator.

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And I just wanted to work on that for now, because when we started

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our community, when we started in businesses, particularly in the Startup

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world, it was about accelerator.

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It's like, have an idea and just scale it as soon as you can, before

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you are really even clear whether that was the right idea for you.

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And I think, you know, Laurence had been to many Startup weekends

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and seeing just ideas die.

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A you know, the, the classic thing is, um, building something that nobody wants.

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But I think the hidden message for me was building something that you don't

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want, that no one really tackled.

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One of the things that we are really curious about at the Happy Startup School

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is this idea of product founder fit.

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What is it that's mine to build?

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Not necessarily what's the opportunity that I can exploit in the market?

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And that question is not something that you can force.

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Or the answer to that I don't think is something you can force.

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It's something that I, I think takes ,and using your analogy back to the

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analogy, there's this seed deep in the soil, you have no idea what it's gonna

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turn into, what it's gonna grow into.

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You either try and force it into becoming an oak tree or you nurture it and let it

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grow and then work with what you've got.

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And this whole thing about this is, this is a seed that's been in there for seven

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years, just needed the right environment and the right water and the right time.

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I think that's the other thing, the thing about the accelerator

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is like, has to be done yesterday.

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We need to move fast.

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As opposed to actually this is the right time.

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And one of the things that I found with, a love about your story.

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Because it's, there's something that's really intrinsic to you, that's embedded

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in, I'm Back, that has its time right now for us as a business, the Happy,

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Startup, School and I, I, I'm also gonna extrapolate to people who do help

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others, it isn't, we can't force people to change when we want them to change.

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We just have to be there talking about what we do.

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So when, then they're, when they're ready, they know where to go.

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And I feel like you being able to tell your story now when you are

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ready is now giving people a place to go when they're ready to start

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trying to tackle this question.

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For me, time is really essential.

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And I, um, love what you are saying about the startups.

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Uh, I worked in startups and we need to grow faster.

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We need to go full speed.

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We need to have everything ready tomorrow.

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I don't know if it's really sustainable, and I don't know if it's right for me.

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That it's the most important part actually.

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Because I don't want to grow fast.

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I don't want to go full speed.

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I don't want to.

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have the success, like we are imagining success.

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I want to be, to create a space that maybe it's a small space, but is

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a space for people that needs that space, when they need that space.

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I don't want to have like a podcast with, uh, 1 billion downloads.

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Um, I want to create a podcast that really is resonating with maybe only one person,

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but at the RI right time for that person.

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Because I, when we say, oh, we want the startups that can create an

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impact, what do we mean by that?

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And for me, it's really related to, we are not God.

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Meaning that we, uh, don't need to, uh, put ourself in the savior ca character

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and saying, I'm going to give you what you need and, uh, you will change your,

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transform yourself because I'm here.

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I want to have another, uh.

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Perspective on this that is saying, I, I believe in you.

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I know that you can do it.

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I know that you are already in this transformational journey.

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I know that it can be tough.

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Let me be there with you, with you, not because I'm better, not because

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I'm worth be, be with you to really do part of this journey together.

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And it doesn't mean that we need to do all the journey together,

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but let's create an occasion to meet ourself and have meaningful

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conversation, meaningful connection.

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And really, I want to say to people that I see their pain.

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I see their fragilities, but I see also their wonder and their light and that

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they're able to do it, even if it's, they're still in, in the mess right now.

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And this is more important for me.

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There is a quote from Voltaire that, uh, said, um, we need

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to cultivate our own garden.

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And for me, what I'm trying to do is the same, because I'm trying to cultivate

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my own garden that is myself and what I need and my healing process, but I

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want also to give people, um, the space to say, okay, what is your garden?

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Maybe it's a small one.

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Maybe you just have one, one plant and, but it's a starting point and let's

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cultivate together this, this garden.

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And maybe it'll take like 10 years time and maybe it'll take two days.

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Um..

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I love clarity with which you express yourself and, um, the way you're

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talking about the patience around it, because it isn't about getting

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somewhere, it's about being here.

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I like the idea of just creating this space and being with people.

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Um, you also talked about you don't need a billion people to be downloading

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your podcast, though I would argue that wouldn't be a bad thing either.

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Um, but it did remind me and I just wanted to just like, 'cause I think this

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is an interesting point of connection.

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Like you, you, you're talking about here of in a very humble way, your work.

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But I wanted to connect it to, uh, people who are doing larger things,

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but I think have the same sentiment.

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I've been listening to a podcast with Sam Harris and Leo Babauta

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so the founder of Zen Habits.

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But the thing that stood out for me is he was talking about he's

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a million subscribers, and the problem he had, he said, what

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you measure is what you focus on.

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And so he got really, he, he was finding it really difficult because

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he was focusing on the numbers.

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And what he wanted to focus on was being able to help someone, whoever that may be.

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And for someone who is that, you know, you've been going on for

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10 odd years, that's successful.

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To just reiterate that message, which you just said, like,

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I just want to help someone.

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And then where will that go?

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Where you don't know.

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But there's a real honest, and from what I hear, very clear intention around that.

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And in the patience that I think that cultivates because it's such

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a genuine need to help yourself and through that, helping others.

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Yes.

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And at the same time, I will hand something, uh, to that because, um,

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part of my struggles were linked to the fact that the starting point for

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me was a really personal story and I feel that it's the same for a lot of

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people that are coming to the Happy Startups or the Happy Entrepreneurs.

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It's, it's something that is re resonating really deeply and they

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want to create something that is really connected to who they are.

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So the struggle for me was, and Mark knows this really well, when I have launched

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the podcast, I, I really, uh, didn't want anyone to listen to the podcast.

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That I know that it sounds crazy, especially to my episode.

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I really didn't want everyone to listen to that.

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Um, and so it was really a struggle for me to find the right balance

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between put everything out there and let's say, uh, push the podcast or

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make the PO podcast visible to people because I want to serve those people

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and I want to meet those people.

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And at the same time being so personal, I was really scared

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because it's a vulnerable position.

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It's really easy to get hurt.

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And, and also to be honest, I'm still wondering if what I'm providing is

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what other people needs, because right now I'm still answering my personal

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needs linked to my healing story.

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So it's, uh, yes, there is this notion of re-imagining what is success

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or, or what means success for you.

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And, and there is also this struggle about creating something

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that is really personal.

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It's really connected to who you are and, and being vulnerable in this also

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in their, acceptance that it could be a failure or it could be not relevant

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for the people you want to serve.

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Well it links back to what you said this morning in these sessions we had

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when people were talking about this fear of when we put, well, not even

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just put our ideas into the world.

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Lots of people there are happy writing or talking about other

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people's things, other people's ideas.

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Maybe your clients.

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You're used to wearing that mask of your brand or a company.

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But as soon as you start to open your heart and be vulnerable and share more of

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your story or your beliefs or your truths, there's a fear of either tumbleweed,

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so someone, no one responding, the world not responding and that fear of

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rejection or on the other side's attack.

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You know, someone jumping on board with negative comments who doesn't relate

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to you or your story, or just thinks it's not, not true or not worthy.

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And so this internal dialogue we will have when we start to put these ideas out there

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can just debilitate people and often we don't get going, or things sit in draft.

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And I spoke to lots of people who've put an odd, a podcast episode together

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or a blog post together and it just sits in drafts and you have this body

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of work that's just sitting there.

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Maybe it could connect with someone, but our fears get in

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the way of that being realized.

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And so, to be honest, I think you're doing it all right.

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I just think you've got so much.

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Um, every time I talk to you, I just, it's weird.

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I've got an auntie who's a nun without sounding too spiritual

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about this, but there's very few people who make me feel like you do.

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When I talk to you.

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You just seem to have this groundedness and integrity and aura about you, and

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so I think you're doing it all right.

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I just think it's about time.

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And, and my sense is anyone who's been through any sort of healing

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journey of their own will find you at the right time for them.

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And like Carlos said, maybe there is a billion people out there who will benefit

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from this work, whether it's a podcast or you holding space for them, which I think

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will be maybe the next step with this is some community or um, space that you could

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create that would just give permission to other people to talk about these topics.

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What, um, sprang to mind is the tension between, on one level, building a business

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and being on a mission, whatever that mission may be, personal or broader.

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And then there's this aspect of being honest and vulnerable and authentic

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about your own struggles and the fear that it might destabilize or

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cause uncertainty in others because they don't believe that you've got

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it together or have the answers.

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And, and, and this resonates with a conversation we had this morning around

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how authentic should I be about the way I talk about myself online because

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I might scare people away 'cause they don't believe I know what I'm doing?

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If you're selling an answer, then you need to give people confidence.

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That's what I, so if this person's mission is to make money, and to sell

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a product or a service that solves a very specific question, yes, you

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need to talk about the certainty that you know, that you can provide them.

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Gives them that feeling of ease when they're trying to work with you.

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But if you are offering a sense of connection, a feeling that you are not

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alone, uh, empathy and understanding of someone's internal world, then that's,

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that's a feeling, a different matter.

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You want to connect to the person, not necessarily the message.

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And maybe you're not ready for a solution.

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You're just ready to be heard.

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But this is all about your, your intention.

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And I hear with your intention because you called it a question, they're much

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more of a broader, systemic aspect to this, rather than, please sign up to my

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podcast so I can have more listeners.

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It's like, I believe we need to talk about this.

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I believe there are people out there who don't realize that

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people want to talk about this.

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And so if I can be at least one beacon in it, in this dark sky, one star that people

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can at least point themselves towards, then that's gonna be impactful to someone.

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And it doesn't matter if I'm not clear or I'm not, I don't give them answers.

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It's just I'm not alone.

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And I feel that.

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And I think one crucial part to that, which links to when we started

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all those years ago was it feels like you've got a really strong

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enemy here, which is driving this.

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Maybe the timing's now because of it, I don't know, but something's not right.

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You just know it's not right.

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It's not right to be treated the way you've been treated or to feel like

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you can't communicate your truth or your illness or your struggle.

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And so, you don't need validation for that.

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You know, that's not right.

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And so my sense is there's a motivation there on a one-to-one level, maybe

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connecting with one person, but also knowing that no one should feel like this.

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This isn't something that is acceptable.

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Just like we used to think.

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Business as usual isn't right.

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Like to be just focused on the money and take out the humanity is just not right.

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It's just common sense to us.

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I think, and to add onto that, um, you, you mentioned vulnerability.

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And I would say I'd link to that is fear of some level.

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And again, it's another conversation we had this morning.

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It's all connecting up.

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It's really useful.

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There's lack a fear of rejection or a fear of judgment that I could add onto this.

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And so, we could be, like Laurence was saying, we could just keep all of these

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things in draft, never do anything.

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And one of the reasons could be just this fear that if I say something, someone will

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reject me or judge me in a certain way.

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And what I wanted to offer this morning was this, this quote

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from Elizabeth Gilbert about choosing curiosity over fear.

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You can't get rid of the fear, and particularly if it's baked

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down, it's like in your belly.

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You can, as much as you can rationalize it and say, oh no, but isn't real.

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It's just that feeling, not fact, it's still there.

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Still makes.

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But the invitation is that what can overpower it?

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What can I, what can gimme enough wind in my sails to overcome

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the anchor that is the fear?

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So rather than being dragged back, there's something even

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stronger that's pushing me forward.

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And again, I go back, I.

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To the question, the curiosity.

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The curiosity, not about, not just about the idea and the question around

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it, but also the people out there, you know, you are having conversations

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'cause I assume you're also curious about their own experiences and that's

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pulling you forward more than the fear of being judged or being wrong.

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Uh, and so, you know, you're asking, you know, what could you be?

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That for me is something to reflect on, is what, what can I, what is the curiosity

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that's gonna be stronger than the fear?

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For me personally, I had a lot of fears.

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I still have a lot of fear, especially when I'm publishing, uh, really,

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let's say triggering episodes or when I'm sharing something on LinkedIn

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that is not about success and, but it's something about the pain.

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And at the same time, I was able to overcome that because this

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journey for me is not only about me.

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And the fear that I was feeling, yes, it's my personal fear of being rejected.

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And at the same time, I don't want anyone to feel rejected.

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So I, for me, it's about them.

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It's about people that are feeling maybe the same.

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And I think it's important also LinkedIn to create spaces for

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really talk about pain, fragilities, vulnerabilities, um, low performance.

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That sounds impossible to talk about it on LinkedIn.

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And I think if I'm able to create this little island, it's going to be easier for

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people to say, okay, we can also do that.

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Again, I have a lot of fears, um, and at the same time I have a lot of hopes.

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Because I really believe that we can change, uh, the work environment.

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And we can ask for things that are important and relevant for us.

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Because at the end of the day, and I'm speaking as an HR person, I know really

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well that this is going to increase performance, productivity, income,

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revenue, and these kind of things.

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So it makes me so angry that it's so difficult still to this day to have

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this kind of open conversation and to create a welcoming environment for

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really everyone when there is this buzz words about psychological safety,

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diversity, inclusion, vulnerability in the workplace and these kind of things.

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But then something happened and it's never the same.

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I have never talked with anyone till now that said my company was great in

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welcoming back, welcome me back, or I didn't experience anything like that.

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Even if maybe you are sharing with me a story that is not a big story, like a

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big goodness or an accident or maternity, but even smaller story, like how are we

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coming back to work after the pandemic?

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It's almost something that we cannot discuss.

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What is the trauma that the pandemic created in all of us?

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We cannot discuss this.

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And it makes me angry, and I think it's a great way to be angry because this

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will overcome the fear of rejection.

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Anger as a, as a motivation,

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even if I'm normally a sweet person.

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But I think this, like, when people talk about passion, people th think

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about, you know, following your passion, turning your passion into a business.

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But passion's all about, I think, often fueled by, um, an injustice or

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an anger or frustration or something.

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That's what drives us to make things happen.

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Particularly in Serena's case, but I think in a lot of people without that

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it's just, there's always something better to do or easier to do.

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But it's, it's a great source of change, I believe.

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'cause it, well, it makes us act.

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I saw something in the chat and maybe I, I think Francis said something

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about your self-awareness, Serena and real understanding of self.

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I wanted to add onto the whole aspect of passion and anger because

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I think, I agree with Laurence.

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I think passion is, is a fuel.

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It's definitely something that drives us forward, and anger can be part of that.

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But when there's a lack of an awareness around it and an inability to control

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it, and I'm linking this to this idea of authenticity and vulnerability and

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you know, what do I share on LinkedIn.

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If we kind of like, vomit our feelings in a way that isn't aware or self-aware,

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that isn't necessarily always gonna help.

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But if we can harness those feelings, I feel, in a way that we don't diminish

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them, we don't dismiss them, we don't, um, rationalize them as such, but we

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articulate them in a, in a self-aware way, then that's where I think authenticity

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can be a powerful tool when we're talking about the work that we're trying to do.

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And so yeah, I've always struggled with this idea of passion because there

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was an element of lack of control.

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Control, not in the sense of like, I need to be able to, um, have a hold on it,

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but this kind of, um, it not creating the results that I'm looking for.

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But I feel with you, there's this real drive, this real like, oh, and real

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awareness about what that means, not only for yourself, but for others.

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And so ire, I'm really, um, I feel that you are modeling what it means to be

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vulnerable and authentic and be very clear about, this is not your comfort zone.

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No.

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And so it is an all roses, like, yeah, I was vulnerable and I was

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an introvert, and now I'm much more extroverted and I can do a podcast.

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I, no, I'm still scared.

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I still find it hard.

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And I'm still doing it.

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Or I'm trying to do it.

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That's the other thing.

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It's like this is an unfolding story.

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I think it's one of the things I want, uh, really latch onto here is

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there's a lot of, a lot of messages of like, oh, I used to be this and

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now I'm this and everything's good.

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No, it continues to be challenging and it continues to be hard,

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and you are not this new hero.

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You still need support.

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You still need people around you.

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And I don't like this notion of the hero.

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I'm just myself and I can show up as I am.

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And, yes, it's a journey.

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Uh, I am in a learning curve.

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But, um, for example, um, I received the feedback on one of my podcasts

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saying, oh, I really loved, uh, the episode, but, uh, why you are

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talking so little during your podcast?

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You, you need to talk more about yourself because I want to know

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you and to see your perspective.

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You are, uh, giving a a lot of space to the other people.

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That, of course, this was the intention, the starting point for

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me to put the Guest at the center.

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But at the same time, it was, uh, a really useful comment and feedback for me because

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I really noticed after that, that yes, I'm tending to speak as little as possible.

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I don't want to interrupt, I don't want to share, um, personal things.

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And I think that if I'm not able to find the right balance, I'm losing

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something in the conversation and people may lose something in the conversation.

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Because the way I think I show up is also the way I want people to

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experience the podcast, but if I'm not talking how they, how can they know?

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And so it's always challenging for me, and it's always, when I need to

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publish a LinkedIn post, I'm always in doubts and I'm always, uh, say

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to myself, oh, why Serena do you need to write these things again?

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Can you write something about life is amazing, you are the best person

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in the world, and this kind of thing, instead of saying life is, uh, could

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be a struggle and these kind of thing.

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Uh, so every time I need to publish something, uh, I have always the internal

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struggle of saying it makes sense.

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It doesn't make sense.

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Uh, and at the same time, I am trying to, to continue doing that again, not only

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for myself and for my healing process, but also for others, and for other

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people that maybe they will need that.

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Mm-Hmm.

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I'm curious about, you know, you just, you're talking about the feedback and

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them wanting to hear more about you, and I'm sure you've had, helpful and,

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and positive feedback from others.

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How has that felt for you and what is it done, if anything for you when

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thinking about the podcast and doing another episode and continuing?

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The most shocking things for me was and is the fact that I don't need to find

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guests because a lot of people, a lot of people are approaching me saying,

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please, I want to come and share my story.

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So, for example, I have already all the episodes ready for the next

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six months, and I'm publishing an episode every two weeks, and I have

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already a long list of guests that are saying to me, oh, I want to, to come.

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So it's also, it was really shocking and it, it's also, um,

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uh, something that, uh, it's.

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Um, like the opposite of the normal, um, way of thinking.

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I think, podcasting or these kind of things.

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Meaning that maybe I'm not so much pushing on having more listeners, but

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I'm already attracting a lot of people that feel that it's a safe space and

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that it's an occasion for them to share.

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And this is really beautiful, unexpected, and also fulfilling

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because, yes, it's like I, I achieved what I wanted to achieve in a sense.

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And it's funny that I'm receiving a lot of messages from my Guest saying, oh,

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when are you going to publish my story?

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And I need to say, in six months you'll have your episodes published.

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And it's, it's funny, and at the same time, it's um, it's really beautiful

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and it's really moving for me.

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And if I connect the word moving to continue to move and continue to create

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and do things, yes, um, I'm able to do it because I have already episodes recorded.

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I'm able to do it because I continue to receive messages from people saying

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I want to, to come and share my story.

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So.

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It's hard for me to stop when people are saying, no, I want to come

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and, and, and do this with you.

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We're coming close to it, to an end.

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And, and I feel, and I don't wanna make this too contrived, but I do want

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us to play on this story of change.

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And if you can cast your mind back to before the podcast, and what you

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perceived podcasting to be like, and what you thought was going to get in

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your way, to what, where you are now and what actually will got in your

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way, and how you overcame those things.

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Uh, I'm not enough.

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Uh, I don't know anything about podcasting.

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Uh, I, I don't speak English really well, and my podcast is in English.

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Um, I don't like my voice.

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I don't like to put me on the stage.

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Uh, and a lot of other things.

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The list is, is long.

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And for me, I tackle all those things one by one.

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Like, I'm not good enough, but I don't need to be good enough to do

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that, uh, because it's not about me.

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Uh, I'm not a native speaker, uh, in English, but I want to collect

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stories from English speakers.

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Um, I don't know anything about podcasting.

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I can ask to the wizard Mark so I can have the support that I need.

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So I, I really try to make this long, long list of things that were in

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between and really transform and change those, um, to overcome everything.

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And again, they're still there because I'm still feeling not good enough.

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Uh, I'm not sure about my English and these kind of things.

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It's not that they will disappear magically.

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Um, I'm still learning about podcasting, but it's just, they

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are with me, not against me, and it's a beautiful thing personally.

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Add that to the t-shirt list.

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Wow.

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Oh, Serena, thank you.

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Time has flown by amazingly.

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It's just really wonderful to just hear, everything that you're saying, despite

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it not being your native language.

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Thank you so much.

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Oh, uh, thank you.

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Thank you.

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I, I really mean it.

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Thank you.

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Um.

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Grazie mille.

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Grazie mille.

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Oh my god.

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I go back to something Kees Klomp said at Summer Camp years ago about

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how purpose comes from pain, and without pain, there is no purpose.

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And I think your story is just a great example of that.

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You've had some painful experiences in your life, but it's what you do with those

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and it feels like this is something that was gonna happen and maybe it's taken

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seven years to happen, but I'm just so excited about where this may go for you

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and so many people that you can help.

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So yeah, I think the thing I like about this is, like Carlos

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said, it's an unfolding story.

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It's not one that's been told.

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And so.

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I feel connected to it, and anyone who hears your story feels connected to it.

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And that's the magic here.

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So, yeah, I'm just grateful that you've, the way you just laugh, laugh

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through the fear, and move forward and have hopes and dreams and don't let

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those get drowned out by the fears.

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Super inspiring, so yeah.

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Thank you so much.

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Thank you.

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I'm really super grateful to have met both of you in the Happy Startup School.

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I think it was crucial for me to be part of the tribe because it was not only the

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support, but also the journey and the time that you gave to everyone, really

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unfold the idea and explore the idea.

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So I'm really grateful to both of you and to Thesal School, and I'm really grateful

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to my tribe and to Mark, and to Lana.

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I'm grateful to you for this story.

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I think it's so useful to hear about what is ultimately for

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me, a very creative endeavor.

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I think in the world of business, whenever we're investing in something

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or deciding to do something, there's this immediate, what's the ROI?

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You know, what's, what is it that I'm gonna get back from this?

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And I'm hearing this from your particular journey.

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Energy, clarity, courage, connection.

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You know, we teach a course on pricing.

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I have no idea how to put a number on that.

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What, what is the number that you put on that?

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And what is the number that people would put on hearing your voice

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and hearing your story and wanting to share the space with you?

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'cause they need to share their story.

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And so I think for me is a message to anyone listening to this is like, you

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can't necessarily put a price tag on everything in life and sometimes you

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just need to start something, do it, and, and just feel the energy, which

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are something I'm trying to learn.

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And your story is inspirational for me, so thank you.

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Thank you very much for sharing that.

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And maybe we can rethink her line and different say way like

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regeneration, optimism, and integrity.

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Boom.

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You're a natural Serena.