1 00:00:31,059 --> 00:00:33,459 Yeah, I'll turn 52. 2 00:00:34,419 --> 00:00:38,179 It's almost 70 years apart, so. 3 00:00:44,819 --> 00:00:46,459 All right, we'll have Brother Rens. 4 00:00:46,459 --> 00:00:52,699 Just a little bit of Yalls background and not, you know, short 5 00:00:52,699 --> 00:00:55,829 history about especially being called. 6 00:00:55,899 --> 00:00:58,619 Called to preach and being a missionary and something. 7 00:00:58,619 --> 00:00:59,099 All right. 8 00:01:02,219 --> 00:01:10,619 It was while we were in Haven, Kansas that the Lord called me into 9 00:01:10,619 --> 00:01:11,899 the ministry. 10 00:01:12,539 --> 00:01:18,619 And I had gotten saved a while back and things just weren't. 11 00:01:19,099 --> 00:01:20,699 Just weren't clicking very good. 12 00:01:20,779 --> 00:01:23,459 And I was kind of concerned about that. 13 00:01:23,459 --> 00:01:28,219 And so I asked the pastor, I said, what's going on? 14 00:01:28,539 --> 00:01:30,699 You know, I just, I don't understand that. 15 00:01:30,699 --> 00:01:34,059 He said, well, have you ever considered the fact that the Lord 16 00:01:34,059 --> 00:01:35,899 might be calling you into the ministry? 17 00:01:36,299 --> 00:01:40,379 And I said, no, I did not consider that. 18 00:01:41,499 --> 00:01:44,539 And so I didn't know what to do. 19 00:01:44,539 --> 00:01:47,859 But it kept following me around what he said. 20 00:01:47,859 --> 00:01:48,219 And. 21 00:01:48,879 --> 00:01:54,759 And so we began to pray about it and the Lord just made it heavy 22 00:01:54,759 --> 00:01:55,879 on my heart about that. 23 00:01:55,879 --> 00:01:58,719 And we began to. 24 00:01:58,799 --> 00:02:04,639 My wife and I matter of fact began to look into fields that we 25 00:02:04,639 --> 00:02:05,119 could go to. 26 00:02:05,119 --> 00:02:09,199 I had thought about going back to Vietnam as a missionary, but that 27 00:02:09,199 --> 00:02:12,959 became impossible to do. 28 00:02:13,759 --> 00:02:18,539 So we had to look at another service, another place to serve. 29 00:02:18,859 --> 00:02:23,339 And we had a book with all the mission countries in it. 30 00:02:23,819 --> 00:02:30,419 And so we kept looking through this book and I pray about it. 31 00:02:30,419 --> 00:02:32,539 And I kept coming back to Guatemala. 32 00:02:32,939 --> 00:02:35,819 I look at some more other countries in the missionary history, 33 00:02:36,619 --> 00:02:38,539 but I come back to Guatemala. 34 00:02:39,259 --> 00:02:42,619 So my wife one day, she says, you know where we're going yet? 35 00:02:43,299 --> 00:02:44,979 And I said, well, I think so. 36 00:02:45,219 --> 00:02:46,179 She said, where? 37 00:02:46,659 --> 00:02:48,539 And I said, guatemala. 38 00:02:48,539 --> 00:02:51,379 And you said, that's what I. 39 00:02:51,539 --> 00:02:54,419 The Lord laid on my heart because I looked at the same book. 40 00:02:54,499 --> 00:02:55,139 Amen. 41 00:02:55,939 --> 00:02:58,739 So that's how we got called in the ministry. 42 00:02:58,739 --> 00:03:01,299 And so how long you can keep that? 43 00:03:01,699 --> 00:03:02,979 So let's give it to her though. 44 00:03:04,419 --> 00:03:05,299 I'm just kidding. 45 00:03:05,379 --> 00:03:07,779 Yeah, I just took it from him because I wanted to. 46 00:03:09,759 --> 00:03:12,399 So how long were you in Guatemala? 47 00:03:14,479 --> 00:03:17,279 Missionaries, if you count. 48 00:03:17,679 --> 00:03:18,119 Yeah. 49 00:03:18,119 --> 00:03:19,479 Do you count our Bible colleges? 50 00:03:19,479 --> 00:03:19,799 Yes. 51 00:03:19,799 --> 00:03:20,039 Yeah. 52 00:03:20,039 --> 00:03:21,039 So about 20 years. 53 00:03:21,039 --> 00:03:21,639 20 years. 54 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:22,079 Yeah. 55 00:03:22,319 --> 00:03:23,039 So 20 years. 56 00:03:24,159 --> 00:03:27,479 Again your call call the ministry because it's kind of an 57 00:03:27,479 --> 00:03:31,279 unusual having give testimonies who are both called into 58 00:03:31,279 --> 00:03:31,879 the ministry. 59 00:03:31,879 --> 00:03:39,209 So yeah, we were called as a result of actually the Christian 60 00:03:39,209 --> 00:03:41,929 school that our kids went to in Ohio. 61 00:03:43,049 --> 00:03:51,009 We felt the Lord calling us in 2015 and we started attending the 62 00:03:51,009 --> 00:03:52,969 high school Bible class every day. 63 00:03:53,769 --> 00:03:57,129 Was able to run a small business so we could control our 64 00:03:57,129 --> 00:03:57,649 schedule. 65 00:03:57,649 --> 00:04:00,889 So Lee and I went to the high school Bible class every day for 66 00:04:00,889 --> 00:04:01,369 two years. 67 00:04:02,709 --> 00:04:06,069 The Administrator said, have you ever considered going to Bible 68 00:04:06,069 --> 00:04:06,389 school? 69 00:04:06,389 --> 00:04:08,629 I said, well, no, I think I've missed that. 70 00:04:09,189 --> 00:04:11,749 And he said, well, you should consider it. 71 00:04:12,709 --> 00:04:17,429 Long story short, I went and applied for correspondence. 72 00:04:17,429 --> 00:04:22,189 We both were going to enroll a correspondence and went to my pastor 73 00:04:22,189 --> 00:04:25,349 and he says, well, there's a preacher coming. 74 00:04:25,349 --> 00:04:26,949 His name is Raymond Barber. 75 00:04:28,399 --> 00:04:30,159 And I said, well, who's Raymond Barber? 76 00:04:32,159 --> 00:04:36,639 But he said, well, before you enroll, why don't you wait till he 77 00:04:36,639 --> 00:04:36,959 comes? 78 00:04:37,599 --> 00:04:42,159 He came to Dayton and presented Norris Bible Baptist Seminary. 79 00:04:42,559 --> 00:04:44,959 And I thought that was the craziest thing. 80 00:04:45,199 --> 00:04:49,999 I said, why would we move our family to Texas just for Bible school? 81 00:04:49,999 --> 00:04:51,919 There's Bible schools 30 minutes away. 82 00:04:53,049 --> 00:04:56,529 Well, the Lord put it on our heart that this is where God wanted 83 00:04:56,529 --> 00:04:56,729 us. 84 00:04:56,729 --> 00:04:59,089 So we came down with our family at that time. 85 00:04:59,089 --> 00:05:00,089 We had three kids. 86 00:05:00,249 --> 00:05:04,249 And we looked at the school, and without a shadow of a doubt, 87 00:05:04,249 --> 00:05:07,449 God confirmed that this is where he wanted us. 88 00:05:07,849 --> 00:05:10,729 And it took two years for us to get here. 89 00:05:11,609 --> 00:05:13,769 But the Lord really just. 90 00:05:15,689 --> 00:05:20,319 That was the process of being called into the ministry was coming 91 00:05:20,319 --> 00:05:21,119 to Norris. 92 00:05:21,679 --> 00:05:22,079 So. 93 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:30,039 All right, well, we'll get into the questions that I give. 94 00:05:30,039 --> 00:05:32,279 I said I wasn't going to ask any other questions besides the one 95 00:05:32,279 --> 00:05:33,999 that was on the paper, but I already lied. 96 00:05:34,079 --> 00:05:37,239 So pretty well, it opens up to anything now, doesn't it? 97 00:05:37,239 --> 00:05:38,319 So I'm just kidding. 98 00:05:38,879 --> 00:05:41,119 We'll stick to the paper. 99 00:05:41,439 --> 00:05:44,279 But again, I appreciate these two couples willingness to come and 100 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:44,609 do this. 101 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:46,039 So we'll start with. 102 00:05:47,239 --> 00:05:48,439 And you can choose who. 103 00:05:48,519 --> 00:05:51,399 Who answers the question first or whoever wants to do that. 104 00:05:51,399 --> 00:05:52,679 So when and where did you. 105 00:05:52,679 --> 00:05:53,479 You guys meet? 106 00:05:58,439 --> 00:05:58,919 Yeah. 107 00:05:59,559 --> 00:06:00,119 Okay. 108 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:01,879 We met in Topeka, Kansas. 109 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:03,559 I gotta have the mic. 110 00:06:05,879 --> 00:06:09,679 We met in Topeka, Kansas, because I was in the military at 111 00:06:09,679 --> 00:06:12,689 a Air Force base just south of Topeka. 112 00:06:13,089 --> 00:06:15,729 And that's how we met. 113 00:06:15,729 --> 00:06:23,289 In fact, we met in church in Sunday schools where I actually met 114 00:06:23,289 --> 00:06:23,649 her. 115 00:06:24,209 --> 00:06:30,449 And she said she thought that I looked like the guy she liked to 116 00:06:30,449 --> 00:06:30,849 be around. 117 00:06:31,969 --> 00:06:34,449 And she stuck around ever since. 118 00:06:34,449 --> 00:06:36,849 Remember, she's going to get the last say here in a second. 119 00:06:38,579 --> 00:06:39,619 This is the way it was. 120 00:06:41,539 --> 00:06:43,139 It was Topeka, Kansas. 121 00:06:43,539 --> 00:06:45,179 I worked in Topeka, Kansas. 122 00:06:45,179 --> 00:06:48,699 That wasn't my home, but I worked there. 123 00:06:48,699 --> 00:06:51,019 And I went to church at Community Baptist Church. 124 00:06:51,019 --> 00:06:54,859 And he and his friend came from the air base. 125 00:06:54,859 --> 00:06:57,459 They hitchhiked seven miles, it was. 126 00:06:58,019 --> 00:06:59,859 And they had come across that church. 127 00:06:59,939 --> 00:07:01,459 So they came to church. 128 00:07:01,699 --> 00:07:04,789 And I was looking at him in the class. 129 00:07:04,789 --> 00:07:08,389 It was a college and career class, and our pastor taught that 130 00:07:08,389 --> 00:07:08,709 class. 131 00:07:08,709 --> 00:07:12,269 And anyway, he had us, like, sitting in a Semicircle. 132 00:07:12,269 --> 00:07:16,069 So they were kind of like over there from where I was. 133 00:07:16,069 --> 00:07:21,949 And I noticed him, and I thought he was looking back at me. 134 00:07:22,429 --> 00:07:26,749 And later he told me that his friend said she was looking at me. 135 00:07:26,909 --> 00:07:27,389 Yeah. 136 00:07:28,029 --> 00:07:30,189 And apparently both looking at each other. 137 00:07:30,749 --> 00:07:33,309 And he said, well, I thought she was looking at me. 138 00:07:34,189 --> 00:07:35,669 Anyway, I was looking at him. 139 00:07:35,669 --> 00:07:36,109 Yeah. 140 00:07:38,189 --> 00:07:41,469 Whichever one of y' all again, when and where did y' all meet? 141 00:07:42,829 --> 00:07:43,869 We met in. 142 00:07:45,229 --> 00:07:52,789 In 8th grade and junior high, and he had to break his arm to get 143 00:07:52,789 --> 00:07:54,989 me to notice him and. 144 00:07:56,809 --> 00:07:59,529 And getting in some trouble in class, and so. 145 00:08:00,969 --> 00:08:02,329 And it really. 146 00:08:03,049 --> 00:08:04,809 That's really where it started. 147 00:08:06,489 --> 00:08:10,569 Yeah, I broke my wrist, and I needed someone to take notes, so 148 00:08:11,449 --> 00:08:12,889 it worked, you know? 149 00:08:13,529 --> 00:08:18,769 And then she was my science partner, so we dissected frogs and 150 00:08:18,769 --> 00:08:20,809 all that fun stuff, too, together, so. 151 00:08:20,969 --> 00:08:22,579 Had an interesting start. 152 00:08:25,379 --> 00:08:25,739 So. 153 00:08:25,739 --> 00:08:27,219 Known each other since the eighth grade. 154 00:08:27,219 --> 00:08:28,179 Since the eighth grade. 155 00:08:28,179 --> 00:08:28,699 That's awesome. 156 00:08:28,699 --> 00:08:29,619 Yes, that's awesome. 157 00:08:30,099 --> 00:08:32,019 And then while you're in the military. 158 00:08:32,019 --> 00:08:32,579 That's great. 159 00:08:33,219 --> 00:08:34,739 All right, we'll start back with you guys. 160 00:08:34,739 --> 00:08:35,059 How. 161 00:08:35,059 --> 00:08:36,579 How long have y' all been married? 162 00:08:37,459 --> 00:08:39,139 Yeah, you might want to get her to answer it. 163 00:08:41,299 --> 00:08:42,059 We've been married. 164 00:08:42,059 --> 00:08:46,339 Well, it'll be 16 years April 28th, and we've been together for 165 00:08:46,339 --> 00:08:46,979 21 years. 166 00:08:47,789 --> 00:08:48,429 That's awesome. 167 00:08:48,909 --> 00:08:49,789 How long y' all been. 168 00:08:49,949 --> 00:08:50,789 Okay, go ahead. 169 00:08:50,789 --> 00:08:53,549 We've been married 61 and a half years. 170 00:08:53,549 --> 00:08:54,069 Okay. 171 00:08:54,069 --> 00:08:54,589 Amen. 172 00:08:54,589 --> 00:08:55,309 That's awesome. 173 00:08:55,309 --> 00:08:56,109 Give him a hand. 174 00:08:59,149 --> 00:09:02,029 That is a long time for you to put up with him, I'm telling you. 175 00:09:07,789 --> 00:09:08,189 No. 176 00:09:08,349 --> 00:09:11,709 Not a lot of roller skating today, but. 177 00:09:11,709 --> 00:09:14,939 Yeah, I think my mom and dad used to roller skate, too. 178 00:09:16,849 --> 00:09:17,729 Yeah, I thought so. 179 00:09:17,729 --> 00:09:18,209 Yeah. 180 00:09:18,369 --> 00:09:19,169 That's where she. 181 00:09:19,169 --> 00:09:20,049 That's where they met. 182 00:09:21,089 --> 00:09:25,329 All right, so again, 61 years. 183 00:09:25,889 --> 00:09:27,169 That's awesome. 184 00:09:28,129 --> 00:09:30,289 What do y' all enjoy doing together? 185 00:09:33,009 --> 00:09:39,489 We like to take day trips, different places, and just. 186 00:09:39,649 --> 00:09:45,669 Especially visit smaller towns and just look around and town squares, 187 00:09:45,669 --> 00:09:47,549 that type of thing, and. 188 00:09:48,269 --> 00:09:49,869 Got any other thing to add to that? 189 00:09:49,869 --> 00:09:50,909 And shopping with it. 190 00:09:50,909 --> 00:09:51,829 Oh, and shopping. 191 00:09:51,829 --> 00:09:53,149 Yeah, shopping with it. 192 00:09:53,709 --> 00:09:55,149 Should have known better than I did. 193 00:09:55,949 --> 00:09:56,669 And eating. 194 00:09:57,069 --> 00:09:57,709 And eating. 195 00:09:57,709 --> 00:09:58,349 And eating. 196 00:09:58,429 --> 00:09:59,269 Yeah, that's a. 197 00:09:59,269 --> 00:09:59,709 That's. 198 00:09:59,869 --> 00:10:00,429 Yeah. 199 00:10:00,989 --> 00:10:04,229 So visiting the small towns around the area and. 200 00:10:04,229 --> 00:10:05,029 Yes, that's good. 201 00:10:05,029 --> 00:10:06,269 Have you ever been to Nakona? 202 00:10:06,899 --> 00:10:07,219 Yes. 203 00:10:07,219 --> 00:10:08,419 Yeah, they have been. 204 00:10:08,579 --> 00:10:10,019 Their downtown's amazing. 205 00:10:10,019 --> 00:10:14,539 So for a small town, some millionaire did all that work. 206 00:10:14,539 --> 00:10:17,619 By the way, what do y' all like to do together? 207 00:10:17,619 --> 00:10:19,139 We like to go out to eat. 208 00:10:19,779 --> 00:10:21,779 That's mainly what I like to do. 209 00:10:21,779 --> 00:10:23,139 So she just comes with me. 210 00:10:24,419 --> 00:10:26,579 Yeah, we enjoy a Good dinner. 211 00:10:26,579 --> 00:10:28,739 And you want to add anything. 212 00:10:29,299 --> 00:10:30,019 Shopping. 213 00:10:30,099 --> 00:10:31,619 We like to go shopping, too. 214 00:10:33,989 --> 00:10:35,149 And I try to prepare him. 215 00:10:35,149 --> 00:10:35,829 Like, we're not. 216 00:10:35,829 --> 00:10:38,349 We're not buying anything, but we're gonna dilly dally. 217 00:10:38,349 --> 00:10:38,669 Okay. 218 00:10:38,669 --> 00:10:39,589 Just prepare yourself. 219 00:10:39,589 --> 00:10:40,549 That's what we're doing. 220 00:10:41,189 --> 00:10:41,909 So we. 221 00:10:42,949 --> 00:10:44,109 I don't like to dilly dally. 222 00:10:44,109 --> 00:10:44,549 Yeah. 223 00:10:45,829 --> 00:10:47,669 I'm sure some of y' all have seen the. 224 00:10:48,309 --> 00:10:49,869 One of the reels or whatever you call them. 225 00:10:49,869 --> 00:10:52,549 I don't know, whatever you call them, where it's the man and 226 00:10:52,709 --> 00:10:54,269 the wife steps out of the house. 227 00:10:54,269 --> 00:10:57,989 He steps out with her, and there's these things pop up. 228 00:10:57,989 --> 00:11:04,359 It says, you know, $20 at Starbucks or $65 at, you know, wherever. 229 00:11:04,599 --> 00:11:08,159 And then $100 at this place, and it's like four or $500. 230 00:11:08,159 --> 00:11:10,879 And he steps back in the house with her, and he just walks out by 231 00:11:10,879 --> 00:11:13,079 himself, and there's nothing. 232 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:16,319 And then he walks back in, grabs her, comes back out, and here 233 00:11:16,319 --> 00:11:17,399 all the things pop up again. 234 00:11:17,639 --> 00:11:18,359 I love that. 235 00:11:18,359 --> 00:11:19,159 That's awesome. 236 00:11:20,199 --> 00:11:21,039 I'm sorry, ladies. 237 00:11:21,039 --> 00:11:22,039 I shouldn't have done that. 238 00:11:22,519 --> 00:11:22,839 But. 239 00:11:22,839 --> 00:11:27,769 No, I think most of us would say that we fall within that area, 240 00:11:27,849 --> 00:11:28,209 too. 241 00:11:28,209 --> 00:11:29,289 My wife and I enjoy. 242 00:11:30,249 --> 00:11:35,129 We enjoy flea markets and antique stores and just, you know, 243 00:11:35,929 --> 00:11:39,609 walking around and doing things like that. 244 00:11:39,849 --> 00:11:41,528 I enjoy eating, as you can tell. 245 00:11:43,049 --> 00:11:43,689 All right. 246 00:11:46,009 --> 00:11:47,369 And that kind of goes back to. 247 00:11:47,609 --> 00:11:48,969 What is your favorite date night? 248 00:11:49,529 --> 00:11:50,409 Is that kind of. 249 00:11:51,619 --> 00:11:54,339 Yeah, it would be going out for a nice meal. 250 00:11:54,339 --> 00:11:54,619 We. 251 00:11:54,619 --> 00:11:55,979 We like day trips as well. 252 00:11:55,979 --> 00:12:00,899 We'll take a short trip somewhere and see the sights or the 253 00:12:00,899 --> 00:12:01,859 shopping or. 254 00:12:01,859 --> 00:12:02,819 And then come back. 255 00:12:03,779 --> 00:12:06,179 So along the same lines, favorite date. 256 00:12:06,179 --> 00:12:08,139 Night, going out to eat. 257 00:12:08,139 --> 00:12:08,579 Yeah. 258 00:12:09,539 --> 00:12:15,099 Just look at what everybody does, is find a good place to go 259 00:12:15,099 --> 00:12:15,539 eat. 260 00:12:15,859 --> 00:12:17,259 And it doesn't have to be expensive. 261 00:12:17,259 --> 00:12:18,959 I always like to remind young couples, especially. 262 00:12:19,029 --> 00:12:20,949 Especially if you're first married, you don't have the resources 263 00:12:21,669 --> 00:12:24,629 maybe, to eat out or whatever the case is, to spend that kind of 264 00:12:24,629 --> 00:12:24,869 money. 265 00:12:25,749 --> 00:12:26,389 You know, go. 266 00:12:26,629 --> 00:12:29,589 Go somewhere, get a good piece of, you know, good piece of pie and 267 00:12:29,589 --> 00:12:31,429 just sit down and fellowship and talk to each other. 268 00:12:31,989 --> 00:12:34,149 And we used to. 269 00:12:34,149 --> 00:12:35,989 My wife and I did used to. 270 00:12:36,309 --> 00:12:38,469 Before, years ago, we used to go to. 271 00:12:39,029 --> 00:12:40,709 We would go to a movie every once in a while. 272 00:12:40,709 --> 00:12:44,069 We were very selective of where we went and what we watched. 273 00:12:44,069 --> 00:12:48,429 And so I haven't been to one since before COVID They haven't made 274 00:12:48,429 --> 00:12:50,069 a decent one since then, so. 275 00:12:50,629 --> 00:12:51,109 Yeah. 276 00:12:51,189 --> 00:12:53,029 And mostly I went to the cartoon ones. 277 00:12:53,829 --> 00:12:54,229 Yeah. 278 00:12:54,229 --> 00:12:55,749 The minions and things like that. 279 00:12:55,749 --> 00:12:56,149 Yeah. 280 00:12:58,229 --> 00:13:01,629 I would like to mention at the beginning of our marriage when we 281 00:13:01,629 --> 00:13:04,069 had little kids and we were on a budget. 282 00:13:04,389 --> 00:13:09,229 One thing especially for Valentine's Day one year we had it 283 00:13:09,229 --> 00:13:09,669 at home. 284 00:13:10,149 --> 00:13:14,149 I rearranged the furniture in the living room and I, you know, 285 00:13:14,149 --> 00:13:17,509 I cooked a dinner and we just had our, you know, our Valentine's 286 00:13:17,509 --> 00:13:19,549 Day at home after the kids went to bed. 287 00:13:19,549 --> 00:13:22,029 But that was just something different that we did. 288 00:13:22,029 --> 00:13:22,349 And. 289 00:13:24,989 --> 00:13:27,709 Again, when you, when you, when you lack resources, you got 290 00:13:27,709 --> 00:13:28,509 to be creative. 291 00:13:28,589 --> 00:13:30,109 And so we were the same way. 292 00:13:31,389 --> 00:13:34,269 And there's always things you can do together that doesn't cost 293 00:13:34,269 --> 00:13:34,909 a lot of money. 294 00:13:35,709 --> 00:13:40,759 But I will say on that, go ahead and Dr. Rens give him. 295 00:13:40,759 --> 00:13:45,799 Yeah, our night outs are more like lunches out now. 296 00:13:47,879 --> 00:13:49,319 I actually prefer that as well. 297 00:13:49,639 --> 00:13:50,799 My bedtime's 9:00'. 298 00:13:50,799 --> 00:13:51,079 Clock. 299 00:13:51,719 --> 00:13:55,719 Yeah, we don't like to be out late night driving around the metroplex 300 00:13:55,719 --> 00:13:59,519 especially, so we can go whenever we want anyway, any day 301 00:13:59,519 --> 00:13:59,959 of the week. 302 00:13:59,959 --> 00:14:02,999 But we like to go out to lunch at different places. 303 00:14:02,999 --> 00:14:03,319 So. 304 00:14:03,319 --> 00:14:03,779 Yeah. 305 00:14:04,889 --> 00:14:06,129 And we found ourselves doing that. 306 00:14:06,129 --> 00:14:06,329 We. 307 00:14:06,329 --> 00:14:08,369 I've kind of gotten a rut where I don't do it as much, but 308 00:14:08,369 --> 00:14:12,409 we had we here maybe a couple years ago, said, okay, let's just. 309 00:14:13,289 --> 00:14:15,769 Because I actually, y' all wouldn't believe this about me, but 310 00:14:15,769 --> 00:14:17,929 I eat the same place every time, right? 311 00:14:18,809 --> 00:14:21,409 So I told my wife, I said, some of y' all are looking at your 312 00:14:21,409 --> 00:14:22,009 husband's going. 313 00:14:23,529 --> 00:14:26,529 I told my wife, said, we'll start trying different spots, you 314 00:14:26,529 --> 00:14:28,249 know, and we challenged. 315 00:14:28,489 --> 00:14:28,929 Anyway. 316 00:14:28,929 --> 00:14:29,489 We did that for a while. 317 00:14:29,489 --> 00:14:32,579 It's a good, good idea just to kind of try different spots and different 318 00:14:32,579 --> 00:14:34,459 areas anyway. 319 00:14:36,139 --> 00:14:37,939 Because what happens when you drive out of the parking lot? 320 00:14:37,939 --> 00:14:38,939 What do you usually say? 321 00:14:39,179 --> 00:14:39,819 What do you. 322 00:14:39,819 --> 00:14:40,539 What do you want? 323 00:14:40,539 --> 00:14:41,259 I don't care. 324 00:14:41,899 --> 00:14:43,659 I love again, I don't care. 325 00:14:43,659 --> 00:14:44,019 I don't care. 326 00:14:44,019 --> 00:14:44,659 It's not a place. 327 00:14:44,659 --> 00:14:46,139 We gotta find someplace to go. 328 00:14:46,619 --> 00:14:48,579 So you've been there? 329 00:14:48,579 --> 00:14:52,139 Yeah, been there before, but. 330 00:14:54,459 --> 00:14:56,899 All right, we'll start back with brother Ren. 331 00:14:56,899 --> 00:14:59,459 So what is your favorite thing about each other? 332 00:15:01,779 --> 00:15:08,299 Well, I know for one thing that she's a detailed person and 333 00:15:08,299 --> 00:15:09,459 she keeps me on track. 334 00:15:12,419 --> 00:15:14,179 Is that your favorite thing about her? 335 00:15:16,659 --> 00:15:17,939 No, but that's one thing. 336 00:15:17,939 --> 00:15:18,699 That's one thing. 337 00:15:18,699 --> 00:15:20,259 Okay, One thing amongst other. 338 00:15:22,429 --> 00:15:28,109 I really appreciate the fact that she's not only she a good wife, 339 00:15:28,109 --> 00:15:32,269 but she's a good mother to our kids. 340 00:15:32,269 --> 00:15:36,949 And she's also a good grandmother to our grandchildren. 341 00:15:36,949 --> 00:15:38,509 She keeps up with all of that. 342 00:15:42,829 --> 00:15:48,599 Well, I like the fact that from the time I first met him, well, 343 00:15:48,599 --> 00:15:49,639 he made Me laugh. 344 00:15:49,639 --> 00:15:51,239 I didn't grow up in a home. 345 00:15:52,919 --> 00:15:57,119 We weren't, you know, sad and mad or anything like that, but it's 346 00:15:57,119 --> 00:16:02,359 just that my parents weren't the jokesters or anything like that. 347 00:16:02,359 --> 00:16:05,159 And he just would say funny things. 348 00:16:05,159 --> 00:16:08,319 And he was from the east coast and I grew up in Kansas. 349 00:16:08,319 --> 00:16:08,999 So it was. 350 00:16:09,559 --> 00:16:13,319 Anyway, anyways, made me laugh. 351 00:16:13,319 --> 00:16:18,999 And then with the kids, he would always make things fun out 352 00:16:18,999 --> 00:16:26,519 of something that could be bad and get him turned around to a different 353 00:16:26,519 --> 00:16:32,039 direction and not think about things to make him so sad or something 354 00:16:32,039 --> 00:16:32,639 like that. 355 00:16:33,199 --> 00:16:40,159 I've always appreciated that he can lighten up a situation amongst 356 00:16:40,159 --> 00:16:43,949 a lot of other things, especially now that we're retired. 357 00:16:45,389 --> 00:16:48,589 He does half of the housework or more. 358 00:16:49,069 --> 00:16:50,989 And so I appreciate that a lot. 359 00:16:53,389 --> 00:16:57,469 Brother Billy, you want to come testify, Brother Billy? 360 00:16:58,669 --> 00:16:58,949 No. 361 00:16:58,949 --> 00:17:02,629 And I think I've heard lots of stories about y' all because of the 362 00:17:02,629 --> 00:17:06,669 trips, mission trips and other things with your daughter and others. 363 00:17:08,119 --> 00:17:11,799 You know, just again, the testimony of while y' all were in 364 00:17:11,799 --> 00:17:16,919 Guatemala and how y' all handled that as parents and to be 365 00:17:16,919 --> 00:17:17,399 commended. 366 00:17:17,399 --> 00:17:22,839 And just again, 61 years being a missionary. 367 00:17:23,399 --> 00:17:27,319 In relation to this being a missionary, one thing it does do 368 00:17:27,559 --> 00:17:35,529 to you is it really makes your family closer together because you're 369 00:17:35,529 --> 00:17:40,249 not living in your natural culture and all that you have is 370 00:17:40,809 --> 00:17:41,529 the family. 371 00:17:42,489 --> 00:17:47,929 And so that's a positive side, I think, of missionary work. 372 00:17:49,529 --> 00:17:50,329 All right, brother. 373 00:17:50,649 --> 00:17:53,049 Ms. Leah, what is your favorite thing about him? 374 00:17:54,249 --> 00:17:55,369 Let me see what I wrote down. 375 00:17:55,369 --> 00:17:56,329 You got it wrote down. 376 00:17:59,309 --> 00:18:00,509 No, really. 377 00:18:00,909 --> 00:18:05,829 I think the sense of security I feel when I'm with him, you know, 378 00:18:05,829 --> 00:18:11,669 I feel protected, I feel safe with him, and the confidence that 379 00:18:11,669 --> 00:18:14,588 he carries just steadies me. 380 00:18:14,989 --> 00:18:18,669 And I think that's my favorite thing about him. 381 00:18:20,829 --> 00:18:22,029 Amongst other things. 382 00:18:22,109 --> 00:18:23,189 Amongst many things. 383 00:18:23,189 --> 00:18:23,789 That's good. 384 00:18:24,649 --> 00:18:29,769 My favorite thing about Leah is I really could name the mother, 385 00:18:29,769 --> 00:18:33,449 the wife, my friend, you know, we enjoy laughing together. 386 00:18:34,569 --> 00:18:38,729 But for real, practically speaking, it's the trust that she 387 00:18:39,369 --> 00:18:44,569 gives me and that helps me able to do the things that I need 388 00:18:44,569 --> 00:18:46,249 to do is because she trusts me. 389 00:18:46,249 --> 00:18:50,639 I mean, we left Ohio, packed up, came to Texas, left Texas, went. 390 00:18:50,709 --> 00:18:52,229 Went to Ohio and came back. 391 00:18:52,229 --> 00:18:53,989 I mean, that is. 392 00:18:54,949 --> 00:18:57,189 I really, really appreciate that about her. 393 00:18:58,069 --> 00:19:01,669 And I think what Ms. Leah was saying, too, if you read the book, 394 00:19:01,669 --> 00:19:05,109 and I encourage you, if you haven't read the book, his needs, 395 00:19:05,109 --> 00:19:05,829 her needs. 396 00:19:06,149 --> 00:19:09,909 It's a really good book about the five things. 397 00:19:11,029 --> 00:19:13,509 And again, they did their surveys and they have done their 398 00:19:13,509 --> 00:19:13,989 studies. 399 00:19:14,149 --> 00:19:15,469 Five things that a woman needs. 400 00:19:15,469 --> 00:19:16,869 Five things that A man need. 401 00:19:17,459 --> 00:19:21,859 And one of those high up on the list of a lady for a woman is 402 00:19:22,259 --> 00:19:27,699 again, having that security of their husband that their husband 403 00:19:27,699 --> 00:19:30,979 creates that security in the home, whether it's financial or whether 404 00:19:30,979 --> 00:19:33,699 it's protection and feeling that is so important. 405 00:19:34,419 --> 00:19:36,259 Men for the wife. 406 00:19:36,339 --> 00:19:37,219 Absolutely. 407 00:19:38,419 --> 00:19:40,419 And then again, so much there. 408 00:19:40,419 --> 00:19:41,939 Communication and all those things. 409 00:19:42,099 --> 00:19:43,139 And that's why we do. 410 00:19:43,449 --> 00:19:47,249 One of the reasons why we have them talk about where do you go for 411 00:19:47,249 --> 00:19:47,689 date night? 412 00:19:47,689 --> 00:19:48,889 What do you like to do together? 413 00:19:49,449 --> 00:19:52,769 Because one of the keys to marriage and probably the key for 414 00:19:52,769 --> 00:19:57,449 the woman is communication and having that time together, talking 415 00:19:57,449 --> 00:19:58,969 together, spending time together. 416 00:19:59,369 --> 00:19:59,929 And so. 417 00:19:59,929 --> 00:20:00,969 So very, very important. 418 00:20:01,289 --> 00:20:01,689 So. 419 00:20:02,089 --> 00:20:04,969 All right, we'll start back over here. 420 00:20:06,089 --> 00:20:10,579 Let's see what is the worst gift you've gotten each other? 421 00:20:12,019 --> 00:20:13,819 So what's the worst gift she's given you? 422 00:20:13,819 --> 00:20:14,179 Are. 423 00:20:14,259 --> 00:20:15,259 Are she wants to start. 424 00:20:15,259 --> 00:20:15,699 Yeah. 425 00:20:16,579 --> 00:20:18,299 Honestly, I had to really think about this. 426 00:20:18,299 --> 00:20:22,259 I honestly cannot think of a gift that he. 427 00:20:22,819 --> 00:20:24,419 A bad gift that he's given me. 428 00:20:24,739 --> 00:20:27,379 Either that or I've emotionally blocked him. 429 00:20:27,619 --> 00:20:28,419 I don't know. 430 00:20:29,699 --> 00:20:33,179 So, yeah, I. I can say the same thing. 431 00:20:33,179 --> 00:20:37,619 I don't think I've gotten a bad gift, but I have given a bet. 432 00:20:38,339 --> 00:20:38,819 Yeah. 433 00:20:38,899 --> 00:20:40,019 Well, no, I have given. 434 00:20:40,979 --> 00:20:42,419 I'll share this story with you. 435 00:20:42,419 --> 00:20:43,019 So it's not. 436 00:20:43,019 --> 00:20:47,299 It wasn't a gift, but it was a situation that I gave to her. 437 00:20:47,299 --> 00:20:51,379 And so when we were first dating, we were. 438 00:20:51,539 --> 00:20:52,739 We had a. 439 00:20:52,739 --> 00:20:55,059 We fellowshipped intensely. 440 00:20:55,139 --> 00:20:58,859 You know, we weren't fighting, but we were just fellowshiping very, 441 00:20:58,859 --> 00:21:00,179 very aggressively. 442 00:21:00,739 --> 00:21:02,869 And she. 443 00:21:02,949 --> 00:21:07,109 Long story short, she wanted to go eat somewhere that I didn't 444 00:21:07,109 --> 00:21:09,429 want to go, but she was insisting on it. 445 00:21:09,429 --> 00:21:14,229 So we went and I decided to go through the drive through in reverse 446 00:21:14,229 --> 00:21:15,669 and make her order it. 447 00:21:16,469 --> 00:21:17,509 And so that was. 448 00:21:17,509 --> 00:21:18,869 That's an awesome idea. 449 00:21:19,109 --> 00:21:19,629 Yeah. 450 00:21:19,629 --> 00:21:23,149 I don't recommend it because she really won't let me live it down. 451 00:21:23,149 --> 00:21:25,189 And every time she's like, please pull forward. 452 00:21:27,669 --> 00:21:28,549 That is awesome. 453 00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:32,519 So you went in reverse through the drive through? 454 00:21:32,679 --> 00:21:33,159 Yes. 455 00:21:35,799 --> 00:21:36,679 I could see that. 456 00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:39,319 This was done in Ohio. 457 00:21:39,319 --> 00:21:40,279 This was done in Ohio. 458 00:21:40,279 --> 00:21:41,279 That's why I was in Texas. 459 00:21:41,279 --> 00:21:42,239 It probably been okay. 460 00:21:42,239 --> 00:21:43,079 But in Ohio. 461 00:21:43,079 --> 00:21:44,399 Yeah, yeah, Texas. 462 00:21:44,399 --> 00:21:45,959 They'd go like, that happens every day. 463 00:21:47,159 --> 00:21:47,959 That's awesome. 464 00:21:48,839 --> 00:21:50,599 Now, I wouldn't do it because my wife. 465 00:21:51,559 --> 00:21:53,479 Because we were in fellowshipping intensely. 466 00:21:53,479 --> 00:21:54,079 That's not the reason. 467 00:21:54,079 --> 00:21:55,959 That wouldn't be my motivation for doing that. 468 00:21:56,329 --> 00:21:57,769 My motivation for doing that would be. 469 00:21:58,329 --> 00:21:59,049 Yeah, yeah. 470 00:21:59,049 --> 00:22:00,569 Drive throughs are irritating to me. 471 00:22:00,729 --> 00:22:01,409 I'm gonna. 472 00:22:01,409 --> 00:22:02,569 I did it the other day. 473 00:22:02,569 --> 00:22:06,969 I drove up past my window and had her order because she was sitting 474 00:22:06,969 --> 00:22:07,769 in the back with. 475 00:22:08,009 --> 00:22:08,409 Yeah. 476 00:22:08,409 --> 00:22:11,209 And I had her order from the back. 477 00:22:11,849 --> 00:22:12,929 From the back seat. 478 00:22:12,929 --> 00:22:13,369 Yeah. 479 00:22:14,089 --> 00:22:18,889 Because most people who give orders or take orders from. 480 00:22:19,049 --> 00:22:19,609 Yeah. 481 00:22:20,089 --> 00:22:20,969 Are inept. 482 00:22:25,939 --> 00:22:30,379 Or the people who are giving you the orders. 483 00:22:30,379 --> 00:22:34,939 Like the people in your car that are supposed to be telling you 484 00:22:34,939 --> 00:22:35,539 what they want. 485 00:22:36,899 --> 00:22:38,259 I don't want to talk about it. 486 00:22:39,059 --> 00:22:42,179 Like, okay, it says a number one, but you know they're going to 487 00:22:42,179 --> 00:22:43,859 ask you, do you want fries with that? 488 00:22:44,819 --> 00:22:46,059 What kind of drink do you want? 489 00:22:46,059 --> 00:22:50,259 But no, they don't tell the people in the car, we should move 490 00:22:50,259 --> 00:22:50,459 on. 491 00:22:50,459 --> 00:22:50,779 Right. 492 00:22:53,579 --> 00:22:54,939 We have to do counseling after that. 493 00:22:54,939 --> 00:22:56,059 Especially if you have kids. 494 00:22:56,059 --> 00:22:56,299 Right. 495 00:22:56,299 --> 00:22:56,979 Your kids are. 496 00:22:56,979 --> 00:22:58,099 You're like, what do you want? 497 00:22:58,099 --> 00:23:00,179 And finally you just say, oh, I'm just gonna order for you. 498 00:23:00,179 --> 00:23:01,019 And just order something. 499 00:23:01,899 --> 00:23:02,779 Whatever you want. 500 00:23:02,859 --> 00:23:03,418 Yeah. 501 00:23:03,499 --> 00:23:04,299 Never done that. 502 00:23:06,059 --> 00:23:07,819 I would say my wife would agree. 503 00:23:08,379 --> 00:23:12,139 Top 10 most stressful things in my life is a drive thru. 504 00:23:13,749 --> 00:23:16,469 Top 10 good. 505 00:23:16,469 --> 00:23:17,429 I appreciate you. 506 00:23:17,509 --> 00:23:19,109 Somebody else who feels the same way. 507 00:23:19,749 --> 00:23:22,589 All right, brother Rins, what's the worst gift you've ever 508 00:23:22,589 --> 00:23:23,349 gotten each other? 509 00:23:23,349 --> 00:23:24,629 Well, both of us talk. 510 00:23:24,709 --> 00:23:27,749 Talked about it, and we're kind of like the Barkers. 511 00:23:27,749 --> 00:23:31,509 Really couldn't think of anything particularly that was bad 512 00:23:31,509 --> 00:23:33,269 or anything that we've gotten. 513 00:23:33,989 --> 00:23:36,469 So I could say probably nothing. 514 00:23:37,749 --> 00:23:38,229 Yes. 515 00:23:39,439 --> 00:23:39,759 Yeah. 516 00:23:39,839 --> 00:23:42,279 Brother Clovis, would you like to come up and repeat one of y'? 517 00:23:42,279 --> 00:23:42,399 Alls? 518 00:23:42,399 --> 00:23:44,559 Because Yalls is like one of the best ones ever. 519 00:23:45,279 --> 00:23:45,999 A brick. 520 00:23:46,159 --> 00:23:46,919 Yeah, the brick. 521 00:23:46,919 --> 00:23:48,959 That was the greatest story of all time. 522 00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:53,519 Chris, Wasn't you, brother Clovis, that said that you don't 523 00:23:53,519 --> 00:23:56,639 think that really happened and something I don't remember now. 524 00:23:56,639 --> 00:23:56,999 So. 525 00:23:56,999 --> 00:23:58,079 Yeah, it was Judy. 526 00:23:59,439 --> 00:24:01,119 Everybody believes Judy, which is. 527 00:24:03,929 --> 00:24:05,569 That was it shoes in two different boxes. 528 00:24:05,569 --> 00:24:05,929 Yeah. 529 00:24:06,009 --> 00:24:08,169 Yeah, that was good. 530 00:24:08,169 --> 00:24:08,569 All right. 531 00:24:08,569 --> 00:24:13,009 I will repeat what I repeat every year that I got my wife on 532 00:24:13,009 --> 00:24:14,089 the first Christmas. 533 00:24:14,809 --> 00:24:19,529 A jogging type suit, like a sweat pant bottoms and top. 534 00:24:19,848 --> 00:24:22,849 I bought them at what used to be called Bill's. 535 00:24:22,849 --> 00:24:25,289 Anybody ever heard it's like a Dollar General? 536 00:24:25,929 --> 00:24:32,049 And I went in there and it was green, but it was from Dollar General. 537 00:24:32,129 --> 00:24:34,929 So the green didn't really. 538 00:24:35,089 --> 00:24:38,129 I mean, the greens were close in matching each other. 539 00:24:38,929 --> 00:24:40,129 They were not that close. 540 00:24:40,609 --> 00:24:42,689 It wasn't because they weren't supposed to match. 541 00:24:42,689 --> 00:24:46,689 It was because it was from a dollar store. 542 00:24:46,849 --> 00:24:47,409 Yeah. 543 00:24:47,729 --> 00:24:48,529 And it just was. 544 00:24:50,449 --> 00:24:51,729 I don't remember how I wrapped it. 545 00:24:55,419 --> 00:24:55,619 Yeah. 546 00:24:55,619 --> 00:24:56,659 Like a Quaker State oil. 547 00:24:56,659 --> 00:24:57,339 Oil box. 548 00:24:58,619 --> 00:24:59,099 Yeah. 549 00:25:07,499 --> 00:25:09,099 Okay, I'm gonna give a follow up. 550 00:25:09,179 --> 00:25:10,539 I'm going to Follow up story. 551 00:25:11,178 --> 00:25:12,779 So most of y' all have heard this one. 552 00:25:13,339 --> 00:25:16,859 This has been a couple years ago, for Christmas, she'd been complaining 553 00:25:16,859 --> 00:25:17,659 about her toaster. 554 00:25:17,899 --> 00:25:20,739 And by the way, this is a good learning experience. 555 00:25:20,739 --> 00:25:24,969 And I always mention to husbands, do not buy your wife, like, 556 00:25:25,129 --> 00:25:28,089 house appliance for Christmas and Valentine's. 557 00:25:28,569 --> 00:25:29,129 That's. 558 00:25:29,369 --> 00:25:30,649 That should never come into. 559 00:25:31,209 --> 00:25:32,969 I don't care how long you've been married. 560 00:25:33,609 --> 00:25:34,889 That's not a birthday present. 561 00:25:34,889 --> 00:25:35,969 That's not a Christmas present. 562 00:25:35,969 --> 00:25:36,969 Don't buy her toaster. 563 00:25:37,049 --> 00:25:41,129 Or you know what, you want a washing machine for your Christmas 564 00:25:41,129 --> 00:25:41,449 present. 565 00:25:41,849 --> 00:25:43,609 Come on, brother Billy, I know you've done it. 566 00:25:44,729 --> 00:25:47,089 So she was complaining about the toaster, and the toaster was, 567 00:25:47,089 --> 00:25:48,249 like, 25 years old. 568 00:25:49,079 --> 00:25:53,399 And so I ordered her a toaster, and a really nice one. 569 00:25:53,879 --> 00:25:54,599 And so. 570 00:25:54,679 --> 00:25:59,799 But I went and bought her, like all proud Texans do. 571 00:25:59,799 --> 00:26:00,919 I went and bought her a gun. 572 00:26:01,479 --> 00:26:05,879 And I took the gun and I put it in the bottom of the toaster box. 573 00:26:06,599 --> 00:26:09,159 And then I put the toaster in there, and I covered it up. 574 00:26:09,399 --> 00:26:12,479 And so on Christmas Day, she opens up her present, and it's a 575 00:26:12,479 --> 00:26:12,879 toaster. 576 00:26:12,879 --> 00:26:14,189 And she's like, this is cool. 577 00:26:14,339 --> 00:26:14,459 Great. 578 00:26:14,459 --> 00:26:15,299 I appreciate that. 579 00:26:17,699 --> 00:26:19,219 No, she wasn't thinking that, but. 580 00:26:19,939 --> 00:26:22,859 And then I said, well, you might want to take the toaster out 581 00:26:22,859 --> 00:26:23,219 of the. 582 00:26:23,379 --> 00:26:27,939 Anyway, more of the story is it's good to do a prank that way, 583 00:26:27,939 --> 00:26:32,099 but do not actually buy your wife a toaster for her birthday. 584 00:26:33,939 --> 00:26:37,259 By the way, Valentine's is, like, three days away. 585 00:26:37,259 --> 00:26:38,019 What have you. 586 00:26:38,819 --> 00:26:42,589 All right, we'll go back over to you. 587 00:26:42,589 --> 00:26:43,309 Brother Renz. 588 00:26:43,549 --> 00:26:46,629 What is something you've grown to appreciate about your spouse after 589 00:26:46,629 --> 00:26:48,509 being married for. 590 00:26:49,069 --> 00:26:51,309 And this actually does apply several decades? 591 00:26:52,029 --> 00:26:56,989 Well, I appreciate her understanding things as you know, 592 00:26:57,069 --> 00:27:05,589 don't always go well, but we are still able to talk things over 593 00:27:05,589 --> 00:27:07,389 even when things are not going well. 594 00:27:08,049 --> 00:27:09,009 And I appreciate that. 595 00:27:09,009 --> 00:27:13,809 I appreciate her taking care of things in the. 596 00:27:13,809 --> 00:27:18,329 In the house that she's getting to where she can't do it 597 00:27:18,329 --> 00:27:18,689 as much. 598 00:27:18,689 --> 00:27:20,609 But I've always been. 599 00:27:21,809 --> 00:27:23,329 I always appreciated that. 600 00:27:30,689 --> 00:27:31,969 I was going to give it for you. 601 00:27:32,769 --> 00:27:37,139 So some things you've grown to appreciate about your spouse after 602 00:27:37,139 --> 00:27:38,139 being married so long. 603 00:27:39,179 --> 00:27:41,019 Well, I would say in all that time. 604 00:27:42,699 --> 00:27:46,099 Well, first of all, after we had been married 10 months, he was 605 00:27:46,099 --> 00:27:47,819 shipped off to Vietnam for a year. 606 00:27:48,539 --> 00:27:52,099 And so I went and stayed with his parents in New Jersey, where 607 00:27:52,099 --> 00:27:53,179 I'd never been before. 608 00:27:53,819 --> 00:27:57,979 But I got to know his family and how he grew up and everything. 609 00:27:58,709 --> 00:28:03,029 And he wrote me, and I wrote him every day. 610 00:28:03,029 --> 00:28:07,709 But he wrote every day, even if he only had time to just do a 611 00:28:07,709 --> 00:28:11,429 sentence, but he wrote every day, and I wrote him back every day. 612 00:28:11,909 --> 00:28:13,349 And then all through the years. 613 00:28:15,109 --> 00:28:15,429 He. 614 00:28:15,429 --> 00:28:21,269 Never has forgotten my birthday or our anniversary and always 615 00:28:21,989 --> 00:28:24,849 remembers Valentine's Day, the special day like that. 616 00:28:24,849 --> 00:28:25,209 So. 617 00:28:25,529 --> 00:28:27,009 And it's, you know, still going. 618 00:28:27,009 --> 00:28:29,569 Here we are almost 62 this year. 619 00:28:29,569 --> 00:28:31,809 So I appreciate that very much. 620 00:28:31,809 --> 00:28:33,449 And he's always been very faithful. 621 00:28:34,009 --> 00:28:36,489 When he got saved, he never looked back. 622 00:28:37,369 --> 00:28:40,169 And I just appreciate the faithfulness. 623 00:28:41,849 --> 00:28:44,169 So, Brother Barker, something you've grown to appreciate. 624 00:28:45,529 --> 00:28:45,929 The. 625 00:28:46,169 --> 00:28:50,799 What I've grown to appreciate most is really her kindness, because 626 00:28:51,999 --> 00:28:54,079 that's what I need, you know, when. 627 00:28:54,079 --> 00:28:55,199 When things are. 628 00:28:55,999 --> 00:28:59,599 Especially when we first got married married, We. 629 00:28:59,919 --> 00:29:00,399 It was. 630 00:29:00,399 --> 00:29:00,959 It was a. 631 00:29:00,959 --> 00:29:01,839 It was tough. 632 00:29:01,839 --> 00:29:02,959 You know, it was hard. 633 00:29:03,519 --> 00:29:03,919 And. 634 00:29:06,158 --> 00:29:06,559 We. 635 00:29:06,559 --> 00:29:07,519 We needed. 636 00:29:08,719 --> 00:29:13,039 I needed that levelness of just being kind. 637 00:29:14,159 --> 00:29:14,719 And she. 638 00:29:14,719 --> 00:29:17,649 She really taught me that that's something that she has. 639 00:29:22,289 --> 00:29:29,329 I would say what I've grown to really appreciate about him is the 640 00:29:29,329 --> 00:29:33,649 grace that he shows me, especially in my weaknesses. 641 00:29:34,609 --> 00:29:40,649 You know, we have our bad days, our low days, our don't talk 642 00:29:40,649 --> 00:29:45,979 to me today days, you know, and he is very gracious to me in 643 00:29:45,979 --> 00:29:46,539 that way. 644 00:29:46,939 --> 00:29:49,659 And we have five kids. 645 00:29:49,819 --> 00:29:52,499 And, you know, towards the end of those pregnancies, I mean, about 646 00:29:52,499 --> 00:29:54,739 every day is a bad day, you know, because you're ready to be 647 00:29:54,739 --> 00:29:55,019 done. 648 00:29:55,339 --> 00:29:59,139 And with five kids and, you know, the last two months, I mean, 649 00:29:59,139 --> 00:30:01,179 that's about half a year of, like, bad days. 650 00:30:01,419 --> 00:30:05,259 So his grace has. 651 00:30:06,299 --> 00:30:09,979 I've just really, really learned to appreciate, and I learned 652 00:30:09,979 --> 00:30:10,889 from myself, so. 653 00:30:11,039 --> 00:30:19,079 So, yeah, I think it is amazing how, for the most part, we 654 00:30:19,079 --> 00:30:21,439 do marry again. 655 00:30:21,439 --> 00:30:23,039 Most of the time we marry opposites. 656 00:30:23,679 --> 00:30:27,559 And God has absolutely put that that way for a reason. 657 00:30:27,559 --> 00:30:30,839 And that is one of the reasons why, when you read the Old Testament, 658 00:30:30,839 --> 00:30:34,239 you read about Adam and Eve, that she is the completer. 659 00:30:34,559 --> 00:30:37,599 And it's amazing how that works out in a. 660 00:30:37,859 --> 00:30:41,459 In a marriage where one personality and you have a different 661 00:30:41,459 --> 00:30:43,699 personality with the other, but they complement each other. 662 00:30:44,419 --> 00:30:49,459 And so to have grace and then also to have that kindness. 663 00:30:49,459 --> 00:30:50,659 And I would say that most. 664 00:30:50,739 --> 00:30:54,379 You know, again, kindness is one of those things that rubs off 665 00:30:54,379 --> 00:30:54,899 on people. 666 00:30:55,139 --> 00:30:59,859 And so as of one spouse is kind, it rubs off on the other. 667 00:30:59,939 --> 00:31:02,179 So, yeah, that's good. 668 00:31:06,909 --> 00:31:10,709 Brother Rams, just advice for establishing a family devotional 669 00:31:10,709 --> 00:31:11,069 time. 670 00:31:13,549 --> 00:31:15,149 I don't think it's complicated. 671 00:31:16,749 --> 00:31:23,669 You make the decision or the commitment to do that, and then you 672 00:31:23,669 --> 00:31:27,829 stick with it, even though there's times when things don't Go 673 00:31:27,829 --> 00:31:31,989 well, to give you the time that you normally want to spend. 674 00:31:32,709 --> 00:31:34,469 You still continue to do that. 675 00:31:34,949 --> 00:31:45,229 And one thing about that is that it is the special time that 676 00:31:45,229 --> 00:31:49,509 we have to have special communication with the Lord. 677 00:31:50,549 --> 00:31:54,789 And that's not something that you really want to miss. 678 00:31:55,909 --> 00:32:04,599 Because the benefit to us is overwhelming in that as he speaks 679 00:32:04,599 --> 00:32:09,039 to us, it'll change your day. 680 00:32:09,599 --> 00:32:15,319 Even sometimes you get started off not in a good mood or you're 681 00:32:15,319 --> 00:32:17,279 not, something's gone wrong. 682 00:32:17,999 --> 00:32:23,369 But in the devotion time, you talking with the Lord about it, and 683 00:32:23,369 --> 00:32:24,169 things will change. 684 00:32:24,809 --> 00:32:29,849 And I think that kids, our kids need to know that this is a 685 00:32:29,849 --> 00:32:33,289 time when we just have a special time to talk to the Lord 686 00:32:33,609 --> 00:32:35,129 and let him talk to us. 687 00:32:36,009 --> 00:32:37,209 And once they. 688 00:32:37,369 --> 00:32:41,169 I think that once they grab onto that, they'll realize that, 689 00:32:41,169 --> 00:32:46,329 hey, he does love me and I can have a special time with him. 690 00:32:48,979 --> 00:32:51,059 Ms. Renz, you want to say anything about that? 691 00:32:52,579 --> 00:32:53,059 Yeah. 692 00:32:53,379 --> 00:32:55,339 So go ahead. 693 00:32:55,339 --> 00:32:57,379 Brother Barker or Miss Leah or Brother Barker. 694 00:32:58,899 --> 00:32:59,259 Yeah. 695 00:32:59,259 --> 00:33:03,659 Our devotion time, family devotions have, to be honest, have 696 00:33:03,659 --> 00:33:04,579 been inconsistent. 697 00:33:04,659 --> 00:33:08,099 And we've had to start and restart and start. 698 00:33:08,659 --> 00:33:13,379 And ours, we have found it better to work for our family to 699 00:33:13,379 --> 00:33:14,259 do it at dinner time. 700 00:33:15,049 --> 00:33:21,289 And what helps that is when the school is teaching the same things 701 00:33:21,849 --> 00:33:23,529 across all the grades. 702 00:33:23,769 --> 00:33:24,969 That's what we talk about. 703 00:33:25,209 --> 00:33:27,769 That's what our devotions are normally. 704 00:33:28,089 --> 00:33:31,169 And so some nights they're real brief. 705 00:33:31,169 --> 00:33:35,329 And some nights the girls will go to bed and the boys are still, 706 00:33:35,329 --> 00:33:38,689 you know, I got my two boys, we're still talking especially about 707 00:33:38,689 --> 00:33:40,289 end times and prophecy stuff. 708 00:33:40,289 --> 00:33:41,769 They soak that stuff up. 709 00:33:41,769 --> 00:33:47,329 But creation and the flood and all of that, just, you know, when 710 00:33:47,329 --> 00:33:48,209 you're excited about. 711 00:33:50,809 --> 00:33:52,649 Helps them to be excited about it, too. 712 00:33:52,649 --> 00:33:59,609 And so we have not been the best with consistency, but we try 713 00:33:59,609 --> 00:34:00,889 to do it on purpose. 714 00:34:01,449 --> 00:34:01,849 So. 715 00:34:02,489 --> 00:34:03,649 And I've said, go ahead. 716 00:34:03,649 --> 00:34:04,489 So you have something. 717 00:34:05,449 --> 00:34:09,499 Yeah, I mean, just to reiterate, do it on purpose, whether 718 00:34:09,499 --> 00:34:14,579 it's at the dinner table, if it's in the car, make time to talk 719 00:34:14,579 --> 00:34:17,179 of the things of the Lord and to pray together as a family. 720 00:34:19,099 --> 00:34:19,579 And we. 721 00:34:19,579 --> 00:34:24,219 And I've said many times that family devotion number one, I think, 722 00:34:24,219 --> 00:34:25,499 again, pick your time. 723 00:34:25,819 --> 00:34:27,179 Try to stay consistent. 724 00:34:27,659 --> 00:34:30,699 I know with sports and school and everything is difficult. 725 00:34:31,019 --> 00:34:33,189 So you have to find that times of the day best for you. 726 00:34:33,189 --> 00:34:36,549 For us, it was early morning most of the time, breakfast time. 727 00:34:36,629 --> 00:34:42,269 And then, especially for little kids, I would say just don't, 728 00:34:42,269 --> 00:34:44,189 you know, don't get in the habit of making it, you know, 30 729 00:34:44,189 --> 00:34:45,189 minutes or an hour Long. 730 00:34:45,669 --> 00:34:46,469 If you want to. 731 00:34:46,549 --> 00:34:48,749 If you want to lose the attention of your kids, go right 732 00:34:48,749 --> 00:34:49,029 ahead. 733 00:34:49,989 --> 00:34:52,229 You can get a devotional book. 734 00:34:52,229 --> 00:34:53,589 There's some back in the bookstore. 735 00:34:54,869 --> 00:34:58,049 There's certainly tools you can use to facilitate that. 736 00:34:58,679 --> 00:35:02,439 And I would also say, like the Barkers, it is something that our 737 00:35:02,439 --> 00:35:06,519 family had to constantly restart and you had to just continually. 738 00:35:07,399 --> 00:35:09,839 And it just, it would happen over and over and over again. 739 00:35:09,839 --> 00:35:11,879 Restart, restart, keep going, keep going. 740 00:35:12,359 --> 00:35:15,239 And then something would come up for a few days or maybe in a couple 741 00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:16,679 of weeks, and you restart it again. 742 00:35:16,999 --> 00:35:17,719 But that's it. 743 00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:19,679 Do it on purpose and go back to it. 744 00:35:19,679 --> 00:35:20,599 And go back to it. 745 00:35:20,919 --> 00:35:22,919 And because God will bless that. 746 00:35:22,919 --> 00:35:24,289 I really do believe that. 747 00:35:24,289 --> 00:35:27,729 I've said many times, my dad sitting back there, that my dad was 748 00:35:27,729 --> 00:35:31,569 consistent, especially in the school year, during the school semesters 749 00:35:31,569 --> 00:35:35,969 of getting up, fixing his breakfast and doing devotion. 750 00:35:36,449 --> 00:35:39,009 And I just appreciate that as a kid growing up. 751 00:35:39,089 --> 00:35:42,809 So we've tried to do that in our home as well and be as consistent 752 00:35:42,809 --> 00:35:43,249 as possible. 753 00:35:43,409 --> 00:35:45,209 So take the time to do that. 754 00:35:45,209 --> 00:35:49,849 It'll mean a lot also, as you, the kids, fly, the cooperation, it's 755 00:35:49,849 --> 00:35:50,089 important. 756 00:35:50,649 --> 00:35:53,209 And again, you have to continue to try to do it as. 757 00:35:53,209 --> 00:35:56,289 Even as a couple, we have to restart that, too, over and over 758 00:35:56,289 --> 00:35:59,289 and over again and be as consistent as possible. 759 00:35:59,529 --> 00:36:02,089 And there's some good books, devotional books for couples, too, 760 00:36:02,329 --> 00:36:04,729 or you can read a book together, whatever the case is. 761 00:36:05,929 --> 00:36:08,689 All right, Brother Rends, how did you help each other through trials? 762 00:36:08,689 --> 00:36:09,769 What's some of the things that. 763 00:36:12,009 --> 00:36:14,809 Basically what we did was to. 764 00:36:15,689 --> 00:36:20,009 To talk it over, have communication about whatever the 765 00:36:20,889 --> 00:36:21,769 problem was. 766 00:36:22,329 --> 00:36:24,809 And then, of course, we back that up with prayer. 767 00:36:25,449 --> 00:36:28,089 But just talking it through helps a lot. 768 00:36:28,249 --> 00:36:34,249 And then just letting the Lord speak to us about how we should handle 769 00:36:34,249 --> 00:36:34,569 things. 770 00:36:36,009 --> 00:36:36,369 Yeah. 771 00:36:36,369 --> 00:36:39,529 Because I think one of the things happens is people will, you 772 00:36:39,529 --> 00:36:39,929 know, clam. 773 00:36:39,929 --> 00:36:40,369 One of the. 774 00:36:40,369 --> 00:36:43,049 One or the other will clam up and there's no communication. 775 00:36:43,439 --> 00:36:44,319 Go ahead, Ms. Reynolds. 776 00:36:45,279 --> 00:36:50,919 One of the things we did talk about, but also was that we go stop 777 00:36:50,919 --> 00:36:56,039 and think back in our past, you know, what God had done for us. 778 00:36:56,039 --> 00:36:57,199 And we got through that. 779 00:36:57,199 --> 00:36:58,159 He got us through. 780 00:36:58,479 --> 00:37:02,879 You know, you just have to remember that his promises are true 781 00:37:03,039 --> 00:37:05,519 and stand on the promises and. 782 00:37:05,759 --> 00:37:09,319 But sometimes when you're in the middle of a situation, you just 783 00:37:09,319 --> 00:37:11,359 can't think, think of that. 784 00:37:11,359 --> 00:37:16,239 But if you just stop and pray about it and all, then you start 785 00:37:16,239 --> 00:37:19,559 thinking about, well, God didn't let us down before. 786 00:37:19,559 --> 00:37:21,279 He's not going to let us get down now. 787 00:37:21,279 --> 00:37:23,199 He's brought us this far. 788 00:37:23,279 --> 00:37:26,399 And so he'll continue to do so. 789 00:37:30,079 --> 00:37:34,379 I would say I'm one of those who do clam up when it comes. 790 00:37:34,529 --> 00:37:36,289 Comes to trials and hard things. 791 00:37:36,369 --> 00:37:40,609 And for me, it is encouragement. 792 00:37:41,249 --> 00:37:46,609 And sometimes it's not always trying to fix it right then and there, 793 00:37:46,769 --> 00:37:52,089 you know, for me, it's him, you know, sitting with me and holding 794 00:37:52,089 --> 00:37:56,169 me and letting me cry and let me feel all those emotions and sometimes 795 00:37:56,169 --> 00:37:57,249 not saying anything at all. 796 00:37:58,929 --> 00:38:02,719 And that has helped me, me through a lot of our hardships, a 797 00:38:02,719 --> 00:38:03,679 lot of our trials. 798 00:38:07,919 --> 00:38:09,519 That's something I've had to learn. 799 00:38:09,599 --> 00:38:13,519 I'm a fixer, and when I see a problem, I want to fix it. 800 00:38:14,079 --> 00:38:19,679 And that I've had to really learn and grow in that area. 801 00:38:20,559 --> 00:38:22,079 Still learning, still growing. 802 00:38:22,559 --> 00:38:24,399 But that has helped us. 803 00:38:25,359 --> 00:38:30,629 When our daughter was in the hospital, that was a hard time, really 804 00:38:30,629 --> 00:38:31,269 hard time. 805 00:38:35,829 --> 00:38:36,709 And I don't even. 806 00:38:36,789 --> 00:38:39,829 I mean, at those points, I didn't even know what to say. 807 00:38:40,469 --> 00:38:44,709 And so I was just there. 808 00:38:45,269 --> 00:38:47,829 And that did help. 809 00:38:49,589 --> 00:38:50,549 Yeah, being there. 810 00:38:50,549 --> 00:38:54,029 And then the one again who is the one who kind of clams up the 811 00:38:54,029 --> 00:38:58,429 other one, helping encourage that one, and then reminding of our 812 00:38:58,429 --> 00:38:58,749 past. 813 00:38:58,749 --> 00:39:00,189 Sometimes one of the. 814 00:39:00,189 --> 00:39:04,149 One of you will, you know, be the one upset, and then the other 815 00:39:04,149 --> 00:39:05,309 one will say, well, remember what. 816 00:39:05,549 --> 00:39:08,069 What happened last time and what God did last time. 817 00:39:08,069 --> 00:39:11,149 And that's good, that's a good advice. 818 00:39:11,469 --> 00:39:17,149 Remembering again, ministering to each other, praying with each 819 00:39:17,149 --> 00:39:20,109 other, and helping them through the trial. 820 00:39:21,399 --> 00:39:24,559 A lot better to go through a trial with a teammate than without 821 00:39:24,559 --> 00:39:24,919 one. 822 00:39:26,519 --> 00:39:30,719 And if I was to go around to some of our widows or widowers, I 823 00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:34,159 guarantee you they would testify to that a thousand times 824 00:39:34,159 --> 00:39:34,519 over. 825 00:39:35,399 --> 00:39:41,279 And so to have a husband or a wife and a teammate, a completer 826 00:39:41,279 --> 00:39:47,959 to go with you through those trials, just quickly prioritizing 827 00:39:47,959 --> 00:39:53,339 family and church, you know, keeping that church a priority in 828 00:39:53,339 --> 00:39:53,859 your family. 829 00:39:55,219 --> 00:39:57,699 That was never an issue with us. 830 00:39:58,659 --> 00:39:59,779 We just did it. 831 00:40:00,019 --> 00:40:06,179 And our kids went with us, and of course we. 832 00:40:06,259 --> 00:40:07,779 A lot of that was on the field. 833 00:40:07,939 --> 00:40:15,179 And one thing that helped us is that I found out that a lot of 834 00:40:15,179 --> 00:40:19,479 missionaries, when they're on the field, especially of other groups, 835 00:40:20,439 --> 00:40:22,759 their kids are not involved in the work. 836 00:40:23,959 --> 00:40:25,639 So they may not be in church. 837 00:40:26,599 --> 00:40:27,159 And so. 838 00:40:27,159 --> 00:40:28,959 But our kids were involved in the work. 839 00:40:28,959 --> 00:40:35,279 So they were in church every time that the door was open and became 840 00:40:35,279 --> 00:40:40,279 friends with the kids of their age in the church. 841 00:40:40,919 --> 00:40:44,129 And so church became really a family thing. 842 00:40:45,489 --> 00:40:49,649 Not just our family, but the church family. 843 00:40:50,209 --> 00:40:52,369 And it made a big difference, I think. 844 00:40:54,929 --> 00:40:55,289 Good. 845 00:40:55,289 --> 00:40:57,969 That's good, brother Barker. 846 00:40:59,409 --> 00:41:02,769 You know, when we first were together, we didn't go to church. 847 00:41:03,649 --> 00:41:04,049 We. 848 00:41:05,809 --> 00:41:07,729 We asked, hey, do you want to go tonight? 849 00:41:10,459 --> 00:41:16,579 When we started going to church, it was as a foundation for 850 00:41:16,579 --> 00:41:17,019 our family. 851 00:41:17,819 --> 00:41:20,139 It was a safe place for us to go. 852 00:41:20,779 --> 00:41:22,619 And we've kept that. 853 00:41:23,499 --> 00:41:26,219 Now we don't even ask the question, are we going tonight? 854 00:41:26,219 --> 00:41:26,859 We're going. 855 00:41:27,499 --> 00:41:35,259 And that it's been the glue, really, that's held our family together. 856 00:41:35,259 --> 00:41:36,719 When we need help, we. 857 00:41:37,109 --> 00:41:43,909 We ask couples who have been there and done that, and that's what 858 00:41:44,149 --> 00:41:48,789 we've come to love and to learn about our church family, is 859 00:41:48,789 --> 00:41:53,949 that we're in this together and we have problems. 860 00:41:53,949 --> 00:41:58,269 Someone else has probably had that same problem, and that's with 861 00:41:58,269 --> 00:42:01,189 a young family starting off, not on the right foot. 862 00:42:01,509 --> 00:42:08,129 The church has just been, you know, we didn't worship the church, 863 00:42:08,129 --> 00:42:09,609 but we worshiped at the church. 864 00:42:10,569 --> 00:42:12,649 And so it's been a big help to us. 865 00:42:13,369 --> 00:42:14,249 Yeah, it's been. 866 00:42:14,889 --> 00:42:15,369 Yeah. 867 00:42:15,449 --> 00:42:16,929 I mean, just reiterate it. 868 00:42:16,929 --> 00:42:20,329 I mean, it has been foundational for our family, especially 869 00:42:20,409 --> 00:42:27,569 starting out, and it's been a Just a healthy environment for our 870 00:42:27,569 --> 00:42:30,099 children to be in. 871 00:42:30,259 --> 00:42:30,659 And. 872 00:42:31,459 --> 00:42:33,699 Yeah, just that growing foundation. 873 00:42:35,139 --> 00:42:39,499 I'm going to add one more thing is really what was convicting 874 00:42:39,499 --> 00:42:43,899 for me and how the Lord used this particular thing to call me 875 00:42:43,899 --> 00:42:48,899 into the ministry was when my son knew more Bible than I did. 876 00:42:50,099 --> 00:42:51,379 He went to a Christian school. 877 00:42:51,619 --> 00:42:54,339 He went to Sunday school every week. 878 00:42:54,819 --> 00:42:59,339 And it was like he would have memorization verses, and he knew 879 00:42:59,339 --> 00:43:00,499 more stories than I did. 880 00:43:00,819 --> 00:43:03,419 I said, you know, I've got to get in there. 881 00:43:03,419 --> 00:43:07,499 He can't show me up like this, you know, but the Lord used that 882 00:43:07,499 --> 00:43:12,379 to prick my heart and to say, I need to be able to know what I 883 00:43:12,379 --> 00:43:13,299 believe and why. 884 00:43:13,779 --> 00:43:21,009 Yeah, again, prioritizing church in the family is paramount. 885 00:43:21,649 --> 00:43:25,769 Again, we talk about priority in life are God first, you know, 886 00:43:25,769 --> 00:43:26,689 family second. 887 00:43:27,009 --> 00:43:31,089 Well, really, your spouse second, your family, your kids third. 888 00:43:32,049 --> 00:43:34,049 And in that is church. 889 00:43:34,289 --> 00:43:35,969 I mean, Jesus died for the church. 890 00:43:36,449 --> 00:43:39,489 And so y' all have heard our stories, My wife and I, stories about 891 00:43:39,489 --> 00:43:40,049 our kids. 892 00:43:41,649 --> 00:43:42,369 I'm the preacher. 893 00:43:42,369 --> 00:43:43,289 I'm expected to be here. 894 00:43:43,289 --> 00:43:43,569 Right. 895 00:43:43,889 --> 00:43:45,289 My kids have to be perfect. 896 00:43:45,289 --> 00:43:45,649 And. 897 00:43:46,059 --> 00:43:48,299 But then they hang around with the deacon's kids and it goes south. 898 00:43:49,659 --> 00:43:50,379 But we just. 899 00:43:50,939 --> 00:43:53,699 We did the same thing my dad did with me, and that's just. 900 00:43:53,699 --> 00:43:55,659 We included them in everything. 901 00:43:56,059 --> 00:43:57,339 We drug them to church. 902 00:43:58,139 --> 00:43:59,699 I don't know how many times somebody said that to me. 903 00:43:59,699 --> 00:44:02,099 I don't go to church anymore because that's all My mama did. 904 00:44:02,099 --> 00:44:04,099 They just drug me to church and drugged me to church. 905 00:44:04,099 --> 00:44:06,459 Well, we drug our kids to church, too, but we also involved 906 00:44:06,459 --> 00:44:06,779 them. 907 00:44:07,179 --> 00:44:08,859 Involved them with us. 908 00:44:10,379 --> 00:44:12,399 And I've told lots of stories, stories before about. 909 00:44:12,639 --> 00:44:13,359 About that. 910 00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:15,039 I'm thankful. 911 00:44:15,279 --> 00:44:19,079 You know, my boys are here and their wives are here working with 912 00:44:19,079 --> 00:44:20,079 us in the ministry. 913 00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:21,639 And God's good. 914 00:44:21,639 --> 00:44:22,359 You say, well, how. 915 00:44:22,359 --> 00:44:23,599 I get that question all the time. 916 00:44:23,679 --> 00:44:24,639 How did you do that? 917 00:44:25,999 --> 00:44:27,039 The Lord did it. 918 00:44:27,438 --> 00:44:32,679 You know, you pray hard and you, by the grace of God, do your 919 00:44:32,679 --> 00:44:35,919 very best, and then God does the rest. 920 00:44:37,119 --> 00:44:38,479 You prioritize church. 921 00:44:38,479 --> 00:44:40,859 And I know my soapbox is sports. 922 00:44:41,099 --> 00:44:43,019 It's been that way for 30 years. 923 00:44:43,499 --> 00:44:45,499 And I say it from the pulpit all the time. 924 00:44:46,699 --> 00:44:51,099 You start letting your kids miss church for sports, then sports 925 00:44:51,099 --> 00:44:52,379 is more important than church. 926 00:44:53,259 --> 00:44:54,219 You'll find out. 927 00:44:54,379 --> 00:44:59,979 You'll have a hard time keeping them in church, and you just 928 00:44:59,979 --> 00:45:00,299 will. 929 00:45:00,859 --> 00:45:05,509 Because you as a parent said, yeah, my kid's good at this sport, 930 00:45:05,509 --> 00:45:06,789 my kid's good at that sport. 931 00:45:07,189 --> 00:45:10,149 We'll start missing Sunday nights or Wednesday nights for sports. 932 00:45:10,949 --> 00:45:12,349 No, no. 933 00:45:12,349 --> 00:45:13,749 Church is more important than sports. 934 00:45:14,229 --> 00:45:14,789 Amen. 935 00:45:15,269 --> 00:45:16,549 That's Bible, by the way. 936 00:45:19,349 --> 00:45:23,069 Well, you don't know how good my kid is and get a scholarship and 937 00:45:23,069 --> 00:45:23,829 blah, blah, blah. 938 00:45:23,989 --> 00:45:24,629 Phooey. 939 00:45:25,509 --> 00:45:27,989 His spiritual life or her spiritual life is way more important 940 00:45:28,709 --> 00:45:29,349 than that. 941 00:45:30,079 --> 00:45:34,719 Be consistent, because what it does, it just breathes about inconsistency. 942 00:45:35,279 --> 00:45:40,159 Daddy says church is important, but he lets me play sports. 943 00:45:40,479 --> 00:45:44,079 I know that's my soapbox, so I'll get off of it, but it is true, 944 00:45:44,239 --> 00:45:45,999 and we need to prioritize church. 945 00:45:46,479 --> 00:45:50,799 And I can say that in our family, it's vitally important in 946 00:45:50,799 --> 00:45:52,559 raising our kids in church. 947 00:45:52,879 --> 00:45:56,409 In church, we'll let them go last. 948 00:45:56,409 --> 00:45:57,209 So parting. 949 00:45:57,449 --> 00:45:58,529 Parting thoughts. 950 00:45:58,529 --> 00:46:03,529 You get the last, you know, parting thoughts, things, you know, 951 00:46:03,849 --> 00:46:05,769 advice, anything you'd like to say. 952 00:46:06,009 --> 00:46:06,729 You want to start? 953 00:46:09,929 --> 00:46:13,049 I'm mainly just speaking for the ladies, and this is just from 954 00:46:13,369 --> 00:46:15,849 my experience and my own testimony. 955 00:46:16,729 --> 00:46:18,649 Don't try to fix your husband. 956 00:46:18,969 --> 00:46:22,099 God does a better job at it than you, than me. 957 00:46:22,419 --> 00:46:32,579 And just follow his lead, pray for him, and God will bless you for 958 00:46:32,579 --> 00:46:32,899 it. 959 00:46:33,779 --> 00:46:36,739 A lot better than you could have on your own. 960 00:46:40,179 --> 00:46:45,899 One thing that I have learned and learning is that marriage is 961 00:46:45,899 --> 00:46:49,139 not a 5050 endeavor. 962 00:46:49,859 --> 00:46:56,139 There are times during our load times that I'm only 10% in and 963 00:46:56,139 --> 00:47:00,099 she has to cover the other 90% and vice versa. 964 00:47:00,579 --> 00:47:06,899 And that has helped once I realized that it's not a 50 50, and 965 00:47:07,299 --> 00:47:11,899 sometimes I might be negative, you know, and she has to carry the 966 00:47:11,899 --> 00:47:14,339 weight or I have to carry the weight of the marriage. 967 00:47:16,429 --> 00:47:20,389 But it's worth is worth it. 968 00:47:20,389 --> 00:47:26,349 God has blessed us greatly and we're so thankful for our marriage. 969 00:47:31,469 --> 00:47:31,949 Yes. 970 00:47:32,189 --> 00:47:33,709 It's not just 50, 50. 971 00:47:33,709 --> 00:47:38,469 It's sometimes it's 80, 20 or 90, 10, or, you know, it might be 972 00:47:38,469 --> 00:47:39,789 50, 50 sometimes. 973 00:47:41,339 --> 00:47:48,259 But you just have to remember the vows that you took and stick 974 00:47:48,259 --> 00:47:48,779 with that. 975 00:47:49,099 --> 00:47:53,499 And of course, if you have the Lord as the Lord of your life, of 976 00:47:53,739 --> 00:47:56,019 your marriage, it'll make it a lot easier. 977 00:47:56,019 --> 00:48:03,939 And you just have to decide in the bad times that I won't say I 978 00:48:03,939 --> 00:48:07,659 always thought, because that makes, you know, we had our ups and 979 00:48:07,659 --> 00:48:09,379 downs too, just like everybody does. 980 00:48:10,339 --> 00:48:16,979 But you just remember the vows that you took and say that I'm committed 981 00:48:16,979 --> 00:48:21,339 to the Lord and I'm committed to the vows, and you let God take 982 00:48:21,339 --> 00:48:24,739 care of them and just keep on keeping on no matter what. 983 00:48:26,419 --> 00:48:27,859 That's all I can say about that. 984 00:48:28,019 --> 00:48:32,019 You just have to keep on because you know that God has a plan. 985 00:48:35,429 --> 00:48:37,429 Well, it's simply a forever commitment. 986 00:48:37,909 --> 00:48:45,989 And I think seeing the days that we live in now and how marriage 987 00:48:45,989 --> 00:48:50,949 is not looked at as anything that important, if you want to be 988 00:48:50,949 --> 00:48:51,629 married, fine. 989 00:48:51,629 --> 00:48:53,269 If you don't, just live together. 990 00:48:53,749 --> 00:48:59,129 And that's not a commitment and it's not that a biblical plan 991 00:48:59,609 --> 00:49:00,809 for a man or woman. 992 00:49:01,369 --> 00:49:06,969 And so there's no other option really, if you're going to do it 993 00:49:06,969 --> 00:49:07,689 God's way. 994 00:49:07,929 --> 00:49:16,249 And when you are committed, then God is also committed to make 995 00:49:16,249 --> 00:49:21,569 sure that your commitment continues and back that up and give 996 00:49:21,569 --> 00:49:25,159 it the power that's needed to see it through. 997 00:49:27,159 --> 00:49:27,519 All right. 998 00:49:27,519 --> 00:49:28,599 We thank both these couples. 999 00:49:28,599 --> 00:49:29,679 I mean, did a great job. 1000 00:49:29,679 --> 00:49:30,919 Appreciate that very much. 1001 00:49:30,919 --> 00:49:31,959 You can be seated. 1002 00:49:32,119 --> 00:49:32,399 Let. 1003 00:49:32,399 --> 00:49:33,319 You guys will get seated. 1004 00:49:38,919 --> 00:49:43,319 I think again, what the Renzes were saying, commitment, being committed. 1005 00:49:44,279 --> 00:49:47,559 We always used to say divorce should not be in your vocabulary. 1006 00:49:49,729 --> 00:49:51,489 There's a rail over there, but that's okay. 1007 00:49:52,849 --> 00:49:54,689 I'm glad I could pick on brother Rhinds. 1008 00:49:54,849 --> 00:49:55,409 He's. 1009 00:49:56,769 --> 00:50:00,209 I appreciate that he just continues to walk. 1010 00:50:01,169 --> 00:50:05,329 But being committed, committed, divorce shouldn't be in 1011 00:50:05,329 --> 00:50:06,209 your vocabulary. 1012 00:50:06,849 --> 00:50:07,889 Marriage is work. 1013 00:50:08,449 --> 00:50:12,289 And my wife and I have been married 32 years. 1014 00:50:13,009 --> 00:50:13,569 It is. 1015 00:50:13,809 --> 00:50:14,769 It's a commitment. 1016 00:50:17,259 --> 00:50:21,939 Again, the feeling of love does this, but the commitment of 1017 00:50:21,939 --> 00:50:24,059 love should always remain the same. 1018 00:50:24,779 --> 00:50:25,739 I'm committed. 1019 00:50:26,139 --> 00:50:28,459 I'm committed Again. 1020 00:50:28,459 --> 00:50:31,779 Doing for others, being kind to each other, communicating all 1021 00:50:31,779 --> 00:50:33,739 those things are so vitally, vitally important. 1022 00:50:35,659 --> 00:50:40,379 Remembering to continue to date your wife, remembering to continue 1023 00:50:40,379 --> 00:50:43,129 to date your husband after you're married. 1024 00:50:43,449 --> 00:50:45,049 We have a date night here. 1025 00:50:45,049 --> 00:50:46,889 Babysitters at the church once a month. 1026 00:50:48,249 --> 00:50:50,649 Take the time, invest in your marriage. 1027 00:50:51,369 --> 00:50:53,329 Whether it's a couples conference like we're fixing to have 1028 00:50:53,329 --> 00:50:54,409 here on Friday and Saturday. 1029 00:50:55,609 --> 00:50:57,289 Take the time, invest in your marriage. 1030 00:50:57,608 --> 00:50:58,409 It's so important. 1031 00:50:58,489 --> 00:50:59,329 Alright, let's all stand. 1032 00:50:59,329 --> 00:51:00,889 We have a verse invitation tonight. 1033 00:51:00,889 --> 00:51:06,569 And again appreciate both of these couples. 1034 00:51:06,729 --> 00:51:07,849 Wonderful examples. 1035 00:51:08,639 --> 00:51:09,999 One married 61 years. 1036 00:51:09,999 --> 00:51:11,199 That's amazing, isn't it? 1037 00:51:11,519 --> 00:51:13,439 I went and visited brother Clem on Tuesday. 1038 00:51:14,159 --> 00:51:17,599 Brother Clem and his wife were married 73 years. 1039 00:51:18,399 --> 00:51:19,439 73 years. 1040 00:51:20,239 --> 00:51:21,559 And he is so lonely. 1041 00:51:21,559 --> 00:51:24,519 And as I prayed with him, I just feel for him. 1042 00:51:24,519 --> 00:51:27,679 He's 91 years old but I think of the. 1043 00:51:27,679 --> 00:51:29,599 All he wanted to talk about was his wife. 1044 00:51:31,519 --> 00:51:32,319 His wife. 1045 00:51:32,639 --> 00:51:36,409 What, what a life they experienced together. 1046 00:51:37,449 --> 00:51:39,289 And all of us should strive. 1047 00:51:40,649 --> 00:51:43,089 Well, all of us should strive to live to be 91. 1048 00:51:43,089 --> 00:51:44,089 That would be awesome, right? 1049 00:51:44,729 --> 00:51:46,169 Especially in the shape he's in. 1050 00:51:46,489 --> 00:51:49,808 But also to strive to have that kind of commitment, that kind 1051 00:51:49,808 --> 00:51:50,009 of. 1052 00:51:50,009 --> 00:51:51,489 What a wonderful example we have in our church. 1053 00:51:51,489 --> 00:51:51,849 Let's pray. 1054 00:51:51,849 --> 00:51:54,489 Heavenly Father, Lord, we do thank you for the testimonies we've 1055 00:51:54,489 --> 00:51:54,689 heard. 1056 00:51:54,689 --> 00:51:58,849 And Lord, I know some in the audience today and maybe some watching 1057 00:51:58,849 --> 00:51:59,129 online. 1058 00:52:00,009 --> 00:52:03,369 Lord, it's certain areas that we all need to work on. 1059 00:52:03,529 --> 00:52:07,289 I pray God that you'd shine light in our hearts in those areas. 1060 00:52:07,449 --> 00:52:10,809 Lord, may we have and be committed. 1061 00:52:11,209 --> 00:52:14,249 And Lord, may we love as we ought to love and be kind to each 1062 00:52:14,249 --> 00:52:14,569 other. 1063 00:52:15,289 --> 00:52:16,729 Lord put you first in our life. 1064 00:52:16,729 --> 00:52:17,529 In Jesus name. 1065 00:52:17,529 --> 00:52:18,089 Amen. 1066 00:52:18,089 --> 00:52:19,449 Let's have a verse invitation.