Hello and happy Thanksgiving.

Just wanted to give you a little replay of one of my favorite

episodes, The Glorious Clitoris.

Now, one thing I will say about this episode while it is on

audio, it's much better watched on video and it's up on YouTube.

There should be a link in the show notes.

I actually do some visuals.

I have some graphics to show you exactly what is going on behind the vulva because

what you see is not all that you get.

So I hope you will learn a little bit more about your clitoris or clitoris,

whatever you want to call it and enjoy it.

Over the Thanksgiving holiday, happy holidays, welcome to the taboo to truth

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This may be the best episode or the most useful episode of Taboo to Truth that

you hear because today I'm going to talk to you about your glorious clitoris.

You may call it a clitoris, clitoris, doesn't really matter what you call it.

You need to know it.

very well and you want your partner to know it very well because that clitoris

or clitoris or clit, which you will soon learn is not so little, has the most

nerve endings of any part of your body.

Somewhere between 85 and 90 percent of women need that area

stimulated to have an orgasm.

Contrary to popular heterosexual male belief, Just sticking that

penis in your vagina is not going to get you to orgasm, necessarily.

Now, you may really like having something inside your vagina, and when you have

that combined with clitoral stimulation, that may be the most awesome way that

you can enjoy sex and have an orgasm.

But you need to really know about this organ and why it exists.

And the more you understand it, the better, more enjoyable

your sex life will be.

The first thing I want to tell you about this beautiful clitoris is that

it is the only organ in the human body that is strictly for pleasure.

And ladies, we have one and he doesn't.

All right.

So if you have a vulva.

You have a clitoris, and its purpose is strictly for pleasure.

If you think about it, there is no male equivalent that only has the

purpose of pleasure, because the male penis does lots of things, right?

It ejaculates and, and gives semen so that you can Procreate, it pees, it does

all sorts of things, but the clitoris only is there to give you pleasure.

I have a video of this with diagrams on my website and on my YouTube channel,

so I'm going to try to describe it.

As best I can on the podcast.

What you see when you look in your vulva, which you should all

know what your vulva looks like.

Take a mirror and take a look down there.

Get to know your vulva.

The first little piece that's sticking out of your vulva, of the

inside of your vulva is the clitoris with the clitoral hood covering it.

So that is what you see.

May think if you do know where your clitoris is, you may think that's the

whole thing, but actually it's like a wishbone around the whole vulva area,

but surrounds the entire vul and vagina.

The reason that you get so much pleasure from the penetration part

is because it's actually stimulating the clitoris from the inside.

Add that with the external stimulation, and now you, you

see where I'm heading, right?

They didn't really know about the clitoris.

It was discovered more of the fact that it's that large that it actually

goes up into the female body was only discovered more recently.

Can't tell you exactly when, but in fact they didn't understand it.

But now that we do, we really want to get to know it, right?

It is a significant structure that surrounds your vulva and your vagina.

It also, when people talk about the G spot, They're actually referring

to an area, which is if you put your finger in your vagina and you kind

of hook it up under there and rub around there for some women, that is

particularly stimulating because it's also stimulating a good part of your clitoris.

Now, I'm not a doctor, so you know that my medical explanations are a little

simple, but that is where that comes from.

It's the upper wall of the vagina, and you're stimulating

the clitoris at the same time.

So that's why it feels so good.

Not everyone finds it enjoyable, but many vulva owners will get pleasure from

having something rubbed in that area.

And the same holds true of something penetrating your vagina because it's

also surrounded by the clitoris.

That's where the pleasure is coming from.

That's why that, that rubbing up and down feels good because it's in

a lubricated vagina because you are stimulating the clitoris around there.

If you were looking at your vulva in a mirror, you can see the

tip sticking out, which is the clitoris and the clitoral hood.

And then you've got an opening, that is the vaginal opening, and inside

the vagina, there are two holes.

There's the hole where urine comes out, and then there is the hole where

babies come out, and where the penis goes in, or where things go in when

you want to have sexual stimulation.

We have two holes.

The men only get one, we get two.

When someone is sticking their fingers inside of you, or sticking something

inside of you, when you are sticking something inside of you, And it's

also stimulating your clitoris.

It can just be an amazing feeling, right?

Because you've got it being stimulated from all different,

different parts of your body.

And again, this, remember this, this organ, it's all about

pleasure, simply pleasure.

And it's really important that you understand that you learn not only how

to stimulate yourself, If you know how you can help your partner stimulate you

so you can have a really great sex life.

And I will also say that most men, I would say most heterosexual men

don't know much about the clitoris.

They, they might know it exists.

Certainly not the young ones don't, but they don't teach that in sex education.

But the, the mature men, shall we say, may know a little bit about it.

But they may not understand that it is a really important piece

of pleasure in your intimacy.

In a 2022 study, they found that the human clitoris contains 10, 281 nerve

fibers on average, which is 2, 000 plus more than they used to think it did.

So it is a very, very sensitive area.

And it could also In addition to being a place where you can derive pleasure,

it can also be irritated just as easily because it's got all those nerve endings

and it's very, very important that it's working properly so that all the blood is

flowing and keeping those nerve endings healthy so that you can become aroused.

The female clitoris and the male penis are made up of the same erectile tissue.

I like to say that a male has the equivalent of a female clitoris in

the penis, as opposed to the clitoris being a female penis, because they are

both made of the same erectile tissue.

Now, when you get a rouse, like a penis, since we are likening the two

organs, it's not The clitoris gets very hard and for some women, especially

if you're taking certain hormones like testosterone, it can get very big and

it feels really good to be stimulated.

Just like you would stimulate a man's penis, obviously it's much smaller, but

stroking the clitoris as it gets hard can feel really, really good and help

you get to an orgasm really quickly.

Using a vibrator or any other, there are other kinds of sex toys that

can really stimulate the clitoris and produce unbelievable orgasms.

If you combine the rubbing on the vaginal wall, so whether it's intercourse, whether

it's It's manual, whether it's with a toy and the stimulation of the clitoris, you

can have like mind blowing orgasms, right?

Now, if you have a dry vagina as a result of menopause, you want to make

sure that you use lots of lubrication because the whole area, the vulva, the

vagina, the clitoris, those all can get very dry with the loss of estrogen.

So sometimes lubrication is really important, whether it's silicone

based, water based, or both.

You may need to keep your vagina moist with some hyaluronic acid

or a topical estrogen cream.

All those things are important as you age because that constant rubbing on the dry

vagina, first of all, it's super painful and it's You know, even if the clitoris

is dry as well, it's super painful.

And second of all, it can start to cause irritations and even UTIs as

I've talked about in other episodes.

So you want to make sure that your vulva, your vagina, your clitoris,

everything is very well lubricated and then the stimulation will be even better.

So ladies and gentlemen, you've got to get to know this clitoris.

I encourage you to go to my website so you can see the model.

That I talk about in the different diagrams where I really explain in depth

what the clitoris looks like and how it is placed in the female body so that

you can understand how to stimulate it, how to derive pleasure from it, so that

you can have mind blowing, amazing sex with that glorious clitoris of yours.

So, Do some research, take a mirror, take a look down there,

see what yours looks like.

Everybody is different, but every vulva owner has a glorious clitoris.

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