Poor Telly. He went to Coles and he started buying all the stuff for people.

Yeah, he copped a lot of backlash for that. He's only doing it for promotion. He's

only doing it so he looks good in the public eye. Yeah, but

If they're doing it for views and likes and clicks, good on them.

There's definitely mental health benefits of drinking if you do it

in the right way. Alcohol does have some positive effects on

your mind. So does methamphetamines. It doesn't mean you should do

it. Any advice for dads out there? My daughter's 16, has

a boyfriend. He wanted to come over at 11 o'clock at night. Nope.

She was pissed off about it for a long time. They're kids. They can't make

Your job as a parent is to protect your kids from them not being able

And we're just a pair of average blokes on a mission to try and be

We're going to speak about all things highs and lows of what it feels like to be a bloke,

plus speak to some legends along the way about what it takes to be a better bloke. Let's

It's that time again where we're gonna do the best of blokes advice. That's

our big Facebook group with over 300,000 blokes in there. And

it's all sorts of things from the funny stuff to the meaningful stuff to

boys asking for a little bit of advice. We're taking a look at

some of the top posts and having a look at

what happens within the inner sanctum of blokes advice.

I'm always ready. I'm always ready for best of blokes advice

All right, let's rip straight into it with this

one. It's a pretty good one. One

of those situations that doesn't happen to everyone, it does happen

and you start thinking, is

this a life changer? Could this be something that

changes everything when you kind of know it doesn't?

He says, the bank accidentally reimbursed $93,000 instead

of the 16,000 final payment on my home loan. How

can I utilize it? How can I take advantage of it? Any

consequences? And he posted a screenshot. He's

got an extra 93,000 bucks in his account. Clearly

a mistake on the bank's behalf. You don't want to mess with them. What

Yeah, boys chat. A lot of guys are like, look, you

You'll be paying that back. So don't be too silly. The

best advice probably was put it in a high interest account, see

what you can get out of interest, and then

Do they then ask the interest back off that too, if it's... No, no,

You get to keep the interest for sure. But I'm sure it's only going to take

them a couple of weeks. You're probably not going to end up too far ahead. But

I mean, that amount of money to a bank is literally like losing

Probably less, but they're a bank, so they're coming for you. Yeah.

One bloke says, put it all on black. If you win, put

the money back. You just made 93K. But if you

lose, you're probably going to go to jail. So there's a 50% chance you've

made $93,000 and 100% chance of getting laid because you'll go to prison. or

have an extra heap of money? 2,500 likes

I mean, it depends if

you... No, I

A lot about buying drugs, cutting it with baby formula and doubling your

So you don't even need to cut it with anything. You can just buy bulk

I guess the idea is how can you invest it quickly and

not lose the initial 93k so you can make the most out of it. I

think the interest is by far the safest because you're not going to be able to

No. Yeah, it's definitely interest

is the best way forward. Did you end up

This one happened a little while ago. And it was all around Portelli

when he went to Coles and he started buying all the stuff for people. Yeah, back

at Christmas time. Back at Chrissy time. And one of the members was in

Coles, I think it was in Tassie, and he just put up an appreciation post.

He's like, why aren't more billionaires doing stuff like this? And

why are they giving him a hard time for actually doing something good? So

he was on the receiving end. He had a photo with him and Portelli. He

obviously paid for all his stuff. And it was just like a Thank

you post for being a good bloke. He copped a lot of backlash for that.

Tall poppy syndrome? Guys see someone

being successful and go, nah, I don't like

him because of that. So maybe it's more of like a a self-reflection

thing. They're feeling sort of uncomfortable with themselves because they're not at that level.

I get that. If you were upset about him craning a McLaren into

a car or into a car, that'd be impressive. Into

a penthouse or him bragging about his yachts and his planes and

all that sort of stuff. Yeah. Fuck that guy. But

this was just straight up a gesture of goodwill. I

think it's hard to slap down on that. And even if you were to say, oh,

he's only doing it for promotion, he's only doing it so he

looks good in the public eye. Yeah, but he's doing it and

It's very true. We spoke to Powerfish about that months

ago, where all those guys that film themselves

doing these good things, at least they're still doing the good things. So

yeah, even though it's click-baity, it's for likes, it's for clout, it's for

whatever it is, they're still out there doing the positive things.

Yeah, my views have changed on that a fair bit. I used to be pretty off that, but I'm

for it. As long as someone's doing the right thing and they're trying to do something good in the world and

put out some positivity. If they're doing it for views and

Yeah, at least it's having that positive impact in the world. And

it doesn't matter so much what the

intention behind it, if the action is the same, to the

people receiving it anyway. So if you get a

10 grand briefcase because some guy wants

some views, it's still 10 grand and it's still

Mr. Beast cops a bit of heat because something

to do with in America, if you get given something, you have to pay a tax on

it. Or maybe if he gives someone, I think he

gave someone a jet and they sold it and then they had

to pay a tax on the jet. So let's say it

was $2 million and they had to pay $400,000 in

tax. They're like, you're making this guy pay $400,000. Mr. Beast

Ridiculous. And people nitpick on that as a reason to

Do you reckon that's like a human nature trait, though?

Where, like, if you're looking at restaurants, for example, you'll

always only see the bad reviews. So if someone has bad experience, they go,

I'm going to write a bad review. No one writes good reviews. People

do, but usually you pay for them and get your customers

You only need to have a slightly bad experience. to

To speak about that. So it comes back to, I think,

humankind being more inclined to see

the negative in things. We expect it to be good. So

when it's good, it meets expectations. When it's bad, it

falls away from expectations. And that's why people

get shitty. I don't know if that completely relates to

how you treat other people's actions. I think going back to what

you're saying in... Tall poppy. Tall poppy syndrome, cutting

someone else down to make yourself feel a little bit better. That's where

Yes, that's shit. Don't cut people down that are doing good

for themselves. Lift yourself up to try

Did you see this one that popped up? A guy posted Gents,

what's your cure for a huge sebaceous cyst

on your neck? And he posted this crazy big

Did you see the photo? Because I just wanted to see it get popped. Disgusting. Oh,

nah, so good. Disgusting. I froth like

What? Okay, what's with that thing? Like the whole like, there's

If I see that video, I will swipe up so fucking quick.

No, see, I froth that stuff. I think you mentally ill.

Yeah. It's all right. It's just there's something satisfying about

seeing like, big cyst or a

Is it satisfying? Cause say like

bricklaying in the patterns and when everything fits nicely, that's

like a satisfying thing to watch or slicing

through vegetables very thinly. Like there's

videos like that. Is it the same thing or is it an element

It's the gore and the yuckiness in it too, but it's also, I don't know,

They're not, it's gross. Oh. It's gross, anyway,

Okay, so there was like a thousand comments on that. And

the thing that kept coming up in the comments was, okay, you

have this hideous, massive problem on

your body. This is a health concern and

you've come to bloke's advice. We're not doctors.

I don't think the doctors made the

Well, top comment is you. Of course. Am

I the only one that wants to watch a video of this getting drained and popped with

670 likes? So

clearly people for some reason are agreeing with you.

They love watching shit get drained. That

could go many ways, that actual comment. Big

There are people called doctors. They are not new. They

have been around a while now. Maybe go and see someone. Sound

medical advice. That's what Bloke's advice is for. Someone

WD-40 fixes everything. Not a plug, but if WD-40 wants

to reach out to us, looking for sponsors, and we have

So keeping on mind this thing's on the back of his neck, one bloke

Yeah, makes sense. That'll fix it right up. Well, it comes back to that whole

baseline thing. How do you know it's not going to fix it? And

I guess that's true. But I believe in

So how do you know? You're right. He's no worse off. Yeah.

That could be a fix, that could be like the new piss disc thing. That could

Piss discs. Piss discs are

great. And that's a very, very common, so a bit of context here.

So, a lot of the time there

will be neighbor disputes in bloke's advice and A

lot of those questions that get asked with that is, how do I get back

at my neighbor? The go-to way to get back at your neighbor

So a piss disc is when you piss on a plate and

you put it in the freezer and you make a disc of

piss. And then you go to your neighbor and you slide it

through under their front door or back door, however, wherever

you can slide it. When that disc, like, melts,

So it's like you slide it right into their house and

then it melts down their hallway. And it's like someone has walked into

their house and just taken a piss on the floor and they have no

idea how it happened. That's a piss disc. That's a piss disc.

That's gonna be a reoccurring comment coming up in some of these other posts.

If we take it back to Christmas time, there was a hell of a

One of the ones that sort of sparked my attention was the guy that gave away a

One of the guys. Yeah. This was great because the

recipient of it put up a post sort of

Yeah, so the guys got around that. It got 5,800 likes. So boys love a

little bit of boy love. I'll

read through it real quick because it's a bit of a long post, but he said

to the guy that gave it to him, when you posted up the PS5,

I was skeptical. I just received bad news about my

job and my mom. Fast forward a week, two close friends passed

away in a horrific car crash. I was then hijacked out

of 50K. Pretty much

this guy's life wasn't going great. He

was very skeptical that this thing wasn't actually true.

He thought he was kind of going to get scammed. It was too good to believe. He's got

a special needs son as well, who is an avid gamer, and

his PS3 had just shit the bed. So it couldn't have gone to a more

genuine, needy bloke. He said, my son cried,

I cried, all in a good way. This bloke went above and beyond. He

chucked in a Dan Murphy's gift card to boot. Brother, you are

my light right now. All good things come to those who

do good. The universe will shine on you. My promise is

to pay it forward when I'm in the green again and someone else here

It's good. Just makes you feel good, doesn't it? That there

is a community in Australia on

Facebook that will give guys

that feel good moment

in such a dark time that they are probably going through.

And I love that he's reached out and told people about how

it's made him feel because in turn that just makes other people go, oh, shoot,

Yeah, and it's going to have that flow on effect. We so often see the giving

but the receiving is like the kind of beautiful side of the story.

Like when the guy gave away the Swift and we got to

see that sort of handover. Awesome, love it. So before

and afters. Moving through it. Now this is...

This kind of got sparked by a guy that was asking for advice, his

life wasn't going so well. There was a lot of

back and forth in the comments and a lot of it came back to his drinking,

his drinking habits. So a guy put up a post and

said he feels sorry for this guy who kind of

got, I won't say torn to shreds, but

held accountable to how much he was drinking. And

that may be being the primary reason that his

life wasn't going the way he wanted. He was drinking about a six pack a day. Probably

too much. So that raised the question, how much should you drink? What's

right for you? What's the balance? And that led the

comment section up because everyone has very opposing views on what

is the right amount to drink. So I thought that'd be interesting to discuss saying

that we are probably not on the same level with that after your... No,

Yeah, the pros at the races, that was

It did a number on me, yeah. Well and truly did

a number. And I just

haven't really hit the piss since then. Roses

So I do drink a lot. I'm not smashing

a six pack a day, but I would say the majority of days

I will have a couple of beers when I'm sitting down with dinner or working or

whatever, which a lot of people would say is

Because your boys should always pull you up on your shit. That's a helpful

A lot of guys are in the same boat in the comment section. It's part of their routine

and whether that's good for your health or not, they love getting home after a

hard day's work, cracking a beer. It's what

they do and it's sort of, alcohol is a,

It's a depressant. That's the word. Alcohol is

a depressant. It's kind of a depressant, but it does. It's

It does something to you. I think it might release dopamine or something. It does have some

positive effects on your mind. So

Yeah, don't go hitting the glass barbie after a

And that's what this comment section was discussing. Because a lot of boys was like, six

nights too fucked, one or two knockoffs, that's all right. And

then other boys were saying, if you drink daily, whether

you like it or not, you got a problem. So there's a lot of back and forth

there. And I think it comes down to understanding what

works for you. But in saying that,

it's so easy to justify, oh, I still am a good

dad, I still have a good job and I can drink all this as well. Are

you doing it with that or are you doing it in

Well, I think the whole question is, what

is too much to be drinking, there is like a textbook

This comes down to a whole nother thing that just because there

It's probably low for a reason. I trust some medical professionals

It's like three or five standards a week or something. That's

like two and a half VBs. That's fine. No,

it's not. No one in Australia drinks that much.

I don't drink that much. I would

be lucky to have that amount of drinks over

That's not true because we had cocktails and that was probably that amount

but they're cocktails, they're pretty, they don't count. That doesn't count? No, that doesn't count. If

Like three standard drinks, right? That's like your mom has a

glass of wine on Friday and Saturday night, she's

over. that seems like

not an excessive amount to drink. So I think maybe that's

the number for optimal best health. I think optimal

health is zero because there's no actual health benefits to

alcohol. But then you have to look at the social implications of

Well, we've spoken about that a few times that there is social

benefits of having a beer with the boys. And whether you use

that as like a social lubricant or it's just a tool to be able to get out with

the boys and have conversations or just hang out with your

people, Yeah, there's benefits to that. They

may not be physical benefits, but the fact that you're out there with

people over a beer. Yeah,

There's definitely mental health benefits of drinking if you do

it in the right way. Whether that is

the ability to socialize or even if you're doing it by yourself for

that knockoff unwind. If

that works for you and it makes you a little bit happier and it's not being

detrimental, I think go for it. I mean, I

See, I don't do it, but I'm not against guys that are doing it.

I've been on the tool, so I know how important, or not important, I

know how good a knockoff beer feels on a Friday afternoon. That

There's nothing better than working in

the garden all morning. And then like, I usually wait till like 11am

or midday, just so you don't feel too bad. And when you're hot

and sweaty and covered in shit, that first

cold beer, oh, it's making me pretty excited.

See, I don't feel that because This

makes me nervous to say this. Like I've said some pretty controversial

things on this podcast. My Mrs.

Moe's. Gay. No,

well she likes Moe. I'm like, I'll go over it if she doesn't want to

do it, but she likes Moe so I'll let her mate. I'll whip a

Yeah. Yeah. Well that counts. You can still have a beer after that. It's not much. What do

you reckon the best beer is? Is

it the Friday RV beer? Is it the post,

Oh, that's going to be, it's going to be wild.

Post fight beer at the after party for the podcast Royal

is going to be next level. It's

probably not even going to be after the, at the after party. It's going to be as

soon as I walk out of that rank. the

coldest can of beer I can find. I'm just going to stone cold Steve Austin

Changing gears a little bit. Now this is going to require you

to have some thought about your future because

Right, this has popped up a few times, but he said, hey guys, any

advice for dads out there? My daughter's 16, has a

boyfriend, boyfriend doesn't have much of a good family on his side, so

he's moving from his auntie's house to his friend's house all over the place. Moral

of the story, they feel kind of bad for this bloke. The daughter

feels bad, she wants to take him into the family. He wanted to come

over at 11 o'clock at night. Nope. because

he was feeling sad and then she started feeling sad. And

the dad said, nah, it's too late. That's fair.

It's too late. And his wife was like, oh, but it'll make her

feel better. And he's like, all right, boys, where's

the line? I don't wanna make the wrong call here.

There's nothing good happening for a couple of 16-year-olds at 11 o'clock

No. I mean, it's good for them probably, but... Not under

your roof, mate. No, definitely not. No,

I think, yeah, putting your foot down on that's the

Which can be applied to so many of these situations. And

the wife was... The wife's argument was,

it'll make her feel better. But that's not always your job,

It's pretty fair. I think that's a fair assumption. The dad's doing the

Have you thought about what happens when Bea brings

Hemi's pretty much already a trained boxer. He'll be a proper killer

One guy put in a comment and he had a pretty similar experience so

he shared his thing. I totally banned my daughter's boyfriend from

ever coming to her house after a few lies, dishonesty

and frankly illegal activities. She was pissed off about it

for a long time and her mum told her that

it would blow over. It didn't. Years

later, they've broken up. She saw my point of view and reasoning and

even admitted it was worse than I even knew and that

I was right. She hated to admit it but did. It's your job

to be the parent, not their friend. Same advice again." So,

he's talking years later. She admitted he made

the right call. They're kids, you know. They can't make the best decisions all the

Yeah, definitely not and especially Your

job as a parent is to protect your kids from them not

being able to make those right calls. So yeah, I'm fully

for old mate not letting his daughter's boyfriend

come over at 11 o'clock at night and sleep over because

This is a bit of a throwback. So this was a post that came about around

the same time we started the project, but we weren't doing

the, you know, best of lurks advice stuff. So I wanted to bring it

I do. I do want to do something maybe like a, a

best of throwback where there is some proper heat

in the group. So we might start diving deep.

The stepdaughter, who I've raised since she was nine, now 22, asked

me today if she can legally change her surname to mine. Fuck,

I remember that post, even though it was a while ago. I

Because there's so many boys out there that are raising kids that

aren't directly theirs. And I'm sure it can be testing because

what is a 13 year old now? Fuck you. You're not my dad. Fuck you.

You're putting up with some shit. So to actually take them through

that whole journey and I guess, deal with a

lot of stuff that a normal traditional

dad wouldn't have to, plus all the stuff that that dad has

to as well. It'd be a hard task. So the validation of

getting them into adulthood and being recognized, it's,

Yeah, I think that she's wanted to do that. That's probably

what's made it special for him. I

don't know, that's pretty special. I think that's good. Yeah.

The name thing's interesting. That sparks a

bit of conversation a lot, because whether

it's during a divorce and the

ex-wife might want to change their names back to her name, stuff

like that, or the conversation of who takes the last name in a

modern marriage, I think blokes, as

much as we're trying to be modern and masculine, we have this thing.

We like our last name. We like heritage and lineage. And

It's legacy. And that comes down to that whole, like, your

My last name's dying with me. That's

all over Red Rover. All

right, what else do we have? Well, let's go to another one

that was a little bit previous and it was another

one about stepchildren. Do you have any idea where I'm going

We get the post. Hey fellas, I'm

a 25-year-old guy. I'm in love with a 55-year-old woman.

We're staying together with her 36-year-old son, and

I'm trying to educate him about life, but he just won't listen. Please

Yeah, the 25-year-old stepdad to the 36-year-old stepson.

I mean, he's plugging his mum. How else are you supposed to get respect? Plug his dad.

Yeah, fair. Mate, how does one do that? Do

you just try and do some hand-to-hand combat and the winner gets the respect?

Someone suggested challenging him to FIFA 09, winner takes all.

Nah, you don't want to do FIFA 09. There's too many variables in that, that

could come back and bite you. 1v1 Rust. It's

probably the play. But yeah, no, I reckon just, what, there's 11 years

It's the best way. Well, because he wants the respect. He's

25. He's got youth on his side. The

36 year old probably has a little bit more experience and he's probably pretty

passionate. The fact that he doesn't want a

Yeah, you get to jump in the fight

with the backing of knowing this guy's plugging your mum.

But then if you beat him too badly, is he then going to get

I think at the end of the day, this is satire. And

it was surprising how many blokes didn't really pick up on that. That

guy was taking the piss. We

get a lot of posts like that where it's trolls, essentially. It's just a

How often do you reckon people just skim over that and

All the time. So much. People need

to have more of a laugh about satire.

Because, I don't know, it's feel good. It

starts conversation. It provokes different

feelings from different people. And I love

They have a great team. We've said it many times, but it's

off as always there, Queensland Health. If you guys want to get someone from your professional

outlets to come and sit down with us. We'd love to have some professional

They said they were going to come, but the lady that was going

to come went on maternity leave. So I

How long do babies take? Like 12 months, eh? Leave

In the group, it's funny how a simple question

can divide a nation. 300,000 blokes,

Well, apparently it's not. We'll say it on the count of three. One,

Parmi. You know why we say Parmi? Because we're

It's, I don't know why there's such a conversation between palmy and

Yeah. It's so weird. And the Palmer people are so passionate about doing it

Do you reckon they just do it to take the piss? Like that's satire for

I reckon that they like being different. You

know, it's kind of like people that dye their hair blue and stuff. They

Yeah, but they just want to be different. The top comment, anyone

Oh, what a placement for it. This is probably the best argument. It's

a parmigiana. So it's par-me. The

actual word is not par-ma-giana. So you can't turn it into

I'm going off what this bloke said. Yeah, cool. So

it's the dictionary. P-A-R-M-I-G-I-A-N-A. If

it is Parmigiana, that's how you say it. It's Parmi. Because

We will change the I to a Y. I don't know

Sometimes. Let's go to one that's a little

bit more heartfelt and it goes back to what

we were saying when guys post after the fact. So this was

a guy that did reach out. He was in a bit of a dark spot and

he just put up a bit of an appreciation post. Hey

blokes, a couple of weeks ago, I put a post up. It was the

first time I was brave enough to speak up. Since the

post, over 40 blokes from this page have reached out to me

directly through personal messages, offering me advice and

even offering their numbers in case that I needed to talk. I'd

just like to say, thank you. The support of this group

is amazing. And if any one of you out there is struggling, just

know you can reach out. These blokes will support you. Thanks

everyone. That's why we do blokes advice. So

not often do we actually hear that side of it. We

don't need the validation for it all the time. But a

guy like that, we don't know how many people are messaging when

this stuff happens. He's like 40 people straight into my inbox. Help,

advice, phone numbers. He's got a support network immediately because

That's half the issue. Half the issue is actually being brave enough to reach out. And we've said

that time and time again. that unless you're brave enough to reach

out, people don't know that you need the help or

you need the support. Being

that this has been a best of bloke's advice and we've dived in and we've spoken

about some of the satirical side of bloke's advice, some of the heartfelt side

of bloke's advice. One very important side of bloke's advice

is the motivation inspirational side

of bloke's advice. And our bloke

of the week this week is someone who has been very, very active in the group for

I would say a little while now. He's probably pulled some inspiration from one of

our past guests. And he has been coming to all the barbecues. He's

been posting up very regularly. And because

of that, I want to give this guy a bit of motivation to keep doing what

Another bloke inspiring guys to get out there and lose weight.

Big dude, it's hard to start when you were that big. He's already lost a shitload of

weight. So as always, we'll get the merch back

out to you, but I'm going to have to check in with him because the

So when he started, he's like, oh, I won't fit any of your shirts. He

squeezed into the 5XL. He's down under that now. So

It's doable, yeah, for sure. So check in with us and

yeah, thanks for inspiring so many blokes. It's really helped people.

He knows that because he's got the same as all the other guys, they're messaging him

for advice and he's got these little circles he's created. He's

super active in the side chat we have to the Blokes Advice Group,

the Better Bloke Project, where guys can actually just have an ongoing conversation.

That's actually starting to become such an unreal community inside that little

side chat. It's, I think we've maxed it out.

It's 5,000 members in there. So it's not a small side chat.

But that's as big as we can actually do it. So if you can't get in, you

And on that note, guys, we're going to round out another episode of

The Best of Blokes Advice. If you like this or want to see us dive back into some

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