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Now, I don't know about you, but I've had my

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fair share of moments where I've stared in the

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mirror and where that

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25 year old with the perky well,

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everything a too. But you know what?

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I'm over it. I'm embracing this

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50 plus body of mine, wrinkles,

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jiggles, and all, and I want to help you do

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the same. So today, we're gonna talk about

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body positivity.

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Hey, friend. Ever feel like those old fashioned

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ideas about aging just don't fit you? If you're ready to

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own this incredible chapter with grace, style, and a touch of

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sass, this is your space. Welcome to the aging with

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grace and style podcast. I'm Valerie Hatcher, and I'm here

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with empowering tips, inspiring stories, and a whole lot of

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fun just for us, women over 50. So grab

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your favorite beverage, turn up the volume, and let's

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get started.

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So what is body positivity and why does it matter?

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In simple terms, body positivity is all

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about accepting and loving your body as it is,

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regardless of shape, size, age, or

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any so called imperfections. It's

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about shifting the focus from what society

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tells us we should look like to appreciating

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and celebrating our unique beauty. This

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movement isn't new, but its

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relevance for women over 50 is huge.

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We've grown up with so many mixed messages about what

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our body should look like. And as we age,

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those messages don't disappear. In fact, I

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think they get louder, which brings us to some of

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the unique challenges that we face. From

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an early age, we're bombarded with images of

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what the ideal body should look like, youthful,

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wrinkle free, and slim. Remember Sass

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song Brick House by the Commodores? Well, they

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sang about the measurements of 36,

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24, 36. According to that song,

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that was the perfect figure, kinda like the

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hourglass figure. And I can tell you, I a

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to have those measurements. Well, it never

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happened. But as we mature, those

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unrealistic expectations can take a serious

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toll on our self esteem and our body

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image. Our bodies are Aging,

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thanks to menopause and aging, and society

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doesn't make it easy to feel good about those

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changes. I'll admit, there have

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been times Sass I've gotten older when I've looked in the

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mirror and felt totally dissatisfied with the

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changes that I've seen. But you know what?

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My changes and yours too represent

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the journey of our lives. The laughter lines from the

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years of joy, the softer silhouette that

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cradled the new life, our bodies are evidence

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of the experiences that have shaped us.

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I know this journey isn't always easy.

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We all have those days when we just feel

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down on ourselves. That's why I wanted to

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discuss this topic and share some practical

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tips to help you cultivate body positivity.

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So let's talk about those challenges that I mentioned earlier.

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Society and media often portray

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aging as something to be feared or avoided

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at all costs. A don't want to avoid with at all costs because then

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when you think of what happens when we stop aging,

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I don't think we're ready to go there. But we see

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these perfect images of youth and beauty

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everywhere, and it can really be hard

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not to compare ourselves. On top of

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that, our bodies are navigating

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menopause, weight fluctuations, wrinkles,

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and all a these can impact our self image.

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But guess what? We don't have to buy into that

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negative narrative. We can choose to

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embrace our bodies and all the amazing

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things that they've done to and continue to

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do for us. I wanna share a personal

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story. So for many years, I a

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with accepting my body, especially as

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I saw it change with age and with the fluctuations in

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my weight. There was a time a few years ago

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when I put on weight a

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due to work related stress and also

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because, my need for hip replacement surgery and

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not being as active as I used to be. So I'm a

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stress eater. So I was stressed

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about work, so I ate. I was

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stressed about the hip and the corresponding pain,

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so I ate. Then I tried to lose weight, and

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it wouldn't come off, so I stressed about not being

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able to eat, to lose weight, and I ate some

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more. Each time I walked in

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front of the mirror, I did not like what I

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Sass, but I realized that every line,

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every curve told a story.

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Now was it a story that I wanted to hear at that point?

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Probably not. But it was a testament

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of my life, my experiences, and my strength to

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control what was in my a. And

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that was to stop stress eating.

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And I know I'm not alone in this journey.

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I've had the pleasure of talking to some

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incredible women who have embraced body

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positivity. Their stories are powerful and

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inspiring. Take Janae, a a

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vibrant 62 year old who decided to start a

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fitness journey not to lose weight, but to

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feel stronger and more connected to her body.

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Or Lynelle, who at 55 began

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modeling to challenge the stereotypes of beauty.

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These women are living proof that it's

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never too late to love yourself just as you

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are. So how do we start embracing

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body positivity? Here are a few tips that have worked for

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me and many other women. Number 1,

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ditch the negative self talk. Instead of

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focusing on your flaws, celebrate your strengths. Be

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kind to yourself, replace negative thoughts with

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positive affirmations. Look in the mirror and appreciate

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the unique beauty that's staring back at you. Don't

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concentrate on rolls or I see flab

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here. I could tone here. Write down

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3 things that you love about your body every day.

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Trust me. It really does work wonders.

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Number 2 is prioritize self care. Make

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time for yourself, whether it's a relaxing

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bath, a walk, or just sitting quietly with a good

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book, which is my favorite. Self care is

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crucial. Number 3,

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healthy habits. Focus on what makes

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you feel good. Take care of your body by eating

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nourishing foods, moving your body in ways

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that feel good, and getting enough sleep.

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When you feel good on the inside, it shows on the

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outside. 4, surround yourself

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with positivity. Follow

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social media accounts and join communities

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that promote body positivity, proaging,

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and self love. Fill your environment

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with messages that uplift and inspire

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you. And 5, experiment with

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fashion. Find clothes that make you feel

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confident and beautiful. Don't let anyone tell

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you what you can or can't wear at this age.

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It's your body and your rules.

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Wear what makes you feel good. If you love bright

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colors, then rock them. If you like print,

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rock them. If you prefer Sass a,

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then go for it. The key is to find

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clothes that flatter your figure and make you feel

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like a $1,000,000. Don't be afraid to try

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new trends, but always stay true to your personal

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style. You know what? It's

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time that we redefine

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beauty on our own terms. True beauty

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radiates from the inside out. It's the graceful

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confidence of a woman who understands her

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worth isn't measured by a number on

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a scale or the tautness of her skin.

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When we embrace our bodies with compassion,

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we free ourselves from the constraints of

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meaningless a. Let's look

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at and be inspired by these women who

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are rocking body positivity. One that I've noticed

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is Ellen DeGeneres. She embraces her

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true self and inspires 1,000,000. And

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did you know she has a skincare line? She does. Check it out.

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Oprah Winfrey, we all know she promotes self love

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and a through her platforms. And

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then I recently saw Christie Brinkley on the

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Touch Show. First of all, I didn't know she was 70,

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but she mentioned how she talked about how

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she embraces aging gracefully.

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These women remind us that beauty is

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ageless a confidence comes from within.

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Now, unfortunately, the world sometimes still

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carries ugly prejudices against older women,

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often treating us as invisible or devaluing

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our wisdom and experience. But we have the power

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to challenge those tired stereotypes just by

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existing as our authentic, vibrant selves.

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Our presence shatters the misguided notion that

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life's adventures end at a certain age. Girl, please.

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With grace and courage, let's keep rewriting the narrative

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around aging, celebrating every season of

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womanhood. So let's

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make a pact today to love ourselves

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deeply, to reject the misguided judgment

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of others, and to lift up our fellow

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a along the way. Our bodies

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are meant to be cherished and appreciated for their

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amazing capacities, not criticized for

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falling short of an unrealistic ideal.

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When we lead with body positivity,

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we give ourselves and then those around us

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the gift of wholeness and belonging.

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Let's keep fanning those flames of self love because a

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confident, radiant woman over 50,

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no. That's true inspiration.

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Before we go, I want to share some resources that

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can help you on your body positivity

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journey. Check out these Sass, such as,

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A Body is Not an Apology by Sass Renee

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Taylor. And it's about celebrating everybody

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and never apologizing for your body.

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Another is Body Positive Power

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by A Jane Crabbe. And then

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and the 3rd book that I recently picked up is called

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Fearless by Trinny, t r I n n

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y, Woodall. I'm gonna put them in the show notes

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so you can look them up. But and, also, follow

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other podcasts that champion body positivity.

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One last Aging. I have some exciting news. To

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show my appreciation for all your support

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and to help you on your body positivity journey,

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I'm doing a special giveaway. I'll be giving away

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a copy of a of the amazing books that I mentioned.

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It's going to be A Body is Not an Apology by

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Sonya Renee Taylor. So here's how you enter.

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Leave a review of the podcast and take a screenshot of your

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review and email that screenshot to me at

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hello at Aging with grace and

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style dot com, or you can

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subscribe to our newsletter at pod.aging

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with grace and style.com. Check the show

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notes. I'll have them in there, this information in

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there. I really, really want to give away a book. So

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make sure that you complete one of these steps by June

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11th, and then I'll announce the lucky winner on the

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show on June 18th. I can't wait to see

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your entries and hear your thoughts on the podcast. Now good

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luck, everybody. Well, just

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like that, we've come to the end of another episode.

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This topic is really important to us.

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I hope that I provided some encouragement to

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embrace your unique, beautiful self

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without apology. Remember, body

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positivity is a journey, not a destination.

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It takes time, effort, and a whole

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lot of self love, but I promise with is

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so worth it. Embrace your body,

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celebrate your strength, and don't let anyone tell you that

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you're not beautiful a as you are.

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As always, thank you for tuning in. Until next

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time, keep living your best life with

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grace and style.

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Thanks for hanging out with me today. I hope you're feeling

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inspired and ready to own your awesomeness. I love

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sharing this space with you. And if you of today's episode,

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