Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to

have Adrian Moy with me today. He's been on my show for several

times now.

Yeah, it's just incredible energy, awesome feedback after

we publish our episodes, and lots of wisdom that Adrian has

to share that is very valuable, in my opinion. Today, we're

going to talk about sex versus love, and how maybe we

experienced love and sexuality in our past, and why we feel

there is a need to talk about this right now. Welcome to the

show. Asian, I'm so happy to connect with you here with your

beautiful energy.

Yeah, I hope you've been well. And thank you so, so much for

making the time to be to be with us today.

Thank you. Thank you, Aurora. It's wonderful to be here again.

Our pleasure.

And yes, our topic today is sex versus love.

But also, love and sex. And the topic is been very sought after,

since we mentioned it in some of our other podcasts. And many of

the people that have been tuning in, that are in my circle are

very excited to hear this. And I think that excitement comes from

the standpoint of love. Everybody wants love. Everybody

wants more love in their life.

From the heart of all hearts, any person on this planet wants

love. And I think it's very important for us to distinguish

why we're having this topic today, the difference between

sex and love. And when I first brought it up to you, I think

the expression that I said was, sex is not love.

And when you just say that phrase, when I've said that

phrase to other people, their ears perk up, they're very

interested in that sex is not love.

You can experience love through sex. But it is very important to

distinguish the two because what happens is in the realm of

sexuality, it can limit love.

And so love is our main focus. Love is something that I believe

is ever so most important in this day and age now more than

ever, we see everything that happened in the world was COVID

and people having to social distance and not touch each

other and quarantine themselves. It made it very clear how

separated we can be from each other.

And, and separation, just in the physicality standpoint

was a very big window into Okay, where else? Where else are we

separated? We're separated emotionally, intellectually,

societally

from each other. And when you when you have that big

separation, a very obvious separation, especially with

COVID You know, many people have experienced this this great

loud,

was the word I want to use a very great loud clarity on how

little love they have in their life. So some people like you

and I and others in the world had noticed, okay, this thing

showed me how separated I am from my fellow human beings. But

then even for myself, like, Alright, now that I realize how

much more I want to connect with people, what type of a

connection do I want? Well, I want a love connection.

I think even before COVID started, people wanted love

connections. There are songs about love. There are ballads

about love, there are poems and plays and dramas and books, and

movies and TV shows all revolved around love. There are greeting

cards. Love is a very beautiful thing. Love is something that

everybody wants. And a lot of times people can misconstrue

sex, for love.

So that's what we're talking about today. Like people want to

have love in their life and sex. A lot of the times get brought

in gets brought into the picture of like, okay if I want to have

love, especially when it comes to an adult

and

When it comes to affection with another adult, sex can get in

the way of love. And so we wanted to find that difference.

And it is very important because love in its purest state is its

own concentrated energy form.

And sex is a different thing from just the core energy,

vibration, the core understanding of love.

I'm going to say a little phrase here. And if people aren't

experienced or knowledgeable in geometry, they can Google this,

and I would recommend them to google it to give them a visual

aid. But I like to say it like this, when you look at sex and

love. It's like a square and a rhombus. A square can be a

rhombus. But a rhombus can't be a square. So without going too

much into detail, people who don't know that visual aid,

Google it square versus rhombus, you'll get the image. Same thing

with sex and love. Sex can lead to love sex can express love,

but sex is not love, love is bigger than that.

So first, let's just start with what is sex.

Sex is something that it's a physical expression

that you share with someone. Now, let's say outside of a

committed relationship, you want to express your greatest

expression, you want to express out to someone how much you

appreciate that person, how much you are gonna use the word love

that person, how much you want to experience with that person.

So emotionally, you will love them, you will have an

intellectual connection with them. And then now you want to

share intimacy and affection on a physical level. You can love

your child, you can love your grandma, you can love your

brothers and sisters, your mothers and your fathers. And

that's all pure love. Well, when you want to open up yourself on

a physical sexual level, that's an entirely different aspect of

love. That is a world where for the most part is used for

procreation, sure, plain and simple, we're going to procreate

and create a new life form. But if you look into what that does,

I like to take it very magically. And look at a very

energetically what you're doing when you're having sex with

another person is you're opening a portal. It's like a ceremony

that doesn't require

certain symbols or candles or things. It's a birthright. It's

a ceremony that opens up a portal to bring another soul and

other spirit and other consciousness onto this earth

plane.

And so that act of sex is a very sacred ritualistic ceremony that

literally opens up a portal to a gateway to bring another human

life form onto this planet onto this dimensional plane. When you

think about the concept of that opening up a portal and doing

the ceremony is a great feeling. It's a really good feeling. It's

a yummy, it's full of ecstasy, and eroticism and passion

because you're performing something of great

substantiation, you're brewing, you're doing a ceremony that's

bringing another life form onto the planet. So there's big

energy there. And it's not only just on an emotional level, it's

on a very physical level. So that, to me is why sex feels so

good. Because you're doing like the highest of high ceremonies,

that doesn't require tools or extra stuff. It's just your

natural birthright as a living being to perform in this thing.

So it feels really good. Well, people love really good

feelings. People love good feelings for their body, you go

and get a massage. You eat food that tastes great in your mouth,

like strawberries, or cake or coffee, whatever it is, and you

have that sensation on your tastebuds. And as your digestion

and the warmth in your stomach that feels good. So you're going

to want to continue to do those things. So that's the same with

sex, you have this really great, yummy experience with someone

you want to have that you want to do that again and again and

again and again and discover how you can make it greater and

better. Sex initially is for procreation, but comes with all

this great effect from it. So it is very sacred. It is very

energetic, it is very connected. You get very connected with

people. So like I said, you can love people in your life. But

you're not going to have sex with your son, or your grandma

or your neighbor. You're going to have sex with somebody that

you're going to open up fullest to on an emotional and a

physical level. So in the realm of sex, what people do is they

start putting the idea of love into sex. Now sex is this

conduit to have this gateway to this love. Now what happens is

People are looking at sex as that's where my love code is.

And the reason that we're bringing this up is, like I

said, Because sex can lead to low sex can originate from low.

But love is bigger than sex. So sex is not low. Love is there

all the while. And what happens is, if I wanted to love another

person, like another adult,

and I wanted to actually experience the true love

connection that is available between us, a lot of the times

people think, well, in order for us to do that we have to be

partners, like if I'm going to love you, fully, and 100%,

doesn't sex have to come with it? Well, no, it doesn't. So I

will, here's an example, if I see a lady, and we become

friends, and I get very intimate with her, and intimacy, to me,

isn't sexuality. Intimacy, to me is getting very deep, and very

connected with someone that can shy people away, because the

thought in their mind that I see time and time again is, wait a

minute, we're crossing a line of just mere friendship, and an

acquaintance ship, we're going into the realm of like depth and

intimacy and getting to know each other, and getting very

open and sharing the deep crevices of our emotions and our

experiences in life. Well, I can't do that with you. I have a

boyfriend, or a husband. And then they'll stop that love

cold, they'll stop that availability, it's like, you

open this tunnel, and they like chop the tunnel off, because,

wait, I'm only supposed to be able to share this type of

intimacy with my lover.

And they stop love from coming in because they get sex in the

way of love.

And then the same thing even more, say another example. Let's

say I meet a woman, and she is not with a man. And she doesn't

have a partnership that keeps her from opening herself up. If

she's not sexually attracted to me.

She'll also say, wait a minute, I can't get this intimate and

deep and connected with you because I'm waiting for my

prince charming. And I have to reserve all of this love

attention that I have. For the someone that I know is coming

that I'm going to hand select that meets this criteria, then

I'll open up my heart and share love with that person. Again,

that's where sexuality gets in the way of love. And why people

do that. Why people make sex love, is because for some reason

our society has taught us that that true genuine love has to be

shared with the one and people are looking for the one. And I

think that oneness comes from

the idea where when you are in a partnership with someone when

you're in a committed relationship, married, you have

a lover in your life that can get possessive

that can get controlling. And so your love partner will have this

maybe unspoken.

And unspoken,

expectation of you're going to get your love from me, this love

this pure love that we have, it's going to come from me. And

that's also going to come in our conversation in our company in

our sex and the time that we spend together. And that is

singular, just to us. If either one of them in their

relationship starts getting some love from somewhere else in

their life, then their partner can become jealous. And they'll

say, Wait a minute. No, you can't go get love from neighbor,

Bob. You're supposed to get it from me, Jeremy because I'm your

love partner. It has to come from me. And then Susie's, like,

wait a minute, I love you, Jeremy. But I can still get love

from neighbor, Bob. That doesn't mean I'm going to have a marital

affair are gonna cheat on you sexually. But that's the way

Jeremy may

experience that situation he would, he wants to be her source

for love. And his idea of source for love is he thinks that she's

gonna go cheat on neighbor, Bob because she's getting love.

Or she's gonna cheat with neighbor because now she's

getting love. And then again, sex spills into the concept of

love. But they're not the same thing. So partnerships are a big

reason and history of where love gets cut off from us. Why we

think that if you are experiencing love and intimacy

in a very deep connected level with another person, that it

leads into the realm of sex. And so now, affection

and intimacy have been kind of cast out from our society, as a

as a humanity as a culture, because that's where the whole

sex thing gets drawn.

Where

In a perfect example, story that you told me a little child was

at some public area. And he hurt himself and this lady ran up

just to coddle him just to be affectionate to this poor little

child who just got hurt. And without even thinking, she just

kind of hugged him, and his head rested on her chest. Now the mom

comes screaming across the park, get your breasts off my son's

face, she turned that the mom turned it into some sexual

encounter, as if the woman who was cuddling the child had some

sexual intention with this little child. And that's just

one little example of how sex gets in the way of love.

Love is so available for us all the time, in so many connected

ways, through conversation, and relationship, yet, we all steer

away from love, because love gets people very intimate. It

gets people very connected. And the very first thing that people

do is they think sex is involved with it. Yeah, but it's not. I

think we are so like, our society is so love starved.

There was ever something comes up that reminds us of love. We

feel triggered now. And we're like, Oh, my God, it's right

there. Someone else is getting it, but not me, or I'm getting

it. But I want to feel in control of it. Or it makes me

feel awkward, because now all of a sudden, I'm vulnerable again.

And this is why I believe it is so important to talk about it

now. Because like you said, COVID made it even more obvious

and more intense. And now once COVID is going to wrap up and

everything is going to come to a new normal. Let's do it

differently than we did before. Especially here in North

America. Where it's physical touch is even. Yeah, very

frowned upon. It's taboo. Yeah. And coming from Europe.

I can see it clear as day and I see people being depressed, I

see people. But I cannot explain how it developed in in Europe

differently than here like I know, we talked about it on the

first show, I think

it is so tough to to explain this. Why on this other

continent, physical touch is handled very differently and

only be behind closed doors. And

what do you think?

Let's say COVID is over like that whole. quarantining

lockdown is over in a couple of weeks. What would you?

What would you love to see? Because we can practice already,

we can practice already in lockdown, to be more

affectionate with ourselves, and then to see affection towards

other people differently? What would be your ideal and what

would be your ideas on how we could shift society gently into

that direction?

Well, first I'd like to say what, what I would like to see.

What I would like to see is people being more affectionate

with each other affection that comes with compassion, kindness,

consideration,

all the virtues that I talked about all the time, forgiveness,

patience, you open yourself up with such great admiration and

appreciation for the people that are in the world that we live

in. And love follows suit. So think about the love that you

have for your lover, or your child, or your grandmother. It

is what I like to talk about is unconditional love, love without

condition. You don't conditional eyes, somebody with your love to

conditional eyes, someone with your love, which happens all the

time is to say I will love you. If I will love you. If if you do

this or you act this way or you fit my vibrational code, then I

will love you. If you fall out of that vibrational code, I may

or may not want to love you.

If you're not this thing that I want, I may or may not love you,

but when you look at a child or a pet, or Grandma, you love them

unconditionally. You just love them, you know that sometimes

they're going to challenge you, but in the back of your mind and

after the challenge happens. The very next thought is what I love

Have them. I love them. And that's accepting people for who

they are. And accepting people for who they are, is being

compassionate, is being considerate. It's being kind.

And it's just appreciating them and what they are. Because if

you wipe everyone off the planet, and you're the only one

there, you learn how to love yourself and you learn how to

appreciate your existence. Now, you speckled with this, 8

billion different flavors and varieties of people. Can you

love all those different types of people as well, you don't

have to love them with a hang up and say, well, that person, I

would love them. But since they're like that, I can't love

them. It's like, Well, I'm sure you still can love them, no

matter how they are. That doesn't mean you need to hang

out with each other, and have conversations that turn into

arguments, you know, so loving, seeing people to be more

intimate and affectionate and kind to each other, to me would

be a great start to our society opening up love from each other.

And, and along with that, too, like you said, what happens

throughout all of our what has happened throughout all of our

history is that new love is now triggered with fear and

harassment, and predatorial, sexualization and soliciting

lust soliciting sexuality, the way it's done with men and

women, like throwing yourself up on stage and doing some bird

dance to get people sexually involved with you. Because you

want attention. Because you want to be told you're pretty,

because you want to be seen, because you want love, because

you want to feel heard and seen and listened to. And you want

people to send back to you that yes, you are beautiful. Yes, you

are heard. Yes, you matter. Yes, I love you in this world. I love

that you exist. And that's that that goes back to feeling loved,

feeling loved. And so how to do that. Let's just start with

relationships in a relationship, marriage 50 year marriage

partnership, open relationship, polyamorous or just single

people dancing around looking for love. And although maybe

right or wrong places. When you get into a partnership, can you

have a relationship where you're not controlled or possessed by

your partner, or you can still go out into the world and love

anyone you want without the conditional conditional isation

of your partner being jealous or controlling about what you do

and who you share your time and attention with that, right there

is free and low. And I've seen it both men and women, I gave

you a couple of examples of how women were afraid to be intimate

and share love with me, because they had a boyfriend or a

partner or husband. But it goes both ways. There are men

story that I've heard, I don't know them. But a friend told me

there was a man who was so conditioned by his wife, that he

actually will not talk to women. If they are a female, he will

not make eye contact with them. If they approach him and talk to

him, he will keep the conversation as short as

possible, because his wife has shamed him into thinking that if

you are communicating or connecting with a female gender,

it is a betrayal to our relationship. So this man and

he's been married for 30 Something plus years, has now

cut off communication with 50% of the population due to the

insecurity of his wife.

That's pretty severe. And that's not uncommon.

It can be that drastic. It can also be subtle. You know, like,

your girlfriend's gonna go out with a bunch of her friends. And

then she's at a party, and she meets some guys and she comes

home and she tells her lover about this really cool guy that

she met, he's instantly jealous. He instantly ruin her story for

her. He instantly now has her questioning if what she did was

okay to create a connection with another male. And so in the

relationships, that's where love can get stolen because of that

possessiveness, because people think when you're in a loving

relationship, when you're having sex with a person, that now

means that you are conditional eyes to me. Now. Now that

belongs to me. Now what you have is mine. We shared specs

together. Now you're mine, and I'm yours. And now we get to

dictate to each other, what we're going to be well, you can

have a partnership, a sexual partnership with someone that

should not stop you from being able to share love and intimacy

with other people. That does not need to

challenge the relationship that you have with your lover. But

when you have insecure lovers, those insecurities are going to

start drying either spoken or unspoken boundaries. So the

lovers really have to get in tune with their own security.

They have to be really solidly grounded and know my lover can

go and

and dance and sing and play and talk with whomever she wants. I

don't need that to interrupt my security in our relationship.

But it does happen. People do let that interfere with their

love connection. And then they're like, Well, you know

what, honey, when you went out with those people, and they were

of opposite sex, a different gender, that made me feel

challenged. So I would like it if you would not connect with

them. Because that challenges me, well, that's that person's

insecurity. And then if they do that to their partner, and then

their partner agrees to that, they're now cutting love out of

their relationship, out of their access to have love and intimacy

and connection with other human beings just because they're

having sex with this one person. That's why sex can limit love

and love needs to be distinguished separately from

sex, you can have a monogamous sexual partner, or you can have

a polyamorous sexual group of people that you're involved

with. Again, love is on a different realm. Love is its own

thing. And love needs to be considered and looked at and

talk this about, in your lifestyle, as that, get really

clear with yourself what love means to you, and then go out

and find it, and get it. But cultivate it within yourself. So

you're very clear on what you're doing. So if you're going to go

out and, and open up love from yourself to other people,

whoever you engage with, and whatever new encounters you

have, make it very clear to them. I am not here for sex, I

am here for love. And then let that be the foundation of the

relationship. And then you can get really intimate and deep and

very connected and very affectionate and very

intimate. I said that twice with someone when you made it very

clear that you're not there for six. So now, what does that look

like? Well, I've had that experience. I've had that

experience. Just recently, any of my Facebook followers know

this, I went on a road trip with myself, no family, no friends,

just me. And there are people that I had met through Facebook

because I'm looking to find really spiritual, wholesome,

grounded, self expansive, enlightening individuals through

this social media network. And I did, and two of them were women.

And they felt the connection just through the social media,

and then just through our messaging interactions. And so

when I told them, I was going to be traveling, and I was going to

come through their neighborhoods, I said, I would

love to come and connect with you. Now these women are single,

and they were very happy to receive. So I was like, this is

really happening. This is awesome. You know what I was

like, a little, not nervous, but I wanted to be very delicate

with it. Like don't scare the butterfly. All right. You want

to experience love. You want experience love with someone. So

be really gentle with it, be very delicate with it and be

very intentional, and sacred and clear on what you're thinking

and doing. So these women invited me into their homes. And

ultimately, I'm a strange man. But the connection that we

create a transcendent Facebook and the messenger texting apps,

and they just felt that connection of like, yes, Adrian

is safe, Adrienne is good. I can relax and know that he is safe

and trust Him. And so they allowed this experience to

happen. They brought me into their homes, they fed me. And

then we got to share love, and intimacy. And that had nothing

to do with sexuality. There was no erogenous zones, there was no

advances of like yummy romantic, like, whoo, I want to get into

you. None of that we kept it on a very deep, affectionate,

nurturing level, like you would with a child like you would with

grandma. And we set the stage for that. And the love that we

shared was so pure and majestic. And we did cuddle, and we held

each other. And we just kind of like, hummed and breathed. And

it was really nurturing. And it was so affectionate. And it was

so natural. And it was so amazing to have that experience

with women that were single. And we even said when we got to each

other like just to make it clear. We're not here to have

sex. And we're like, yes, that is correct. We're not here to

have sex. And so we got to share true pure love. So it is

available. I experienced it. And then when we parted ways, we

felt so dreamy, so yummy. And we were texting back and forth.

Like I've been smiling for the past three hours since you left.

Because we were like lovers. We were like lovers we connected so

vast and so pure and so deep and so intimate, but we kept sex out

of it and that's where true love lives. Now I want to really

quick tap back into the actual committed relationship couples.

When you think about a couple

they if they live together, or even if they don't live

together, but their boyfriend, girlfriend, they're committed,

and they're monogamous. And they're like, in that

relationship, that container of that partnership, you have 24

hours in a day.

If you sleep eight hours of a day, that means you have 16,

waking hours in your 16, waking hours, you're going to use the

bathroom, cook food, do some errands, clean your house, do

some chores, go to work, do whatever. So you have certain

pockets of time where you're going to interact with your

partner. When you're interacting with your partner on a daily

basis, on a weekly basis, sometimes you will, and

sometimes you won't have sex. But the true connection of that

partnership is in the interaction that you have with

each other outside of the sexual time. That's where you love the

person. When you show your affection and your care, you do

little gestures, like you hold the door, or you pull up the

chair, or you fill up their cup of water, or you cook their

favorite food, or you rub their back and you ask them how their

day went. That's what true love looks like in a partnership.

That true love can also be available without that

partnership of Do we agree to have sex with each other? Yeah,

okay, well, then if we agree to have sex with each other, then

we have to have all these other things. You don't. You don't

have to have all those other things just because you're

having sex with someone. So if you take sex out of the

equation, what are you left with? You're left was the love

part, the affectionate part, the intimacy part. Now, let's go to

the place where you're not in a committed partnership container.

Neighbor, Bob, can you have love for neighbor? Bob? Can you be

intimate with neighbor Bob? Yes, you can. His neighbor Bob ready

to be intimate with you? Maybe not. That might really challenge

neighbor, Bob. If you get intimate with neighbor, Bob, he

might want to go sexual with it. So then you got to be like,

okay, hold on neighbor, Bob. I'm not looking for sex. I'm looking

for love. I want to be love with someone, neighbor, Bob, would

you like to be loved with me and not have sex on the table? Now

you leave it up to neighbour, Bob to accept that or not?

Because I did. You know, I have noticed some people, they have

to have all. And if they can't have all, that's where they let

sex get in the way of love. And that's why sex is not love, sex

versus love. I've had women who have opened up to me and loved

me, not the two that I just mentioned that I went on my road

trip because they were We were very clear on what we were doing

with each other, but others who I have shared love with. And

then when they wanted a relationship, or they wanted to

get sexual, and I said no to that. They're like, well, then I

can't have you in my life. And then I got ghosted, because it

was hard for them to receive love, without the promise of

sex, or romance. And society has done that. Because like you

said, because of our history now, when you see love, and it's

right there in front of you, and you want it you get triggered

with all the history of what's behind it. First thing sexuality

has to be sex. So it's important to distinguish that sex is not

love.

But love is available everywhere. So much. Wow. I feel

triggered as fuck. As usually when I when I speak with you.

Because yeah, on the one side, I imagine if I was to be the

loving, like, I am the loving person that that you are and

that you just portrayed here, but especially here now where I

live in rural Alberta. I know I have to dim my light, because

triggers people. It gives people a wrong impression. And they

think sex right away. And this is why I feel triggered because

I'm like, Yeah, I know. Like everything you say is right, and

it feels so good. Yet I know I cannot live it quite yet because

maybe I don't own it enough. Or maybe I don't trust people

around me enough. This is why my conversations with you are

always so like I learned so much from you but also about myself

and where I would love to grow more. And I hope it is the same

for the listeners. Yeah, like you're not alone if you felt

triggered by Adrian, but he is really bringing out living what

we can all like we all have the potential and we just have to

allow it and feel safe with it again. And see like first of

all, be aware that love and sexuality is very fear driven,

very controlled right now and

and being aware of that is a big step already. And then to get to

where Adrian is at is,

is the end boss, so to say?

Like, I love how you put it into words, and I love how you. Yeah,

make it very clear. It resonates everything you say it resonates

with my heart. And

yeah, this is why you are here because I feel more people have

to listen to that have to feel that energy. And trust. Again, I

think it's a lot about trust.

Is there any closing words that you would like the listeners to

take into their days? We have a couple minutes left here. Okay,

yeah. So here's how I do it.

Here's how I put this into actual lifestyle. I know that I

want love. And I gave you an example of how I go out and get

it. I also know it takes it took and even still takes a lot of

self reflection. What am I driving for? What do I want, I

have to be very clear with myself what I want. Because if I

show up in a situation with a person, and I'm stumbling

through it, I'm not very clear on what road I'm traveling. And

then I can get into somebody else's world. And now we're

available for accidents to happen. So I have to be very

clear what I'm looking for. And if I don't know that, and then I

go and engage with someone, whether it's a stranger on the

street, or somebody that I want to go and have coffee with, you

know, I could turn that into a hazard. So I had to get very

clear with myself on what I wanted. So to be very clear, ask

yourself, What are you looking for, if you're looking for a

romantic partnership, then do that and have your heart set on

that and make that your focus. At the same time, you don't need

to stop yourself from receiving love from people that you're not

sexually interested in. It's still available in that world,

if you are going to open yourself up to love. And you

have on one hand, I'm looking for a romantic partnership. And

then on the other hand, I'm looking for good, nurturing,

connected, intimate relationships that are love

based heart centered consciousness.

You have to know that within yourself and then distinguish

the two. So you're not getting lost when you're engaging with

new people be very secure within yourself. So you're not looking

for someone else to draw your security from. So if that's the

thing, oh, you and I'm not looking, I'm not conditional

eyes, in my love on anybody else. Now I'm very solid and

grounded in my own sense of love my own sense of value. Now, when

I show up for someone else, I can put them in the category of

is it romantic? Or is it is it

intimate connection, deep, loving, intimate connection, and

distinguish the two, because then if I can keep myself

focused, and my intention is pure and clear, then I'm not

going to misguide the other person. And I'm not going to set

them up for a situation that's maybe unspoken, and we're not

No, no, we're assuming what the other one wants, I'm going to be

very clear right away upfront, what I feel I'm capable of with

this person. Now there is no misconstrued messages. And

that's part of the practice to be very clear and communicative.

But in order to do that, you have to get yourself right, and

you have to know what it is you are looking for. Then you need

to be very respectful for other people's boundaries. Because

just because I'm available for love, whether it's going to be

romantic, or just a nurtured friendship, a loving friendship,

that doesn't mean everyone's ready for that. And so I hold

their boundaries and my boundaries very consciously. So

when I show up, and I'm this big ball of beaming love, if they're

not ready to receive it, I just pay attention to where I see

their triggers when I see them triggered, and then I don't

shrink my light. I just honor them and say, Okay, that is

enough for you. And then I let them draw their own safety for

themselves without trying to push further like, Hey, we're

supposed to be love can be love with me be love with me, well,

if they're not ready for that, I'm not going to try to force

them into that, because then it's going to trigger them and

shrink them back. That's going to ruin their memory of that

experience. So it's kind of like an expression holding space for

people. You're holding space for someone because you're in such

an empowered place that you can make them available. And then I

can move. And I can dance with their emotional rhythm and not

overstep their boundaries where they're not even paying

attention to their own boundaries. Yeah. And that's how

I show up with love for others and not take on the

responsibility of their triggers. But just see, okay,

we've gone far enough. This is how much they can share. Now I'm

going to pull it back a little bit, or I'm just going to like,

vibrate it on a level that's more safe and secure for them

and then we

part ways are we just shift the relationship to whatever. But

then being because I'm paying attention, I will get verbal

with them. And I'll make it very clear, like, how are you

feeling? Is this okay? Would you like to move in any direction,

and that's just giving them that honor. And so when you talk

about being in a place where you, your neighborhood, where

you live, and how that's not really available for you,

because they want to go to sex, just really saying out loud,

hey, I would love to be friends. I would love to connect with you

and have a good friendship. But I'm not interested in sex. Would

you like that gives them the opportunity to say, You know

what, I would like a brand new good friend, that I can really

open up to and laugh and cry. Well, yes. Even though I'm

sexually attracted to you, if you're not there, let's not stop

the flow of love just because of that.

This is so beautiful. And and what I take away from it is the

empowerment, the clarity, the confidence with yourself. That

is work that you can do already. Yeah, even if you are in

lockdown. Even if you're, you know, in a weird situation,

right now, this is work that you can do right now, when you

switch off that podcast. And then you it will shift all your

relationships that you have already, they will basically

improve our fall off if they were not meant to be in your

life. And that is so critical to be clear with yourself. And then

with that clarity, approach another person and then respect

where they are at. Because a lot of times I see

that we believe Oh yeah, we're so loving now. We're so perfect.

So of course the other person should be ready and wanted to

and if they're not, we're going to push these weird expectations

and guilt tripping on them. No, this is not how it goes. And

then Yeah, beautiful. You said, Gosh, I think we aced this

episode. Thank you so much.

I'm happy to be able to get this message out and these lifestyles

and His ways of thinking so people can really like like I

said, it's important. Let's let love shine. And how can we do

that? And where was it hung up? And how can we further it? And

how can we be it and then live it? Yeah.

From the bottom of my heart. Thank you so much for Yeah,

being here shining, your light not holding back. And yeah, I'm

very happy to have this platform here to to have a stage for you

where we will hopefully reach many, many people and bring lots

of value to them. Thank you so much.

Thank you, Aurora.